When I get negative responses or people telling me that my gender is invalid or wrong, it's frustrating and it's hurtful, but really it's making me sad that people still aren't willing to take a step back. It's not doing anyone harm. So I don't understand why they would be so opposed to it.
I have to choose between what makes me feel whole and what is safe all the fucking time
You wouldn't believe how quickly people descend to ad-hominems and flaming on this particular topic of discussion.
There is already a word for that, which is sex (and intersex people for those that have rarer mix like XXY). Gender usually refers to the social implication and expectations of the stuff, although they do get mixed up sometime.
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but I am not okay with people just deciding that for one day, they are a different gender.
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Best not to go down this path.
There is already a word for that, which is sex (and intersex people for those that have rarer mix like XXY). Gender usually refers to the social implication and expectations of the stuff, although they do get mixed up sometime.See this confuses me, because in Danish, we only have one word for both, and that's only really referring to the chromosomes (... or maybe that's just me). I mean sure, if you're legitimately trans, i'll respect your wishes, but i just plain fail to see why dudes can't be highly feminine and vice versa, or why a dude(tte) can't be squarely in between the two. I don't mind either way. ¯\(°_o)/¯
I don't mind either way. ¯\(°_o)/¯
i dunnoDid you actually have something to discuss, or were you just "poking the ice" to figure out which things are "problematic" to discuss?
like, yesterday
when i talked about it
and then gunner-chan said "get out"
"The Idea That Gender Is A Spectrum Is A New Gender Prison" (https://aeon.co/essays/the-idea-that-gender-is-a-spectrum-is-a-new-gender-prison)Yeaaaarrghh!
Well, the idea behind the distinction is to highlight that a lot of the things we consider masculine or feminine are really social expectations. To recognize that a dude can wear dresses and still be a dude, you kinda need to make a distinction between gender and sex.
There is something in that makes me uncomfortable about the idea of just ditching the idea of gender entirely but I can't quite put my finger on it.
Yeaaaarrghh!
(https://aeon.co/essays/the-idea-that-gender-is-a-spectrum-is-a-new-gender-prison?utm_content=bufferc9e26&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_campaign=buffer)
Just expressing my general agreement... ???There is something in that makes me uncomfortable about the idea of just ditching the idea of gender entirely but I can't quite put my finger on it.
I can't actually tell if its sarcasm or not."The Idea That Gender Is A Spectrum Is A New Gender Prison" (https://aeon.co/essays/the-idea-that-gender-is-a-spectrum-is-a-new-gender-prison)Yeaaaarrghh!
Yes?
Just expressing my general agreement... ???There is something in that makes me uncomfortable about the idea of just ditching the idea of gender entirely but I can't quite put my finger on it.
I can't actually tell if its sarcasm or not."The Idea That Gender Is A Spectrum Is A New Gender Prison" (https://aeon.co/essays/the-idea-that-gender-is-a-spectrum-is-a-new-gender-prison)Yeaaaarrghh!
Yes?
I can't actually tell if its sarcasm or not.
It is frankly one of the more obnoxious things that can happen on Bay12 whenever anything remotely uncomfortable comes up.And yet people seem to like spamming DEMILITARIZED ZONE in Ameripol whenever the thread gets too heated and the German Occupation Peacekeeping Force codenamed HELGOLAND isn't around to yell at us. Shitposting > Flaming. Regular conversation is preferable to both but given how OP has decided to phrase the thread... I have my doubts. OP if you want to be serious this is not how you do it. Not that I know better, but still.
TBH, I'm not even sure how a male-gendered person that would take a majority of traits associated with the female gender would make sense, at least by the definition of gender I've been using. I'd love it if Vector could pop in and join the discussion, they've been great on the subject before.I think that's the main issue. Gender kind of depend on people's definitions. I have been guilty of this. I have met people with different views and we too were both stubborn in our ways.
Also, if serious discussion is intended, the title should be changed.
To add my two cents to this pile:...Those are the definitions of the sexes. Males are individuals which produce mobile gametes (sperm); females are individuals which produce immobile gametes (eggs). That is literally what "male" and "female" mean in the biological sense. Any argument otherwise is some flavor of soft-headed social/psych nonsense.
I personally think that the terms "male" and "female" should be (eventually) abolished altogether if we want to get rid of all gender/sex-trouble. If you want to talk about "man-ness" and "woman-ness," then you're already lost in an endless maze of cultural gender roles that morph and mutate into each other just to stay the same. If you really want to talk about "raw reproductionary biology" as the evopsych guys put it, just say "people who produce sperm" or "people who produce eggs"---it's that simple.
I don't particularly care about the sex/gender/identity/whatever of my sex partners---I'm not currently interested in producing offspring, and even if I were, it would mostly be a matter of finding some eggs for my sperm, regardless of who produces them.
The discoupling of reproduction from sexuality is simply an inevitable consequence of modern medicine. We should just deal with it, or alternatively do away with all the medical advances.
So sterile people are sexless, got it.
While we're on the topic of gender (thus making this not quite as much of a derail):
Would it make any sense at all to construct a Kinsey-like gender scale? Something likeCode: [Select]4
3 5
2 6
1 7
Where the left is female, the right is male? 7 is hypermasculine (MANLY MAN WHO IS SO TOTALLY MANLY HE HAS TO REMIND YOU EVERY MINUTE), 6 is definitely not agender or trans, but not SUPERMASCULINE, 1 and 2 are similar, 4 is entirely agender, and 3 and 5 are "slightly" gendered but without a way of measuring precisely, pretty much identical to 4 for most intents and purposes?
Or is this just a bunch of nonsense?
...Those are the definitions of the sexes. Males are individuals which produce mobile gametes (sperm); females are individuals which produce immobile gametes (eggs). That is literally what "male" and "female" mean in the biological sense. Any argument otherwise is some flavor of soft-headed social/psych nonsense.You're talking about things from the biological perspective, i.e. that abstract organisms that produce sperm/eggs fit neatly into two categories etc. etc., but it's not that simple with the social beings called humans. Would you say that women with AIS (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Androgen_insensitivity_syndrome) are "biologically male" or "neuter" because they do not fit into the binary classification of "fertile man/woman" vs. "infertile man/woman"? I don't think that "sex" as it applies to humans is really related to any fine-grained biological details such as gonads---a few centuries ago they had no idea about gametes or chromosomes, but very clear-cut ideas about the two sexes. "Sex" is simply an arbitrary categorization of human bodies according to physiological features, whereas "gender" is an arbitrary categorization of human beings according to social roles and identities---often tightly coupled to the categories defined by "sex." Both are equally artificial as enforced binary constructs, and if we somehow did away with both, we'd be left with nothing but the raw medical details that you'd only share with your doctor---which would hardly serve as a basis for any rigid social gender/sex identities whatsoever, which was the point of my previous post.
If we end up with many micro-genders, Tumblr-style, that's many more "choices" compared to now
We can also apply different thinking to the question of whether it's a positive thing to move towards a "no genders" future. e.g. choice theory. Because if we micro-gender everything, we push that decision onto the individual.I think this issue was sufficiently addressed in the link posted by Sheb. (https://aeon.co/essays/the-idea-that-gender-is-a-spectrum-is-a-new-gender-prison)
The solution is not to reify gender by insisting on ever more gender categories that define the complexity of human personality in rigid and essentialist ways. The solution is to abolish gender altogether. We do not need gender. We would be better off without it. Gender as a hierarchy with two positions operates to naturalise and perpetuate the subordination of female people to male people, and constrains the development of individuals of both sexes. Reconceiving of gender as an identity spectrum represents no improvement.Iä! Iä! Judith Butler fhtagn!
You do not need to have a deep, internal, essential experience of gender to be free to dress how you like, behave how you like, work how you like, love who you like. You do not need to show that your personality is feminine for it to be acceptable for you to enjoy cosmetics, cookery and crafting. You do not need to be genderqueer to queer gender. The solution to an oppressive system that puts people into pink and blue boxes is not to create more and more boxes that are any colour but blue or pink. The solution is to tear down the boxes altogether.
Really, gender binary can be useful for those who align with it (such as i do, or at least, some aspects of me do. Other parts i can classify on my own.) It can be hell for those who don't align with it. I just call gender and sexuality a cloud of options, really. It's always changing, and it's fuckin all over the place. People will be people, after all.
if the set is infinite, then the choice cannot be made/has always already been made, so there is no choice.
We can also apply different thinking to the question of whether it's a positive thing to move towards a "no genders" future. e.g. choice theory. Because if we micro-gender everything, we push that decision onto the individual. There is already evidence that the sheer number of decisions that we've basically fobbed off on individuals in the pursuit of "free choice" has become a source of depression. This has got to the point that doctors refuse to recommend any one treatment, but they make the patient pick because of "patient autonomy", but obviously because if things go wrong it's now your fault instead of the doctor. Anyway, if we abrogate the entire idea of identity and make that individual choice as well, it's yet another decision about something major that people are forced to make, and there's no good reason to expect it will automatically make people happier.
If we abolish the "two-box system" of traditional gender, the most likely thing is that a number of new boxes would emerge to replace them. Probably more than 2. "And that's a good thing!" a lot of people might say. Because more boxes means more choice in which box you identify yourself as being in. We use categories to convey information, there will always be categories.
But is more choice always good? If you look at research into complex choices, adding more options rapidly causes people to become more dissatisfied - even if the choice they ended up with is significantly better than what they could have had in the less-choice system.
If we end up with many micro-genders, Tumblr-style, that's many more "choices" compared to now. But the thing is, having exactly two boxes makes it easy to choose, and since the current boxes are so vague, you are basically free to self-define inside the boxes, whereas if we go towards a library catalogue of micro-genders then people will have a very complex choice to make about their "identity" (on paper), and the micro-genders will be so narrowly-defined that they will be even more constraining than the current loose categories.
I think that even if we don't move all the way to a genderless society, there is value in making the boxes as vague and permissive as possible, a process that has been going on.
The solution is not to reify gender by insisting on ever more gender categories that define the complexity of human personality in rigid and essentialist ways. The solution is to abolish gender altogether. We do not need gender. We would be better off without it. Gender as a hierarchy with two positions operates to naturalise and perpetuate the subordination of female people to male people, and constrains the development of individuals of both sexes. Reconceiving of gender as an identity spectrum represents no improvement.
You do not need to have a deep, internal, essential experience of gender to be free to dress how you like, behave how you like, work how you like, love who you like. You do not need to show that your personality is feminine for it to be acceptable for you to enjoy cosmetics, cookery and crafting. You do not need to be genderqueer to queer gender. The solution to an oppressive system that puts people into pink and blue boxes is not to create more and more boxes that are any colour but blue or pink. The solution is to tear down the boxes altogether.
I think that even if we don't move all the way to a genderless society, there is value in making the boxes as vague and permissive as possible, a process that has been going on.
And yet there is an even stronger push right now to make gender even more strict and restrictive as possible... And not for reasons you are thinking of.
I think that even if we don't move all the way to a genderless society, there is value in making the boxes as vague and permissive as possible, a process that has been going on.
And yet there is an even stronger push right now to make gender even more strict and restrictive as possible... And not for reasons you are thinking of.
I am not sure what you're referring to.
I think that even if we don't move all the way to a genderless society, there is value in making the boxes as vague and permissive as possible, a process that has been going on.
And yet there is an even stronger push right now to make gender even more strict and restrictive as possible... And not for reasons you are thinking of.
I am not sure what you're referring to.
Well who are the worst kind of people in the universe?
Maybe refering to TERFs, Neo?
But there's also another issue, say we do away with gender then we might delude ourselves into thinking that we're being non-discriminatory, when in fact our "gender neutral" wonderland is even more discriminatory by not taking biological difference into account.
e.g. a lot of data suggests that it's when women have kids that their earnings are really impacted. Data that only includes single no-kids women doesn't show much of any "wage gap". Being completely gender neutral and pretending this isn't a difference isn't going to help those women, in fact it will probably hurt them.
There is already a word for that, which is sex (and intersex people for those that have rarer mix like XXY). Gender usually refers to the social implication and expectations of the stuff, although they do get mixed up sometime.
Honestly abolishing Gender is kind of more of a fantasy then a realistic solution.How would you prove this? One could argue it's social conditioning. If we conditioned a child to ignore gender, they would ignore gender.
A person knows what gender is as soon as they are born, even if they aren't aware of it.
Honestly abolishing Gender is kind of more of a fantasy then a realistic solution.How would you prove this? One could argue it's social conditioning. If we conditioned a child to ignore gender, they would ignore gender.
A person knows what gender is as soon as they are born, even if they aren't aware of it.
Huh, I didn't know about that.Honestly abolishing Gender is kind of more of a fantasy then a realistic solution.How would you prove this? One could argue it's social conditioning. If we conditioned a child to ignore gender, they would ignore gender.
A person knows what gender is as soon as they are born, even if they aren't aware of it.
That's a lot of certainty for a social program that's never worked even once despite many attempts. how does your "we can condition any gender you like" thing fit with transgender people? if we accept that transgender is a born-thing then we also need to accept cisgender is a born-thing. If this magic conditioning works so well then we should use it on transgender people more, right, rather than less, since we could avoid them needing sex reassignment surgery later. See the potentially troublesome conclusions when we don't think through the big picture?
Every article I've ever read about the history of gender-neutral parenting / conditioning was an abject failure. I've never read about a real success in my life. There were thousands of experiments in gender-neutral parenting especially in the 1970s. For all the vast amount of talk about it, where are the success stories that could be used to set an example? Even one example plz of this ever working?
But of course any time it fails, it's never the concept which was faulty, they blame the people. "The program doesn't fail, you failed the program ... don’t ever speak ill of the program! The program is rock solid. The program is sound". Seriously, though, that sort of thing is the way cults talk about their methods.
And yup, on the anti-trans people. It's straight-forward on the Christian Right side, but it would be more enlightening to untangle why so many (mainly 2nd wave) feminist academics are anti-trans.
And yup, on the anti-trans people. It's straight-forward on the Christian Right side, but it would be more enlightening to untangle why so many (mainly 2nd wave) feminist academics are anti-trans.
I think the article already linked (this one) (https://aeon.co/essays/the-idea-that-gender-is-a-spectrum-is-a-new-gender-prison) untangles it just fine in its own way. There are different understandings of gender involved.
Many proponents of the queer view of gender describe their own gender identity as ‘non-binary’, and present this in opposition to the vast majority of people whose gender identity is presumed to be binary. On the face of it, there seems to be an immediate tension between the claim that gender is not a binary but a spectrum, and the claim that only a small proportion of individuals can be described as having a non-binary gender identity ... If gender really is a spectrum, doesn’t this mean that every individual alive is non-binary, by definition?Not at all. The male-female system evolved to reproduce. Therefore things cluster in two zones - male and female. Because that is the purpose of having the system. Evolution also relies on excess children being born, to allow natural selection to happen. So some that develop in non-binary ways is quite possible, while evolution still maintains two main "clusters".
Further, when we observe the analogy with height we can see that, when observing the entire population, only a small minority of people would be accurately described as Tall or Short.Yeah, complete bullshit argument. In the case of "tall or short" you don't have EVOLUTION specifically working to exclude the middle, because the middle doesn't breed. The article is making retarded arguments that basically any "spectrum" must be normally-distributed. It's just a dumb argument.
Evolution, dude. Tiny differences over multiple generations = dominance. Genderqueer people could breed at 99% of the rate of cisgender. That would be enough that any genes that encouraged that would die out.
That's Darwin 101 basically.
EDIT: So natural selection made humans from dirt, but regulating sexuality is "too complex"? Seems kinda like a weak argument if you're pro-evolution. I'd say that evolution has given us some pretty damn amazing regulatory systems, given that we are this complex already and don't just drop dead.
Basically, if we looked at any other species and noticed distinct male and female behavior, it wouldn't be a problem that evolution explains that. We act like humans are special, and our behavior is so fucking special snowflake that it's above evolution's influence? Gimme a break while I barf.
Also not a very good argument. Evolution is a free-running, iterative, cobbled-together thing in a great many ways. Just ask the vast number of transposons in your genome. As long as one doesn't jump into the 2% of exons or 10% of introns you'll probably be fine. And if it does, even then it won't have any bearing on your heredity because they're so deeply entrenched in the genome that getting rid of them is actually impossible (and perhaps even harmful because they may be vital to maintaining the superstructure of your DNA).
In short, evolution does anything it can get away with. Evolution might not even regulate non-binary genders. And even if it does, there's no conclusive evidence that non-binary genders are significantly detrimental to reproductive fitness across actual history.
I wonder what will happen when we reach the generation of children produced from arbitrary sexes? I mean, it is possible already, isn't it?What do you mean, like two men's dna mixed to produce a viable offspring? Because no I do not believe that is currently within our medical scope, though I'd love to read an article about whether or not it is possible. As far as I am aware there is certain parts of the genetic code that comes purely from the female partner, and it would take a lot of careful manipulation to make it accept a male genome in place of that (without causing health issues for the offspring). Though surrogate mothers for male couples is common practice already where I live, and those just take samples from both men, mix them together and go so you don't know which is definitely the father.
The amount of genes that differ between individuals is very small, due to natural selection. Only traits with little effect on reproduction will have high variance. Anything that affects reproduction suffers STRONG selection pressures. So they're just the sorts of traits which shouldn't vary very much, in evolutionary terms.
Also the traits we are talking about that differ, are also behavior traits we see in non-humans, which vary by gender. Occam's razor comes into play here. Why say "it's too hard for evolution to do that" in our species, when it's clearly not too hard for evolution to make male and female chimps have similar behavior differences?
I mean two men and one woman's DNA, or two women and one man's DNA, or anything group where there are both sexes, but it does not necessarily exclude homosexuals from passing down their genes.I wonder what will happen when we reach the generation of children produced from arbitrary sexes? I mean, it is possible already, isn't it?What do you mean, like two men's dna mixed to produce a viable offspring? Because no I do not believe that is currently within our medical scope, though I'd love to read an article about whether or not it is possible. As far as I am aware there is certain parts of the genetic code that comes purely from the female partner, and it would take a lot of careful manipulation to make it accept a male genome in place of that (without causing health issues for the offspring). Though surrogate mothers for male couples is common practice already where I live, and those just take samples from both men, mix them together and go so you don't know which is definitely the father.
And what I'm saying is that you don't have any evidence that non-binary gender is a trait that affects reproduction or is indeed a trait strongly influenced by genetics at all.
non-binary forebearsYou have to go back pre-fish to find a non-binary forebear.
Well there's a minor thing called an X or Y chromosome, and having or not having it affects both sex and gendered behavior quite heavily in our nearest relatives.
The "bonobos are different" argument isn't very convincing, because male bonobos do actually show signs of following evolutionarily advantageous mating strategies. The fact that they're different to chimps is not really a great argument that sexual dimorphism doesn't arise from genetics. bonobos still have sexual dimorphism. Females are dominant, and promiscuous. Hence males can't be sure which offspring are theirs, and they have even less involvement with childcare than male chimps. So dimorphism in gendered behavior - and it makes perfect sense from an evolutionary perspective.
Quotenon-binary forebearsYou have to go back pre-fish to find a non-binary forebear.
As for outliers, what's the historical rate of infant mortality and other deaths? And family size? You can have a lot of outliers, who don't breed or are ineffective breeders. But they don't end up making up much of the germline. That's why we have extra babbies.
Well there's a minor thing called an X or Y chromosome, and having or not having it affects both sex and gendered behavior quite heavily in our nearest relatives.
Non-binary gender is determined by sex chromosomes? What karyotype characterizes a demigirl, then? XX with one arm curlier than average?
I really don't get what you're talking about now. Gender is driven by pre-natal development.
Non-binary stuff is driven by variations in that, but the system tends to try and stick to the pattern.
Your argument is pretty incoherent, that's like saying birth defects disprove that genes control limb development.
it's not enough to point to prenatal testosterone, you need to point to their underlying cause.
And how relevant are masculine or feminine traits to reproductive fitness? I have no proof either way, and neither do you.
Hmm. As a response to Reelya's testosterone and geekiness post:It's to do with the link between pre-natal testosterone, autism-spectrum disorders, and engineering. Basically men or women who have an autistic child are much more likely to have an engineer in the family tree. Autism is also highly gender-correlated.
I am incredibly geeky, and don't particularly value social interaction. But plenty of girls are like that too. Plenty of cisgender girls. So how does geekiness correlate with gender?
Come to think of it, what is gender anyway? Gender roles are those made by society that are associated with a sex. Sex is whether or not you have a penis (usually; this is a gross oversimplification when no binary XXY and such are involved). But where does gender fit in?It really depends exactly what you mean. Gender roles are social constructs, since they only exist as ideas. Gender identity is another issue - how one feel's about oneself. Gender traits just means any traits which are associated with a sex or gender, and can have a mix of biological and social causes in their exact expression.
Hmm. As a response to Reelya's testosterone and geekiness post:
I am incredibly geeky, and don't particularly value social interaction. But plenty of girls are like that too. Plenty of cisgender girls. So how does geekiness correlate with gender?
You're probably right about the "manly man" overcompensating. I meant "reminding" in the sense of constantly doing stereotypically manly man things, not by talking, but your response probably does apply. There's just one problem, though: most manly men would not like being female. I wouldn't care either way, if not for nonidentity reasons. (Such as !!science!! and the way that manly men torment me for not being manly.)
Come to think of it, what is gender anyway? Gender roles are those made by society that are associated with a sex. Sex is whether or not you have a penis (usually; this is a gross oversimplification when no binary XXY and such are involved). But where does gender fit in?
Well we have the example of thousands of other species which have similar behavior differences that clearly evolved. Occam's Razor here. Either we decide that our traits that are identical came out of the same process as identical traits in similar species, or we assume that completely different processes gave rise to the exact same traits. That's one, much bigger, assumption right there.
In fact, there's a strong correlation between generous family leave packages and a rising wage gap. Countries with a "screw you" attitude to new mothers actually tend to have the lowest wage gaps.
Long bouts of leave probably (certainly) factor into women advancing more slowly in careers. So it's another part of the same issue. Sure they might hold your job open while you're off for 6 months, but they're not required to give you a promotion.Why should they though? I think the entire concept of 'I worked for you for 4 years, give me a promotion' is absolute trash no matter who or what you are.
I gave source already.Well which part of the OECD page did you pull that from? The image is sources to googleusercontent.com, and it's not apparent where on the OECD website you cited that data is even from.
But age differences exist between countries! And anyway you slice it the data is not showing the specific words you were talking about. It is a subsample.
But it also turns out that some countries that offer more liberal parental leave policies have higher pay gaps among men and women ages 30 to 34, according to analyses of 16 countries conducted by the Organization for Economic Cooperation and Development. OECD theorizes that this link may be driven by the fact that women are more likely than men to actually use their parental leave, and that time out of the workforce is associated with lower wages.
Countries with more pay leave have smaller gender pay gaps.
I for one would expect women to on average have a lower pay, because they tend to get pregnant more often then males. Several months with lower pay, and missed promotions and whatnot. I have no idea how big of a difference that would make, but it makes sense to me that there is some kind of difference.
The relationship at 30-34 is above average. But I know for a fact that there is a negative correlation in at least one other cohort. That is because I swapped the axis on my graph last page. There is actually a negative correlation between the size of the gender pay gap and weeks of paid leave. Countries with more pay leave have smaller gender pay gaps.
Naturally, the obligatory xkcd on the subject:
(https://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/linear_regression.png)
Im game. I say p-value of 0.45 what are we betting?
You define gender as gender identity. Nice tautology, but doesn't actually answer my question.It depends. There's gender in society, and personal gender. Gender roles and Gender identity.
What is gender? My question was "what is the absence of gender", which is functionally identical.
If transgender would mean that your identity matches up only with the sex that you were not born with, and cisgender... that you were born with, then wouldn't agender mean that your identity wouldn't "match" at all? That one would not have dysphoria in either sex?
Not to be rude, but what on earth is a Demi girl? Isn't that one of those genders 4chan made up to make fun of tumblr on those Pokemon as gender images?Well there's a minor thing called an X or Y chromosome, and having or not having it affects both sex and gendered behavior quite heavily in our nearest relatives.
Non-binary gender is determined by sex chromosomes? What karyotype characterizes a demigirl, then? XX with one arm curlier than average?
Once again, being genderqueer (as opposed to having Klinefelter syndrome, cystic fibrosis or being at-risk for schizophrenia) is in no way backed up by genetics, at least not as far as you have demonstrated, and evolution does not apply to it if this is the case. It is up to you to prove otherwise
Here's hoping that this thread doesn't get set on !!FIRE!! or atom-smashed.
Not to be rude, but what on earth is a Demi girl? Isn't that one of those genders 4chan made up to make fun of tumblr on those Pokemon as gender images?
Not to be rude, but what on earth is a Demi girl? Isn't that one of those genders 4chan made up to make fun of tumblr on those Pokemon as gender images?
According to this (http://nonbinary.org/wiki/Demigender), it's being a girl, but not entirely. It's somewhere in the middle in terms of credibility between agender and frostgender, since it does sound at least somewhat plausible that you could in good faith arrive at that gender identity (whether it's actually worth splitting hairs between demigirl and female is another question).
So... they'd say they're a girl, but not a "girly" girl? I'm not really sure I understand the distinction.
But consistent, meaningful labels can be used as symbols! The sounds "aie Jen dur" are understood to mean something that cannot be perceived, only described. Labels can be bad, but they are not automatically bad.
But in this situation, I suppose I am fine without a label after all. It would be useful to understand gender, though.
I understand that sex is the physical part, and gender roles are the social expectations, etc., for a particular gender. Is gender just feeling that you are a girl/boy (identify as, etc.) or is there something more?
I suppose I'm confused because I haven't really understood what identity means. If my gender is, relative to other people, insignificant to my identity, would that affect my gender, or would I just be cis, with the "unusual" part being a part of my identity, related but not falling under gender?
The problem is that you're saying "as a cis person" there, which means you've never actually had to make the type of choice we're talking about.
If you don't get assigned strong gender-rôles and don't get them assignated to yourself, your sex won't be all that relevant.
"we can't meaningfully change someone's sex yet",
Yet... Why is it so important that I believe a sex change does this? Whenever I get people very passionate about this I can't help but feel like I am listening to someone who just so desperately wants something to work but is completely delusional to the extent that they have to make everyone take part in their fantasies because the reality of it all is too harsh.
If I had to guess, it's because you're undermining a treatment strategy for a serious psychological issue because of an insistence on technicality.
Yeah, that is it exactly. I wouldn't see myself as female even if I got boobs, but it doesn't mean I won't have the respect to treat someone as their preferred gender.
Yeah... you see... That was the assumption for quite some time and what they generally found out is.. No, sex matters.I said "all that relevant" not "not relevant at all".
Well that might be one of the reason why you're a miserable person with no friends.
It is kind of a big technicality... and on the other hand one that completely doesn't matter and it doesn't affect anything because a sex change isn't even remotely required to change ones gender.
Why is it so important that I believe that someone who goes through a sex change actually alters their sex?
I could even go as far as to say to lie and say that it does... does more harm as it creates a unrealistic fantasy as to what actually occurs. (and as people find out... Sex changes quite often do not fix gender dysphoria. But lets pretend it always does!)
Well that might be one of the reason why you're a miserable person with no friends.
And NO I am not going up to people and going "Ohh so your still a man", that isn't the situation... I'd be a total jerk.So I didn't see this edit, and I was kind of assuming you went up to people and nitpick people's flaws the same way you do with everything else.
It's a matter of phrasing. By focusing on the idea that one's sex isn't changed, you also undermine the gender transition, because the two by no means are conceptually separated, given that gender primarily arises from sex.
So I didn't see this edit, and I was kind of assuming you went up to people and nitpick people's flaws the same way you do with everything else.
Neonivek, you're being insensitive to an issue that is documented as causing a lot of mental suffering, persisted across all ages even when you could be killed for it.
I have no qualms over the importance of sex change surgery. There is a good reason why they are covered and why people need them.
It is entirely that I have no idea why the entire issue boils down to that one fact.
Also "Victimizing" people is another form of objectification that depowers people who are going through these issues.
These aren't "people" anymore... They are "victims"
Why don't you go talk to some people who actually went through a sex change, or vocal training, or hormone therapy.
Anyhow I am leaving the thread for a bit... I don't feel like being insulted for not being someone else's mouth piece.
I'm not really sure where calling people victims comes into this
I personally feel that any sexuality except bisexuality is a bit artificial. You don't have to be exclusively heterosexual to be reproducing. Like, I enjoy males but I don't see whybI would wilt and die if I expressed affections to a female.
I'm just saying this because I just feel heterosexual people tend to be very paranoid about appearing gay.
All I can say as a white, male, heterosexual, educated, middle class english speaker is hooray for winning the genetic lottery!As an upper class, honk.
Given that I currently assist in helping a transgender person undergo gender reassignment therapy, I definitely value my own lot in life.
Well what is the basis of your claim then if it's not chromosomes or reproductive?
Does it really boil down to you just can't view them as a woman?
Would you classify sex as the christian name equivalent of gender? So it's the gender you're born with, and even when your gender change, your sex is still what you were born with.
I think elaborating on what exactly you mean would be more productive than playing 20 questions, Neon.
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Man Neo, it's a lot like you're trolling for attention:
"I don't believe sex changes change your sex" with no explanation. What else could that be interpreted as other than "I am a bigot!".
Then after everyone justly piles on to criticize you, and ask for clarification, you say "they were a woman all along! j/k!" except you don't "j/k" you act like a martyr.
Seriously, if you say something that's quite clearly in line with what bigots say then refuse to elaborate on it, and just do a 180 later and say you meant something completely different, and do a little sob story about how people misinterpreted you, nobody has the responsibility to take you seriously after that.
Though, what about genetic eunuchs? What sex are they?
I think you just need to drink yourself senseless with aspirations of Valhalla, valor, glory. Then you will say a resounding "I AM A MAN!! A-UUH! A-UUH! A-UUH!"Hey, you know what's better than a warrior with a great log? A valkyrie with a great log.Spoiler (click to show/hide)
Well ye, you can still identify as female while not undergoing gender reassignment (specially considering there's much progress to be done on that field still), though its still pretty jarring just how people use and abuse of those notions because of random reasons. I specially don't trust people who arbitrarily change their gender identity on a whim, too. I mean, people can claim whatever they want about themselves, but I think its kind of a dick move to grab onto something that actualy affects people in the core of their being just because they want another layer of snowflakeyness on their social media profile.
Saying Tumblr is entirely cancer is like saying Bay12forum is entirely virgin neckbeard hipsters.
Me personally, I've always considered myself male and nothing but, apparently even very young I had a very very strong sense of gender.
That being said, in kinder apparently my parents were told "I've never seen such a boyish boy play so happily with the girls," though perhaps it was because my parents tried to be kinda "gender neutral" with the toys I had age 2-4 or so.
Then came my little brother, who despite me being quite masculine, makes me look less masculine by contrast.
I've never really understood where to stand on sex vs. gender for describing a person's self-identified preference. Is sex more appropriate for genetic gender, i.e. XX or XY? Is gender better for use when describing your own chosen label? I dunno.If it's confusing it's because it is a bit. Some people use one over the other, use both, and some find using one way of identification to be preferred and the other to be insulting. The best rule of thumb is ask how someone wants to be addressed and use that. Covers all the basics in terms of functionally dealing with things and you can treat the rest as a matter of philosophy so far as you're concerned.
Hey, loudly talking about fucking next to uninvolved bystanders is always a provocation. That's what a bunch of teens that discovered logtube for the first time do, usually to bully and disrespect someone. That's not masculinity, that's not manly at all. I consider these people cowards, unworthy of being called a man, or masculine.What? There's no reason for family roles to be gendered. Having two dads can work, having two moms can work, so long as they take the appropriate roles required to raise a child.
Caroline, I'll talk to you later, I hate writing on mobile, but I want to say gender roles MUST exist, to make familys and relationships work properly.
Now, I can't talk from the P.O.V. of someone who's transitioned, as I haven't yet, but as far as I've been learning about the process (starting hormone blockers soon ((only $5 every 10-12 months. Cheap af))), it seems to me like it'd work to counter act the great big problem that is my gender dysphoria. I think that statistic that people pull our when they say "transgender people have the same rate of suicide post-op", is because when a lot of people transition, they're going throu gh other things. Gender dysphoria has been linked to depression, anxiety, etc. And, I think what the transgender community needs to know, is that no, it won't magically make all your problems go away, getting hormone therapy or a sex change. But it can help, with that big problem, so you can work on the other things more often.
Boys: blahblahblah fuck blah
Me: Stop that. It's not camp appropriate.
Boys: blah blah fuck blah
Me: Seriously, don't talk about that here.
Boys: We're just talking about fucking. Don't you like fucking?
Me: No, I don't. Now stop or I'll report you to the counselor.
Boys: What do you mean you don't want to fuck? That's the dumbest thing ever!
...and more of that
If you are a baby and got big wood, you are a boy. If you are a baby and you don't, you're not. And until science finally transcends the pesky ethical boundaries of human lands, and allows people that are switching branches with their sexuality, to give birth or make babies in their modified body, they are still the sex they were born as. Those changes are just aesthetics, and to me you are just a man without wood, or a woman carrying a conspicuous log. Yall agree?
You are a man to me, doesn't matter if you wear a pretty dress or your hair looks really lofty. I don't know why you would attribute that to be a negative thing. It's what your body has been shaped like since you were born, but I get the feeling you interpretate that as being called ugly, violent and above all stupid, am I correct? In advance, I want to clarify, a man to me is far from these, quite often spread by feminists, negative stereotypes. To me, it is someone that carries passion with him, and hardship. It is someone that treads a path of learning and growth in character. Someone that learns sacrifice, comradeship, to stand up for others, and ultimately, stand up for himself. Someone that knows the weight of tears and smiles.
I refuse to think you are destined for anything less. These things cannot be meaningless to you, so why not pursue them?
Hey, loudly talking about fucking next to uninvolved bystanders is always a provocation. That's what a bunch of teens that discovered logtube for the first time do, usually to bully and disrespect someone. That's not masculinity, that's not manly at all. I consider these people cowards, unworthy of being called a man, or masculine.
Caroline, I'll talk to you later, I hate writing on mobile, but I want to say gender roles MUST exist, to make familys and relationships work properly.
The lot that try to justify sexism with biological differences between the sexes are full of shit, frankly.
I've used this example before, because it's a good one: A group of people are trying to become firefighters. On average, a lower percentage of the women will be able to meet the physical requirements. Does that mean that women shouldn't be allowed to become firefighters? Fuck, no; it means that hiring should be based solely on the competence of candidates and their ability to perform the labor required by the job.
You'll find that the "biological-dimorphism therefore sexism = okay" types very quickly retreat into discussing gender while claiming to be talking about sex, mostly because the actual differences between the sexes are relatively minor, not entirely understood (because a lot of them are more neurochemistry and less physical composition), and subject to a fairly wide degree of individual variation. In other words, it's difficult to make meaningful generalizations based on them, so they're largely worthless. Ultimately it's circular reasoning, "Gender roles exist because of significant differences in the sexes, which we know exist because of gender roles."
Hey, only some bits of the States are transphobic :x
Wait, what? From my experience here, German is very open-minded. I could understand transphobia in shitty countries like the States.
You'd think that agender means genderless. a- = without. But meh.I do my best.
Thanks for the word. It isn't perfect, but it's better than any I've seen.
Dang. That must be tough.
Now, I can't talk from the P.O.V. of someone who's transitioned, as I haven't yet, but as far as I've been learning about the process (starting hormone blockers soon ((only $5 every 10-12 months. Cheap af))), it seems to me like it'd work to counter act the great big problem that is my gender dysphoria. I think that statistic that people pull our when they say "transgender people have the same rate of suicide post-op", is because when a lot of people transition, they're going throu gh other things. Gender dysphoria has been linked to depression, anxiety, etc. And, I think what the transgender community needs to know, is that no, it won't magically make all your problems go away, getting hormone therapy or a sex change. But it can help, with that big problem, so you can work on the other things more often.
I am a bit further into the transition (Male to Female), genderdysphoria is one of the causes for depressions and yes it gets better with hormones. Transdermal patches (similiar to Nicotine-patches) work better then gels and creams in my experience.
The other side is society where you have a few distinct problems. The active bullying - say the BS about toilet usage - sure is one but there are some sometimes very subtle things.
For example "expected behaviour", even if its subconciously expected, can be very big stressor - atleast for me. Having to behave in a certain "manly" or "womanly" way so you get taken seriously is always a fight. Discussing with someone nets different responses whatever i am seen as man or woman. My behaviour, say in dealing with Agencies and Departments, gets interpreted as bitchy and hysteric when i a appear as woman but the very same behavior was fine when i was there as male a few months prior.
Looking at womans clothing at first was very problematic since there is always the chance to be called out on it by someone less supportive ("That perv is looking at panties yuk!") and this can become a fear that persist to later states.
Luckely i didnt had to experience this at all but the the reaction to the coming out can be very harmfull. My family and friends accepted me as i am but i also know cases where families disowned their children up to death-threat and orphanage.
On the other hand you sometimes have far to eager Family/friends that just relabel you, telling you what a "proper" Man/Woman does, intruding your personal space with say making BS name-suggestions (no i dont want the Female version of my firstname because i hate that firstname!) or generally assuming that you dont know the first thing about being your gender (like knowing your sizes for clothing)!.
Similarly the work environment could be very toxic. Starting with school it can be very hard, by outing yourself you offer another oppining for bullies to strike. The outing also squarely places you between the genders (since you are transitioning) so finding friends on either side can become quiet a task.
Later being in a job dominated by one gender or another can lead to problems. You are sometimes seen as intruding into the domain of a gender. Conversely sometimes you are seen as questioning the sexuality of your coworkers by your mere existence as if transsexuality would be contagious.
Phonecalls get annoying for MTF since we cant change our voices that easily leading to being permanently labelled "Sir" or "Mister". Speaking to someone in person will often out you if you couldnt train/operativly change your voice yet. For FTM its a little less of a problem since the testosterone helps with the voice a great deal.
And the most annoying thing for me was the legal aspects of being transgender. Here in Germany i had to PROOF that i feel wrong in my birth-gender for atleast 3 years. Then i had to do atleast 6 moths of Therapist assisted life in my Gender.
Only after that i could apply for a legal change of sex which further requires two reports by 2 separate but specialized Psychiatrists and then a f*ing court-hearing which also can cost up to 5000 Euro.
All in all it can take 6 months to a year and tons of money to get your legal gender and name changed.
Even after that my Health-insurance expected me to jump further hoops to grant me the right to get Hormone-therapy and subsequently a Genderreasignment Operation. The first badge of Meds i had to pay by myself which was around 160 bucks.
Genderdysphoria, depression and anxieties related to it could be easily reduced or treated if society and the Legal apparatus would pull the sticks out of their arses.
If you start the HRT early its quite easy to develop very normalish compared to born girls. The Testoblockers will keep your body androgynous for now and the hormones later kickstart your development including wider hips if you are lucky. You shouldnt expect anything above a B-cup though yet again an early strt gives you far better chances.Ah, I meant as in, I still have to pay for it if the therapist thinks its harmful, but parents arent involved. Gender reassignment surgery also isnt an option in new zealand, so i'm gonna have to go overseas for that. There's not too much paperwork though, fortunately.
Here we get free breast and gender-re-assignemt and HRT if deemed necessary by the therapist and the paperworks are done. The later wasnt the case with me so i had to pay my first batch of hormones.
Ah, I meant as in, I still have to pay for it if the therapist thinks its harmful, but parents arent involved. Gender reassignment surgery also isnt an option in new zealand, so i'm gonna have to go overseas for that. There's not too much paperwork though, fortunately.
I'm starting fairly early, but I'm a fair bit through puberty, so my voice is a bit low and I have a kindof masculine bone structure.
I have my clear definition of a man and woman
The dissatisfaction of these women was further evidenced in their ratings of the quality of their relationships. Feminine women with partners whom they perceived to be masculine men were significantly less likely than women in the total sample to rate either their love relationships or their sex lives as satisfactory. These women were also the most likely to report feeling "underloved"—that is, to say that they loved their male partners more than they were loved in retun. Only the women's suffering in these relationships is documented, however, since ratings of the male partners' happiness and satisfaction were not obtained.
In contrast to the per\'asive dissatisfaction expressed by the women in the masculine man/feminine woman dyads, the women in dyads in which one or both partners were rated as androgynous tended to be quite satisfied with the quality of their lives and their intimate relationships. In particular, androgynous women paired with androgynous men reported considerable success in communicating and solving problems with their partners. In addition, they reported high levels of (1) satisfaction with their lives as a whole, (2) responsibility for their outcomes, (3) control over important life events, and (4) optimism for the future. Of more specific relevance for the theme of this article, their ratings of satisfaction with their sex lives and intimate relationships were also quite high.It's worth going over the whole thing since it does examine multiple papers, so this is more of a meta study than a singular research data point.
Bullsplint!If you intend to use foul language, please do so instead of bowdlerizing yourself. I don't think anybody would be offended in this instance, and it isn't against this forum's policy.
I don't think I get free laser hair removal, no.Ah, I meant as in, I still have to pay for it if the therapist thinks its harmful, but parents arent involved. Gender reassignment surgery also isnt an option in new zealand, so i'm gonna have to go overseas for that. There's not too much paperwork though, fortunately.
I'm starting fairly early, but I'm a fair bit through puberty, so my voice is a bit low and I have a kindof masculine bone structure.
Its all in flux and a good therapist will listen to your wishes and give you hormones sooner then later. Having a little lower voice works fine with a bit of logopedic training. Regarding bonestructure: big girls are sexy too ;) and the hips can still grow in.
Even with the face its less an issue if you arent extremely male because the tissue above the bones will give you a nice female face eventualy.
What you will need (i consider this general advice to young MTF transgender) is new pants because even without growth of your hips you will develop some more butt. And if you go with silicon-breasts "falsies" take A-cups cause you can use the bras later when the real things grow out. .
Do you get lasering of beards paid as well?
I have my clear definition of a man and woman, and I was hoping you would distinguish between the sex-part, and the persona-part. Sure, a woman can have manly traits, but they don't become less manly or gender-neutral because of that. As much as feminists want to make you believe, men and women are different, vastly different. Our nature and history are the major shapers of these differences. Men are more proactive, dominant, women are more supportive, caring. Just like a woman has no business competing with a man in strength, a man has no business competing with a woman in grace. Thus, certain traits simply belong to a gender.
And yet, we all know people of each gender who are the opposite of those things
the differences don't vanish because you said so
Men are more proactive, dominant, women are more supportive, caring. Just like a woman has no business competing with a man in strength, a man has no business competing with a woman in grace
Now we got women competeting with men in the job market, no one to look for after the kids, taking care of the house, a completely eradicated male authority, and barely enough money to get by.
Or let me ask you if you are really not just confused??"
that's no fun discussing like that. "OOohoho, let me just compare your averages with an extreme of mine and prove you TOTALLY wrong! Or let me leave out half the post and just heckle you for posting that chart, which now makes nooo sense!! Or let me ask you if you are really not just confused??" That's all bullsplint. And if bullsplint offends you, you got no wood. I'll recede from posting here, and do something that is fun instead, again.
I have my clear definition of a man and woman, and I was hoping you would distinguish between the sex-part, and the persona-part. Sure, a woman can have manly traits, but they don't become less [womanly] or [become] gender-neutral because of that. As much as feminists want to make you believe, men and women are different, vastly different. Our nature and history are the major shapers of these differences. Men are more proactive, dominant, women are more supportive, caring. Just like a woman has no business competing with a man in strength, a man has no business competing with a woman in grace. Thus, certain traits simply belong to a gender.
You can tear your eyeballs out all you want, the differences don't vanish because you said so. They are deeply ingrained in our nature, and trying to tamper with them has lead to this disaster of a culture that we have right now: broken marriages left and right, and half of those that didn't break up yet are a disaster ( https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/wonk/wp/2015/06/23/144-years-of-marriage-and-divorce-in-the-united-states-in-one-chart/) All because feminism made us break down "useless" gender roles and provided absolutely no substitute whatsoever. Now we got women competing with men in the job market, no-one to look after the kids or take care of the house, a completely eradicated male authority, and barely enough money to get by. And you want to tell me "Haha, men and women are just social constructs you little piece of splinter! And gender roles only hurt people!!"? Bullsplint! If we don't restore GENDER ROLES (and above all, FEMININITY!), we will just spiral down this miserable path of unhappiness and fighting among ourselves, until it all boils down to a civil war.
I have my clear definition of a man and woman, and I was hoping you would distinguish between the sex-part, and the persona-part.
Sure, a woman can have manly traits, but they don't become less [womanly] or [become] gender-neutral because of that.
As much as feminists want to make you believe, men and women are different, vastly different. Our nature and history are the major shapers of these differences. Men are more proactive, dominant, women are more supportive, caring. Just like a woman has no business competing with a man in strength, a man has no business competing with a woman in grace. Thus, certain traits simply belong to a gender.
As much as feminists want to make you believe...
men and women are different, vastly different.
Our nature and history are the major shapers of these differences.
Men are more proactive, dominant, women are more supportive, caring.
Just like a woman has no business competing with a man in strength, a man has no business competing with a woman in grace. Thus, certain traits simply belong to a gender.
You can tear your eyeballs out all you want, the differences don't vanish because you said so. They are deeply ingrained in our nature...
...and trying to tamper with [gender roles] has lead to this disaster of a culture that we have right now: broken marriages left and right, and half of those that didn't break up yet are a disaster (link to WP (https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/wonk/wp/2015/06/23/144-years-of-marriage-and-divorce-in-the-united-states-in-one-chart/)). All because feminism made us break down "useless" gender roles and provided absolutely no substitute whatsoever.
Now we got women competing with men in the job market, no-one to look after the kids or take care of the house, a completely eradicated male authority, and barely enough money to get by.
And you want to tell me "Haha, men and women are just social constructs you little piece of splinter! And gender roles only hurt people!!"? Bullsplint! If we don't restore GENDER ROLES (and above all, FEMININITY!), we will just spiral down this miserable path of unhappiness and fighting among ourselves, until it all boils down to a civil war.
Do you realize how far we've come? We can't stop now! Women were second-class citizens - no, not even citizens at all! - a few centuries ago! They couldn't vote, they couldn't hold public office, they couldn't have jobs, they were effectively dependent on their husband for everything, and Armok forbid a woman try to protest against the state of things! And it wasn't men who fixed this. Women stood up for themselves, and men helped a bit.This is very wrong. Women have always been citizens, as long as the concept has existed. Their legal rights have varied over time but not to the extent you imply.
why do you say "we can't stop now"?
the feminists just ignore every argument they can't respond to
Quotethe feminists just ignore every argument they can't respond to
Either I read the tone of your post wrong, or I take offense to your statement!
4. Sure, men technically passed the laws that gave women rights. But women were pretty important - I doubt anything would have happened nearly as soon if women hadn't stood up. It is true, though, that men were crucial in the women's rights movement.I think we can say it was an achievement made by society as a whole, rather than any one group. Something everyone can be proud of.
Dozebôm Lolumzalìs is quite clearly not referring to legal equality. It's not like having the right to vote ends discrimination/sexism/racism (as shown by the poster on here who thinks a women's proper role is in the house, being subservient to male authority :/).Public opinion is overwhelmingly in favour of equality of the sexes. Women's legal rights were not granted in a vacuum, they were granted because the public was in favour, much like homosexuality laws more recently. Gender roles are in the same category. Most people understand that they are merely generalisations, and individuals will be individuals.
That's what I'm trying to say, sort of. There have been attempts to raise children "without gender." They have failed. I think that's not the right idea, but Billy has used it against me, so I'm admitting that differences do exist between males and females, but only minimal ones.Well,raising someone gender neutral shouldn't be a problem I think? Idea being not that you'll end up with children with no idea of what gender is, but that your kid would be more at ease without having to conform to society's perception of gender.
Ending discrimination is a fool's errand. There will always be people with bigoted views. There will always be people who are rude or unpleasant, because this is human nature. The only way to deal with this is to look past them and move on.I can't help but read this argument as we cannot accomplish goal A 100%, therefore we should not try to do so. Certainly making it harder for hate to win out is always a good thing. Besides that, there's worries about bodily harm, emotional distress or death, not just simply "people being rude or unpleasant".
4. Sure, men technically passed the laws that gave women rights. But women were pretty important - I doubt anything would have happened nearly as soon if women hadn't stood up. It is true, though, that men were crucial in the women's rights movement.I think we can say it was an achievement made by society as a whole, rather than any one group. Something everyone can be proud of.
Dozebôm Lolumzalìs is quite clearly not referring to legal equality. It's not like having the right to vote ends discrimination/sexism/racism (as shown by the poster on here who thinks a women's proper role is in the house, being subservient to male authority :/).Public opinion is overwhelmingly in favour of equality of the sexes. Women's legal rights were not granted in a vacuum, they were granted because the public was in favour, much like homosexuality laws more recently. Gender roles are in the same category. Most people understand that they are merely generalisations, and individuals will be individuals.
I don't see any reason to believe BillyTheKid's opinions are widespread. Present, certainly, especially among older generations who tend to be more conservative. I also believe that people holding such beliefs do not pose a significant barrier to women who wish to achieve their goals.
Ending discrimination is a fool's errand. There will always be people with bigoted views. There will always be people who are rude or unpleasant, because this is human nature. The only way to deal with this is to look past them and move on.
That's what I'm trying to say, sort of. There have been attempts to raise children "without gender." They have failed. I think that's not the right idea, but Billy has used it against me, so I'm admitting that differences do exist between males and females, but only minimal ones.Well,raising someone gender neutral shouldn't be a problem I think? Idea being not that you'll end up with children with no idea of what gender is, but that your kid would be more at ease without having to conform to society's perception of gender.
I can't help but read this argument as we cannot accomplish goal A 100%, therefore we should not try to do so. Certainly making it harder for hate to win out is always a good thing. Besides that, there's worries about bodily harm, emotional distress or death, not just simply "people being rude or unpleasant".Sorry, I didn't express that very well. We should stop people from acting on bigoted opinions, but we can't stop them from having those opinions.
But the problem with that is thus: if we stop pushing for equal rights, and the bigots don't stop, progress will decay. Compromise doesn't work with those people.I suppose my concern is that we push for equality so much that we arrive at communism. I don't like communism.
And, you know, things aren't quite equal yet for everybody. Maybe our work with women is done. We've still got race, disability, sexual orientation, and gender equality left.
Dammit, that's what I get for listening to people like Billy. There are these myths, I suppose they are, of attempts to raise children without letting them even touch the "gender-appropriate" toys (trucks, dolls), which inevitably fail when the child finds the "right" toys and loves them.It sounds like something that would be very interesting to study, if it hasn't been already.
Goddammit. That is obviously made up.
Public opinion is overwhelmingly in favour of equality of the sexes. Women's legal rights were not granted in a vacuum, they were granted because the public was in favour, much like homosexuality laws more recently. Gender roles are in the same category. Most people understand that they are merely generalisations, and individuals will be individuals.
I don't see any reason to believe BillyTheKid's opinions are widespread. Present, certainly, especially among older generations who tend to be more conservative. I also believe that people holding such beliefs do not pose a significant barrier to women who wish to achieve their goals.
Ending discrimination is a fool's errand. There will always be people with bigoted views. There will always be people who are rude or unpleasant, because this is human nature. The only way to deal with this is to look past them and move on.
That doesn't stop people from being racist of course, they just either do it unintentionally (which is still harmful)I don't know if we should concern ourselves with unintentional racism. It makes me think of Thought Police.
Billy's view IMO is more common than you think, at least in the context of trans/genderfluid people. One... "advantage" of being a boring white cis male is that you get to hear people shit-talking these people behind their backs. The whole idea that male and female roles are fixed and inflexible seems pretty common, at least in my experience.Trans issues are less widely accepted than other minority issues, but it has come a long way in just a few years. I think we'll see a lot of improvements as time goes on.
That doesn't stop people from being racist of course, they just either do it unintentionally (which is still harmful)I don't know if we should concern ourselves with unintentional racism. It makes me think of Thought Police.
Trans issues are less widely accepted than other minority issues, but it has come a long way in just a few years. I think we'll see a lot of improvements as time goes on.
Racism is bad, I am not bad, therefore I am not racist is the kind of logic everyone uses.
Well,raising someone gender neutral shouldn't be a problem I think? Idea being not that you'll end up with children with no idea of what gender is, but that your kid would be more at ease without having to conform to society's perception of gender.
Racism is bad, I am not bad, therefore I am not racist is the kind of logic everyone uses.
The fact that "racism" is bad is socially accepted. What it is and why it's bad isn't.
Which also mean that the acceptance is pretty meaningless.
50 ppp master race, noobs.
Peoples crave an identity, if you remove gender it will be something else. I believe that gender neutral isn't the right way to go, and that being more permissive with gender definition will be much more beneficial.I said gender neutral, not gender exclusionary. It's about letting your kid figure it out rather than enforcing norms on them. Want to get them clothes? Pick the ones with their favorite cartoon characters and listen to what they want to wear. Toys? See what catches their fancy at a toy store, whether it's a barbie or an action figure. Don't take things or deny them stuff they want because it's too, I dunno "gendered" or the wrong "gender". Let them be who they want without the parents placing expectations from them, at least for their leisure. Kids spend a lot of time learning, so it's a matter of teaching them how to make themselves happy rather than how to make others happy at their expense.
Well,raising someone gender neutral shouldn't be a problem I think? Idea being not that you'll end up with children with no idea of what gender is, but that your kid would be more at ease without having to conform to society's perception of gender.
Peoples crave an identity, if you remove gender it will be something else. I believe that gender neutral isn't the right way to go, and that being more permissive with gender definition will be much more beneficial.
But you have a lot of leeway on how you define gender-roles, roles in society and values in general.
Look what "being a man" was before. Read Duma for instance. Aristocrats wore heels, pretty jewels-adorned coats, make-up, and held culture and refinement in high esteem. They spoke of how their pants hi-lighted the gable of their legs, and made sure they had delicates hands.
They were also ruthless killers that would stab you for looking at them the wrong way.
Nobody stopped me from going to swim. I had that option at every point, but I didn't go swim. Gender neutral parenting doesn't mean forcing your boy to do girlish things.I think we should just call that gender neutering.
Ahahaha yessss. I agree.Nobody stopped me from going to swim. I had that option at every point, but I didn't go swim. Gender neutral parenting doesn't mean forcing your boy to do girlish things.I think we should just call that gender neutering.
Their own, as opposed to whatever gender roles are shoved onto them.
As an example of this: At camp, while I was away canoeing with a small group, we went to a beach. We had the option of going swimming or hanging out and making bracelets. Without thinking much of it, I went to the shoreline - but then noticed something. All of of the boys were swimming. Almost all of the girls were making bracelets. This alerted me to a subconscious choice based on a gender division. But did I want to go swimming? When I thought about it, no. The river was slimy, and I like making things with my hands. So I went and made bracelets and talked with the girls and had a much better time than I would have if I had swam.
Nobody stopped me from going to swim. I had that option at every point, but I didn't go swim. Gender neutral parenting doesn't mean forcing your boy to do girlish things. It means letting your boy do... anything, whether boyish or girlish, and trying to help your boy see that it's okay to play with dolls - if they want to. If they like trucks, nobody's stopping them from playing with trucks.
It's a common misconception that gender neutrality, feminism, etc., takes away choice, when in reality it takes away nothing. It only gives a choice.
I don't like choosing my ice cream flavour, so nobody else gets to choose either - they all have to get vanilla.Chocolate is the only correct choice you vanillanormative scum.
What about just literally ice.
What about just literally ice.
Ice is a temperature, not a flavour!
There are 17 different types of water-ice, some at wildly different temperatures and pressures.What about just literally ice.
Ice is a temperature, not a flavour!
I was thinking of the whole "Androgynous couples are happiest together" and I am starting to think that has less to do with gender roles so much that "People with a lot in common and who are willing to work together tend to be the strongest couple"That actually makes a lot of sense.
What about just literally ice.Vanilla Ice is a gender now
I think I'll raise my children as Ice Ice BabiesWhat about just literally ice.Vanilla Ice is a gender now
It says something about me that I thought of the JJBA character first instead of the actual man.I think I'll raise my children as Ice Ice BabiesWhat about just literally ice.Vanilla Ice is a gender now
It is important for deviation to be accepted.I would say that it is important for deviation to be accomodated. Which is a subtle difference, but...still.
QuoteJust like a woman has no business competing with a man in strength, a man has no business competing with a woman in grace. Thus, certain traits simply belong to a gender.
QuoteJust like a woman has no business competing with a man in strength, a man has no business competing with a woman in grace. Thus, certain traits simply belong to a gender.
I wonder if he's seen male gynmasts, ballet dancers etc. That shit is graceful. Riverdance (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FoHlrQScWl0) anyone?
It is important for deviation to be accepted.This is a good point, a good contextual point that shouldn't be taken out of what's being discussed right now. :P
[...]One should also put great notice to the values that's being used. At times, societies have experienced and observed certain happenings that do not fit their current understanding; how they follow up expanding their understanding creates an underlying process of thinking for meeting ideas in the future.
Despite the difficulties of communication across cultures and subgroups, saying "diversity enriches" or "diversity is dangerous" is too simplistic (factually speaking). Passing to a Judith-Butler style argument, we really can't make that kind of statement, because whether diversity enriches or threatens is a matter of individual interactions and individual times. What we can do is teach future generations more skills for managing their differences--assuming, perhaps, a more-or-less homogeneous culture to which one belongs, but a non-homogeneous outside environment that one would do well to learn how to navigate for, if nothing else, commercial and trade purposes.
I've recalled people thinking about how 'prevalent' BillyTheKid's ideas are. In a wholesome context--it's as prevalent as the culture that promotes it. It isn't a predominating idea in many areas, taking in a worldwide context, and it is predominating in many areas; the general sense of that begins in the culture of the society, community, or family as the smallest part.QuoteJust like a woman has no business competing with a man in strength, a man has no business competing with a woman in grace. Thus, certain traits simply belong to a gender.
I wonder if he's seen male gynmasts, ballet dancers etc. That shit is graceful. Riverdance (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FoHlrQScWl0) anyone?
Especially when descriptions are used like these. :PThere is already a word for that, which is sex (and intersex people for those that have rarer mix like XXY). Gender usually refers to the social implication and expectations of the stuff, although they do get mixed up sometime.
Klinefelter males are not "intersex". They are still male, they do not possess any characteristics of females, besides reduced (compared to XY males) testosterone production.
Despite the difficulties of communication across cultures and subgroups, saying "diversity enriches" or "diversity is dangerous" is too simplistic (factually speaking).
Here is kind of the thing... "Strength" is quantifiable... "Grace" is not only qualitative, but a combination of features and factors.
Then there is the whole "Grace is beauty" aspect where it is less that men can't compete so much that the definition of Grace being used is specifically being attributed to women and a man would need to look like a classically feminine woman to compete :P
Edoot: Ohai Caz! :D
I'd say they're both qualitative. Strength of what? Strength of conviction, strength of character, or are you talking about how much someone can deadlift?
Unless you honestly believe that women can't compete with men in terms of strength of character xD
Accepted is a better word than accommodated. We cannot accommodate for every deviation. People who are different from the norm need to accept that they are different from the norm, rather than everyone else changing the norm to suit a minority.It is important for deviation to be accepted.I would say that it is important for deviation to be accomodated. Which is a subtle difference, but...still.
We'd be talking about it, sure, but the original quote was from that other guy. And yeah, there are a *lot* of people out there who do believe that exactly."A lot" is vague, and not helpful to the discussion. Do you have any statistics?
"A lot" is vague, and not helpful to the discussion. Do you have any statistics?
And besides, even if you say strength is strength, what kind of strength? Deadlifts, curls, weighted squads, kegels...?
I'm trying to change the discourse from top-down "the culture ought to be built on so-and-so principles" discussions (unless anyone here has the ear of a politician?), because such discussions are ones in which the people talking here have, essentially, no influence or controlling stake. I'd rather talk about things we actually have control over.I'd argue even most politicians don't have that sort of power. The power to remake culture and define cultural norms is one only deeply authoritarian societies have any real hope of achieving (not that you can't try, and I'd say most societies do attempt to do so to various extents, but to be really successful it does basically demand society-wide brainwashing). It's even rarer that they are successful, and as for how often they actually ingratiate the intended norms? Who even knows.
But do you remember Sartre? He said that one always has a choice, namely the choice of suicide. If society killed everyone who didn't fit the gender roles, there would technically be the choice of deviating, but not a choice that most would consider to be an acceptable choice.Do you remember Hobbes? He'd argue that the choice between death and another option is no real choice at all. Some people may, given certain circumstances, choose death, but no one can ever be morally expected to give away their life (if someone lined you up on a wall and put a gun to your head demanding you claim women are inferior, no one has a right to hold anything you say against you). To choose death may be deeply virtuous given the context, but to choose your own life is not inversely evil. I'd go further and say that it is precisely because choosing your own life is not evil that sacrifice is noble. But that is off-topic.
It is why Japan murdered the brains out of China in terms of technology and economics even today... and Japan isn't even non-xenophobic.That may not be the best example, given that both Japan and China have had or continue to have elements of deeply xenophobic cultures. China is actually quite arguably much less xenophobic, given that under the Qing Dynasty they were, after all, being ruled by Manchus, and the ROC was founded as "Five Races Under One Union": The Han, the Manchu, the Mongols, the Hui, and the Tibetans. By contrast Japan... oh Japan. Their relationship with the Ainu, and with Okinawa, speaks volumes. A better argument would be pointing out the 200 years of stagnation (well, 100 years of being pretty ok, 100 years of stagnation and decline) that occurred under Japan's closed period that left it vulnerable to Western Imperialism. These issues are complicated, and a one-off comment doesn't do them justice.
ROC was founded as "Five Races Under One Union": The Han, the Manchu, the Mongols, the Hui, and the Tibetans.
And besides, even if you say strength is strength, what kind of strength? Deadlifts, curls, weighted squads, kegels...?Strength of character was specified. It is completely unquantifiable.
The whole women are chaste and men are satyrs for example. Where it is the woman's job to regulate the sexuality of other men :PThat is just a straw man.
So one might say "well doesn't that mean men have less strength of character?" but remember... In that situation the man cannot be faulted :P Only the woman can have a slight against her character.
Also why do people forget Mongolia is a place that exists?It has a population of 3 million and Inner Mongolia is part of China.
The whole women are chaste and men are satyrs for example. Where it is the woman's job to regulate the sexuality of other men :PThat is just a straw man.
So one might say "well doesn't that mean men have less strength of character?" but remember... In that situation the man cannot be faulted :P Only the woman can have a slight against her character.
Also why do people forget Mongolia is a place that exists?
"A lot" is vague, and not helpful to the discussion. Do you have any statistics?
Hardly. My point is Japan is not exactly beating China in the racial diversity competition. And one of the reasons for this is China actually acknowledges it has minorities, which is a hell of a lot more diverse than Japan simply pretending they don't have minorities, and going very far out their way at times to make that the case. Plus any knowledge of Japan's colonial empire and their wartime goals indicates that you sure as hell could not attribute their strength to "diversity". Thus, claiming diversity is why Japan is ahead of China seems... weird. It would make more sense to argue that a lack of racial diversity is why Japan is ahead: you would be wrong, but at least that incorrect argument would be deduced from accurate facts, as opposed to a wrong argument based on inaccurate facts.QuoteROC was founded as "Five Races Under One Union": The Han, the Manchu, the Mongols, the Hui, and the Tibetans.
Miiiiight not be the best... example... given what happened and how it happened.
Indeed. The country of Mongolia only consists of the region of what was once called "Outer Mongolia", whereas the region of Inner Mongolia (which is still called "Inner Mongolia") is still apart of China today. Under the Qing, all of Mongolia (including what it is today Mongolia) was under Chinese control. So, um, yeah, there are Mongolians in China.Also why do people forget Mongolia is a place that exists?
who is forgetting?
Hardly. My point is Japan is not exactly beating China in the racial diversity competition. And one of the reasons for this is China actually acknowledges it has minorities, which is a hell of a lot more diverse than Japan simply pretending they don't have minorities, and going very far out their way at times to make that the case. Plus any knowledge of Japan's colonial empire and their wartime goals indicates that you sure as hell could not attribute their strength to "diversity". Thus, claiming diversity is why Japan is ahead of China seems... weird.
I'm not asking for "special accomodation." Whoa, guys, that's not what I meant. I'm saying that deviation ought to be accepted universally, unless it violates others' rights. I'm not saying that this is practical, just that it is the most just. I was only responding to the person who said "some people don't like choices => nobody should get choice."
Cheating?!? 200 years. Japan spent 200 years cloistered up in a way that only islands can achieve. During this period China was ruled by Manchus (which really should make us question what "ruling china" even means) and had trade with the West (trade that would eventually lead to the Opium Wars). During that same period, Japan was a feudal society which had actually gone out of its way to turn back the clock, and did a damn good job of it. Japan AND China were BOTH forced into the "modern" world. Claiming that one doing much better then the other because of "diversity" is absurd.QuoteHardly. My point is Japan is not exactly beating China in the racial diversity competition. And one of the reasons for this is China actually acknowledges it has minorities, which is a hell of a lot more diverse than Japan simply pretending they don't have minorities, and going very far out their way at times to make that the case. Plus any knowledge of Japan's colonial empire and their wartime goals indicates that you sure as hell could not attribute their strength to "diversity". Thus, claiming diversity is why Japan is ahead of China seems... weird.
Except you know... China cloistered itself away from the world while Japan (due to "cheating") was forced to embrace what the world had to offer.
Diversity is not JUST "racial diversity" but also diversity of ideas and cultures...So does Japan tolerate feminists during that period? Socialists? Christians? Ainu? Anything at all? it tolerates western technology is what it did.
PLUS as I said there is a reason why China has those minorities... and I am not sure I'd praise it as being diverse given that a few of those groups exist due to extreme xenophobic prejudice towards them... Some exist because China was completely conquered by them and had no choice.Koreans. Okinawans. Christians. AINU. WHAT ABOUT THE AINU DAMN IT. The entire island of Hokkaido had an entire race living there before the Japanese got there. Japan has nearly wiped them out. Isn't that a point in China's favor vis-a-vis diversity? "We didn't attempt to completely erase all foreign cultures within our borders?" China could probably have engaged in a war of extermination if it really wanted to, but the point was the Manchus legitimized their rule through a unique blend of ethnic-federalism and the traditional Imperial bureacracy that was a hell of a lot more "diverse" than you give them credit.
It would be like saying Early America was a diverse because they had a lot of Native Americans... Which ignores the whole situation completely.Are you ignoring the situation? It's like saying if you conquer the minorities near you, that counts as diversity, right? No? Because that is what I am hearing here.
I honestly don't see how.You are saying, "this is an argument people make", without pointing to anyone making that argument.
Given the whole: "Women are sluts, men are players" dynamic.
Oh Armok this sounds so much like "love the sinner hate the sin" ugh.
Not to nitpick, but there are more Ainu-identifying people alive in Hokkaido now than before Hokkaido was annexed by Japan, even by conservative estimates. .80,000 in 18th century, 25,000 is the official total Japan has today. Most Ainu were interbred into Japanese, so the number of "pure" Ainu, or Ainu-speakers, is quite low. And I didn't even mention Australia damn it, and the US example is only extremely tangential and one only mentioned in response to him. This was directed at Neonivek's bizarre China arguments. Lecturing me about not accurately comparing the US and Japan when I'm not even trying to do that is the very definition of nitpicking. But this is deeply off-topic anyway
To be honest I think you people just live in a shitty country for shitty people and should move to somewhere civilized like Germany or Norway.Now see, plenty of people are already trying that, and I'm not sure for how much longer Germany will remain open for immigration, or even refugees. Plus what if I was from someplace like India? Norway has 5 million people. Imagine 150 million Indians or even a low 10%, so only 100 million Indians, or hell just 20 million (presumably most Indians would stay) descending on Norway for a minute here. Norway would cease to exist, it would just be North India at that point. I mean I live in a city that has a greater population than all of Norway. Saying "go somewhere better" is not really a realistic proposition for the world's population. Even if only a slim minority want to go, that's still millions of people that need to come in. Even Germany, which is much bigger than Norway, is still looking at doubling its population size. Presumably, the outrage would stop the process long before that.
Intolerance isn't great.
But it's also literally unavoidable, because of the way our brains are wired. We need an enemy. If you're progressive, you find it in all those despicable Racists and Sexists and other Evil Peopletm. If you're more 'traditional', you might find it in foreigners or Muslims or colored people or the gays, but you probably find it in all those traitorous Hippies and Communists and damn dirty Tax-n-Spenders who want to Ruin Our Countrytm!
So saying 'you need to accept me and love me for who I am anyway' isn't going to happen. Tolerance means allowing to exist. It doesn't mean liking it. Accomodating deviation, giving leeway for people who want to do that, that's a good thing, and very possible. Accepting deviation? Well, if it was accepted, it wouldn't be deviation.
Furthermore, the vast majority of people whom I'm guessing you would consider bigoted are not actively intolerant, Dozebom. But you can't really try to stop it via 'YOU'RE BAD FOR NOT LIKING THESE PEOPLE', which, if that's not what you're talking about, good, but that's not what I'm getting from you. I feel like it's a common failure mode (in the sense that I consider it a failure to maintain one's values) for progressives, to become/feel justified in holier-than-thou righteous indignation and outrage addiction. Hell, just look at what people can be considered racist for now. Sometimes I think it's justified, but other times...'not having the forethought to realize what it might be construed as' just doesn't have the maliciousness of racism. And putting 'Fuck the gays' and 'Those gays sure are good at parades, aren't they?' on the same level seems fundamentally flawed, to me.
And I see that phrase (Love the sinner hate the sin) used far more by the people who don't hate than the ones who do. As in, most if not all of my friends and the people I've known who disapprove of things like homosexuality but don't actual disapprove of the people themselves. Though that might be selection bias on my part.
I never argued that killing yourself was a choice. I messed up that paragraph by leaving out a sentence - it was supposed to be a cautionary reference, a reductio ad absurdum. Hobbes' rebuttal of Sartre much more closely matches my thoughts. It was saying that sure, there's always technically a choice, but when it's a "lesser of two evils" situation, that's not much of a choice.
My apologies, perhaps I wasn't clear; I don't think you are being 'holier-than-thou'. I think you were displaying some elements of self-righteousness, which is on the road there. But it is entirely possible to have self-esteem problems and still feel that way. It's quite similar to what many child bullies do. And no, I'm not saying you bully people, I'm saying it's an example of how it's possible. (progressives can bully just as hard as conservatives can when they try; girl getting pushed to brink of suicide for not drawing her fanart in a progressive enough way, for example).
Excuse me? I kind of feel like I wrote something completely different, because I'm getting the response I'd expect if I'd written a much angrier post. I recognize that I am not perfect - look back a few pages, when I wrote a hasty, angry rebuttal of Billy that was also very wrong. I admitted that I was wrong and fixed it. But I don't think I'm that much "holier-than-thou." I haven't discussed how awful I am in this thread, because it's irrelevant, but I have actual self-esteem problem. Fsuuuure, I'm "holier-than-thou."
Is saying "tolerance is better than intolerance, tolerance ought to be, intolerance ought to be done away with" giving off a "holier-than-thou" tone? Because yeah, I think I'm right. I wouldn't be arguing that intolerance was bad if I thought I was wrong. But if that's the case, any sort of disputed statement is "holier-than-thou."
I don't find Racists and Sexists etc. to be evil, I find the racism itself to be awful and deserving of eradication. Is that feasible? Hell no. Ought it happen? If it could, yes.
Also, "our brains are hardwired" is a really good way of saying "this is bad, but we shouldn't fix it."
The whole "parade" thing was a reference to
(https://www.indymedia.org.uk/images/2007/01/359560.jpg)
I probably meant protest, parade does evoke gay pride parades. Brainfart.
@LoveTheSinnerHateTheSin: Lucky you, you've tended to hear it said by nonhaters. Maybe that's the most prevalent use, but I've only heard it used to mean "everything I'm doing is because I love you! You evil dirty fag."
I think this is more the point:Because I promise you, it has nothing to do with actually being afraid people will rape. Both are awful, but the first is essentially the collateral damage of wanting to 'stick it to the man' by doing something anti-progressive after the Supreme Court rules that gay marriage is legal, period. The second one is privilege and class at work. :/
People pass bathroom bills cause they're afraid transgender people will rape.... (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bathroom_bill)
Then practically nothing is done when actual rape occurs.... (http://www.wcsh6.com/news/jail-term-for-former-stanford-swimmers-rape-attempt-gets-even-shorter/311729261)
People were ... PISSED ... about that transgender bathroom thing, but when this dude does that to an unconscious girl.... That's some grade A BS right there. I can't pee in a public bathroom, but this over-privileged swimmer can pull that? Wow.
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Who the hell are you talking to? They sound awful.
I've never heard that before in my life from anyone other than strawmen in fictional works. Ever....
Who the hell are you talking to? They sound awful.
Typical people... They tend to be the sort of people who say that any tragedy really destroys your life and you are better off committing suicide.
I won't fill in the examples... as yeah they are tragic...
But I am someone who believes that "Victimizing a victim" hurts them far more then it helps. Giving them the impression that they can never get better and are better off dead... is far worse then being outright delusional and believing that everyone gets through it hunky dory.
Wow, you're right. This is much bigger than I thought.Basically the bit about being intolerant of intolerance was most of it. It's basically impossible not to be self-righteous in one way or another at some points; I know for a fact I get self-righteous about stuff, I just try not to be...what's the word. I try not to generalize it past myself when I can. :/ Or I try to be dry and technical so it's a discussion of philosophy rather than argument or the like. I dunno. Don't worry about it too much, I guess, just, well. This (http://slatestarcodex.com/2014/09/30/i-can-tolerate-anything-except-the-outgroup/) is where I first learned about tribalism and shit. It specifically talks about tolerating anything but intolerance and that sort of thing. Word of warning though, the comments move along a sin curve on the political spectrum. Lots of armchair philosophers on every side, but overall they're pretty good to look at too on other pages (this is one of the more popular pages so it's gonna be bloated with comments), can give very cool insight on things.
1. For the purposes of self-improvement, could you describe the point at which I was appearing self-righteous? (Either I miscommunicated or I actually was self-righteous, both of which should be fixed for enhanced social interaction.)
2. I kind of disagree with your conclusion, though. More on this once I get back to my comp and have the chance to think about it more. That might be tomorrow, I dunno. Better a well-written and -thought reply tomorrow than a hasty, incorrect one today.
...wow. Just wow.WELCOME TO RATIONALITY
I finished the article you linked to, and as a result of that article and your posts (and some internal stuff I'll explain later) I have had a fucking epiphany.
I knew I wasn't perfect, but looking at the article and myself? Everybody is incredibly inherently flawed. I am inherently flawed in a fuckton of ways. And I already knew this, and yet I wasn't thinking about that. My mind is opening, thinking, everything is looking more complex. Reality is just shades of gray!
And I knew this! What the fuck, brain?! I've figured this out dozens of times before, and yet I still couldn't apply it to tolerance and outgroups! I still saw myself and my ingroup as tons more right than teh sexists, how awful they are, those evil people who I don't preach overt hate against, look at how great I am! I was kind of pre-holier-than-thou. And it's completely at odds with the philosophy that I developed! How on earth was I able to hold such inconsistent ideas in the same mind?
This doesn't feel right. It's unintuitive, and every part of me wants to abandon the thoughts and continue with the old way of thinking. I feel incredibly uncomfortable thinking about these things. And that is so incredibly perfect! Who knows what lurks in the recesses of my mind?! I can finally own myself, know myself! No longer will my thought processes go unquestioned. I will figure out what makes me tick, no matter how embarrassingly simple and common it is. (Because there's no way my mind wouldn't be special, right? I'm bound to be so different, so much better than those common unthinking sheeple! See?! I'm finding another dark recess!) This feels great and awful AND I LOVE IT!
And the best part? I've never had such a constructive discussion as this with a conservative.* And I don't even know whether that's because conservatives can't think big, important thoughts! (Again, another recess.) It could be that conversations don't work over the outgroup line. It could even be me! The possibilities are endless and complex! Life is interesting again!
*(Explanation b/c fucking English: I do not think that you are conservative [at least, not heavily]. I have talked with conservatives before. Never has a constructive discussion arisen from those talks.)
Of course, this all came about because of weird words - if I had used a synonym for my use of "tolerate," this derailish discussion wouldn't have happened. But I am so glad it did. I feel like I've awoken - but that in itself should be questioned! Am I now feeling better than the "sleeping people"?! I AM ADDICTED TO FINDING FLAWS IN MYSELF
This (http://slatestarcodex.com/2014/09/30/i-can-tolerate-anything-except-the-outgroup/) is where I first learned about tribalism and shit. It specifically talks about tolerating anything but intolerance and that sort of thing.Insightfulness and all aside, this article is just plain well written and fun to read. Thanks for the link.
Some of it is certainly genetic – estimates of the genetic contribution to political association range from 0.4 to 0.6. Heritability of one’s attitudes toward gay rights range from 0.3 to 0.5, which hilariously is a little more heritable than homosexuality itself.Holy shit wait what. This and its branches will require more attention and time than I anticipated. Thank you immensely for the link.
Dunno why you think hope is irrational.
There are times in which things are actualy far simpler than people make it out to be, this has been one of those times for a while now :U
Ah, that makes sense. I am not that acquainted with hope myself, not requiring it as much as others would. *spock*Spock-like =/= better. Also doesn't equal false.
By which I mean I probably have some hidden source of it that I draw on without even knowing it, because as I keep on reminding myself, I'm not better than other people.
WELCOME TO RATIONALITYNO ONE IS LOYAL
ALMOST EVERYTHING IS FUCKED
ALMOST NO ONE IS EVIL
Ah, that makes sense. I am not that acquainted with hope myself, not requiring it as much as others would. *spock*Spock-like =/= better. Also doesn't equal false.
By which I mean I probably have some hidden source of it that I draw on without even knowing it, because as I keep on reminding myself, I'm not better than other people.
Also. In my mind, Spock does equal better.And smashes scissors/vaporises rock. Just watch out for the poisonous lizard and disproving paper.
-Celebrations question-I...only knew this from the happy thread. I celebrated it in mind :D
Yeah I went into the florists after I saw a very cute girl working there, so I kinda pretended to be buying flowers for a non existant girl I have a fake crush on.This is so awh. I really like this. ^ ^
It came down to me asking her favourite flower, I bought one and gave it back to her, smiled then quickly ran for my life
Yeah I went into the florists after I saw a very cute girl working there, so I kinda pretended to be buying flowers for a non existant girl I have a fake crush on.
It came down to me asking her favourite flower, I bought one and gave it back to her, smiled then quickly ran for my life
Yeah I went into the florists after I saw a very cute girl working there, so I kinda pretended to be buying flowers for a non existant girl I have a fake crush on.:o
It came down to me asking her favourite flower, I bought one and gave it back to her, smiled then quickly ran for my life
1. Plenty of other animals are monogamous, and stay with one partner for their whole life.
2. "Pervert" just means "a person whose sexual behavior is regarded as abnormal and unacceptable." As such, I would challenge its unironic use in any situation, save bestiality and rape. (And I'm not even sure about the former.)
Well, that's mainly due to the fact that humans live longer than a lot of other animals :P1. Plenty of other animals are monogamous, and stay with one partner for their whole life.1. Humans are unique in that they stay together and rear their children in families for longer, and with infinitely more attention than any other animal. How many animals mate, and stay with their mate to do parenting for 20+ years until the children are fully grown? Humans do.
2. "Pervert" just means "a person whose sexual behavior is regarded as abnormal and unacceptable." As such, I would challenge its unironic use in any situation, save bestiality and rape. (And I'm not even sure about the former.)
1. How many animals take 20 goddamned years to grow to adulthood? A third or more or their typical lifespan? Infinitely more attention is a whole nother matter which has it's own issues...1. Plenty of other animals are monogamous, and stay with one partner for their whole life.
2. "Pervert" just means "a person whose sexual behavior is regarded as abnormal and unacceptable." As such, I would challenge its unironic use in any situation, save bestiality and rape. (And I'm not even sure about the former.)
Are you referring to me?
1. Humans are unique in that they stay together and rear their children in families for longer, and with infinitely more attention than any other animal. How many animals mate, and stay with their mate to do parenting for 20+ years until the children are fully grown? Humans do.
2. I meant it literally. Aleister Crowley dubbed himself "the wickedest man alive" and "the great beast" and was known to haunt prostitutes. He probably did much more sick, occult shit which can only be termed as perversion. He founded the popularity of "eroto-comatose lucidity" in the western world. It was known for thousands of years by ancient sages prior. Crowley also probably indulged in paedophilia, cannibalism etc. so, is that perverted enough?
1. Plenty of other animals are monogamous, and stay with one partner for their whole life.Not so much as it is often said, or as absolutely as implied...
1.So first off, do you mean all animals? Because I'm comparing humans to the smartest non-humans. Like elephants. Or dolphins, or chimps, or orcas, or crows, or what-have-you. Second, mentally complex=/= smarter. Chimps beat humans in terms of being able to figure out optimal game-theoretic strategies and use them. Humans overthink it. We apply biases and prejudices and ideas of how we'll stand socially to everything.
The real factor is that a Human male and female will parent a child with more attention, care and understanding than any other animal, and for relatively longer. Not just spending time together, but performing parenting tasks. Humans arguably do the most parenting of any other animal.
You learn everything from your parents. Most animals learn the basics only, and learn the rest from the wild. That's because Humans are good at parenting, and have been selected by evolution to be great parents to give their children the best advantage. When two people make love (in nature), ultimately, it's to become great parents and raise a child from ignorance to self-sufficiency (which is more difficult for humans, because they learn SO much more than any animal). Think about it like science: We build on the discoveries of previous scientists. Similarly, we learn and grow based on the tuition of our parents. This is an evolutionary strategy to confer many benefits to human beings. This is how we are able to know so much (compared to animals).
For Humans, parenting is in-depth and a long term commitment (for the species as a whole, not only individuals) and Humans are good at parenting.
Human beings apply infinitely more care (ATTENTION) to their offspring than any animal because:
-humans are more mentally complex than animals. When they look after their offspring, they do it smarter than an animal.
-humans are more emotionally and socially complex than animals. They have a complex social system, they do it with more emotional depth.
-has to teach them language and pretty much everything about the world (animals can't do this because they don't understand the world)
-teaches them specialised skills like writing, numeracy, sports, social etiquette (complex skills can't even be understood by animals)
-feeds, clothes them. worries about their diet, skin, friends, education, finances and love life. (most animals do not stay in contact with their children into old age, for example)
(http://imgur.com/3OfFON4.png)"if you're not part of [group] you don't know what real prejudice or pain is."tbh the problem is that this is actually true if you look at the amount of people saying that women should be "flattered" because of catcalling and that sexual harassment "doesn't happen that often" etc.
a lot of people will just dismiss or minimalise racism or sexism because it never happens to them, and there's a big difference from "a few people are mean to me sometimes :c" and "random strangers call me a slut on a busy street regularly"
also it's just naive to pretend that cis white middle-class dudes experience prejudice to the same extent as basically any other group
Thanks for proving the point, though.
at no point did i say any of that so lolQuoteAssume that only the suffering of people you deem to be "real victims" mattersnopeQuoteproceed to marginalize and trivialize everyone elsenopeQuoteonly suffering caused by the "real problems" is important and that everything else doesn't exist or doesn't matternopeQuoteWork hard to make people otherize each other based on your hierarchy of victimhoodnopeQuotethere's a big difference from "a few people are mean to me sometimes :c" and "random strangers call me a slut on a busy street regularly"You have clear classes of "real victims" and trivialize all other suffering as "lel someone said something mean to me".QuoteAssume that empathy and sympathy don't exist and that people can only identify and want to resolve problems which personally affect themnopeQuotea lot of people will just dismiss or minimalise racism or sexism because it never happens to themYou made two generalizations here: that people outside your designated victim groups cannot be discriminated against on the basis of race or sex (which is blatantly and provably false, and that people who do not suffer from a given type of discrimination will not care about it.QuoteCall everyone who disagrees with your highly specific and arrogant worldview a bigotnope
Semi-fair, but the is the nigh-universal cop-out employed by people making the same arguments: see: all Brexit voters are cast as racist hicks, anyone who doesn't support Clinton is a sexist, &c. This is hands-down the favored argument of regressives, that anyone who doesn't blindly adhere to their specific ideological strain is a hateful enemy of progress.Quotecan't comprehend people who want to try to address all social ills instead of making their own lives better while pushing everyone else down the laddernopeQuotealso it's just naive to pretend that cis white middle-class dudes experience prejudice to the same extent as basically any other groupQuotea lot of people will just dismiss or minimalise racism or sexism because it never happens to themSee above re: the dual fallacy of group-limited victimhood and lack of empathy for those different from oneself suffering because of something encompassed by those differences. You tacitly assume that a person who does not suffer from a particular injustice will not care about it.Quoteblindly kowtowing to your pressure to allow you to do sonope
That is the conclusion most readily drawn from the previously mentioned assumption. If people do not care about problems which do not directly and personally affect them, why do those who are affected care? Obviously, personal gain. Ergo, if someone operating under your worldview is opposed to a type of prejudice, it it solely because they stand to improve their condition by doing so. You willingly reject even the possibility that someone could be opposed to hatred or prejudice because it is ethically wrong, socially destructive, &c. No, people only care about things if they gain something concrete from caring.
i could add onto why most of these things are bullshit or the exact thing you're doing, but why would i? your post is just a bunch of shit i didn't say and some random insults.
and why should i have to pm when calling people out on their bullshit?
also i guess i should have a line here passive-aggressively "thanking" you for things you didnt do but i cant really bring up the effort so meh
But when people use that as broad justification to say that 'no person who is not a member of [group] can understand' they are denying that life experiences like mine, where I was one of 4 white students out of 600 total, and was regularly threatened, harassed, and attacked for being white, ever occurThen they're wrong.
In order: It was a description of the ideas enshrined in your ideology and of the consequences of attempting to force it upon the world.why bother replying to my post specifically if your argument is against a perceived caricature of an ideology (e.g. the quote i was quoting) instead of against the points i was actually making?
You have clear classes of "real victims" and trivialize all other suffering as "lel someone said something mean to me".much like the quote i was replying to was (hopefully) a hyperbole, so was this. i did not discuss the people that do recognise the issues unprivileged groups experience, but i did adress the general tendency of the media to ignore them, and the people that say, for example, that catcalling should be considered flattery. which is a good example since it highlights the extent to which people tend to assume the most benign form of these issues in their minds, and the extent to which people underestimate the psychological effects of this. surely, being whistled to from across the street should be a compliment? but this isn't about being whistled to from across the street.
But when people use that as broad justification to say that 'no person who is not a member of [group] can understand' they are denying that life experiences like mine, where I was one of 4 white students out of 600 total, and was regularly threatened, harassed, and attacked for being white, ever occur
FD didn't imply it doesn't happen less with majority groups, though.this isnt what i said either ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
The argument in a nutshell appears to consist of this: FD mentions, in a way or another, that discrimination is a bad thing, and often happens between minority groups and other minority groups and between said minority groups and the majority, which is also discriminated again in a reactionary action on the part of said minority groups. Miauw then disagreed by saying the discrimination against majority groups is largely irrelevant, implying that majority groups can't possibly be discriminated against or know how it feels to be discriminated against. FD disagrees and thinks miauw is a belgian babby. miauw re-disagrees and thinks Flying Dice is the next comming of hitler.
Note: does any of this actualy reflect the actual discussion in any way? Absolutely not. I am a jerk and I'm currently bored, fite me IRL
Something is noticed is that the word "cis" seems to be very much on it's way of becoming a derogatory term.
What social media circles do you observe this in?I can say that most of the times I ever hear the word nowadays is when people are using it in conjunction with the negative connotations of a sense of "not us". Can't really remember the last time I've actually seen it used in a more positive sense, every time it's always being used by someone who intrinsically places themselves as not a member of whatever group they are referring to.
Is it direct or reported?
Animals are NO WHERE near as self-aware, rational, understanding, perceptive, insightful, creative, organised, coherent, calculating, restrained, detached, considerate, reflective, concentrated, focused, developed, mentally or emotionally compared to Humans.Citation please.
i always try to be respectful about this, but your replies are invariably (not even passive-)agressive.
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but apparently some people can't do civil discourse.
Animals are NO WHERE near as self-aware, rational, understanding, perceptive, insightful, creative, organised, coherent, calculating, restrained, detached, considerate, reflective, concentrated, focused, developed, mentally or emotionally compared to Humans.Citation please.
i dont really have a beef with you, i have a beef with discriminatory bullshit :vOh, and so much for "I don't call people bigots for disagreeing with me."
ill happily come and call people out on it whenever i can bring up the effort.
Hey, this is starting to look like it's gotten personal and really off-topic. Let's chill, and get back to talking about gender soon.
humans are just in a different LEAGUE.
Lots of animals do have adequate self-awareness, but only humans have such a deep understanding of repercussions, empathy, sympathy, logic etc.
Sex between humans is really quite divine and very unlike mere animal rutting (pardon my french)
Lots of animals do have adequate self-awareness, but only humans have such a deep understanding of repercussions, empathy, sympathy, logic etc.
Sex between humans is really quite divine and very unlike mere animal rutting (pardon my french)
Lots of animals do have adequate self-awareness, but only humans have such a deep understanding of repercussions, empathy, sympathy, logic etc.I mean really that statement is fairly unprovable, given how our anthropocentric studies kind of limit us by virtue of not actually having any animal writers/etc. that have written down their thoughts on the subject. I mean for all we know animals think that their version of it is way better than anything humans might experience, but we can't exactly ask them that question and get an intelligible answer. (And emotions/understanding of emotions aren't exactly comparable things anyways. I mean if a person thinks that compassion in a particular case doesn't require action that doesn't necessarily mean that they have a "lesser" understanding of it, or that they necessarily feel it any less, they've just chosen not to act on it.)
Sex between humans is really quite divine and very unlike mere animal rutting (pardon my french)
It's not merely a matter of having a view, it's the quality of the view.
For example, humans examine things in much deeper depth and detail, reference and cross reference it to existing data, abstract it and play with it as a concept or idea, and finally dismiss it at will. Humans can literally formulate ideas at will and combine them with other ideas to solve problems. They can extrapolate on data and make very accurate guesses about a variety of things (some animals can guess the weather, for example, but to them, it is much more an unconscious instinct)
Even though animals can appreciate life, they can never look at things with the same understanding that human does, because humans have such depth, breadth and width of understanding of such diverse sets of knowledge, rational and abstract, creative and intuitive.
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For example, they can figure out the solutions to problems, but perhaps after seeing it and failing a few times.
Animals do problem solving unconsciously. It happens, but usually by accident.
Humans have bought problem solving to the fore of their being, evolutionarily. They seek out solutions and are able to grasp and juggle many things in their mind in a way which even apes cannot do. Most of this is down to the superior concentration of human beings. This is bought on by self-awareness.
Humans can make abstract leaps that put them bounds ahead and allows them to solve purely theoretical problems.
As far as I know, no animal can think "purely theoretically", but humans, and neither has any animal need to.
Yet humans have been pursuing "thought" for their evolutionary history, and our minds, bodies and lives reflect that.
-snip-Sure humans are good problem solvers (though we still lose in certain things to some animals, such as the aforementioned example of how chimps can beat humans at solving for game-theoretic strategies and applying them). For pure theoretical thinking, my previous point stands, in that we don't know if animals can or can't, because we can't talk to them and ask and a purely theoretical thought will be, by definition, untestable due to virtue of being purely theoretical.
Spoiler: -Snipped for Length- (click to show/hide)
SPEAKING OF THINGS THAT ARE INVENTED, what's the deal with Gender? </Seinfeld>Depends, what sense are you talking about it in? Physical, mental, emotional, role-wise? It matters, because some of those things are biologically based (hormones affecting behavior/actual physical composition of cells/etc.) while others are defined more as a collection of traditions that have been passed down through society over the years, and some are a composition of both, being an initial small physical difference that was amplified by tradition or any other number of things.
I mean, is it totally fake just because someone invented it way back when, or do invented things like that become real when enough people agree on them?
ANIMALS LACK THE WETWARE.Except we can't prove this on a number of counts, because we can't ask a dog how he feels about the presence of another dog, or what he thinks about this idea or that, or whether he feels conflicted on eating food now or saving it for later. The communication barrier alone stops us from gather any direct proof at all. And if you want to talk indirect proof through actions/etc, then those ways that we have studied appear to have come back fairly strongly in terms of grey, not in basic black and whites of humans vs other animals, as has been noted again and again in example linked studies in the last few pages alone.
Spoiler: UK Facebook Gender List (click to show/hide)
what's the difference between these? facebook has them on its gender list, but aren't these all expressions of maleness?
Look, I'll just say it plainly.Citation. Needed.
ANIMALS LACK THE WETWARE.
Humans have brilliantly faceted and intricately developed minds, formed from tens of thousands of years of contemplation on "nature" "virtue" "music" "art" "logic" and "self" as well as many more things. Our brains are just plain different and made that way through thousands of years of a specific burning curiosity that is found nowhere else. It is imprinted, burned on our minds, the thoughts and deeds of our ancestors, which, even then, were far beyond the musings of any ape by at least 100 thousand years difference in evolution.
For what it's worth, inserted my interpretations. Not authoritative. Probably all there by demand (or perceived demand, once the first few descriptions were being added by request) because whatever slots are imposed are going to be overflowed from by those who don't quite like how their position in the spectrum(/plane/N-volumetric/etc) is limited by somebody else's preconceived ideas of 'options'.Spoiler: UK Facebook Gender List (click to show/hide)
what's the difference between these? facebook has them on its gender list, but aren't these all expressions of maleness?
(although interestingly enough knives are built into the homo sapiens genetic code in a similar fashion to how dams are built into beavers).
Clarified with my opinions, and my knowledge having looked into the subject and being trans myself.Spoiler: UK Facebook Gender List (click to show/hide)
what's the difference between these? facebook has them on its gender list, but aren't these all expressions of maleness?
Clarified with my opinions, and my knowledge having looked into the subject and being trans myself.(Changed to red. You probably use a Darkling-type theme for this half/all of the fora, but yellow on pale blue needs a lot of work to read.)
Yeah, changed to red, I was introduced to the forum on Darkling, so I kinda forget that the default theme exists. But anyway, I mostly just wanted to clarify that being transsexual- as far as I'm aware -has nothing to do with sexuality.Clarified with my opinions, and my knowledge having looked into the subject and being trans myself.(Changed to red. You probably use a Darkling-type theme for this half/all of the fora, but yellow on pale blue needs a lot of work to read.)
Note that those were all Female To Male (of whatever kind), which I think you misread as Male To Female.
Agree with first two of your interpretations (although you still tell a lot with the first, just not the whole story). I know of "transitioned" individuals who would (by choice or necessity, according to circumstance) say they are Transgender because "they have transed", not give up the term because they only used it "while transing". But different isolate 'populations' may well employee different standards to the word. And "transsexual", apart from the usual confusion between (sex, sexuality, gender)1, tends to refer more to behaviour than presentation.
And then we agree on the abbreviations, more or less, except for the possibility of nuances.
1 The old maxim is "Gender is what is between your ears, sex is what is between your legs, sexuality is who is between your legs", and I've found that pretty much accepted by my own cadre of non-binary aquaintences, so as a not-(significantly)-non-binary person myself I'm happy to pass it on until someone complains and gives a decent alternative.
I never said that humans are smartEST just smartER.So, first. Ancient Egypt was around 8,000 years ago, and was one of the largest early large-scale civilizations. Humans have not changed very much in the last 8,000 years. Evolution takes a very long time. My point here, is that you can't say whether an elephant is capable of understanding that stuff. Furthermore, if you mean Smarter, not smartest, what is the smartest? You've been saying there's an order of magnitude of difference. But TECHNOLOGY is different from INTELLIGENCE. You can teach technology. You cannot teach intelligence.
Also, why only stop at ancient egypt? that was only 10 or 20 thousand years ago, and those humans were clever enough to obey orders, live in a society, speak fluently, buy, sell and trade, understand concepts like law and property, commerce and markets, build complicated structures to live in, express themselves in some way or another?
They were all able to consider their own destiny, life, situation etc. and had self-awareness (albeit, not as much as, for example, Buddha)Thumbs. Other animals use tools as well, and I agree that we're far better at using tools than any other animal. That's not a matter of intelligence necessarily. Fishing and Agriculture are a form of tool use, and a form of pattern recognition, which status-game creatures are pretty good at. I can't think of a single species that doesn't communicate in part via body language, and tribal society is not all that different from pack society save in that there's technology which enables specialized roles.
Self-Awareness is not a merely inherited trait: we inherit the hardware only, the software which makes use of it is memetically passed on, for example, through society, parents and family.
Keep going back a couple of 100 thousand years and you'll see what makes humans SO different from animals:
-tool use + tool creation (logic and abstract problem solving)
-fishing and agriculture (time, seasons, plant biology)
-complex tribal society, primitive language, body language (social complexity)
-reflection/meditation, worship, mysticism or shamanism (trance, concentration)
-mastered fire (understanding, overcoming fear and danger)
-drawings in ochre, creation of accessories such as necklaces, rudimentary clothing (art, creativity)
-medicine, drugs, rituals (biology, psychology)
How can anyone compare animals to humans? We've come so far, and we'll go even further. Humans are made of meditation and tantra.What the hell does that even mean? We aren't, I can guarantee you we aren't made of either of those things.
Here's what wikipedia has to say about human brains versus apesOkay? There's still quite a comparison to be made. I mean literally you can compare them, it's called the encephalization quotient. Yes, humans have the largest. There's still a comparison. We're not super-beings far and away superior to all other life on this planet. Like, dude, you keep shifting the goalposts, but there really is, in fact, a comparison. A lot of the shit we like comes from status-games. Intelligence makes you better at status games. Being better at status games and appearing to have a higher reproductive fitness makes mates more likely to desire you, and makes you more likely to have more kids. That does not make us beyond comparison to animals. If you're wanting to compare like an insectoid 'hive mind' to humans, I'll agree, there's no real comparison. But dogs can reach the intelligence of somewhere around a four-year-old. And they're pretty good at some surprising stuff. And that's from a dog, not a dolphin or a chimpanzee.Spoiler (click to show/hide)
tldr: human brains are twice the size of gorilla or chimpanzee brains and specially developed for exploratory intelligence, not just problem solving some random shit they happen to come across.
Although everyone is quite right that animals have feelings, consciousness, thoughts, etc. there is just no comparison between them and humans.
They lack the WETWARE.
Look, I'll just say it plainly.Wait, what? We made our brains smart by thinking of music? That's Lamarckian, and it's wrong. Besides, that's cultural.
ANIMALS LACK THE WETWARE.
Humans have brilliantly faceted and intricately developed minds, formed from tens of thousands of years of contemplation on "nature" "virtue" "music" "art" "logic" and "self" as well as many more things.
Our brains are just plain different and made that way through thousands of years of a specific burning curiosity that is found nowhere else.It's annoying, but [CITATION NEEDED]. Animals are curious. There is a greater amount of curiosity found in humans than elsewhere, and that might be part of why we're so successful, but...
It is imprinted, burned on our minds, the thoughts and deeds of our ancestors, which, even then, were far beyond the musings of any ape by at least 100 thousand years difference in evolution....what? Sorry, dude, learn evolution. There's no ladder. Evolution can be fast or slow. 100000 years isn't a measure of intelligence.
Somethings, a dog was never meant to compute or contemplate.Meant by whom? Also, "making calculations" - how do you know they don't? Oh, is it because they don't write anything? Too bad for them, it's impossible to be intelligent without hands.
Apes too, are shockingly devoid of "higher" thought processes.How so? They're shockingly similar to us.
Even orcas, dolphins and elephants, despite being emotionally profound and inspiring, cannot match the will of a human being who can sacrifice for an intangible cause, and do so happily, gladly, lovingly.You're talking about symbols and intangible concepts. That's a measure of sapience. Of course nonsapient beings can't do that.
Only humans understand their feelings and actions to such an extent as to become conflicted.Citation needed. When was the last time that you read an animal's mind?
Not that animals don't get depressed or anything, but humans are definitely more complicated...By what measure?
...deeper...What does this mean?
...intelligent...By what measure? Has somebody finally made an IQ test for animals, and also made the IQ test not suck, and also made it measure absolutely no learned behaviors or knowledge?
...capable of forming rational, complex, well-thought-out and rehearsed ideas, abstract theories, images etc.How do you know? Also, about the "images" thing, some birds can recall the shape of locks in order to get through them.
Humans can lie about their feelings about sex. Animals don't even need to lie.Well, hmm, maybe that's because humans can lie.
Humans can appreciate the presence of another person. We keep them alive in our minds in a way that a dog can never do, because a dog isn't made to understand it. They yearn and pine, but ultimately, there is no recognition of the person as an individual being, through empathy, sympathy, self-awareness etc.A dog isn't... made to understand anything.
That's culture and technology.
Aaaaah, no. Stop. You're confusing the means of interaction with the interaction itself.That's culture and technology.
Humans have changed socially.
Socially=Sexually. For example, tinder, porn, social media, and the internet are the modern view of sexuality.
That stuff is all on the internet, which is the thing humans have to interface with in order to have social lives, which they use to obtain sex (usually).And some animals get sex in even weirder ways. Your point?
Even if you live in a country where it is not the norm, technology like phones, make access to social lives much easier. I can instantly find and ring a prostitute to arrange to have sex, relatively shortly. I can also message my girlfriend all night and have cyber-sex or phone-sex.
Sex, society and technology, are all woven together in the tapestry of humanity.
Now, I ask you a question. Isn't that different from animals?
I don't have to prove itThis isn't how arguing works
I don't have to prove itThis isn't how arguing works
infer
ɪnˈfəː/
verb
past tense: inferred; past participle: inferred
deduce or conclude (something) from evidence and reasoning rather than from explicit statements.
"from these facts we can infer that crime has been increasing"
synonyms: deduce, reason, work out, conclude, come to the conclusion, draw the inference, conjecture, surmise, theorize, hypothesize; More
gather, understand, presume, assume, take it, come to understand, glean, extrapolate, reckon;
read between the lines;
figure;
informalsuss, suss out;
archaiccollect
"the judge inferred that the deceased was murdered"
Origin
late 15th century (in the sense ‘bring about, inflict’): from Latin inferre ‘bring in, bring about’ (in medieval Latin ‘deduce’), from in- ‘into’ + ferre ‘bring’.
We probably don't need words or labels for every combination of personality traits that exists, but I still think we could use a good, simple, easy to understand language for talking about Gender, Sex, and Attraction, especially one that works both in and outside the Binary. Here's some food for thought, and a critique for clearing up how we talk about non-binary identities:
- When referring to Gender: we're talking about a person's social behavior, style of dress, and the titles or pronouns we'd address them by (...at least unless Social Roles go completely out of fashion in the next few generations). We can use Woman (She), Androgyne (They, One), Man (He), or Agender (They, One), and others as necessary. This would be where Pronouns and Titles come from (Mr./Mister, Ms./Miss, plus something like Mx./Micks), and where any expectations of femme/feminine or butch/masculine dress or behavior or presentation would go (if people really still think it's important at this point).
- When referring to Sex: we would be describing the Current state of a person's Physical Body, taking Intersex Conditions or Surgery or Hormones or whatever else into account (...at least until gonad-level sex-transdifferentiation is possible in Humans, and Sex is fully mutable). We can use Male (Primarily Male-Bodied), Trans-Female (Male-Bodied, with Female Secondary Characteristics), Intersex (Equally Male- and Female-Bodied), Trans-Male (Female-Bodied, with Male Secondary Characteristics), Female (Female-Bodied), or Asexual (Undifferentiated or Neuter-Bodied) to describe it, and others as necessary. Sex doesn't have to be public knowledge, but it should at least be reported on personal documents for medical reasons; Trans-folks who undergo body or hormone modification share different amounts of Female and Male health concerns based on their mix of Primary and Secondary Sexual Characteristics. Also Note: Sex doesn't factor in with the Pronouns we use to describe someone, the same way Eye Color or Hair Color doesn't; it's just a physical characteristic.
- When referring to Attraction and Orientation: we'd split it up into words for both the Sex and the Gender you're attracted to, since different things matter to different people. Honestly, people would probably come up with their own terms anyway, but we could use Latin for the formal equivalents; Androphilic (Likes Male-Bodied People), Masculophilic (Like Masculine-Gendered People), Gynophilic (Likes Female-Bodied People), Feminophilic (Like Feminine-Gendered People), Panphilic (Likes People), Aphilic (Ace/Asexual). These could be paired up as necessary, for more specific kinds of attraction (Andro-Feminophilic for being into Girly Boys, Gyno-Masculophilic for Butch Girls, etc.). Also, we ought to avoid orientation words that are relative to your Physical Sex (Gay, Straight) since they don't apply for non-binary people, and don't take Gender into account.
In that model, my personal profile would list me as an Androgyne Trans-Female, with a Gyno-Masculophilic Sexual Orientation. It sounds pretty medical (totally would need shorthand or common parlance words) but it's a huge improvement over having to explain (and sometimes defend) my particularly brand of "Genderqueer" to anyone who asks, since Male or Female, or Gay or Straight don't apply. Categories like this are great in helping potential partners know my whole situation quickly, and they also describe my medical situation to any doctors treating me, so I don't have to explain exactly what's going on with all my parts every time.
Also, since that information is personal, all the average person in public needs to know is that I'm Androgyne, with a Female-of-Center style of presentation. In a world that was used to this system, "They" is a safe introductory pronoun if someone looks non-binary and you don't want to misgender them, while "They" or "She" works if they're judging by my clothes and appearance.Spoiler: Here's a more wordy rationale for that: (click to show/hide)
I tend to go after anyone
I hit on obviously lesbian females all the time, but the social dynamic changes when their preference is bought up.
For some people sticking to their preference is priority over pleasurable experiences despite being mutaly and sexualy attracted.
With me there is no preference. If you are beautiful in anyway (especially mentaly stimulating) I will date you.
I actually only persue females though. I blame them smelling good and hormones.
I AM DEFINITELY A HUMAN, FELLOW HUMAN. PLEASE INSTRUCTIONS FOR LOCATION OF NEAREST_BUILDING SUCH THAT BUILDING = PUB.je tera'ngan. pagh vIt ghaH "pasty head" tu'lu'. DaH maHvaD ghu'vam moq!
Tirak jahl. Gulatrak mitnor geldranamer. Mhalagest, d,ral. Undarak, hreldarak, eldratharak. Kultamir sen.I AM DEFINITELY A HUMAN, FELLOW HUMAN. PLEASE INSTRUCTIONS FOR LOCATION OF NEAREST_BUILDING SUCH THAT BUILDING = PUB.je tera'ngan. pagh vIt ghaH "pasty head" tu'lu'. DaH maHvaD ghu'vam moq!
(Off topic, but probably not needing a Toady-bleaching if we don't much further.)
But I simply can't imagine a gender that is not connected in some way to the male-female "anchors." Cisgender, transgender are each on an anchor. Genderlessness isn't even on the graph, it's not a gender. Everything else I've seen is like "demifemale" or "hemidemisemifemale", which is "halfway from one to the other."
Or if gender itself is a combination of multiple traits that go from F to M, and if you have mostly M then you're male, then we're still stuck to the F/M anchors.
edit: Removed it again. Less likely to be repeated now.That's one way of putting it. Damn Toady, laying down the hammer.
Gender is relevant so long as people identify by it. And trying to tell people not to identify as certain stuff is what brought up the thing anyway.This is worth remembering even if it is decided that Gender is totally arbitrary or whatever. Race is, as a scientific concept, completely bankrupt. But we still go around talking in terms of "White" and "Black", because even if there isn't an intrinsic difference, until people actually start ignoring race, its still there.
This is sort of off topic, but why did guys suddenly start calling women they're potentially interested in "females?"I have no idea. I don't even know if I do it, but I don't think I do, because I hear a lot of complaints about it (it is weird). I usually use "girls", because "women" seems too adult for my age-group (I don't really think of myself as a "man" either, even though I've been one for a little while now).
I hit on obviously lesbian females all the time, but the social dynamic changes when their preference is bought up.
For some people sticking to their preference is priority over pleasurable experiences despite being mutaly and sexualy attracted.
But I simply can't imagine a gender that is not connected in some way to the male-female "anchors." Cisgender, transgender are each on an anchor. Genderlessness isn't even on the graph, it's not a gender. Everything else I've seen is like "demifemale" or "hemidemisemifemale", which is "halfway from one to the other."
Or if gender itself is a combination of multiple traits that go from F to M, and if you have mostly M then you're male, then we're still stuck to the F/M anchors.
I don't get this. You hit on lesbians (assuming you're a guy) and then wonder why they 'stick to their preference despite being sexually attracted'? Surely if they're homosexual they uh, wouldn't be attracted to you?
I guess...That sounds more like agender? Or at least gender-apathetic.
Though I'm increasingly sick of caring about gender at all. "Bald" takes a lot of maintenance, whereas genderfluid (for me) is just "whatever, I don't care, I'm not even going to say anything unless asked. And then I'll say just say what they want to hear, or admit that I don't care."
I hit on obviously lesbian females all the time, but the social dynamic changes when their preference is bought up.
For some people sticking to their preference is priority over pleasurable experiences despite being mutaly and sexualy attracted.
I don't get this. You hit on lesbians (assuming you're a guy) and then wonder why they 'stick to their preference despite being sexually attracted'? Surely if they're homosexual they uh, wouldn't be attracted to you?
I never ask anyones sexuality or gender, i really dont care, Im a whore for love.
No it usually is brought up by the other party(s)
I like how im a rude person all of a sudden
two cents incoming: Seems like most people are attracted to both genders naturally, but repress those feelings after being exposed to societal norms and any given value system. Not to mention a whole range of fucked up things that can ruin people's sexuality for life from the seemingly innocuous lack of early sexual exploration to inflicted trauma.
The thing is... Sexual Attraction isn't enough for sexual intercourse alone. Sexual attraction is a lot like a sense.
It is entirely possible, in fact... usually the case... That you are sexually attracted to someone but sexually repulsed on the prospect and act of having sex with them.
It is entirely possible, in fact... usually the case... That you are sexually attracted to someone but sexually repulsed on the prospect and act of having sex with them.
... Not sure I would call that sexual attraction.
EDIT: In fact, that sounds a lot like what is widely referred to as "friendship" or "platonic love".
Because here is the thing and I know it is a hard one to grasp but...
Sexual attraction is not "I am entirely not attracted to you 100%" and "You are viable for sexy times"
It is entirely possible, in fact... usually the case... That you are sexually attracted to someone but sexually repulsed on the prospect and act of having sex with them.
It is why I said "Sexual attraction is a lot like a sense"... It isn't a boning meter.
Which is where Cat is getting caught up. He is conflating attraction with Sex-ability where the inference is the only reason they don't sex him is because they are staunchly holding onto their perceived sexual orientation.
You, uh, missed the crazy guy.If you mean someone who is somehow now renamed for some reason, I did respond to him. It got deleted in the derail :P
"Bald" takes a lot of maintenanceWhat does that even mean
It takes work to keep your hair bald."Bald" takes a lot of maintenanceWhat does that even mean
A) He asked for the rename. B) He was banned soon after, presumably for the very bizarre and obnoxious red glow text. It's what Toady meant by derails being "Less likely to be repeated now."You, uh, missed the crazy guy.If you mean someone who is somehow now renamed for some reason, I did respond to him. It got deleted in the derail :P
Yeah I'm not sure either now :PIt takes work to keep your hair bald."Bald" takes a lot of maintenanceWhat does that even mean
The analogy? I don't even know anymore.
The thing is... Sexual Attraction isn't enough for sexual intercourse alone. Sexual attraction is a lot like a sense.Just to randomly say (your message was a handy hook, this is not aimed at you) I think there's "Companionship Attraction", too. Maybe, where otherwise mutually compatible, overlapping with Friends With Benefits territory, but otherwise perhaps as close as a (close, but standard) sibling relationship, but chosen not preordained. (Sexual-attraction incompatability might even be the lead-in to this other attraction, the lack of imperative or even threat from the start. But that's been done to death in drama and comedy alike.)
...looks like I should have read over the next page-boundary. Didn't see that specific point developing further (Still prefer the way I put it, though.)It is entirely possible, in fact... usually the case... That you are sexually attracted to someone but sexually repulsed on the prospect and act of having sex with them.
... Not sure I would call that sexual attraction.
EDIT: In fact, that sounds a lot like what is widely referred to as "friendship" or "platonic love".
But atheism does involve a sort of belief. A different, more rational belief, but a belief nonetheless.Wrong thread for it, indeed, but you know that not all atheists are hard/explicit/strong atheists who "believe there is nothing". The default (so far as I'm concerned) is more "not believing there is anything". From there you can perhaps take up the contrarian beliefs to those who otherwise believe, of course.
Oh shit no. I'll take it to the Railgun thread. No derails.
Just to randomly say (your message was a handy hook, this is not aimed at you) I think there's "Companionship Attraction", too. Maybe, where otherwise mutually compatible, overlapping with Friends With Benefits territory, but otherwise perhaps as close as a (close, but standard) sibling relationship, but chosen not preordained. (Sexual-attraction incompatability might even be the lead-in to this other attraction, the lack of imperative or even threat from the start. But that's been done to death in drama and comedy alike.)
Anyways, anybody want some of dat shaolin sex?
Anyways, anybody want some of dat shaolin sex?Cinder you thai mother... yes I want some!
Anyways, anybody want some of dat shaolin sex?shaolin is bullshit
*is kinda confused by all of this :v*Anyways, anybody want some of dat shaolin sex?shaolin is bullshit
Me too, this was kind of the best making-at-least-some-sense response I could think of.*is kinda confused by all of this :v*Anyways, anybody want some of dat shaolin sex?shaolin is bullshit
I'll be honest. Im im the sexuality threads and I came out to my friends.. they laughed at me... saying they already knew I was Bi.That's awesome!
Holy fuck... its such a big weight off me now.
I feel so free.
Thanks Neon!
Ahaha its a great feeling isnt it!!I'll be honest. Im im the sexuality threads and I came out to my friends.. they laughed at me... saying they already knew I was Bi.That's awesome!
Holy fuck... its such a big weight off me now.
I feel so free.
Thanks Neon!
That's how it went for me too, pretty much. I thought I didn't need to tell them, until I did, and yeah it was like a weight being removed.
And I no longer felt like I was lying every time lgbt stuff came up in discussions.
They mostly knew because I kept hinting at it to gauge their reactions though lol
If only I dreamt. Of anything :vthat's not a problem
yeah I've been feeling unusually free after spilling my beans here a few days agoI'll be honest. Im im the sexuality threads and I came out to my friends.. they laughed at me... saying they already knew I was Bi.That's awesome!
Holy fuck... its such a big weight off me now.
I feel so free.
Thanks Neon!
That's how it went for me too, pretty much. I thought I didn't need to tell them, until I did, and yeah it was like a weight being removed.
And I no longer felt like I was lying every time lgbt stuff came up in discussions.
They mostly knew because I kept hinting at it to gauge their reactions though lol
If only I dreamt. Of anything :vI think I've already suggested this, but just in case: I find eating something cheesy and oily like pizza right before bed *always* gives me trippy, vivid dreams. Often a bit feverish and unrestful though.
yeah I've been feeling unusually free after spilling my beans here a few days agoI'm really glad (:
freedom is one hell of a drug
Yes, I think it is indeed somewhat dangerous to come out openly in here; thankfully (for the purpose of "not getting beat up"), I don't really have any meatspace friends, and I currently barely have any Russian acquaintances outside of the people in my university, who don't count as even potential friends because they have either displayed zero interest in the overwhelming majority of the stuff I'm interested in, or evidently regularly visit 4chan and are insufferable douchebags. There is one possible exception here, but that person is hanging out all the time with the "insufferable douchebags" group, so I'm kind of not really interested.yeah I've been feeling unusually free after spilling my beans here a few days agoI'm really glad (:
freedom is one hell of a drug
I felt even better once I did so with meatspace friends, but... Uh, I guess you live in Russia? Sorry if this is rude, but it's very dangerous to be openly non-binary there isn't it? ):
The important thing is that your friends know, wherever they are. I mean heck, I didn't tell my friends in *person*, we only meet in meatspace like twice a year since I moved. Yet we talk most days.
If only I dreamt. Of anything :vNot to be a pedant but everyone dreams. It's just a matter of you not remembering it.
If you can never observe a thing, did it happen?If only I dreamt. Of anything :vNot to be a pedant but everyone dreams. It's just a matter of you not remembering it.
Yes. It's a quite often thing when things that people don't consciously remember continues to affect them on the subconscious level. A lot of phobias are like that.If you can never observe a thing, did it happen?If only I dreamt. Of anything :vNot to be a pedant but everyone dreams. It's just a matter of you not remembering it.
@Sergarr:Teach meeeeeeeeSee that's the tricky part. To make a Dark Pact, you need to find a devil, but as you all know, devils don't quite exist IRL. So you have to imagine one, really hard, and then you have to sell your soul
@Sergarr, one post later:*hugs*/me hugs back
I have a real problem with this, mainly that Allah is DEFINITELY male. There's no other way around it, especially considering in the Qu'ran he refers to himself as male.
This person has a huge lack of understanding of both gender AND Islam. What a mess.
Perhaps it's less literal than you are interpreting. Allah or God may serve as a metonym for the religion.
ie. Islam has no gender.
I'm sure she holds some very strong opinions, and that she'd love to share them.
Just like all deitys DEFINITELY exsist?
Translated into my language it goes like this; You what mate?!
Neither was Christianity, until someone did it anyway.Perhaps it's less literal than you are interpreting. Allah or God may serve as a metonym for the religion.
ie. Islam has no gender.
I'm sure she holds some very strong opinions, and that she'd love to share them.
Their Imam would have some very strong opinions on how wrong they are on that.
I mean, the order of importance in creation is pretty much Allah > Man > Woman. Trying to change Islam like that is heresy, it's not something that can be reformed like Christianity.
Neither was Christianity, until someone did it anyway.
Christians are equally unreformed in that sense, since they keep calling their deity "Father." :PNeither was Christianity, until someone did it anyway.Perhaps it's less literal than you are interpreting. Allah or God may serve as a metonym for the religion.
ie. Islam has no gender.
I'm sure she holds some very strong opinions, and that she'd love to share them.
Their Imam would have some very strong opinions on how wrong they are on that.
I mean, the order of importance in creation is pretty much Allah > Man > Woman. Trying to change Islam like that is heresy, it's not something that can be reformed like Christianity.
Christians are equally unreformed in that sense, since they keep calling their deity "Father." :P
But really, as much as I doubt it would work for another person (because our minds are highly, highly individual), you can try the following:tried this, just ended up feeling weird in my stomach and got a boner, but also felt extreme dysphoria, dunno if that was intentional :v
Hm.But really, as much as I doubt it would work for another person (because our minds are highly, highly individual), you can try the following:tried this, just ended up feeling weird in my stomach and got a boner, but also felt extreme dysphoria, dunno if that was intentional :v
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I have a real problem with this, mainly that Allah is DEFINITELY male. There's no other way around it, especially considering in the Qu'ran he refers to himself as male.
This person has a huge lack of understanding of both gender AND Islam. What a mess.
I mean, the order of importance in creation is pretty much Allah > Man > Woman. Trying to change Islam like that is heresy, it's not something that can be reformed like Christianity.
the order of importance in creation is pretty much Allah > Man > Woman
this choice then gets instantiated by others and accidentally/willfully taken as more literal than the original mere literary convenience
Gender dysphoria, being trans n all makes it occur on a fairly regular basis. so yeah, uncomfortable wit myself, largely because i dont match my inner, female self :v. honestly, it didnt feel like i wasnt in control, it felt like the parts of me that are normally hidden just kinda... absorbing into me. idk. ALso now theres just an image of a guy whos just a bunch of trees n shit.Hm.But really, as much as I doubt it would work for another person (because our minds are highly, highly individual), you can try the following:tried this, just ended up feeling weird in my stomach and got a boner, but also felt extreme dysphoria, dunno if that was intentional :v
Okay I don't exactly know what this "dysphoria" thing is, but if it's that thing where you feel mad uncomfortable about yourself, then yes, this thing can cause that. Keep trying more, though, it should eventually get better.
Oh, and also before I forget, you probably also need to do the reversal afterwards. So, like, points 4 and 3, but you instead push your clingy inner world outside of your control room and mentally seal the path with a barrier so that you start feeling like yourself again.
It might also help if you try to anthropomorphize your inner world, somewhat. It was fairly natural to me, but I don't know if that's a thing that is natural for anyone else.
Gender dysphoria, being trans n all makes it occur on a fairly regular basis. so yeah, uncomfortable wit myself, largely because i dont match my inner, female self :v. honestly, it didnt feel like i wasnt in control, it felt like the parts of me that are normally hidden just kinda... absorbing into me. idk. ALso now theres just an image of a guy whos just a bunch of trees n shit.Oh so it's definitely that thing. That thing is definitely a thing that I experienced when I let in a little bit too of my inner world and accidentally absorbed too much of my inner suppressed femininity or something, IDK what that was, exactly. It was really quite uniquely uncomfortable for the relatively short period of time when I experienced it (until I managed to suppress that pesky femininity back into my imagination). It's when I realized exactly why people would go to such lengths to change their physical sex in order to match their inner gender :-X
I have a real problem with this, mainly that Allah is DEFINITELY male. There's no other way around it, especially considering in the Qu'ran he refers to himself as male.Uhhhh, I don't think you read the Qur'an. Or spoke to Shyoukh.
This person has a huge lack of understanding of both gender AND Islam. What a mess.
So since there are trans people here, I'll ask a question that has perplexed me for ages.Well I think it's not a kind of feeling you can adequately express in words; there are no good analogies for it existent in languages that I know of. It's like, a really really shitty feeling of things not being right that you desperately want to not feel yet can't help yourself but continue to feel it anyways, and that element of unwantedness multiplies its shittiness exponentially.
What is dysphoria? For instance, what does it feel like?
So was Adams rib M2F?
From that description it somewhat resembles anxiety.Well to be fair, the reactions are fairly individual, but anxiety is a part of the usual ones:
Symptoms of GID in children may include any of the following: disgust at their own genitalia, social isolation from their peers, anxiety, loneliness and depression.
So was Adams rib M2F?
ribs dont have genders
I'm pretty sure they actually don't, that's why identical different-gendered twins exist.Quote from: CalidoviSo was Adams rib M2F?
ribs dont have genders
Ribs contain DNA, and you can argue that DNA is biologically gendered.
I'm pretty sure they actually don't, that's why identical different-gendered twins exist.
Of course ribs contain DNA.
Differently-gendered twins don't come from the same egg, BTW.
Mud DNAwat
There are no identical twins with different genders. They always came from a different sperm, because sperm is sexed. There are male and female sperm, that's what differentiates things.Okay
Twins of opposite gender are always fraternal twins, i.e. two eggs and two sperm. There might be some exception, but it'd be the "medical freak show" type scenario.
Well, the upset-ness wasn't a new feeling, since I feel that on a nigh-constant basis, but it also just kinda developed to me and my inner self talking about how we're cool, which is a conversation I have to have with myself a lot so I don't hate myself *all* the time.Gender dysphoria, being trans n all makes it occur on a fairly regular basis. so yeah, uncomfortable wit myself, largely because i dont match my inner, female self :v. honestly, it didnt feel like i wasnt in control, it felt like the parts of me that are normally hidden just kinda... absorbing into me. idk. ALso now theres just an image of a guy whos just a bunch of trees n shit.Oh so it's definitely that thing. That thing is definitely a thing that I experienced when I let in a little bit too of my inner world and accidentally absorbed too much of my inner suppressed femininity or something, IDK what that was, exactly. It was really quite uniquely uncomfortable for the relatively short period of time when I experienced it (until I managed to suppress that pesky femininity back into my imagination). It's when I realized exactly why people would go to such lengths to change their physical sex in order to match their inner gender :-X
And you definitely are close to being on a right track. It's slightly different from what I felt, but, as I've said before, our minds are highly, highly unique, it's kind of a miracle that it even does anything similar, really. I'm very, very delighted.
So since there are trans people here, I'll ask a question that has perplexed me for ages.Dysphoria is like the common cold, in the sense that it comes in many different forms, it's an ass to cure, and that it comes frequently when you go outside. Dysphoria isn't quite the same for everyone, but from my experience, it's largely brought on by envying other people who have the body you want, or just seeing something that reminds you of the body you know you should have, but realise that you don't. It doesn't really listen to the rational sense of "it'll only take a few more years, don't worry about it", because it's kinda soul-wrenching to present yourself as... not yourself. Which I do on a daily basis. But I digress, and I can't speak for everyone, but it's been a driving factor in my two suicide attempts, even when I wasn't fully aware of it.
What is dysphoria? For instance, what does it feel like?
But that's basically a sex change operation on the rib then, so it counts as MtF.Jesus disagrees.
There are no identical twins with different genders. They always came from a different sperm, because sperm is sexed. There are male and female sperm, that's what differentiates things.Pretty sure they're talking about genetically identical twins where one is trans.
Twins of opposite gender are always fraternal twins, i.e. two eggs and two sperm. There might be some exception, but it'd be the "medical freak show" type scenario.
Pretty much the only way you'd get the case of "Identical twins with different gender" is the extremely rare hypothetical scenario (so rare I don't know if it's ever happened), where you had identical male twins, but one suffered from congenital adrenal hyperplasia, while the other didn't, for some reason.
But that's basically a sex change operation on the rib then, so it counts as MtF.Jesus disagrees.
Also if that scenario is the one where one twin got XY and the other just got X, yes, it has happened. Fewer than 10 reported instances, however.There are no identical twins with different genders. They always came from a different sperm, because sperm is sexed. There are male and female sperm, that's what differentiates things.Pretty sure they're talking about genetically identical twins where one is trans.
Twins of opposite gender are always fraternal twins, i.e. two eggs and two sperm. There might be some exception, but it'd be the "medical freak show" type scenario.
Pretty much the only way you'd get the case of "Identical twins with different gender" is the extremely rare hypothetical scenario (so rare I don't know if it's ever happened), where you had identical male twins, but one suffered from congenital adrenal hyperplasia, while the other didn't, for some reason.
Which I imagine is a pretty contentious issue.
So since there are trans people here, I'll ask a question that has perplexed me for ages.
What is dysphoria? For instance, what does it feel like?
There are no identical twins with different genders. They always came from a different sperm, because sperm is sexed. There are male and female sperm, that's what differentiates things.There are various "Disorders of Sex Development" that, in an individual, can create an intersex of apparentsex=/=chromasomalsex, to one or other degree. While rare, I wouldn't put it past a 'well defined' DSD happening so that one of a pair of nominally XYed identical twins develops in utero as female-looking.
Im a Barbarian lol.
So the rib is trans what is the fruit?
"Do not you Jews seek to understand the teachings of my Father, the LORD your God? Countless years ago he so said to Abraham, your father, and his sons in Barnea: 'adams ribs arent trans you dips why do you do this to me'."
Hey, quick reminder for folks using them interchangably. "Gender" isn't a formal or polite way of saying "Sex". Gender is a social performance or a role, while Sex is a body type or collection of average physical traits. They totally different things, yo.
Maybe different people feel differently than I do about it? But I'm pretty chill about the whole thing.
There are no identical twins with different genders. They always came from a different sperm, because sperm is sexed. There are male and female sperm, that's what differentiates things.There are various "Disorders of Sex Development" that, in an individual, can create an intersex of apparentsex=/=chromasomalsex, to one or other degree. While rare, I wouldn't put it past a 'well defined' DSD happening so that one of a pair of nominally XYed identical twins develops in utero as female-looking.
Maybe my recent "don't give a shit" is a product of recent life events. Attraction included, because I was basically disinterested in the entire mess.why did I open the link
Then my brother linked... uh... PG13, but probably NSFW...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4mV-zPMBPuQ
>.<
>.o
O.O
ovo
Im a Barbarian lol.
So the rib is trans what is the fruit?
Im a Barbarian lol.
So the rib is trans what is the fruit?
The fruit is a true hermaphrodite, able to produce both male and female gametes (once it has matured).
Honestly, we should probs come up with a better word for "No Sex Pls".IDK, uh, Platophilic?
Im a Barbarian lol.
So the rib is trans what is the fruit?
The fruit is a true hermaphrodite, able to produce both male and female gametes (once it has matured).
Honestly, we should probs come up with a better word for "No Sex Pls". Or redefine orientation in terms of Attraction like in the thought experiment a few pages ago. That works better than defining orientation as Who You Want To Have Sex With, so people don't have to specify that they still want romantic relationships but don't experience sexual desire. Androphilic/Gynophilic casts love and romantic attraction as the important part, rather than the sexy times, and I like the simplicity.
Honestly, we should probs come up with a better word for "No Sex Pls".IDK, uh, Platophilic?
Honestly, we should probs come up with a better word for "No Sex Pls".IDK, uh, Platophilic?
Look, there's prob better ways to declare your craving for people named plato :v
Can't causeHonestly, we should probs come up with a better word for "No Sex Pls".IDK, uh, Platophilic?
Look, there's prob better ways to declare your craving for people named plato :v
Oh come on, like you wouldn't hit this? (http://d.ibtimes.co.uk/en/full/1447950/plato.jpg)
oh bb tell me how im your ideal image incomparable from any creation in an instantiated universe
Excuse the shitpost please, butthere is no excuse for shitposting but ignorance of the law, and ignorance of the law is no excuseoh bb tell me how im your ideal image incomparable from any creation in an instantiated universe
ILU <3
All that elf booty ... gone to waste.∧_∧
Neither do treehuggerhuggers
I accidentally read the middle "hugger" as "bugger"...Neither do treehuggerhuggers
Do you want quote pyramids? This is how you get quote pyramids. Silly treehuggerhuggerhugger.
Arx, Asexual is actually the formal term, yeah. People started using that for people who prefer their relationships to be intercourse-free, which confuses things.
Honestly, we should probs come up with a better word for "No Sex Pls". Or redefine orientation in terms of Attraction like in the thought experiment a few pages ago. That works better than defining orientation as Who You Want To Have Sex With, so people don't have to specify that they still want romantic relationships but don't experience sexual desire. Androphilic/Gynophilic casts love and romantic attraction as the important part, rather than the sexy times, and I like the simplicity.
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Arx, Asexual is actually the formal term, yeah. People started using that for people who prefer their relationships to be intercourse-free, which confuses things.
Honestly, we should probs come up with a better word for "No Sex Pls". Or redefine orientation in terms of Attraction like in the thought experiment a few pages ago. That works better than defining orientation as Who You Want To Have Sex With, so people don't have to specify that they still want romantic relationships but don't experience sexual desire. Androphilic/Gynophilic casts love and romantic attraction as the important part, rather than the sexy times, and I like the simplicity.
The nickname for people who don't like or want sex with anyone... are Aces
Hmm, interesting, so there are multiple components to, or expressions of, dysphoria? I remember that autism has multiple "components," and somebody with a certain number or more would be considered autistic; is dysphoria similar, or is it "all components or nothing"?I'm pretty sure that people have already said that it's individual. We're talking about our minds, remember? Our personalities are not so easy to put into neat color-coded boxes.
The Ace is typically the wild card. The smallest and largest and in Tarot the Ace are typically the hero.As a noun, ace can refer to playing cards, but as an adjective, it's more clear about connotation. As in an ace pilot or similar. Whose etymology comes from the fact that aces are often the most valuable card. So yeah, ace is a term which generally has very positive connotation to it.
Same goes for any positive descriptor though. Who non-ironically calls themselves cool?* takes bait
Same goes for any positive descriptor though. Who non-ironically calls themselves cool?What if it can be factually confirmed? *temperature drops*
I usually try to stop flattering myself by occasionally reminding me of my numerous embarrassing failures in the past, as well as the tremendous number of things that I have no idea about.I wish I had this problem. I'm constantly assaulting myself with regrets.
I have to choose between what makes me feel whole and what is safe all the fucking timeI don't even need to play the game, it's already hit me in the feels
- skullvomit, tumblr.com, 2014
I don't even need to play the game, it's already hit me in the feelsYeah I hate when I accidently hit my feels, hurts so much.
*half-sleeping but, for some reason, unable to go fully to sleep*
i dont know, make a meditation general and put your dark pact stuff on that for general discussiondoes "religion and spirituality thread" come close enough for me to deposit that stuff in or am I being drunk on sleepiness again
Going back on topic...
Just saw this. (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tjg-ZSk31rw)
WHO'S CHOPPING SO MANY ONIONS?!
Going back on topic...That's pretty neat.
Just saw this. (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tjg-ZSk31rw)
WHO'S CHOPPING SO MANY ONIONS?!
What comic? What letters? Also, sex criminals... tend not to be asexual.The book is literally called Sex Criminals for less than obvious reasons involving sex and crime, but not sex crimes. The asexual twist was in #13 or #14 I think?
I assumed it was a webcomic but hm, seems like it's an actual physical comic book.Yar, digital too, but if nobody bought the physical copies they couldn't leave them in the woods along with random porn for others to find, in a long and confusing tradition of some sort.
I guess those still exist!
A personal story, but today I received my first injection of hormone blockers! I'll update if I observe any interesting side effects, but the main thing is an absence of things happening. Also, my mum has said that sometime in 2018, she'd be okay with me starting hormones, and then, unless changes already happen, I can present myself as publicly female in 2019 at school etc. Which is pretty rad!
That's super exciting, hon! The earlier you can start, the easier it'll be, and the better your results! [...]Well :'( Yay.
Could...I ask a textual description :x I can't load youtube videos currently.Going back on topic...That's pretty neat.[...]
Just saw this. (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tjg-ZSk31rw)
WHO'S CHOPPING SO MANY ONIONS?!
Three girls enter a public restroom, a transwomen is in one of the stalls. She stresses out while they chat, and finally she walks out and is complimented, before it shows an image of the deodorant product it is an advertisment for, and it's basically a women's deodorant commercial promoting being nice to trans people I guess?That's super exciting, hon! The earlier you can start, the easier it'll be, and the better your results! [...]Well :'( Yay.
/me goes aaahhh, vaguely. :'(
That said, yay for you Digi! :DCould...I ask a textual description :x I can't load youtube videos currently.Going back on topic...That's pretty neat.[...]
Just saw this. (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tjg-ZSk31rw)
WHO'S CHOPPING SO MANY ONIONS?!
Ok I won't lie...
I SERIOUSLY SERIOUSLY wonder how much of Gender Dysphoria is just... completely just the person bending to gender norms and their expectations of gender normative behavior and body image.
If there is one thing that bugs me about someone going through it, it is why I don't console people suffering from gender dysphoria if I have the option, it is that they will sometimes point to societal conventions as excuses...
This isn't always the case... but I want to slap someone who goes "I like puppy calendars so I am a girl"... and I am not taking that back.
Then again... there is quite a bit to suggest that I am onto something... but I won't go there because it is too depressing a topic that is too interwoven into political issues AND is too polarized to ever get a meaningful topic out of it.
I'm kind of torn about the prospect of hormone blockers. (Just at the "hmm what if" stage, I haven't made any moves or said this to anybody let alone a doctor/therapist/whatev.)Well, a little bit of forewarning...
On the one hand, I miss the androgyny of pre-adolescence, and whatever my gender is, it's probably nearest to androgyny. And since all my research has only come up with "gender dysphoria is dysphoria because of gender," and dysphoria is pretty similar to depression, I don't know? It might be good to avoid moving further away from androgyny and toward more masculinity? And besides, hormone blockers just put off puberty, so if it turns out that I'm not androgyne or trans, no harm done. And even if it weren't reversible, it would be at worst "meh, I don't get more facial hair or a more masculine body. Okay, fine."
But on the other hand, I'm doing fine-ish as it is. I'm not sure if there's a need for treatment. And I'm still not sure if I'm noncis, or just confused. And I really don't want to talk about this to anybody.
Yes, but on the first hand, this is reversible. Come on, you know you want to science the fuck out of this unclear situation. You have the chance to know. You'll always wonder if you don't. The longer you wait, the less effective the treatment, and the more puberty you'll have go through.
I know, but I kind of feel like I need more information.
So do I! That's why we should talk to a person whose job it is to -
no no no, no talking
dammit Doz, we'll have to talk about this sooner later. As I was saying, the best choice is to talk to somebody about this, since talking doesn't mean we have to do the treatment. It just means that we get more information and help.
(just wanted to share my internal monologue/dialogue/whatev)
(also advice would be cool)
(wait, no, I already got the advice of talking to somebody)
(didn't I?)
Ok I won't lie...
I SERIOUSLY SERIOUSLY wonder how much of Gender Dysphoria is just... completely just the person bending to gender norms and their expectations of gender normative behavior and body image.
If there is one thing that bugs me about someone going through it, it is why I don't console people suffering from gender dysphoria if I have the option, it is that they will sometimes point to societal conventions as excuses...
This isn't always the case... but I want to slap someone who goes "I like puppy calendars so I am a girl"... and I am not taking that back.
Then again... there is quite a bit to suggest that I am onto something... but I won't go there because it is too depressing a topic that is too interwoven into political issues AND is too polarized to ever get a meaningful topic out of it.
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I don't console people suffering from gender dysphoria if I have the option
@Dozebôm:*supports talking to knowledgeable peoples*
there is gender dysphoria
and there is being a civil human being that likes puppy calendars
re Dozebôm,
From my experience, school councillors are very good.
It is their job to be compassionate, and your problem is one that can be tackled far more directly than the poverty cycle teens they are used to.
They are very understanding, even of all the introspective-seeming-nonsense we never share; speaking to mine was one of the best decisions I've made.
If you're dubious as to the quality of the school councillor, doctors too are trained for compassion.
They mightn't know what to do, but can give you a referral to someone that does, and are sworn to secrecy.
If you decide to tell someone, the best tip for spilling the beans of a secret is to work yourself into a corner from somewhere innocuous.
"I recently did X"
Why did you do X?
"Because I constantly feel Y?"
Do you have any idea why you feel Y?
Nowhere to go, alphabet exhausted: "Z"
The best of luck to you!
Well, a little bit of forewarning...
Hormone blockers, at least in New Zealand, aren't often prescribed without the person doing hormones in the future. It's often used as a preliminary step, although it isn't compulsory, it helps. But yeah, I don't think you can do hormone blockers forever (for one, you'd have to get stabbed in the butt every 12 weeks for the rest of your life) due to it sorta effecting bone strength after long periods of use.
I don't console people with gender dysphoria IF I have a choice...
Because I am not the best person for the job silly :P
I am far too clumsy and temperamental. I'd just end up hurting them somehow.
But usually you don't get a choice, someone needs to talk.
oh shitDon't panic, me too. :P
How do I start a conversation like that? *is a clueless and nervous socially incompetent person*
Psych student here with a 'mentor' that is a Guidance COunselor--you can start ANYWAY you want because you're in part also responding to the other person :Pre Dozebôm,
From my experience, school councillors are very good.
It is their job to be compassionate, and your problem is one that can be tackled far more directly than the poverty cycle teens they are used to.
They are very understanding, even of all the introspective-seeming-nonsense we never share; speaking to mine was one of the best decisions I've made.
If you're dubious as to the quality of the school councillor, doctors too are trained for compassion.
They mightn't know what to do, but can give you a referral to someone that does, and are sworn to secrecy.
If you decide to tell someone, the best tip for spilling the beans of a secret is to work yourself into a corner from somewhere innocuous.
"I recently did X"
Why did you do X?
"Because I constantly feel Y?"
Do you have any idea why you feel Y?
Nowhere to go, alphabet exhausted: "Z"
The best of luck to you!
Thanks! I think that I will try that.
oh shit
How do I start a conversation like that? *is a clueless and nervous socially incompetent person*
Ok I won't lie...If you're going to wonder about that--please, please beware of one's own context in processing the situation. Like, I recall you're in America, so part of the context would be your exposure and experience...and personally there's somewhat of a o_O with some sources of information there given how extreme the ideas are, or at least how I'm aware the ideas are there. Many are very useful and insightful, but there's also mention of the extreme/narrow information being mixed in.
I SERIOUSLY SERIOUSLY wonder how much of Gender Dysphoria is just... completely just the person bending to gender norms and their expectations of gender normative behavior and body image.
Ok I won't lie...
I SERIOUSLY SERIOUSLY wonder how much of Gender Dysphoria is just... completely just the person bending to gender norms and their expectations of gender normative behavior and body image.
If there is one thing that bugs me about someone going through it, it is why I don't console people suffering from gender dysphoria if I have the option, it is that they will sometimes point to societal conventions as excuses...
This isn't always the case... but I want to slap someone who goes "I like puppy calendars so I am a girl"... and I am not taking that back.
Then again... there is quite a bit to suggest that I am onto something... but I won't go there because it is too depressing a topic that is too interwoven into political issues AND is too polarized to ever get a meaningful topic out of it.
It's just so weird and tragic seeing people so desperate to have either gender, much less one their body doesn't match. That's my personal feelings making it hard to understand others, though.It's less 'have' and more 'external factors', really. :P There's a lot to cover with this kind of discussion that online interaction can only do so much--self-education will really help a lot in that matter because you are the first person able to notice where you may improve, and others can help by the large amount of information available that work with seminal data because the influence or impression of first-hand experiences (also would help observers that are not experiencing or have developed an idea from second or third-hand sources) have a basis and process.
To be honest I would doubt gender dysphoria quite a bit, except that experts seem pretty convinced that it's a real thing. That's good enough for me. I haven't really known any trans people in meatspace. I met two different FtMs through friends of mine, which was eye-opening, but didn't really hang out with them much. Mainly I heard second-hand stories of how hard it was for said friends to adjust. (Particularly the ex-boyfriends)
Until that time I just knew genderswap stories as fun experimentation. My first response was basically "I feel like being the other gender sometimes too but not nearly so dramatically". Glad I pretty much kept that to myself though :P I'm not psychologist, I defer to their expertise.
Heck maybe I feel a little guilty about that (maybe I accidentally gave someone even more doubt in a difficult time). So while some people are definitely just hopping on a trend, like I would be doing, I'm happy to just unconditionally support people and hope they get professional assistance. Since I am in no position to judge or give advice.
It's just so weird and tragic seeing people so desperate to have either gender, much less one their body doesn't match. That's my personal feelings making it hard to understand others, though.
Ugh, more harassment of female creators. Chelsea Cain this time. Fuck Gamergate and all of its spawn.What's an industry's consumer revolt got to do with the topic...?
Well, it's sort of a big deal when the pieces don't match up :pUgh, more harassment of female creators. Chelsea Cain this time. Fuck Gamergate and all of its spawn.Also, I'm genuinely surprised this thread hasn't crashed into the sun yet. I honestly have very little understanding of people in general, let alone these things, but is your identity necessarily a major deal to you compared to other aspects of yourself and your life?
...isn't misogyny relevant? (Also, I could be wrong about what Gamergate is, but IIRC parts of it included misogyny? It's rather confusing, there's what they said they were doing and then there's what they actually did AFAIK.)Ugh, more harassment of female creators. Chelsea Cain this time. Fuck Gamergate and all of its spawn.What's an industry's consumer revolt got to do with the topic...?
Also, I'm genuinely surprised this thread hasn't crashed into the sun yet.Why is that? Because it's too much of a heated topic?
I honestly have very little understanding of people in general, let alone these things, but is your identity necessarily a major deal to you compared to other aspects of yourself and your life?Well, your identity is you, but I'll assume that you mean gender identity.
It's probably due to my background, but I'm very subdued about everything related to that (and deep in the closet, which will never change). I think the only time I've been genuinely nervous about that is when I came out to bay, and I got over that quickly. It's not something I keep in conscious thought and I have to remind myself sometimes, but I'm curious about others.I honestly think that gender has been made into a bigger deal than it should be, just like race and male/female and sexual orientation and all that stuff people use to hate people. If society was perfect, I don't think that gender dysphoria would be nearly as significant as now. But I really can't speak for people with gender dysphoria, since AFAIK I didn't have it; it was purely coincidental that a period of depression overlapped with questioning my gender.
Well, that was my first perception after reading various things, but thanks for the warning. I'll make sure not to mention it again. (I thought it was only MLP and NMS that were banned... is there a list somewhere, or do you just learn it?)No there isn't any single list of banned topics as far as I know it, but I don't think there are any more things that are banned, outside of the usual ToS/Forum Guidelines ruleset.
Discussing MLP itself is taboo due to certain things those discussions devolve towards IIRC, not things related to it.
I'm pretty sure Toady didn't even ban gamergate discussion, most people just decided to stop talking about it after the third or fourth ban.This seems to be.
“They can have a gay flag or they can have a parade but we can’t have a shirt?” Yan Miller said.Yeah, because "gay flags" and "gay parades" involve death threats.
Labeling someone isn't really the same as not tolerating them. :/Oh, labels are great. I have no problem with using a sequence of sound compression and rarefaction waves to symbolize a concept. "Special snowflake" isn't just a label, though. It's disapproving. It's...
I mean, I use it more for people who are all 'I was a unicorn in a previous life' or some shit like that.Ohh. You mean people who seriously say "I sexually identify as an Apache helicopter"? Yeah, carry on, that's just obnoxious.
I'm not going to talk to them like that, but special snowflake is useful shorthand for 'people who either knowingly or unknowingly have come up with some unnecessary reason to explain why they're unique and different from all the other seven billion unique and different people in the world and therefore why people should give them lots and lots of attention'.I've heard it used to refer to anybody who doesn't exactly fall on the Masculine-Feminine spectrum, including things like genderfluid, which is why I wanted to avoid its use. (I may or may not be genderfluid, but that wouldn't affect my decision anyway.) But if people can restrict its use to the ridiculous ones like
Angeligender– A gender found only among angels, that is hard to describe to non-angels. For godkin and angelkin only.and
Genderflora– A gender that blooms and evolves based on the weather and atmosphere; similar to genderfluid but more plant-like.and not
Ambonec– Identifying as both man and woman, yet neither at the same time.Because sometimes people try to explain how they feel and it just sounds like deepity and it makes no sense and insulting them for that is just not okay, that's why. Basically err on the side of not labeling someone's sincere feelings as fake or intentionally obnoxious.
Just like I use 'queer' as shorthand for 'whatever else I didn't cover in the first four letters cuz fuck making this acronym any longer for the purpose of further splitting the LGBTQ community into subfactions'Well, that's different - queer doesn't carry a negative connotation.
But we all know that the Ork is the best LGBT subfaction.Omnisexual? Or do you mean that Ork is literally a sexuality or gender?
But we all know that the Ork is the best LGBT subfaction.
A little bit of agression can be good every once in a while :vOther than being totally 'naturally' bent on war and other violence? I won't go for that, despite being able to WAAAAGH! everywhere. :P (Also it's less sexual orientation and more 'actual physiological asexual' given ALL THE SPORES)But we all know that the Ork is the best LGBT subfaction.
Man, asexuals are missing agoldengreen opportunity. They'd prob get a lot more attention and be taken more seriously if they adopted glorious ork kultur. Orks are like, the ultimate asexuals.
It's a partial in-joke. Orks (Warhammer 40k) are actually asexually reproducing 'fungi'-like sentience, due to a long backstory that has the theme of 'made for war or as warriors' by the "creators" or Old Ones (long backstory that most don't know in-fiction because 'knowledge blackout'). When they die, they release their spores, so in the context of WH40k, there are 'feral' Orks, which means 'born from spores left over from battle' on a planet that didn't have Orks. Point being, they're 'asexual' in sexual orientation BECAUSE THEY DON'T CARE ABOUT THESE COMPLEX THINGS BECAUSE WAAAAGH! (Pronounced as 'War' with a near-silent "r"). To the point, they're also physiologically asexual. So yeah. :PBut we all know that the Ork is the best LGBT subfaction.Omnisexual? Or do you mean that Ork is literally a sexuality or gender?
If there is one thing I find odd about female behavior it is probably the open hostility they will sometimes show each other.Specifics, Neo. :P You're describing a part of a culture rather than 'female behavior' (overall) there. It's part of social mannerisms more than internal behavior.
It is hard to grasp at exactly what I mean but goodness... The fury between two women is intense even when all they do is look at each other.
Mind you I am sure guys do it too... and my experience with it has more to do with my two sisters and the obviously always accurate television. So yeah I have far too limited experience it.
Still though... nothing is more scary than a woman's ire. Guys get stand offish... Women get all "I will destroy you".
"And before all our country's feminists come bashing in my door and calling me a sexist, they should consider this: If all the old geezers that work as top managers and directors, and in other top positions about which feminists constantly (and rightfully so) remind us that women are severely underrepresented, are forced to retire earlier than women, women representation will have room to increase."
Martinuzz:You literally can't work if you want to? Yikes.Yep, it's either go find some volunteer job, or spend the rest of your days weeding your garden.
(that's bloody stupid imho)Martinuzz:You literally can't work if you want to? Yikes.Yep, it's either go find some volunteer job, or spend the rest of your days weeding your garden.
I do agree.That is terrifying and terrifyingly stupid.
It's not surprising that loneliness and feelings of being useless are the number one reason for depression amongst the elderly (or amongst unemplyed in general).
What's really scary is, that our government now wants to approve euthanasia on grounds of 'fulfilled life'. In other words, they want to make it legal to euthanize someone who is not physically ill, but just old, bored and lonely.
I mean, as nice as it is to employ everyone, an elderly person is kind of a liability. You can't expect as much reliability from them as younger people because there's a real possibility they'll just up and die instead of coming to work.People who might 'up and die' generally aren't working or are susceptible to the same risks as younger workers.
But that's literally the entire point of LGBTQ groups? If we weren't considered the odd one out in society then the need for LGBTQ groups would disappear.That does not mean that you need to affirm this view by calling yourself queer. LGBT is as neutral as it gets. It's purely a descriptor.
Maybe in the future where LGBTQ groups are rebranded as groups promoting tolerance for different gender and sexual expressions rather than needing to champion the minority, maybe.Ideally, LGBTQ groups would become just another subculture, for some LGBTQ who feel the need to identify with a social structure like that, just like skaters, hardrockers and preppers. The rest of the LGBTQ will have fully integrated in society and be regarded as just as normal as anyone else.
Queer is intended to be a term that has been 'taken back', as the term 'dyke' has by some lesbian communities, to a lesser extent (dyke's still more of a slur than queer is). Queer is still used as a derogatory insult, but it's useful as a way to catch all the folks who weren't represented by one of the first four letters and feel excluded. When people demand that every possible identity have it's own letter is where you get the ridiculous acronyms like LGBTQQIAASSD or whatever. Queer can be used in a derogatory fashion, and some people don't feel comfortable with identifying as that, which is where that whole thing comes from, but at a certain point I have to just say 'no, I'm sorry, I'm not going to remember every possible combination of suffixes and prefixes and what all the cultural connotations are.'But that's literally the entire point of LGBTQ groups? If we weren't considered the odd one out in society then the need for LGBTQ groups would disappear.That does not mean that you need to affirm this view by calling yourself queer. LGBT is as neutral as it gets. It's purely a descriptor.
Ideally, LGBTQ groups would become just another subculture, for some LGBTQ who feel the need to identify with a social structure like that, just like skaters, hardrockers and preppers. The rest of the LGBTQ will have fully integrated in society and be regarded as just as normal as anyone else.
What's really scary is, that our government now wants to approve euthanasia on grounds of 'fulfilled life'. In other words, they want to make it legal to euthanize someone who is not physically ill, but just old, bored and lonely.
If there is one thing I find odd about female behavior it is probably the open hostility they will sometimes show each other.I've always found women to be more slyly hostile, while guys are more likely to go up and threaten someone.
It is hard to grasp at exactly what I mean but goodness... The fury between two women is intense even when all they do is look at each other.
Mind you I am sure guys do it too... and my experience with it has more to do with my two sisters and the obviously always accurate television. So yeah I have far too limited experience it.
Still though... nothing is more scary than a woman's ire. Guys get stand offish... Women get all "I will destroy you".
I know a fair bit of people who willingly distanced themselves from LGBT etc groups simply because said groups seem to be doing exactly the opposite to any real attempt at normalizing non hetero people. There's a huge focus on "queer culture" and creating different terms for different people and forming different minority groups. LGBT movements have thrown away the "making society accept us" objective a long time ago, nowadays its more about giving political leverage to whoever pleases the perceived movement leaders the most, IE welcome to the cesspit in which pretty much every minority group in the west has fallen into, the marvel of identity culture.I kinda agree with that, but I just kinda go to LGBT groups to make friends etc. :v It's just nice to have the support of people, and oftentimes non-LGBT people can have a hard time adjusting to that. My two best friends, still, in private, call me by male pronouns, because they're used to it. I don't blame them, but it's nice to be able to go to a place where I'm understood :v
Its got to the point I see people being marginalized inside LGBT groups simply because they disagree about the direction the movements are taking. Ahah, how dare you disagree with us, your overlords! Only we know whats best for you, so vote for the people we want you to vote or get out! ~etc.
Most people don't even fucking care what society at large thinks of them when it won't get them killed or seriously marginalized, they just want to be accepted and loved by their family and friends, and there's no minority group in the face of the earth that can give them that.
Most people don't even fucking care what society at large thinks of them when it won't get them killed or seriously marginalized, they just want to be accepted and loved by their family and friends, and there's no minority group in the face of the earth that can give them that.:v
I gather that you meant that to be sad our scary, but they're not taking about Big Government being allowed to kill old people against their will. They're talking letting quietly suffering people choose suicide for themselves, which is a matter of respect and dignity.No I'm not talking about Big Government either, but I did use the expression 'euthanize someone' purposedly as is though. Suicide by pill of Drion, as you describe is still illegal over here. Euthanasia requires a doctor administering it, with a whole convoy of at least one other independent doctor, and a bunch of healthcare and legal workers double and triple checking every part of the procedure. And while I personally do not object to euthanasia for those afflicted by an incurable disease, even for some mental disorders, I do not approve allowing people to be euthanized because they feel they are left baggage and useless trough societal neglect and redundancy. Thirty years of neo-liberal budget cuts after budget cuts on elderly care have left a lot of elderly who aren't very rich rotting away in elderly homes with no activities organized for them, or worse, only being allowed to go to the bathroom once a day because of lack of staff, and being forced to wear diapers and called incontinent at that. Add that to children taking their parents in or spending time with them having become a thing of the past in career-driven lives.
TFW Moroccans are more modern than white people.
(https://media.giphy.com/media/vMEUFhYWZI5pK/giphy.gif)TFW Moroccans are more modern than white people.
Moroccans are pretty white, dude.
Africa is in an alternate dimension where the Earth has three suns.The etymology for the name Africa is interesting too.
Africa is in an alternate dimension where the Earth has three suns.The etymology for the name Africa is interesting too.
Ka means sun in the pre-babel unified language. Africa, a-three-ka, a three sun, a three sunned land.
Sure, I don't think you should name names, but without doing so you're just throwing out a general accusation against people in this thread (and others like it) for what seems like no practical purpose.
The practical purpose was to head off the same argument that occurs whenever this sort of research got posted in the past, and foster a debate.
If pedophiles don't breed, wouldn't their prevalence be significantly lower than it appears to be? Darwin 101, as you've mentioned before. And homosexuals, for that matter, shouldn't breed by definition. And yet up to 20% of respondents in modern anonymous polls report some level of homosexual tendencies these days.
But since the system is a completely artificial construct of evolution, there's no scientific reason someone couldn't be a trans-cat or something. You could theoretically end up with brain wiring of a cat in part of your head that does identity. Cat neurons aren't any different from human ones, and human neurons have even been made to work properly in other species. It's just extremely unlikely to happen because the brain wiring would have to construct that out of nothing, whereas a male having female traits or a female having male traits is building off existing systems.
I had a weird moment a few years ago when I suddenly realized that...probably at least 80% of the different characters I'd created over the years as vehicles for myself were both a) physically sexless and b) outwardly either neither or both genders.
So... apparently that's essentially how I see myself. Not terribly interested in labeling myself in any way, though.
I have made a choice to be cis, though. I have always been unhappy about how people see me as male, and on the forum I do prefer female pronouns, but I won't be asking people to call me female when they're in person and hearing my deep as hell voice and face to face with my male face. I don't actually subscribe to the concept of "x in y's body" and I'm more concerned about "why does it have to be permanent?" and the main answer is "we can't meaningfully change someone's sex yet", but the thing is, it doesn't hurt to be accommodating and support people while we wait for science to catch up with humanity's demand to be beautiful.
I don't like choosing my ice cream flavour, so nobody else gets to choose either - they all have to get vanilla.Chocolate is the only correct choice you vanillanormative scum.
Maybe my recent "don't give a shit" is a product of recent life events. Attraction included, because I was basically disinterested in the entire mess.
Then my brother linked... uh... PG13, but probably NSFW...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4mV-zPMBPuQ
>.<
>.o
O.O
ovo
Edit:
also this sexy villain straight out of Dr Horrible practically https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P_SlAzsXa7E
also the garbage men in Goldfrapp's "Ride a White Horse" but that's just generic backup singers being sexy, albeit a bit dirty.
Armokdamnit, why didn't I do this before? I formulated the rewards and risk for each course of action I could take (HRT, no HRT), and it is painfully obvious that HRT would be a bad idea. Graphs and equations! Bah, who needs counseling when they have logic?Spoiler: logic (click to show/hide)
Such a great weight off my back, not having to worry about my gender anymore. How did I come to that conclusion?
As long as no permanent alterations are done (surgery/HRT), it doesn't matter if I'm wrong. What could happen? Mental stability issues? Pfff, haha, like I have any of that to worry about. Being seen as weird because I occasionally hold my body like a girl or something? I'm already seen as weird.
And if I'm only deluding myself into thinking that perceiving myself as androgynous makes me happier, and I have a way of doing so without any downsides... I'll take that!
If I am really androgyne, okay, I've dealt with it pretty well so far. As I practice my BGB (bogus gibber-babble), I'm becoming even better at changing my self-perception and holding it, so... I'll be fine continuing like this.
The only part that made me distressed was "is it a good idea to do HRT," which required me to know whether I was actually androgyne" or not. But HRT is a bad idea regardless of my gender (unless I'm trans, but I'm pretty sure I'm not), so that doesn't matter!
If pedophiles don't breed, wouldn't their prevalence be significantly lower than it appears to be? Darwin 101, as you've mentioned before. And homosexuals, for that matter, shouldn't breed by definition. And yet up to 20% of respondents in modern anonymous polls report some level of homosexual tendencies these days.
I want to just point out that Jared Fogle (Subway Man) had a wife and children. I say had because they're divorced and he's in jail for pedo-ing. Mind you, he was just going for less-than-the-legal-age girls, who are/were in parts of the world and much of history considered suitable for marriage, sex, reproduction, etc. Our modern western civilization is more civilized, IMO, since it recognizes that underage people are not emotionally mature and are too easily manipulated by their emotions.
I have also heard of homosexuals historically (even recently, or even now in less accepting society) having wives and families because it was expected of them.
I really don't like discussing pedophiles and homosexuals near each other, because they're nothing alike, despite attempts by some religious groups to demonize homosexuals by claiming that they are all pedophiles.
Well Shadowlord quoted it just now so I thought I'd lay out my argument in full there.
Although the context in which Shadowlord cited your quote wasn't about non-binary genders at all here, and I didn't reference "non-binary genders" either
in what I wrote so I'm not sure why you're bringing that up.
Especially not in an ancient world (the kind that you'd expect such selective pressure to take hold) where procreation was a much less liberally approachable question than it is in our modern society rich in choice and alternatives.
I've known a fair number of furries on the internet, but I am not one myself, so I don't really want to speak for them, but could this actually be them?'Furry' is a vague term, at best. Some people are 'kin' and would rather be an animal/character or something (I'm not gonna judge, whatever makes them happy), but I don't think either of these things have to do with actual physical brain structure. Of course, not every person who experiences gender dysphoria gets a brain scan, so who knows if they're really lying or not? :P
Well then you're derailing what I just wrote to bring back an argument we have a long time ago. If you check, what I wrote here has almost no connection to the "refutation" you just gave.I think he's more refuting your point against his old point in-context of the original argument.
Well then you're derailing what I just wrote to bring back an argument we have a long time ago. If you check, what I wrote here has almost no connection to the "refutation" you just gave.
I think he's more refuting your point against his old point in-context of the original argument.
You can't in good faith invoke evolution to try and explain why non-binary genders are uncommon because it's pretty much guaranteed to have a very high degree of environmental influence much like any psychological or neurologicalThis seems to be opinion/circular reasoning.
For example, a study of all adult twins in Sweden checked for concordance of homosexuality, and what they ultimately found was that genetic factors explain 34-39% of the variance in men
This seems to be opinion/circular reasoning.
But that's not the only biological factor. There's the fraternal birth order effect, which reportedly increases the chance of being homosexual by 28%-48% per older biological brother. Add in your base of 35% for genetics with +38% from one older brother and we're already up to 70+% of homosexuality in males explained by two known biological variables. And we'd be fools to think those are the only biological variables at play. Genetics only influences development one-step-removed from the actual hormones and developmental chemicals. So if we knew which chemicals were the important ones the genes were affecting, then the correlation between that and sexual orientation is probably a good bit better than the 35% correlation with genome.
QuoteI've known a fair number of furries on the internet, but I am not one myself, so I don't really want to speak for them, but could this actually be them?'Furry' is a vague term, at best. Some people are 'kin' and would rather be an animal/character or something (I'm not gonna judge, whatever makes them happy), but I don't think either of these things have to do with actual physical brain structure. Of course, not every person who experiences gender dysphoria gets a brain scan, so who knows if they're really lying or not? :P
If I'm honest, I've doubted myself in the past on my gender, and spent the last 6 years doing so. But here I go on again about my own story, so I'll cut to the chase :V
People who are trans-{x} have to feel consistently dysphoric to be classified as officially trans-{x}, so I dunno if it counts, no.
Yeah, I thought he was just picking up where we left off when he quoted me. Hence attempting to contextualize the whole thing for anybody who blissfully missed the first go-round. I think I was mistaken?
The women reported on average 8.6 lifetime sexual partners. The men claimed 31.9.
Oh, I just meant... The medical condition of transgenderism, means that they, experience dysphoria commonly, and don't necessarily feel dysphoric all the time, but they have to have semi-consistent feelings of dysphoria (say, once every 2/3 months at least ((don't take me entirely seriously I'm not a medical professional))) for a long amount of time, usually over a year-ish. Until then, the medical conditions for blockers and hrt aren't really met yet, and doctors who administer such things are either being too-politically-correct, or are short-sighted in their judgement. Or the situation allows for it, I dunno, I'm not a doctor. But yeah, you're right about the biggest test being once they start hrt.QuoteI've known a fair number of furries on the internet, but I am not one myself, so I don't really want to speak for them, but could this actually be them?'Furry' is a vague term, at best. Some people are 'kin' and would rather be an animal/character or something (I'm not gonna judge, whatever makes them happy), but I don't think either of these things have to do with actual physical brain structure. Of course, not every person who experiences gender dysphoria gets a brain scan, so who knows if they're really lying or not? :P
If I'm honest, I've doubted myself in the past on my gender, and spent the last 6 years doing so. But here I go on again about my own story, so I'll cut to the chase :V
People who are trans-{x} have to feel consistently dysphoric to be classified as officially trans-{x}, so I dunno if it counts, no.
My understanding is that there are trans-people who didn't/don't feel consistently dysphoric, that it isn't a requirement (I saw some people saying that euphoria at the thought of being female was also a sign, but I think perhaps not as certain a sign as dysphoria). The ultimate test, though, that would be starting on the hormone therapy - if someone does that and THEN feels newly dysphoric*, then they're not trans, and continuing the hormone therapy (which isn't really a therapy anymore at that point?) would only be mentally harmful.
* To be clear, I mean because suddenly they have the wrong hormones. It's still possible, and I expect some here have experienced it (I talked with someone to whom this has happened), to start on hormones and have dysphoria mostly go away but not entirely, or come back to some degree, because that penis is not a vagina. I also get the impression that it's possible to not have dysphoria from being a woman with a penis, but I have not talked to anyone like that, but "trans-women I have talked to extensively about how they feel" is a sample size of one right now.
Well, the short answer is you can't trust people's responses in these surveys.Or there's a lot more...experimentation...by guys than gals.
The survey with 8.6 vs 31.9 was actually life-time prevalence for a cohort in their late 40's. The numbers represent the average number of individual sexual partners in their lifetimes. Coming up with explanations is always interesting because the explanations usually defy common beliefs, or are at odds with other research.
I don't really know about the libido thing. But the fact that women systematically seem to minimize the number of sexual partners they have might mean their answers on "libido" surveys are also suspect. After all, if men are actually counting the number of ladies they've been with, those ladies must have been with the same number of men, yet they only report 1/3rd the number of partners, so they're under-counting by 2/3rds. And even if men are exaggerating: they're probably exaggerating their libido on those surveys as well.
Say that only 5 men and 5 women existed. Each woman reports 1 lifetime male partner, and each man reports 3 lifetime female partners. draw circles to represent the people, Now, try and draw lines between the men and women that satisfy the lifetime partners condition. Good luck.
Say that only 5 men and 5 women existed. Each woman reports 1 lifetime male partner, and each man reports 3 lifetime female partners. draw circles to represent the people, Now, try and draw lines between the men and women that satisfy the lifetime partners condition. Good luck.
DD: What you're describing is actually called, medically, gender dysphoria. So that's the miscommunication here.Yeah. I more meant that generally people have to have medical gender dysphoria for over a year-ish to be considered in need of medical countermeasures. Of course, someone can say whatever they want, but it's generally considered people don't do that. And then there's the fact that everyone experiences dysphoria differently, putting everyone on different places on the continuum...
Say that only 5 men and 5 women existed. Each woman reports 1 lifetime male partner, and each man reports 3 lifetime female partners. draw circles to represent the people, Now, try and draw lines between the men and women that satisfy the lifetime partners condition. Good luck.
It works if you take "average" to be median or mode rather than mean?
In light of recent events and feels... I am pretty sure I'm bisexual.Spoiler: how do you know this Doz (click to show/hide)Spoiler: But I thought you were asexual, Doz...? (click to show/hide)
This doesn't feel bad, honestly. It's unlikely to develop into anything - even if it were a girlcrush, there's no way I'd ever work up the courage to ask them out, and I'm not sure if I have the time or interest in dating. And given that the chance of him being non-hetero are minimal, I'd bet a million dollars on this never becoming anything. But it's nice to know, and it's also nice to look at him and be around him. *shysmile*
Interestingly, assuming Hypothesis G-C (genderfluid; the G is for gender and C is for 3rd) is correct, I would rank myself asCode: [Select]Male: ---O------
Female: -O--------
at the time. This would imply that my sexuality is independent of my instantaneous gender-inclination-whatsit, if G-C is true. (If G-C is false, then this is irrelevant.)
Edit: On second thought, this might belong in the G/S thread? It was kind of a wtf moment for me when I realized though. My guesses were hetero or asexual, I never predicted this.
You can know yourself, but doing so though this method is doomed to failure and worse, it can increase your self-ignorance. The world can be understood through categorization and empiricism, but a human mind is neither well-categorized or particularly empirical to its owner. You're not gonna fit in the box. You might identify your dominant feelings or what you want to believe is true, but this will cause suppression of your dissenting side and unknown knowns.
Posting my reply in this thread instead of the WTF thread:In light of recent events and feels... I am pretty sure I'm bisexual.Spoiler: how do you know this Doz (click to show/hide)Spoiler: But I thought you were asexual, Doz...? (click to show/hide)
This doesn't feel bad, honestly. It's unlikely to develop into anything - even if it were a girlcrush, there's no way I'd ever work up the courage to ask them out, and I'm not sure if I have the time or interest in dating. And given that the chance of him being non-hetero are minimal, I'd bet a million dollars on this never becoming anything. But it's nice to know, and it's also nice to look at him and be around him. *shysmile*
Interestingly, assuming Hypothesis G-C (genderfluid; the G is for gender and C is for 3rd) is correct, I would rank myself asCode: [Select]Male: ---O------
Female: -O--------
at the time. This would imply that my sexuality is independent of my instantaneous gender-inclination-whatsit, if G-C is true. (If G-C is false, then this is irrelevant.)
Edit: On second thought, this might belong in the G/S thread? It was kind of a wtf moment for me when I realized though. My guesses were hetero or asexual, I never predicted this.
Doze: So, have you ever listened to Shania Twain's song "Man! I Feel Like A Woman!"?
If not, I'll link some videos on youtube, and you can see how they make you feel, if youtube lets you watch them. I'm not sure if they're restricted by country (I'm in the USA).
(I just watched all three now, and I was distracted by her backup dancers in the second video, but that could tell you something too, if it happens to you)
Lyrics (uploaded by someone else, 1080p): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gABOfZTMkIs
The original video (480p): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZJL4UGSbeFg
Live in 2015 (1080p): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DDkCe2cUHAA
And if I have to choose a box, what better box than bisexuality? It just means "I may or may not be attracted to any given person." It carries no restrictions.
Yes, it's a song.Says you.And if I have to choose a box, what better box than bisexuality? It just means "I may or may not be attracted to any given person." It carries no restrictions.
Except people who identify as something outside the gender binary. The "bi" only covers male and female.
Yes, it's a song.Says you.And if I have to choose a box, what better box than bisexuality? It just means "I may or may not be attracted to any given person." It carries no restrictions.
Except people who identify as something outside the gender binary. The "bi" only covers male and female.
Typically, pansexual is used for non-binaries+binaries :VYes, it's a song.Says you.And if I have to choose a box, what better box than bisexuality? It just means "I may or may not be attracted to any given person." It carries no restrictions.
Except people who identify as something outside the gender binary. The "bi" only covers male and female.
Typically, pansexual is used for non-binaries+binaries :VSays you.And if I have to choose a box, what better box than bisexuality? It just means "I may or may not be attracted to any given person." It carries no restrictions.
Except people who identify as something outside the gender binary. The "bi" only covers male and female.
But it hurts the last time I tried to get it on with them, plus who knows what teflon does if it touches your parts.Typically, pansexual is used for non-binaries+binaries :VYes, it's a song.Says you.And if I have to choose a box, what better box than bisexuality? It just means "I may or may not be attracted to any given person." It carries no restrictions.
Except people who identify as something outside the gender binary. The "bi" only covers male and female.
...robosexual? What?But it hurts the last time I tried to get it on with them, plus who knows what teflon does if it touches your parts.Typically, pansexual is used for non-binaries+binaries :VYes, it's a song.Says you.And if I have to choose a box, what better box than bisexuality? It just means "I may or may not be attracted to any given person." It carries no restrictions.
Except people who identify as something outside the gender binary. The "bi" only covers male and female.
But it hurts the last time I tried to get it on with them, plus who knows what teflon does if it touches your parts.Typically, pansexual is used for non-binaries+binaries :VYes, it's a song.Says you.And if I have to choose a box, what better box than bisexuality? It just means "I may or may not be attracted to any given person." It carries no restrictions.
Except people who identify as something outside the gender binary. The "bi" only covers male and female.
The fact that the mere thought of sex repulses me is probably an indication that I'm asexual, on further reflection.
If we could just [censored for these forums]!
And never have to touch
Life would be so perfect~
...robosexual? What?I think it was a joke about being pansexual
Oh, binaries as in the computery things.
The fact that the mere thought of sex repulses me is probably an indication that I'm asexual, on further reflection.
Aye, there's the rub. Or it could just be that I have a very latent sexuality. And as experimentation is infeasible at this point... I guess I'll have to move on and live with the uncertainty. Whatever my sexuality is, though, I'm nearly certain I'm biromantic, so there's that...The fact that the mere thought of sex repulses me is probably an indication that I'm asexual, on further reflection.
Unless you've gotten so worked up about the social aspects of it that fear and anxiety is what is the cause behind said repulsion.
Aye, there's the rub. Or it could just be that I have a very latent sexuality. And as experimentation is infeasible at this point... I guess I'll have to move on and live with the uncertainty. Whatever my sexuality is, though, I'm nearly certain I'm biromantic, so there's that...
BE AGRESSIVEWHY
That's probably best, yeah.Aye, there's the rub. Or it could just be that I have a very latent sexuality. And as experimentation is infeasible at this point... I guess I'll have to move on and live with the uncertainty. Whatever my sexuality is, though, I'm nearly certain I'm biromantic, so there's that...Could be that your puberty hasn't properly kicked in yet in every respect. Best not to think too much about it, and reflect on what you really are when you're, say, 18 or so.
The fact that the mere thought of sex repulses me is probably an indication that I'm asexual, on further reflection.
What size fedora do you wear?The fact that the mere thought of sex repulses me is probably an indication that I'm asexual, on further reflection.
Cheers bro. Join the club.
If anything, I find the constant "But I NEEEEEEEEEEEED to have (insert gregariously sexual behavior here) Or I will explode!" behavior of basically all sexual people (regardless of orientation) quite tedious. Yes. You guys have sex. That's nice. I am sorry that you are hopelessly enslaved by your hormones. Please stop trying to tell me about how your self-identity revolves around what kind of sex you have. Next you will tell me that your self-identity revolves around what clothes you wear, or what foods you eat, rather than WHO you are as a person. Nice. So good to meet you. Now have a nice day, and go away.
I am attracted to beautiful minds. I am not attracted to boobies, asses, crotches, or any other physical attribute. Do you have a strong, independent personality, with a clever, inventive imagination? Odds are, I will find you very attractive, but not in a sexual way. Do you harp endlessly about how you like Tits and Ass? Odds are I will be repulsed by this, and want to distance myself from you.
Not that you do those things Doze, just saying that I too find the very idea of sex repulsive, and am disturbed by how much people fixate on the act.
What size fedora do you wear?The fact that the mere thought of sex repulses me is probably an indication that I'm asexual, on further reflection.
Cheers bro. Join the club.
If anything, I find the constant "But I NEEEEEEEEEEEED to have (insert gregariously sexual behavior here) Or I will explode!" behavior of basically all sexual people (regardless of orientation) quite tedious. Yes. You guys have sex. That's nice. I am sorry that you are hopelessly enslaved by your hormones. Please stop trying to tell me about how your self-identity revolves around what kind of sex you have. Next you will tell me that your self-identity revolves around what clothes you wear, or what foods you eat, rather than WHO you are as a person. Nice. So good to meet you. Now have a nice day, and go away.
I am attracted to beautiful minds. I am not attracted to boobies, asses, crotches, or any other physical attribute. Do you have a strong, independent personality, with a clever, inventive imagination? Odds are, I will find you very attractive, but not in a sexual way. Do you harp endlessly about how you like Tits and Ass? Odds are I will be repulsed by this, and want to distance myself from you.
Not that you do those things Doze, just saying that I too find the very idea of sex repulsive, and am disturbed by how much people fixate on the act.
Well, that's hardly true for everyone. I mean, not every non-asexual person has a strong libido. And "I go insane without sex; i.e., I am psychologically addicted to it" is not the same as "my identity revolves around who I have sex with."The fact that the mere thought of sex repulses me is probably an indication that I'm asexual, on further reflection.
Cheers bro. Join the club.
If anything, I find the constant "But I NEEEEEEEEEEEED to have (insert gregariously sexual behavior here) Or I will explode!" behavior of basically all sexual people (regardless of orientation) quite tedious. Yes. You guys have sex. That's nice. I am sorry that you are hopelessly enslaved by your hormones. Please stop trying to tell me about how your self-identity revolves around what kind of sex you have. Next you will tell me that your self-identity revolves around what clothes you wear, or what foods you eat, rather than WHO you are as a person. Nice. So good to meet you. Now have a nice day, and go away.
I am attracted to beautiful minds. I am not attracted to boobies, asses, crotches, or any other physical attribute....if I aesthetically favour girls slightly over boys, as long as I'm not interested in sticking myself into them, that could still be asexuality, right?
Do you have a strong, independent personality, with a clever, inventive imagination? Odds are, I will find you very attractive, but not in a sexual way.And thus want to be in a relationship with them! Aha!
Do you harp endlessly about how you like Tits and Ass? Odds are I will be repulsed by this, and want to distance myself from you.except this doesn't describe everybody
Not that you do those things Doze, just saying that I too find the very idea of sex repulsive, and am disturbed by how much people fixate on the act.Indeed. I often use the indefinite you, and am misinterpreted as speaking directly to someone.
Why does your preference in sexual partners need to have such baggage?
I see no compelling reason, other than people just being strange about overhyping how good their sex is, and how strange that other kind of sex is.
i think you are reading too much into this, and making the leap from how i see the world, to my asserting that the world would be better if nobody was driven by sexual attraction.
no, i am saying that i get annoyed by people that base thier core, internal identity on external things, like what genitals they have, or what society expects from them.
that is an assertion of personal preference, which i have reasons fr, even though i really dont need them.
it blinds you to stunning things you would otherwise notice about people, like how horrible that devil in prada really is (but damn does she look hawt!), or how amazing that dumpy fat guy is aside from looking fat and dumpy.Not in my experience.
it causes you to stare at asses and breasts intead of talking to people.I like to look in people's eyes.
and, it gives a negative body image complex its power to destroy truly beautiful people.Because they aren't being ogled? Oh, I expect you probably mean beautiful minds.
then there is the whole "i cant wear pink, thats a fucking gay assed color! i gotta wear a mans color, like black." and similar pathologies, like "being smart isnt womanly, so i wont persue my childhood dream of being a scientist." and pals.idgi
smart, independent woman scientist is freaking hawt. flaunt that methyl blue stained labcoat! woo!Strong women in general are hot! Whether mentally or physically.
as for the statement about being enslaved by hormones being offensive, just ask all your friends if they think they could go a week without sex. a month? a year?I've gone 34 years without sex~
maybe i am clairvoyant or empathic or something, but it most certainly is mine.it blinds you to stunning things you would otherwise notice about people, like how horrible that devil in prada really is (but damn does she look hawt!), or how amazing that dumpy fat guy is aside from looking fat and dumpy.Not in my experience.
it causes you to stare at asses and breasts intead of talking to people.I like to look in people's eyes.
and, it gives a negative body image complex its power to destroy truly beautiful people.Because they aren't being ogled? Oh, I expect you probably mean beautiful minds.
see the term, "machismo"then there is the whole "i cant wear pink, thats a fucking gay assed color! i gotta wear a mans color, like black." and similar pathologies, like "being smart isnt womanly, so i wont persue my childhood dream of being a scientist." and pals.idgi
I don't feel constrained to or away from particular colors. I particularly like red.
smart, independent woman scientist is freaking hawt. flaunt that methyl blue stained labcoat! woo!Strong women in general are hot! Whether mentally or physically.
celebacy is rare. like, 1% of the population, just as good a chance as meeting mark cuban, rare. (http://www.cnn.com/2004/TECH/science/10/14/asexual.study/)as for the statement about being enslaved by hormones being offensive, just ask all your friends if they think they could go a week without sex. a month? a year?I've gone 34 years without sex~
Voluntarily
But I am not averse to the possibility.
a beautiful person is beautiful because they are genuinely transcendent. say, mother theresa. i doubt anyone here without a fetish would say she was physically attractive, but she was a genuinely beautiful person. a person need not be famous to be beautiful like that. a beautiful soul shines through anything.
Wierd, if I may point you to the spoiler I just posted? You dun gotta reply, but it was largely for you.a beautiful person is beautiful because they are genuinely transcendent. say, mother theresa. i doubt anyone here without a fetish would say she was physically attractive, but she was a genuinely beautiful person. a person need not be famous to be beautiful like that. a beautiful soul shines through anything.
When she was an appropriate age for the majority of this forum's members, she was pretty dang Conventionally Attractive actually. (https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/564x/c8/68/7e/c8687ed206804ccf3977077c38a2e984.jpg)
That's not to say that she didn't have problematic personality traits and prejudices, according to Shadowlord's link, though. That's unfortunate. :I
Anyway, beauty comes in a lot of forms both internal and external, and either are great.
substitute chocolate for sex, and you have me.Combine chocolate and sex, and you have messy.
I think there is a failure to communicate.
Exactly. Its circular.
All too often I find people fixate though.
And yes, much like listening to Violet from the chocolate factory harp about gum all day (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mepPt1eV8hI) gets tedious, hearing people harp about sex, or nudge you to ask if "you saw that" as somebody walks by is equally exhausting.
I feel like maybe you hang out with some friends who don't understand asexuality, and maybe you should reconsider :V
as for the statement about being enslaved by hormones being offensive, just ask all your friends if they think they could go a week without sex. a month? a year?
you will find that most cant even go 3 days without it. that's pretty damned hooked.
most people do not understand asexuality, in my experience.
NO, NO, NO - WRONGmost people do not understand asexuality, in my experience.
In the most literal term, it means genderless.
Though I understand it in this context to just mean 'not interested in sex, regardless of gender'.Or "not having any libido, i.e., drive to engage in sexual activity." A subtle distinction: someone could be not interested in sex at the moment (too busy with SCIENCE) and yet be hetero/homo/bisexual.
NO, NO, NO - WRONGmost people do not understand asexuality, in my experience.
In the most literal term, it means genderless.
That would be agender! Not asexuality!QuoteThough I understand it in this context to just mean 'not interested in sex, regardless of gender'.Or "not having any libido, i.e., drive to engage in sexual activity." A subtle distinction: someone could be not interested in sex at the moment (too busy with SCIENCE) and yet be hetero/homo/bisexual.
for all intents and purposes, my genitals serve only a useful endochrine function, and nothing else.I just realized something. The way that I might want to present myself could overlap with different form of gender expression, and I could still be agender.
I could live just fine without them. mentally, i *am* genderless.
That is true doze. "Got a headache" being cliche.Creating your own identity... why the heck not? Just restrain your urge to label yourself and put yourself in a box, Doz, and it might just work!
I do not have attraction, ever, and do not relate with my gender. Or the other gender. I just kinda am.
To cope with that, I have created my own, personal identity. I relate with others who have done that as well.
Ah. Asexual reproduction doesn't imply a lack of sex (physical state), though. Parthenogenesis and whatnot.NO, NO, NO - WRONGmost people do not understand asexuality, in my experience.
In the most literal term, it means genderless.
That would be agender! Not asexuality!QuoteThough I understand it in this context to just mean 'not interested in sex, regardless of gender'.Or "not having any libido, i.e., drive to engage in sexual activity." A subtle distinction: someone could be not interested in sex at the moment (too busy with SCIENCE) and yet be hetero/homo/bisexual.
I'm probably conflating it with 'asexual' as in 'asexual reproduction', which I know has nothing to do with asexuality, and I wasn't being entirely serious with that first comment.
Ah. Asexual reproduction doesn't imply a lack of sex (physical state), though.NO, NO, NO - WRONGmost people do not understand asexuality, in my experience.
In the most literal term, it means genderless.
That would be agender! Not asexuality!QuoteThough I understand it in this context to just mean 'not interested in sex, regardless of gender'.Or "not having any libido, i.e., drive to engage in sexual activity." A subtle distinction: someone could be not interested in sex at the moment (too busy with SCIENCE) and yet be hetero/homo/bisexual.
I'm probably conflating it with 'asexual' as in 'asexual reproduction', which I know has nothing to do with asexuality, and I wasn't being entirely serious with that first comment.
sure it does. we attribute value to reasons, but nature does not.
only a really premeditated action is truly the result of rational thought. almost all of your decisions in life are excluded from this class.
when it comes to things like pleasure, it is universally excluded.
Full Definition of reason
1
a : a statement offered in explanation or justification <gave reasons that were quite satisfactory> b : a rational ground or motive <a good reason to act soon> c : a sufficient ground of explanation or of logical defense; especially : something (as a principle or law) that supports a conclusion or explains a fact <the reasons behind her client's action> d : the thing that makes some fact intelligible : cause <the reason for earthquakes> <the real reason why he wanted me to stay — Graham Greene>
2
a (1) : the power of comprehending, inferring, or thinking especially in orderly rational ways : intelligence (2) : proper exercise of the mind (3) : sanity b : the sum of the intellectual powers
3
archaic : treatment that affords satisfaction
in reason
: rightly, justifiably
within reason
: within reasonable limits
with reason
: with good cause
extraordinary evidence.
http://www.nature.com/news/2008/080411/full/news.2008.751.html
your rational decision is less real than you think it is.
There has been a long controversy as to whether subjectively 'free' decisions are determined by brain activity ahead of time. We found that the outcome of a decision can be encoded in brain activity of prefrontal and parietal cortex up to 10 s before it enters awareness. This delay presumably reflects the operation of a network of high-level control areas that begin to prepare an upcoming decision long before it enters awareness.
When a person is subjected to a stimulus, they dont "decide" that it is pleasurable, painful, ticklish, whatever-- Their nervous system simply reacts to it. That reaction is "the fact."
The REASONING comes later, after that fact. Humans are not precognitive, and our predictive ability is tied exclusively to past experiences. We can reason that, eg, "This thing is a lot like that other thing that I like, so I will probably like it too." but that does not make it true that "I like this other thing". We can try that thing and hate it. Crystal pepsi, for instance.
I was pointing out that the action (response to the stimulus) precedes the reason (eg, the act of reasoning in response to the stimulus), always.
It will help you a lot to talk about this with a professional rather than internet sources alone.for all intents and purposes, my genitals serve only a useful endochrine function, and nothing else.I just realized something. The way that I might want to present myself could overlap with different form of gender expression, and I could still be agender.
I could live just fine without them. mentally, i *am* genderless.
Which is another way of saying "just do you," I guess. Huh. I keep coming back to that. Maybe I should follow it.
(But hmm, negative body image associated with the part of me that is more associated with masculinity; i.e., hairiness... that's the issue, association. Whence these feelings? Transgenderness, or have I simply associated "feminine" with "good"?)
http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/reason
Quotecause <the reason for earthquakes>
To wit- Being gay is not a choice. One does not go "You know, I think I will be gay from now on." It does not work that way. They have always been gay, and come to that startling revelation. Then they rationalize why it is OK to be gay, and why they like the things they like. This is also why "reprogramming camps" dont work. You dont choose what you find enjoyable. You cant be told what you find enjoyable either. You can choose to do things that you know to be enjoyable, but that is most certainly NOT the same thing.
The sun appears to rise every day. (fact)
Human question: Why?
Human reason: A god must do it!
The reason ALWAYS comes AFTER the fact.
In fuller context, because people seem unable to follow my train of thought--
When a person is subjected to a stimulus, they dont "decide" that it is pleasurable, painful, ticklish, whatever-- Their nervous system simply reacts to it. That reaction is "the fact."
The REASONING comes later, after that fact. Humans are not precognitive, and our predictive ability is tied exclusively to past experiences. We can reason that, eg, "This thing is a lot like that other thing that I like, so I will probably like it too." but that does not make it true that "I like this other thing". We can try that thing and hate it. Crystal pepsi, for instance.
In the EVEN FULLER context:
I asserted that I do not need a reason for my known preferences, which is what kicked this off.
This is logically sound as a statement, given the above chain of events to arrive at a reason.
1) I experience a stimulus.
2) I have a reaction.
3) I create a reason to explain my reaction.
Step 3 is optional. Steps 1 and 2 happen without my control, and are simply facts.
In this example, step 2, my reaction, is the basis of my preference. EG, "I liked it."
We can then put it this way.
1) Something happened
2) I liked it.
3) I come up with some reason to explain why I liked it.
I do not need to come up with a reason to accept that I liked it. It is simply a fact.
Asexual people aren't necessarily uninterested in sex, they just don't feel any drive to. Some asexuals do still have sex, they just don't have an innate biological drive behind it.\Huh. All the asexual people I've met have been pretty much the reverse, which is interesting. Not sure if that's a different form with a similar effect (at least regards other people) or a misuse of definitions on one of our parts, though I'm inclined to say the former.
Also, wierd, maybe I'm a bit biased because I'm friends with a lot of non-heterosexuals :V
that and smart people
/me meets sjm9876, she is asexual in her sexual orientation o_oAsexual people aren't necessarily uninterested in sex, they just don't feel any drive to. Some asexuals do still have sex, they just don't have an innate biological drive behind it.\Huh. All the asexual people I've met have been pretty much the reverse, which is interesting. Not sure if that's a different form with a similar effect (at least regards other people) or a misuse of definitions on one of our parts, though I'm inclined to say the former.
Also, wierd, maybe I'm a bit biased because I'm friends with a lot of non-heterosexuals :V
that and smart people
Err...do remember that gender != gender role. The 'role' here is the manner of interacting towards a certain theme or concept noticed as a characteristic, not necessarily of the gender. (It's like more of a title/term rather than an indicator)
Er. Genders? Or Sexes?
I was just imagining Fungus wearing 1000s of different types of dresses.One fungus, or multiple fungi? Because the first would be difficult to pull off. It would also be difficult to pull the dresses off of the fungus afterward.
Do animals even have gender, or is it just sex?The best I can remember off the top of my head was the event where in a troop of baboons the aggressive males more or less all died because of poisoned food, which then changed the culture of the group as a whole. (http://journals.plos.org/plosbiology/article?id=10.1371/journal.pbio.0020106) If you say that the aggressiveness of the alpha males and their hierarchy was a facet of the gender role that their society enforced (which seems to be the case since after this event other males that moved in from other troops would adapt to the more chill troop, learning to be less aggressive) then this seems like it'd be a case non human animals having gender (and what that gender means being changed after a radical event.)
That might explain my anomalous gender identity as well. In addition to being asexual, I also exhibit schizoid behaviors, and have less need of social interaction. I acknowlege that this is not normal, but other than the strange reactions I get when I do interact with other people, I do not feel deficited.
Note, I do not mean paranoid schizophrenic.
I mean this:
http://psychcentral.com/disorders/schizoid-personality-disorder-symptoms/
Can you clarify? The definitions I work with areI believe what you are calling gender and Shadowlord gender role are the same. Likely by gender Shadow is referring to ones sense with respect to themself - the part that can feel incongruent with sex and cause physical as opposed to social dysphoria.
Sex: the physical state of the body, featuring Primary (genetic and from birth characteristics), or Secondary (hormonally-derived characteristics). Sex comes in many combinations across a Female-Intersex-Male spectrum, and describes the physical body, reproductive capabilities, and so on, taking intentional modification, surgeries, HRT, or whatever else into account.
Gender: an artificial cultural role assigned to an individual, and enforced by law, peers, or social tradition. These vary from culture to culture, but commonly include expectations of behavior, restrictions on styles of relationship or sexual partnership, standards of appearance, encouraged modes of communication, restriction from performing certain activities, etc. These are generally considered a spectrum, but are hard to classify as such due to the arbitrariness of gender roles, and cultural differences. Common historical examples are "Masculine" and "Feminine".
Can you clarify? The definitions I work with areI believe what you are calling gender and Shadowlord gender role are the same. Likely by gender Shadow is referring to ones sense with respect to themself - the part that can feel incongruent with sex and cause physical as opposed to social dysphoria.
Sex: the physical state of the body, featuring Primary (genetic and from birth characteristics), or Secondary (hormonally-derived characteristics). Sex comes in many combinations across a Female-Intersex-Male spectrum, and describes the physical body, reproductive capabilities, and so on, taking intentional modification, surgeries, HRT, or whatever else into account.
Gender: an artificial cultural role assigned to an individual, and enforced by law, peers, or social tradition. These vary from culture to culture, but commonly include expectations of behavior, restrictions on styles of relationship or sexual partnership, standards of appearance, encouraged modes of communication, restriction from performing certain activities, etc. These are generally considered a spectrum, but are hard to classify as such due to the arbitrariness of gender roles, and cultural differences. Common historical examples are "Masculine" and "Feminine".
Obviously this is all just a guess of what Shadow means, but a likely one IMO :P
More useful terms:
Sex. What shape your meat is. Can be specified further - natal sex, current sex, desired sex, etc.
Identity. Your self-concept of who you are. Can be specified further - national identity, sexual identity, gender identity, etc.
Role. What other people expect from/about you. Can be specified further - gender roles, occupational roles, class roles, etc.
Gender. Choice of pronoun. Important because of the roles and identities based on it rather than for its own sake.
More useful terms:
Sex. What shape your meat is. Can be specified further - natal sex, current sex, desired sex, etc.
Identity. Your self-concept of who you are. Can be specified further - national identity, sexual identity, gender identity, etc.
Role. What other people expect from/about you. Can be specified further - gender roles, occupational roles, class roles, etc.
Gender. Choice of pronoun. Important because of the roles and identities based on it rather than for its own sake.
I wouldn't go so far as to say sex is mutable - whether you were born male, female, or intersex is important, medically. It simply shouldn't define you more than what you want it to. It's a distinction for medical purposes, and an important one at that.
I said it before, but medically speaking sex is totally mutable too; recent genetic research with mice might even lead to transgender fertility and an end to the need for external hormone therapy.
I'd also draw a distinction between a person's primary and secondary sex, for medical reasons. The health concerns of TransMales overlap with the concerns of both cis Males and Females, because hormones etc., and are in some respects unique from cis sexes entirely. Same for TransWomen, or Intersex people. Medicine is still learning to accommodate their needs, and more inclusive study is needed.
I wouldn't go so far as to say sex is mutable - whether you were born male, female, or intersex is important, medically. It simply shouldn't define you more than what you want it to. It's a distinction for medical purposes, and an important one at that.Right, that's natal sex. Current sex is obviously based on natal sex, but equally obviously, the two aren't the same thing. Your body changes over time based on things that happen to you, including accidents, puberty, hormones, surgery, etc. Natal sex = sex you were at birth.
I said it before, but medically speaking sex is totally mutable too; recent genetic research with mice might even lead to transgender fertility and an end to the need for external hormone therapy.
I'd also draw a distinction between a person's primary and secondary sex, for medical reasons. The health concerns of TransMales overlap with the concerns of both cis Males and Females, because hormones etc., and are in some respects unique from cis sexes entirely. Same for TransWomen, or Intersex people. Medicine is still learning to accommodate their needs, and more inclusive study is needed.
"Those mean transphobic powerful feminists want to restrict my access to rape shelters because they think I’m a man!"I am incredibly enraged. Like, my eyes are literally glowing. Get help.
"I just want to pee and those TERF bigots say I have to use the men’s room where I might get attacked!"
"Those bigoted cis lesbians say they don’t want to have sex with me because they don’t like penis. How do they even know that if they haven’t seen my penis? My penis is a girl’s penis."
I can at least say for certainty that the "male/female brain" has been hotly contested and has flip-flopped quite a few times as to whether or not there is a difference (in structure. Hormones, again, play a yuuge part in mental tasks).
I know it's all anecdotal evidence, but I've been privy to (not-so-personal) diaries of people transitioning M-to-F, and their talk about how feelings effect them differently and how they're processed is, actually, pretty amazing.
*looks at above post*TERFs are Trans-Exclusionary Radical Feminists. They claim that No Real Feminist would support trans-women, and instead they call them by their old pronouns, go out of their way to insult them, and make horrible straw-women like "waaa lesbians won't have sex with my female penis."
*makes WTF noises*
I don't understaaand.
That one line was born out of a single particulary insane trans porn star that had a bad reaction out of the fact a certain lesbian pornstar didn't want to do a video with her because she had a penis. Bit of an old story by now.Well, that's called "nutpicking." It's as bad as strawmanning.
No, like, I know what they are, I just don't get what they're even saying. Or what you're saying. :v*looks at above post*TERFs are Trans-Exclusionary Radical Feminists. They claim that No Real Feminist would support trans-women, and instead they call them by their old pronouns, go out of their way to insult them, and make horrible straw-women like "waaa lesbians won't have sex with my female penis."
*makes WTF noises*
I don't understaaand.
THEY ARE BEING TRANSPHOBIC HYPOCRITICAL PIECES OF SHITNo, like, I know what they are, I just don't get what they're even saying. Or what you're saying. :v*looks at above post*TERFs are Trans-Exclusionary Radical Feminists. They claim that No Real Feminist would support trans-women, and instead they call them by their old pronouns, go out of their way to insult them, and make horrible straw-women like "waaa lesbians won't have sex with my female penis."
*makes WTF noises*
I don't understaaand.
Except for that last one which is all around crazy.
... Like, is this inverse Poe's law going on here? I feel like I'm missing context...What would that even be? Poe's Law says that fundamentalists are indistinguishable from parodies of such.
Thank you, I can relate to not wanting to grow up.That's exactly where I am right now.
It's just so confusing and I don't know what to think, or whether I'm just making the feelings up or not.
I'm sorry if it's been asked before but what does Gender Dysphoria feel like?
I've just been going through a lot of feelings lately and it would help a lot.
That's exactly where I am right now.
As has been said, it's different for everyone. The wikipedia article (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender_dysphoria) has a pretty suitable range of possible symptoms, but it's very easy to mistake for anxiety, regular body discomfort, depression, etc. It's a hard thing to define, and as such takes years to actually nail down.
While that is true, and not-feeling-good-about-puberty might be suggestive of dysphoria, it is not a definitive sign of dysphoria, right?
Heh, it could be worse Kansa.Hah, that's almost exactly my situation. Whether it's peers losing their minds over penis and butt, or losing their minds over MACHO IDIOCY, or arsehole boys, I've dreamt of just skipping the next few years, but...
You could be like me, and have the hormones flow, grow the beard and all the hair-- and watch perplexed at how all your peers lose their ever loving minds, while you remain basically the same.
(and then mis-attribute your lack of interest in boobies as being a secret interest in penis, when the idea is equally alien to you.)(thanks for pointing out that pitfall, I almost fell into it)
Hell, I am in my late 30s, and STILL haven't had that kind of transition to "male-ness."...and I'm guessing that the lost minds still haven't gone away yet. Sigh.
Testosterone isn't a bad thing, it increases your muscle mass, helps you stay thin, and helps regulate your metabolism as an adult. Sure, it makes you grow hair, but meh-- Unless you are mortified by having said hair, it isn't that bad. You can shave off hair. Estrogen? That makes you grow boobies, and those are harder to deal with I understand. I'll take the testosterone. If I want to get rid of the hair, there are any number of inexpensive products one can use, in the comfort and privacy of one's home.I'll take that! Very useful. Pseudo-sour grapes are always good for feeling !bad. :P
Dont worry about the physical nitty gritty of growing up, or growing older. Just follow the advice of the old bard-- "Above all else, to thine own self be true."Hmm...
:onooooooooooooooooooooo I just resolved things what do you mean
Dozebôm, please do follow up your conclusions with a professional
because it's coming off to me that you're working with surface-reasoning given the allowance of the internet to branch out for details (which is pretty common with people now) x_xI actually didn't use the internet to come to this conclusion. Also what do you mean I'm not an expert on psychology... fine it might be useful to see a professional, if you think that's best, I'm just... embarrassed to talk to RL people about this.
There's a lot more to this than cognitive dissociation and association, alongside past experience with gender roles due to current environment/vicinity (alongside mentions of interest). Gender is not defined by stereotypical norms. :IBut that's the point. If I "unlink" the various stereotypes and roles from gender itself, that's good right?
[Surface-reasoning != Not your capabilities to reason, but the amount of ideas presented to you that can be better worked with when in physical communication with someone else]So you're saying that talking > typing for this kind of conversation?
Especially given stereotypical American culture as a big influence given it's note as a major world power [and thus its culture being sprayed everywhere--which includes the not-really-nice-bits, especially over the internet and social media at times.]So unlinking the stereotypes from gender would help, right? That's what I'm doing.
Also there's mixing one's preferences with one's identity x.x which are different things altogether,Again, did I write that correctly? Because the whole point of Project Disassociate was to distinguish between all those things. They are different.
and that's poking your mind as if it was a seperate entity in its working when that's you and yourself, but I get the humor in it.humor? it is SCIENTIFIC OBJECTIVITY what do you mean that's impossible, thinking of myself as somebody else cannot possibly go wrong
Heh, it could be worse Kansa.
You could be like me, and have the hormones flow, grow the beard and all the hair-- and watch perplexed at how all your peers lose their ever loving minds, while you remain basically the same.
(and then mis-attribute your lack of interest in boobies as being a secret interest in penis, when the idea is equally alien to you.)
Hell, I am in my late 30s, and STILL haven't had that kind of transition to "male-ness."
Testosterone isn't a bad thing, it increases your muscle mass, helps you stay thin, and helps regulate your metabolism as an adult. Sure, it makes you grow hair, but meh-- Unless you are mortified by having said hair, it isn't that bad. You can shave off hair. Estrogen? That makes you grow boobies, and those are harder to deal with I understand. I'll take the testosterone. If I want to get rid of the hair, there are any number of inexpensive products one can use, in the comfort and privacy of one's home.
Dont worry about the physical nitty gritty of growing up, or growing older. Just follow the advice of the old bard-- "Above all else, to thine own self be true."
:onooooooooooooooooooooo I just resolved things what do you mean
Dozebôm, please do follow up your conclusions with a professionalQuotebecause it's coming off to me that you're working with surface-reasoning given the allowance of the internet to branch out for details (which is pretty common with people now) x_xI actually didn't use the internet to come to this conclusion. Also what do you mean I'm not an expert on psychology... fine it might be useful to see a professional, if you think that's best, I'm just... embarrassed to talk to RL people about this.QuoteThere's a lot more to this than cognitive dissociation and association, alongside past experience with gender roles due to current environment/vicinity (alongside mentions of interest). Gender is not defined by stereotypical norms. :IBut that's the point. If I "unlink" the various stereotypes and roles from gender itself, that's good right?Quote[Surface-reasoning != Not your capabilities to reason, but the amount of ideas presented to you that can be better worked with when in physical communication with someone else]So you're saying that talking > typing for this kind of conversation?QuoteEspecially given stereotypical American culture as a big influence given it's note as a major world power [and thus its culture being sprayed everywhere--which includes the not-really-nice-bits, especially over the internet and social media at times.]So unlinking the stereotypes from gender would help, right? That's what I'm doing.QuoteAlso there's mixing one's preferences with one's identity x.x which are different things altogether,Again, did I write that correctly? Because the whole point of Project Disassociate was to distinguish between all those things. They are different.Quoteand that's poking your mind as if it was a seperate entity in its working when that's you and yourself, but I get the humor in it.humor? it is SCIENTIFIC OBJECTIVITY what do you mean that's impossible, thinking of myself as somebody else cannot possibly go wrong
[...]This last part (along with transposing the word 'clothes' for 'bodies' in regards to gender) is a lot of my thoughts onto there \o/ Rigid physical stereotypy, or the conceptual 'face value' is sometimes a hindrance too when used as one's perception onto others' perception onto them.
As a side note, contrary to what society tells people by things like the word "pass", trans people don't need to make others believe they are a cisgendered person as part of being Trans. Some transmen don't have deep voices, beards, or masculine shoulders; some transwomen have bushy eyebrows, low voices, stubble, and big hands. These exact same things happen in Cisgendered people too. Bodies don't have gender, and not fitting an arbitrary beauty-standard, or having a body that's different than other people of your gender doesn't make you less valid in your identity, or any less of a Man, Woman, or Person.
Actually, hormones meditate most of the things we think of as male or female appearance. Facial and body hair stops entirely, or otherwise gets markedly thinner to what's normal for females in your family when on DHT blocking antiandrogens. Bone structure is what it is, but face and body shape are significantly changed by muscle mass and fat deposits, which change based on hormones. Male and Female voices have an octave or more of vocal overlap, and with training anyone can learn to speak and even sing in a range suitable for their identity. That aside, there's also surgical options for all of the above, if that's your preference or if you have the money.
On the near future side: in the lab, researchers have even begun to enable organ transdifferentiation and fertility in Post-Puberty mice using the body's natural Sex-Deciding and Maintaining mechanisms; the same ones that enable some species to change sex in adulthood exist in Mammals, but are just not being used by the body. Mammals experience more physical differences between the sexes which might not change, but research suggests they'd be able to produce their own hormones, develop secondary traits, and potentially have kids as their identifying sex with a bit of medical assistance.
As a side note, contrary to what society tells people by things like the word "pass", trans people don't need to make others believe they are a cisgendered person as part of being Trans. Some transmen don't have deep voices, beards, or masculine shoulders; some transwomen have bushy eyebrows, low voices, stubble, and big hands. These exact same things happen in Cisgendered people too. Bodies don't have gender, and not fitting an arbitrary beauty-standard, or having a body that's different than other people of your gender doesn't make you less valid in your identity, or any less of a Man, Woman, or Person.
Edit: Wierd, relying on falsetto is generally considered bad advice for a transperson trying to pass as Cis; it lacks overtones, and sounds tin-ish and thin, and like a person doing a silly or cartoon voice. Better to practice intonation, and use your upper comfortable range; men and women have overlap in half or more of their range. The tricky thing to learn is intonation, "resonance" or timbre, and manner of speaking.
I used it to talk to pets, but, well, I sounded kind of like Elmo for some reason. :VWas your pet a cow-cat?
Facial hair stops entirely, or otherwise gets markedly thinner to what's normal for females in your familyAre you certain that this is general? Pretty much every account of HRT I've heard has said that regards facial hair there is pretty much no change? Though having said that, I'd imagine a lot of it is dependent on how developed the facial hair is beforehand, etc.
Facial hair stops entirely, or otherwise gets markedly thinner to what's normal for females in your familyAre you certain that this is general? Pretty much every account of HRT I've heard has said that regards facial hair there is pretty much no change? Though having said that, I'd imagine a lot of it is dependent on how developed the facial hair is beforehand, etc.
I've heard that body and facial hair differ quite a bit in how they're affected by T and DHT. Mainly that body hair growth is much more "dependent" on it, and so low T and/or DHT will decrease body hair to a rather large degree. But facial is a bit more tricky and will still grow a fair bit even without either hormone.Facial hair stops entirely, or otherwise gets markedly thinner to what's normal for females in your familyAre you certain that this is general? Pretty much every account of HRT I've heard has said that regards facial hair there is pretty much no change? Though having said that, I'd imagine a lot of it is dependent on how developed the facial hair is beforehand, etc.
Sorry in advance if this is getting too much into BioChem stuff.
So, there's multiple Androgens (Masculinizing Hormones) in the body, and different ones are more or less potent on certain receptors. DHT is a Testosterone decay product (sort of), which activates androgen receptors more strongly than Testosterone, and stays in the blood for longer. DHT is the most significant trigger for causing facial/body hair in men and women to grow as thicker terminal hair rather than peach fuzz vellus hair. DHT also triggers the hair dormancy seen in androgenic alopecia (Male-Pattern Baldness). Not all hormone regimens inhibit DHT synthesis as well as Testosterone production, but those that do tend to see a much more significant decrease in body and facial hair.
One recording captured an exchange with his wife in which Daniel asked: “Why would you threaten to shoot me?”
“Well, if you cheat, that’s what I would do,” Lyvette responded.
I saw someone tweet "How do you know if a guy likes you?" and while I did not reply, I thought "You know, that's a good question."It's a relevant tangent, IMHO.
Men are still expected to take the initiative, apparently, but if a guy tells someone they're cute or w/e it's sexual harassment*? So confusing.
* or so I hear on the internets, because I don't hit on people irl, or talk to random people that I don't know and have no reason to be talking to**
** I bet parents drilling "don't talk to strangers" into their kids is why we*** all seem to need dating apps**** today
*** this generation
**** I haven't used any of said apps, because "I don't have a job or vehicle why would anyone want to date me"
That was a bit of a tangent. Sorry about that.
Ladies, men are NOT telepaths, and they have to deal with the reactions of the rest of the women in the workplace as well.Yes
It is why the rule of thumb is "Never date a co-worker."Maybe not *never*-never, but you did say it's a rule of thumb. Yeah. Tread carefully with people you're forced to see on a weekly basis. That can get awkward.
Well yeah, for better or worse, the legal system is strongly "affirmative action" for women. They get the benefit of the doubt.IIRC there's some law or Constitutional section about how a trial should go, that you need evidence to judge someone as guilty, the "innocent until proven guilty" thing. It might just be a very important custom, though.
Is that *completely* wrong? I don't really think so, for similar reasons as I support racial affirmative action. But when it comes to condemning people without proper evidence, I think it goes too far. Including when it's trial-by-media, or community.
rape is when somthing gets inserted against ones will, and is of a sexual nature.
assault is when something is not inserted, but sexual contact happens by force. (groped, et al.)
harassment (to me) is when somebody wont take a hint, or a polite request seriously, and says or does stuff around you on purpose with the sole intent of causing you to feel distress, or compel you to action.
and, finally, sexual dicomfort is what you feel when you are exposed to something sexual that just maks you feel icky.
you dont have a right to not feel icky. people have all kinds of kink they get into, and you have no right to tell them they cant have those feelings or do those things just because you find them icky.
you do have the right to not be sexually bullied (real harassmen), assaulted, or raped.
the definition of harassment currently covers discomfort. it is absurd because of that.
And now the real surprise: when asked about experiences in the last 12 months, men reported being “made to penetrate”—either by physical force or due to intoxication—at virtually the same rates as women reported rape (both 1.1 percent in 2010, and 1.7 and 1.6 respectively in 2011).
One of those surveys is the 2010 National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey, for which the Centers for Disease Control invented a category of sexual violence called “being made to penetrate.” This definition includes victims who were forced to penetrate someone else with their own body parts, either by physical force or coercion, or when the victim was drunk or high or otherwise unable to consent. When those cases were taken into account, the rates of nonconsensual sexual contact basically equalized, with 1.270 million women and 1.267 million men claiming to be victims of sexual violence.
i worded my definition of rape carefully.
That's not how it works. Rape surveys don't mention the word "rape" at all.
All rape surveys?
rape is when somthing gets inserted against ones will, and is of a sexual nature
Legally It's sexual assault. It being not rape and "merely" sexual assault doesn't make it more ok, which is what you are implying with this question. Rape isn't defined as "the only real sex crime," and if people didn't use it that way - like you are right now - the world would have zero problems about it. The only reason that the difference matters is people attributes immense power to the word rape and use and misuse it all the time.Quoterape is when somthing gets inserted against ones will, and is of a sexual nature
So... using this definition, a woman who forces herself upon someone... do not constitute rape. Whether it be a man or another woman.
Only if you read it as "...when something gets inserted (into a person) against (that particular person's) will..."Quoterape is when somthing gets inserted against ones will, and is of a sexual nature
So... using this definition, a woman who forces herself upon someone... do not constitute rape. Whether it be a man or another woman.
Except here is kind of the thing... The definition of rape is vague.
"Have you ever been coerced into a sexual encounter?"
But lets go further lets use Wierd's definition of rape for a moment hereQuoterape is when somthing gets inserted against ones will, and is of a sexual nature
So... using this definition, a woman who forces herself upon someone... do not constitute rape. Whether it be a man or another woman.
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That is why I never EVER give much credence to ANY survey on this subject. It is far too easy to manipulate the numbers both up and down AND it is far too easy to have the numbers be wildly inaccurate as well.
And this isn't even getting into "assault and harassment" territory, because even the courts have problems telling which is which sometimes.
For example you know those famos scenes where a woman is insulted and splashes her beverage all over a man's head? Legally that is assault if I remember correctly. How many people would accept that as assault on a survey?
Reminds me of the study that showed that the difference in negotiated wages for the same position across genders is about 7%. Coincidentally, if you compare the wage gap between men and women across the same job (rather than just doing a straight "average wage"), the gap goes from something like the 23% that it's usually stated to be to around... 7%.
Though don't be misled; the 23% does reflect that women are also employed in jobs that pay less than the jobs that men are generally employed in, though that's a whole other beast to tackle. So you have a gap within the same career that's explained through wage negotiating, and a gap without the same career (to clarify, using a particularly odd definition of "without" here; think the phrase "within and without" to get an idea of what it is) that's explained by the gender ratio across professions skewing towards men in higher-paying career paths (unsure on the statistics of this one here).
I don't know why I thought to bring this up, but eh. There's the nuance for the usual statistic of the "wage gap", and to no surprise, it's not as clear-cut as you'd expect.
BZZT-- WRONG.
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And the moment you had to correct it, it loses its point.
BZZT-- WRONG.
And the moment you had to correct it, it loses its point.
I was meaning, "No, you are interpreting that wrong, I worded it carefully and you are purposefully avoiding that word choice in your twisted interpretation."
Indecent exposure is a crime, yes.How well is the gray area defined in American law?
There is grey area, because nudists.
I mean I like to eat them in a rich reduction glaze sauce, or possibly with hollandaise. ;)So as long as it's private property, and it's not the middle of town on someone's lawn, or if nobody minds, they don't get in trouble? Works for me...
As for how grey?
Nudists tend to be congenial, and only practice their way of life away from those it would upset. They have beaches and colonies that they tend to stick to.
It isn't like they show up at Walmart in the nude.
It isn't like they show up at Walmart in the nude.can I sig this?
Malta doesn't like people who don't like people who are just being themselves (http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-europe-38230937).Finally.
Electroshock therapy, as opposed to psychological therapy, definitely doesn't work.
I linked an article a few pages back that claimed therapy methods are quite effective for getting gender confused children to accept their sex assigned gender. There were follow up studies of a controversial 'conversion' clinic that wound up shut down.Oh yeah, that article was really good, actually. Thanks for that.
That said, I was flipping through an old book on homosexuality and they claimed the same then.
Edit:
Here it is:
https://thewalrus.ca/growing-up-trans/
with rape, penetration happensOld quote, but I must ask: If someone is wielding a sword on their groin and stabs someone, is that considered rape?
Correct. Although I'm certainly not sure of anywhere else it would work.Electroshock therapy, as opposed to psychological therapy, definitely doesn't work.
You are saying electroshock therapy doesn't work in this context (hay conversation purposes), and not as a general rule, correct?
...wielding a sword...with rape, penetration happensOld quote, but I must ask: If someone is wielding a sword on their groin and stabs someone, is that considered rape?
...wielding a sword...with rape, penetration happensOld quote, but I must ask: If someone is wielding a sword on their groin and stabs someone, is that considered rape?
...with their dick...
...why does that sound familiar?
Notes in BioPsychology. It works in a therapeutic way with people who have...and I forgot my notes here :V...something that can be aided in the brain with low jolts (I forgot and remember only the gist :V) of energy.Correct. Although I'm certainly not sure of anywhere else it would work.Electroshock therapy, as opposed to psychological therapy, definitely doesn't work.
You are saying electroshock therapy doesn't work in this context (hay conversation purposes), and not as a general rule, correct?
Notes in BioPsychology. It works in a therapeutic way with people who have...and I forgot my notes here :V...something that can be aided in the brain with low jolts (I forgot and remember only the gist :V) of energy.Correct. Although I'm certainly not sure of anywhere else it would work.Electroshock therapy, as opposed to psychological therapy, definitely doesn't work.
You are saying electroshock therapy doesn't work in this context (hay conversation purposes), and not as a general rule, correct?
Yeah, modern electrotherapy is generally not the kind of horrible locked-in-an-electric-chair mad-science-psychology pop culture likes to pretend it is.I mean, when used in the proper way for the right disorders it's definitely really good.
However, even in the 70s and 80s conversion therapy camps still used electric shocks combined with images of erotic images to create an aversion reaction. Because some of these people are literal comic book villains, apparently.
Is there any purple? :o
Either it's my eyesight, laptop, or the lighting, but I think I see a tiny speck of purple below Pennsylvania? I forgot the name of that state below it. >_<Is there any purple? :o
I can't see any either.
...I'm beginning to suspect that is the point ;)
The state below PA is Maryland.Either it's my eyesight, laptop, or the lighting, but I think I see a tiny speck of purple below Pennsylvania? I forgot the name of that state below it. >_<Is there any purple? :o
I can't see any either.
...I'm beginning to suspect that is the point ;)
Source for easier browsing? :D
Also conversion therapy @LGBT folks is dum :v
Could I ask the history of it please? We've never believed it in this country or as far as I and all those I've asked or been with in religious/psych fields have known. Or practiced it. :v
The state below PA is Maryland.I thought it was Angband... ;)
I don't care much about what people identify themselves as, I just have a hard time taking anyone who makes their sexuality the centerpoint of their existence very seriously.I agree with this, and I find it kinda saddening that people make their whole lives based around who they're interested in. I might do it myself, please point it out if I do, but I try not to.
Really now, when people get to the point that their sexuality is at the core of their lives to the point they feel the need to expose it to pretty much anyone, it gets pretty hard to see them as anything other than cartoonish teenagers that have dulled their senses and personality to the point their sexuality almost completely takes over their social persona and transforms them into walking caricatures. Be you heterosexual, homosexual, or anything near, far and in between, if your sexuality is the centerpoint of your social experience, you're probably a huge boring dweeb thats not worth my time.
Altough I have coped with that kind of stuff before, to get what I wanted out of people. Thankfuly I've grown past that since, but you get what I mean ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
I mean, I have nothing against people using a certain environment or situation as a place and a time to express their sexuality in full, but I've met people whose sexuality had essentialy taken over their lives and altered the course of their life choices.
I think there is, and should only be four sexualities: Heterosexual, Homosexual, Asexual and Bisexual. I think more common terms like pansexual, or the tumblr tier sexualities like Iculasexual or Gynosexual are just meaningless terms. You like men, women, neither or both. If you like things other than their gender, like their age or hair colour, that's a fetish, not a new sexuality.Personally, I say pansexual because if I were to say 'bisexual' I feel like I would be implying that people who don't don't identify as either gender, or who appear androgynous, etc, aren't acceptable to me, when they are.
I also think there's two genders. Male and Female. These do not have to correspond to your genitalia at birth, transgenders who identify as female should thus be approached like them. No one truly fits in with the stereotype, as every individual is different.There are many cultures that have, or have had, a third gender, or more than three, as well. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Third_gender#India
This doesn't mean you're special enough to change hundreds of thousands of years of human gender-related values.Isn't this the same sort of argument that was used against gay marriage? (Answer: yes, in the form of "marriage is traditionally between one man and one woman, and has been for all of history," which is an argument which relied not on actual history but on appealing to people who saw their way of life as somehow being under attack)
People who make everything about their sexuality or gender, no matter if it's one I consider real or fake, are incredibly shallow. I usually don't tell anyone I'm gay unless they ask (or I'm interested in them ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡° )), and I have an incredible dislike towards the "flamer" community, a very vocal minority of gays that need to tell everyone "hurr durr im gay hurr durr homophobe hurr durr im better than you". I am more than my sexuality, and most of the time it's got nothing to do with the situation. I usually don't see the point in mentioning it.You could look at it as folks wanting to embrace their identify and show it proudly. Of course as with everything, insulting people isn't usually a good way to get people to look at things from your point of view. I don't mean you personally, I mean the general "your", just to be clear.
Most importantly, I also don't harbor any distaste against people identifying as something I don't consider real. Sure, they're not perfect in my eyes, but everyone has flaws and just because they support something I don't doesn't mean they're bad people. As long as they're not constantly complaining about it and stuff, I'm totally fine with it."I don't think your identity really exists, no disrespect."
Personally, I say pansexual because if I were to say 'bisexual' I feel like I would be implying that people who don't don't identify as either gender, or who appear androgynous, etc, aren't acceptable to me, when they are.As mentioned before, I don't think there are more than two genders. However, my definition of bisexual is "fucks everything", so maybe omnisexual/pansexual would be a better term instead of bisexual.
As for the second part, I don't think I'd call liking particular hair colors more a fetish. It's not really on par with what's commonly thought of as a fetish (feet... stuff... for example). I find some hair colors more attractive and some less attractive. (I've always assumed that everyone does, tbh. Society tries to tell us that blondes are the most attractive, but blond hair makes people less attractive to me)I agree, I should've said it would've either been a fetish or sexual preference. My point still stands though, it shouldn't be a new sexuality.
There are many cultures that have, or have had, a third gender, or more than three, as well. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Third_gender#IndiaIf someone behaves and dresses like a woman, it is a woman for me. As mentioned before, no woman or man is the same. You can still be a man and like cooking (like me!) or dolls. Gender terms aren't something you should strictly adhere to, and someone that's different should'nt need a different gender assigned to them.
Isn't this the same sort of argument that was used against gay marriage? (Answer: yes, in the form of "marriage is traditionally between one man and one woman, and has been for all of history," which is an argument which relied not on actual history but on appealing to people who saw their way of life as somehow being under attack)The difference between this and gay marriage, is that everyone has to change for this. Everyone would have to memorize a bazillion pronouns and new genders, whilst for gay marriage only some laws have to change. Gay marriage only influences those who choose to be influenced.
You could look at it as folks wanting to embrace their identify and show it proudly. Of course as with everything, insulting people isn't usually a good way to get people to look at things from your point of view. I don't mean you personally, I mean the general "your", just to be clear.I understand why they do it. I just hate it because they give moderate gays like us a terrible name. No, I don't like "big black dicks" just because some flamer said all gays like them.
"I don't think your identity really exists, no disrespect."I don't think your gender identity really exists, but you're a great person so I don't care if something else about you isn't as I'd want it because I'm not a narcissist.
If someone behaves and dresses like a woman, it is a woman for me. As mentioned before, no woman or man is the same.
Okay, I don't really want to get involved in the discussion too deeply, but I just thought this was really funny:I'm not saying it is entirely variable, I'm just saying no one is "perfectly" male or female. Gender is not set in stone, it's variable, yet it's clearly still present. There's things that are feminine and things masculine. If you try to be as feminine as possible, you're a woman to me. That doesn't mean you have to be 100% stereotypically female.QuoteIf someone behaves and dresses like a woman, it is a woman for me. As mentioned before, no woman or man is the same.
If someone behaves and dresses like a woman, which is entirely variable, they are a woman.
Is this regardless of how they themselves identify? I'm thinking of crossdressers as an example.Okay, I don't really want to get involved in the discussion too deeply, but I just thought this was really funny:I'm not saying it is entirely variable, I'm just saying no one is "perfectly" male or female. Gender is not set in stone, it's variable, yet it's clearly still present. There's things that are feminine and things masculine. If you try to be as feminine as possible, you're a woman to me. That doesn't mean you have to be 100% stereotypically female.QuoteIf someone behaves and dresses like a woman, it is a woman for me. As mentioned before, no woman or man is the same.
If someone behaves and dresses like a woman, which is entirely variable, they are a woman.
If the societal vocabulary expands in a way that lets us understand ourselves and others better, it's a good thing. I don't believe that 95% of the new words and terms being thrown around will stick, but of those that do, I believe they will stick because they are useful.The difference between flamers and flambo's is their attitude. Flamers tend to be rude, entitled, and think the world revolves around them. They're like the gay "hyper-SJW's", throwing around buzzwords and thinking all should bend to them because they're gay. Flambo's are different. Sure, it's not how I am, but as long as you're not a total obnoxious cunt about being gay you can behave how you want.
I'm unsure what a 'flamer' is, and how far removed the term is from 'flambo,'(Urban dictionary suggests the difference is how annoying you find them) but knowing gay people of the more ostentatious variety, I can say that they are a very varied group of people and stereotyping them as sex obsessed is not helpful.
Well, for me it's more about long term. If someone always dresses, acts and behaves like a woman, i'll treat her like i'd treat a woman. If someone just likes to go full drag sometimes (i've done it when I was younger once for carnaval, it was hilarious tbh), and still identifies as a man all the time, I'll still treat them like a man. If they insist I call them otherwise, however, I'll try to oblige but my memory is not the best so I might not be too consistent.Is this regardless of how they themselves identify? I'm thinking of crossdressers as an example.Okay, I don't really want to get involved in the discussion too deeply, but I just thought this was really funny:I'm not saying it is entirely variable, I'm just saying no one is "perfectly" male or female. Gender is not set in stone, it's variable, yet it's clearly still present. There's things that are feminine and things masculine. If you try to be as feminine as possible, you're a woman to me. That doesn't mean you have to be 100% stereotypically female.QuoteIf someone behaves and dresses like a woman, it is a woman for me. As mentioned before, no woman or man is the same.
If someone behaves and dresses like a woman, which is entirely variable, they are a woman.
If the societal vocabulary expands in a way that lets us understand ourselves and others better, it's a good thing. I don't believe that 95% of the new words and terms being thrown around will stick, but of those that do, I believe they will stick because they are useful.The difference between flamers and flambo's is their attitude. Flamers tend to be rude, entitled, and think the world revolves around them. They're like the gay "hyper-SJW's", throwing around buzzwords and thinking all should bend to them because they're gay. Flambo's are different. Sure, it's not how I am, but as long as you're not a total obnoxious cunt about being gay you can behave how you want.
I'm unsure what a 'flamer' is, and how far removed the term is from 'flambo,'(Urban dictionary suggests the difference is how annoying you find them) but knowing gay people of the more ostentatious variety, I can say that they are a very varied group of people and stereotyping them as sex obsessed is not helpful.QuoteWell, for me it's more about long term. If someone always dresses, acts and behaves like a woman, i'll treat her like i'd treat a woman. If someone just likes to go full drag sometimes (i've done it when I was younger once for carnaval, it was hilarious tbh), and still identifies as a man all the time, I'll still treat them like a man. If they insist I call them otherwise, however, I'll try to oblige but my memory is not the best so I might not be too consistent.Is this regardless of how they themselves identify? I'm thinking of crossdressers as an example.Okay, I don't really want to get involved in the discussion too deeply, but I just thought this was really funny:I'm not saying it is entirely variable, I'm just saying no one is "perfectly" male or female. Gender is not set in stone, it's variable, yet it's clearly still present. There's things that are feminine and things masculine. If you try to be as feminine as possible, you're a woman to me. That doesn't mean you have to be 100% stereotypically female.QuoteIf someone behaves and dresses like a woman, it is a woman for me. As mentioned before, no woman or man is the same.
If someone behaves and dresses like a woman, which is entirely variable, they are a woman.
But, if I were to see a crossdresser on the streets that identifies as a man, I'd still call them she, unless they correct me, just to be sure.
If the societal vocabulary expands in a way that lets us understand ourselves and others better, it's a good thing. I don't believe that 95% of the new words and terms being thrown around will stick, but of those that do, I believe they will stick because they are useful.The difference between flamers and flambo's is their attitude. Flamers tend to be rude, entitled, and think the world revolves around them. They're like the gay "hyper-SJW's", throwing around buzzwords and thinking all should bend to them because they're gay. Flambo's are different. Sure, it's not how I am, but as long as you're not a total obnoxious cunt about being gay you can behave how you want.
I'm unsure what a 'flamer' is, and how far removed the term is from 'flambo,'(Urban dictionary suggests the difference is how annoying you find them) but knowing gay people of the more ostentatious variety, I can say that they are a very varied group of people and stereotyping them as sex obsessed is not helpful.QuoteWell, for me it's more about long term. If someone always dresses, acts and behaves like a woman, i'll treat her like i'd treat a woman. If someone just likes to go full drag sometimes (i've done it when I was younger once for carnaval, it was hilarious tbh), and still identifies as a man all the time, I'll still treat them like a man. If they insist I call them otherwise, however, I'll try to oblige but my memory is not the best so I might not be too consistent.Is this regardless of how they themselves identify? I'm thinking of crossdressers as an example.Okay, I don't really want to get involved in the discussion too deeply, but I just thought this was really funny:I'm not saying it is entirely variable, I'm just saying no one is "perfectly" male or female. Gender is not set in stone, it's variable, yet it's clearly still present. There's things that are feminine and things masculine. If you try to be as feminine as possible, you're a woman to me. That doesn't mean you have to be 100% stereotypically female.QuoteIf someone behaves and dresses like a woman, it is a woman for me. As mentioned before, no woman or man is the same.
If someone behaves and dresses like a woman, which is entirely variable, they are a woman.
But, if I were to see a crossdresser on the streets that identifies as a man, I'd still call them she, unless they correct me, just to be sure.
I honestly have no idea what gender identity even is, but I know that Lemonpie is describing gender roles and expressions."treating them like a man/woman just means using he/she pronouns tbh.
Take, for instance, submissiveness. It's considered a feminine trait, and there is an expectation (albeit weaker today) for women to be submissive. This is a gender role.
Somebody might then decide to be submissive in order to communicate that they are feminine. This is gender expression.
I have no idea why anybody would want to do that, and it honestly seems like a "man's view" of femininity... but who am I to say that somebody cannot be submissive? You see TERFs yelling at the trans-women who accrue "feminine, as seen by a man" traits (submissiveness, etc.), but you don't see them yelling at the women who does so. I'd argue that if this is a problem, we'd solve it by decoupling traits from gender (boys can wear dresses and play with dolls, boys can be gentle and thoughtful and emotional), and there's no need to treat trans-women differently from women.
And if gender is defined as "which gender expression do you prefer," then eugh that's some gender-role-enforcing shit.If the societal vocabulary expands in a way that lets us understand ourselves and others better, it's a good thing. I don't believe that 95% of the new words and terms being thrown around will stick, but of those that do, I believe they will stick because they are useful.The difference between flamers and flambo's is their attitude. Flamers tend to be rude, entitled, and think the world revolves around them. They're like the gay "hyper-SJW's", throwing around buzzwords and thinking all should bend to them because they're gay. Flambo's are different. Sure, it's not how I am, but as long as you're not a total obnoxious cunt about being gay you can behave how you want.
I'm unsure what a 'flamer' is, and how far removed the term is from 'flambo,'(Urban dictionary suggests the difference is how annoying you find them) but knowing gay people of the more ostentatious variety, I can say that they are a very varied group of people and stereotyping them as sex obsessed is not helpful.QuoteWell, for me it's more about long term. If someone always dresses, acts and behaves like a woman, i'll treat her like i'd treat a woman. If someone just likes to go full drag sometimes (i've done it when I was younger once for carnaval, it was hilarious tbh), and still identifies as a man all the time, I'll still treat them like a man. If they insist I call them otherwise, however, I'll try to oblige but my memory is not the best so I might not be too consistent.Is this regardless of how they themselves identify? I'm thinking of crossdressers as an example.Okay, I don't really want to get involved in the discussion too deeply, but I just thought this was really funny:I'm not saying it is entirely variable, I'm just saying no one is "perfectly" male or female. Gender is not set in stone, it's variable, yet it's clearly still present. There's things that are feminine and things masculine. If you try to be as feminine as possible, you're a woman to me. That doesn't mean you have to be 100% stereotypically female.QuoteIf someone behaves and dresses like a woman, it is a woman for me. As mentioned before, no woman or man is the same.
If someone behaves and dresses like a woman, which is entirely variable, they are a woman.
But, if I were to see a crossdresser on the streets that identifies as a man, I'd still call them she, unless they correct me, just to be sure.
Why not just treat people like people
I'm glad you think of me as tolerant. The thing is, I'd rather not mention any of this in public out of the blue at all. Generally speaking it's a non-issue to me, but since I'm "ideologically speaking" in this thread it might seem a bit more "extreme".If the societal vocabulary expands in a way that lets us understand ourselves and others better, it's a good thing. I don't believe that 95% of the new words and terms being thrown around will stick, but of those that do, I believe they will stick because they are useful.The difference between flamers and flambo's is their attitude. Flamers tend to be rude, entitled, and think the world revolves around them. They're like the gay "hyper-SJW's", throwing around buzzwords and thinking all should bend to them because they're gay. Flambo's are different. Sure, it's not how I am, but as long as you're not a total obnoxious cunt about being gay you can behave how you want.
I'm unsure what a 'flamer' is, and how far removed the term is from 'flambo,'(Urban dictionary suggests the difference is how annoying you find them) but knowing gay people of the more ostentatious variety, I can say that they are a very varied group of people and stereotyping them as sex obsessed is not helpful.QuoteWell, for me it's more about long term. If someone always dresses, acts and behaves like a woman, i'll treat her like i'd treat a woman. If someone just likes to go full drag sometimes (i've done it when I was younger once for carnaval, it was hilarious tbh), and still identifies as a man all the time, I'll still treat them like a man. If they insist I call them otherwise, however, I'll try to oblige but my memory is not the best so I might not be too consistent.Is this regardless of how they themselves identify? I'm thinking of crossdressers as an example.Okay, I don't really want to get involved in the discussion too deeply, but I just thought this was really funny:I'm not saying it is entirely variable, I'm just saying no one is "perfectly" male or female. Gender is not set in stone, it's variable, yet it's clearly still present. There's things that are feminine and things masculine. If you try to be as feminine as possible, you're a woman to me. That doesn't mean you have to be 100% stereotypically female.QuoteIf someone behaves and dresses like a woman, it is a woman for me. As mentioned before, no woman or man is the same.
If someone behaves and dresses like a woman, which is entirely variable, they are a woman.
But, if I were to see a crossdresser on the streets that identifies as a man, I'd still call them she, unless they correct me, just to be sure.
I've known a guy that fits the bill in a mundane context, except I never did work out if he was gay or not. Obnoxious arsehole though he was, he did have his moments. :P
I have also seen a fellow that meets your description even more closely on a discussion hosted by tvo.
Given the thread, here's a hyperlink (http://tvo.org/video/programs/the-agenda-with-steve-paikin/genders-rights-and-freedom-of-speech).
It's quite a solid watch with a wide range of perspectives, but the guy they got to represent the furthest genderqueer argument is... Nyeah.
I do suppose he's more affable in reality though.
And that's a fairly solid approach re: gender. I think I disagree with you in some areas, but if you're being respectful and tolerant it's hard for me to be fussed. :P
-snip-The trans people I have met are all surprisingly easy going about it actually. The internet prepared me to walk on egg shells, so it feels a strange disconnect from that expectation.
However, my definition of bisexual is "fucks everything", so maybe omnisexual/pansexual would be a better term instead of bisexual.That makes sense. There are exceptions to "everything," of course, like, say, children.
Yeah, it would be weird if a person claimed to be pinkhairsexual (as in, only pink hair will do), but in that case that really would be a fetish, wouldn't it?As for the second part, I don't think I'd call liking particular hair colors more a fetish. It's not really on par with what's commonly thought of as a fetish (feet... stuff... for example). I find some hair colors more attractive and some less attractive. (I've always assumed that everyone does, tbh. Society tries to tell us that blondes are the most attractive, but blond hair makes people less attractive to me)I agree, I should've said it would've either been a fetish or sexual preference. My point still stands though, it shouldn't be a new sexuality.
I think I get what you mean, but it's a little confusing. "Behaves and dresses like a woman" sounds like gender roles, but so does "liking dolls" (or being submissive, a female-associated trait that is practically required in Japan, or so I have read).There are many cultures that have, or have had, a third gender, or more than three, as well. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Third_gender#IndiaIf someone behaves and dresses like a woman, it is a woman for me. As mentioned before, no woman or man is the same. You can still be a man and like cooking (like me!) or dolls. Gender terms aren't something you should strictly adhere to, and someone that's different should'nt need a different gender assigned to them.
That makes sense.Isn't this the same sort of argument that was used against gay marriage? (Answer: yes, in the form of "marriage is traditionally between one man and one woman, and has been for all of history," which is an argument which relied not on actual history but on appealing to people who saw their way of life as somehow being under attack)The difference between this and gay marriage, is that everyone has to change for this. Everyone would have to memorize a bazillion pronouns and new genders, whilst for gay marriage only some laws have to change. Gay marriage only influences those who choose to be influenced.
I support gay marriage, but I vehemently oppose gays wanting to marry in/for a church/mosque/temple that is anti gay. I think that's disrespectful towards that religion, be it a minority or majority religion. Gays should freely be allowed to marry for the state, and pro gay religious organisations though.I agree with this completely.
"I don't think your identity really exists, no disrespect."I don't think your gender identity really exists, but you're a great person so I don't care if something else about you isn't as I'd want it because I'm not a narcissist.
Not ignoring the fact that I'd never bring it up in the first because I don't hang out with people who let their gender/sexuality define them, I don't care that much and I don't think their gender is all of their identity.
treating them like a man/woman just means using he/she pronouns tbh.Oh, that's fine.
Gender Identity is Male or Female in a general sense, and for those using other terms like Polygender, too.No, but... that's like if I asked you "what is a coordinate plane" and you said "x and y", except "x and y" have a dozen other meanings.
don't be entitled cuntsHey, another expression of:
Rulesof Internet Discussion
1. Don't be a dick.
Nonbinary: I guess that's what happens when you try to take a PERSON and then wedge them into a box. Sometimes you need more than one box, and sometimes one box fits better one day, and another box the next.
But, if I were to see a crossdresser on the streets that identifies as a man, I'd still call them she, unless they correct me, just to be sure.This is like Canadians/New Zealanders, right? Without any obvious clues as to true nationality, you just assume every North American relates to the maple leaf and every Antipodean is a Kiwi - the ones that are will be pleasantly surprised at your ability to correctly place them, whilst the ones that actually aren't will be amused but normally not at all upset by the error you just made. ;)
Yeah, we don't bite, much :P-snip-The trans people I have met are all surprisingly easy going about it actually. The internet prepared me to walk on egg shells, so it feels a strange disconnect from that expectation.
Well that might be because "triggered" and "microaggressions" both seem to be partly political concepts. Basically I see a wide gulf between (1) stuff that could reasonably upset people and (2) the "approved list" of Official Triggerstm.I'd REALLY love to know more about that highlighted bit though >_< because it doesn't seem a healthy place for many who browse the internet who are new to most things (like the ever-growing # of young people accessing the internet and stuff) given the quality of content in some parts which cause all those...things. o_O
It's honestly not surprising. How many regular women you know, even ones who call themselves feminists seem to get in a spin about even a fraction of the stuff that outrages the feminist blogs? A lot of things that have the "internet" in an uproar don't seem to even be on the radar of most regular people.[...]
Well it's just a personal observation. I almost never come across most of the attitudes and issues from the internet from people I meet in normal life.It's honestly not surprising. How many regular women you know, even ones who call themselves feminists seem to get in a spin about even a fraction of the stuff that outrages the feminist blogs? A lot of things that have the "internet" in an uproar don't seem to even be on the radar of most regular people.[...]I'd REALLY love to know more about that highlighted bit though >_< because it doesn't seem a healthy place for many who browse the internet who are new to most things (like the ever-growing # of young people accessing the internet and stuff) given the quality of content in some parts which cause all those...things. o_O
For example, the whole "manspreading" thing. There was a big campaign about it based on tumblr stuff. Then because of that, the NY Metro (and other transit systems), instituted public awareness campaigns about it. Yet, they also said they'd never received a single complaint about it. In fact, they said the most common complaint was about people taking up excessive seating space with bags. And notably, it's mostly women shown doing that in images.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Manspreading
The problem with the whole thing isn't that "manspreading" (infinicringe) isn't annoying, its that stuff like the tumblr buzz about it and its resulting effects blew up something that was essentialy a non issue to ridiculous proportions.For example, the whole "manspreading" thing. There was a big campaign about it based on tumblr stuff. Then because of that, the NY Metro (and other transit systems), instituted public awareness campaigns about it. Yet, they also said they'd never received a single complaint about it. In fact, they said the most common complaint was about people taking up excessive seating space with bags. And notably, it's mostly women shown doing that in images.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Manspreading
That's actually something that's pretty annoying in a car if your trying to fit 3 people in the back seat on a long trip. On a bus or train it pisses me off, but you just can tilt so your legs are in the aisle. Possibly you don't hear about it in real life because it's annoying but not worth bitching about? Where as on the net you can bitch anonymously about every little thing?
The problem with the whole thing isn't that "manspreading" (infinicringe) isn't annoying, its that stuff like the tumblr buzz about it and its resulting effects blew up something that was essentialy a non issue to ridiculous proportions.
The problem with the whole thing isn't that "manspreading" (infinicringe) isn't annoying, its that stuff like the tumblr buzz about it and its resulting effects blew up something that was essentialy a non issue to ridiculous proportions.
Did it though? I never saw the tumbler buzz about it, & I didn't see it ever become an issue outside of tumbler either. It often seems that the people who complain about tumbler being out of touch with reality are spending too much time watching what goes on on tumbler.
I'd like to note something for Lord lemonpie primarily; for people who make their sexuality a keypoint of their identity/existence, in my experience it's often or usually a result of being attacked for it. When other people make it the centerpiece of their perception of you, especially if it's one's parents, it can be both a defense mechanism and one of the only avenues left in which to feel like you belong. The principle seems fairly similar to how people get defensive and believe more strongly in their position if challenged on it. That being said, this goes for moderate-high amounts of centerpiecing, rather than internet troll/Poe's law levels.Yeah, I understand why they'd do it. I just hate those that are incredibly toxic about it, and I hate the fact that everyone assumes that because they're so gigantically vocal about it that has to mean I'm automatically like them too.
If you didn't see it, good job (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/09/13/men-taking-up-too-much-space-on-the-train_n_3921150.html) living under (https://www.tumblr.com/tagged/manspreading) an internet rock (http://yourballsarenotthatbig.tumblr.com/), as pretty much everyone made fun of the posts and videos that got posted about it by people that actualy took it seriously.
That attitude is also specially deleterious not only because it makes them a target for terrible people, but also warps society's view of the group they belong to. If you belong to group A and you make sure to be loud, toxic and flamboyant about your sexuality because you feel it is somehow a good defense mechanism against social rejection, and people end up getting a negative view of you, through generalization people will start thinking all members of said group are similar or the same.I'd like to note something for Lord lemonpie primarily; for people who make their sexuality a keypoint of their identity/existence, in my experience it's often or usually a result of being attacked for it. When other people make it the centerpiece of their perception of you, especially if it's one's parents, it can be both a defense mechanism and one of the only avenues left in which to feel like you belong. The principle seems fairly similar to how people get defensive and believe more strongly in their position if challenged on it. That being said, this goes for moderate-high amounts of centerpiecing, rather than internet troll/Poe's law levels.Yeah, I understand why they'd do it. I just hate those that are incredibly toxic about it, and I hate the fact that everyone assumes that because they're so gigantically vocal about it that has to mean I'm automatically like them too.
The problem with the whole thing isn't that "manspreading" (infinicringe) isn't annoying, its that stuff like the tumblr buzz about it and its resulting effects blew up something that was essentialy a non issue to ridiculous proportions.
Did it though? I never saw the tumbler buzz about it, & I didn't see it ever become an issue outside of tumbler either. It often seems that the people who complain about tumbler being out of touch with reality are spending too much time watching what goes on on tumbler.
A source, for those who (understandably) refuse to believe this absolute nonsense (http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/womens-life/11309866/Ban-manspreading-Brits-want-men-to-sit-with-their-legs-together.html). I refused to believe it when I first heard about it.The problem with the whole thing isn't that "manspreading" (infinicringe) isn't annoying, its that stuff like the tumblr buzz about it and its resulting effects blew up something that was essentialy a non issue to ridiculous proportions.
Did it though? I never saw the tumbler buzz about it, & I didn't see it ever become an issue outside of tumbler either. It often seems that the people who complain about tumbler being out of touch with reality are spending too much time watching what goes on on tumbler.
It leaked into the real-world with big posters about it everywhere on several cities metro services. That's certainly "outside of tumblr". And it was a distortion: if you read the relevant articles, the subway operators mentioned they'd never had a complaint about that specific thing yet it was the thing mentioned in bold letters at the top of the community service signs (above a number of other things written in small writing, which were the things people on the metro did actually complain about).
So gender dysphoria is a thing, or at least it is debatably a thing. Could someone have dysphoria over being a person? Could someone just dislike being a person, or being human so much that it develops into a mental disorder? I haven't been able to actually look up any examples, but there's that whole "otherkin" thing that has been going on in tumblr and such for a while. I kind of want to disclude them but that'd be a horrible bias, even if they do just want to be snowflakes.Theoretically, yes. But there's no useful treatment to recommend, so there's no point diagnosing someone with species dysphoria or whatever the technical term would be, and no research done into that sort of thing.
I mean, we do, and there are a few cases where such procedures actually happened. Thing is, it is a recognized mental disorder, and it has a name- schizotypal personality disorder....that's social anxiety and paranoia. That has nothing to do with otherkin AFAIK.
It generally ties into the "unconventional beliefs" part. To quote Wikipedia quoting the DSM-5:QuoteAt least five of the following symptoms must be present: ideas of reference, strange beliefs or magical thinking, abnormal perceptual experiences, strange thinking and speech, paranoia, inappropriate or constricted affect, strange behavior or appearance, lack of close friends, and excessive social anxiety that does not abate and stems from paranoia rather than negative judgments about self. These symptoms must not occur only during the course of a disorder with similar symptoms (such as schizophrenia or autism spectrum disorder).
It generally ties into the "unconventional beliefs" part. To quote Wikipedia quoting the DSM-5:Follow up to what Ispil said, I've read a bit about that part you mentioned tonnot, and there...is a background of this in (some?) people who claimed otherkin; the issue with those were that the background wasn't usually discussed compared to the claims given the openness of the internet and such. Compared to gender dysphoria, which isn't a mental illness or a disorder but was categorized within the DSM because it is a diagnosis, there's a notable degree of reference towards the above while in regards to gender, it has been recorded to happen to people regardless of their society and culture (eg we've cultures here in the Philippines which lack the usage of gendered pronouns [no thanks SPANIARD CONQUISTADORES], like in Davao and in the other areas in the Visayas, and there are people who are transgender there, with records as far as...those that haven't been burnt BY THOSE SPANIARDS, etc) even without a notable degree of reference other than a personal degree of reference.QuoteAt least five of the following symptoms must be present: ideas of reference, strange beliefs or magical thinking, abnormal perceptual experiences, strange thinking and speech, paranoia, inappropriate or constricted affect, strange behavior or appearance, lack of close friends, and excessive social anxiety that does not abate and stems from paranoia rather than negative judgments about self. These symptoms must not occur only during the course of a disorder with similar symptoms (such as schizophrenia or autism spectrum disorder).
You'd prob get balls of walking cancer that wouldn't be able to even use normal military equipment.Sadly, that's probably true. I don't think there's been any serious research in turning people into something else.
The greatest hope for otherkin and the furries on the even weirder side of the spectrum is VR avatars.
The difference between this and, say, gender dysphoria (I want to type diaspora for some reason), is that this goes beyond... actually, there's a whole lot of co-morbidity here with depression and other depressive disorders. Arguably gender dysphoria is a particular form of schizotypal personality disorder, though I just want to stress that the treatment of this disorder never is to "correct the strange thoughts". Usually it's a matter of coping, forming better social relationships (there's a lot of social anxiety involved here, which... can't say anything relating to that and gender dysphoria; others would need to weigh in), and in extreme cases surgical operation. Again, I have no idea to what degree gender dysphoria and social anxiety relating to paranoia tie into each other and would need others to weigh in. Additionally, most schizotypals simply see themselves as nonconformist or eccentric.
This week, the consultancy's focus is on why people of different genders play games, and the top takeaway for devs seems to be: men are most often motivated to compete, women most often want to complete things, and folks of non-binary gender are most motivated to play games in order to explore fantasies.
Gamers primarily found the Gamer Motivation Profile via social media sharing (67% of all traffic) on Facebook (91% of all social media traffic) and Twitter (4.9% of social media traffic). Referrals from other websites accounted for 26% of all traffic, primarily from an article on Ars Technica (62%). The remainder (5%) was from organic search.
A game about nonbinary genderfluid neuro divergent lesbians MURDERING THE SHIT OUT OF EACH OTHER.That's a similar premise to my current fiction project, actually.
A game about nonbinary genderfluid neuro divergent lesbians MURDERING THE SHIT OUT OF EACH OTHER.
What happens when there are few women in a community?A friend of mine has this idea that this is the problem with islamic immigrants (mainly of the young men, because there are no women and children refugees at all), plus in their original homelands where there are too few females anyway. I have big problems with those observations, so I'm not going to try to justify them, being plainly false in all important ways while I suddenly discover that I'm on 3% battery.
If we want to take a really reductionist approach to the topic, it's all just our brain wanting to minimize the thinking it does on generating an opinion on every individual. It takes some key characteristics, generalizes, and extrapolates to all others sharing those characteristics. At least, for explaining our cultural perception of sexual and gender norms. As for how they exist in an actual person? I'll be frank: I haven't a fucking clue. How someone sees themselves is entirely up to them and entirely their business.
Quote from: http://quanticfoundry.com/the-v23-sample/Gamers primarily found the Gamer Motivation Profile via social media sharing (67% of all traffic) on Facebook (91% of all social media traffic) and Twitter (4.9% of social media traffic). Referrals from other websites accounted for 26% of all traffic, primarily from an article on Ars Technica (62%). The remainder (5%) was from organic search.
SELF SELECTION BIAS
That makes sense, but it's still not representative of all gamers - it's skewed towards the opinions of people who play games and also Facebook, mostly lacking representation from people who don't use Facebook.Yeah, that's a bug.
Also my second quote in that post, which... I guess the forum upgrade broke somehow?
Yeah, that's a bug.
Wait, there's another bug? Huh.Yeah, that's a bug.Spoiler (click to show/hide)
The v2.3 sample consists of 239,205 gamers (counted as unique IP addesses).
Oh, cool. (https://goo.gl/qYqSCr)Comparison (https://goo.gl/k1HtG0). We match best in the Mastery components. Not at all in others.
It covers that:QuoteThe v2.3 sample consists of 239,205 gamers (counted as unique IP addesses).
I just took their survey and got https://goo.gl/fHfvDh
All that stuff your dad talks about reminds me how for a few transsexuals they act... Hyper feminine. To the extent that it was a typical way to clue into the fact that they are trans. Not so much that all Trans act hyper-feminine so much that I can't think of a time a woman acted hyper feminine.ONE article doesn't represent the breadth of possible knowledge :P
I am curious as to why this is the case... But I dare not research it because the last time I did I ended up reading a feminist article on how transfemales are a disgrace to womankind and need to stop pretending because they aren't real women.
ONE article doesn't represent the breadth of possible knowledge
Compensation, is my guess. Or celebration. Essentially, now they get to be a woman, and they've been holding that in for a long time, so they're reveling in it. Or they just really like being able to and take greater joy in it than someone for whom it's routine. And, of course, there's some who just are really feminine and it stands out more because it's maybe less expected. A woman being hyper-feminine maybe isn't considered hyper-feminine even if it's the same behaviors, because of the people they're around or because they're used to it and can do it in a way that's not really noticeable.QuoteONE article doesn't represent the breadth of possible knowledge
It is more that I don't want to step onto hate :P
The only time I read a anti-trans article I thought had genuinely good information in it... Was more about the success rate of gender realignment, which was stunningly low and suggests a larger problem with either gender dysphoria and/or surgery made to help with it and/or expectations surrounding it.
Which I'd also look up... but I have a feeling looking up "How unrealistic expectations cause post-operation depression in trans people" wouldn't get me search results I'd want.
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Anyhow I'd also chime in, because I need to be overt, that yes gender dysphoria is a thing. So don't worry about it.
My whole "Hyper femininity" pondering was more of an aside as well as wondering WHY that happens.
unless they actually feel uncomfortable in their body as-is, and deeply so
It is I, Dozebom, back from the undead, nowquestioning their genderI already did that, nowtransgenderunsure if gender is even a thingdenying their own sufferingconfused.
What does it mean to "identify" as a gender? One's concept of femininity or masculinity are just based on stereotypes, right?
Is dysphoria really a medical fabrication?
Arbitrary is a very ambiguous word (annoyingly), but that makes it out to be something very different than it is, as if a bunch of tribesfolk sat down on day and decided 'well, the men shall act in this manner and aspire to be such and such, and the women shall act in that manner and aspire to be so and so.'
Girls can wear jeans and cut their hair short, wear shirts and boots, because it's OK to be a boy, but for a boy to look like a girl is degrading, because you think that being a girl is degrading.
Masculine is good, feminine is bad. Women should act feminine. (This distinguishes them from the default of masculinity, and reinforces their inferiority.)
Masculine is good, feminine is bad. Let's free women by letting them act in a good way, a masculine way!
Gender is in everything; everything has its Masculine and Feminine Principles; Gender manifests on all planes.
“‘Man up’ is a big no no for liberals, intent on eliminating masculinity from our culture. Toxic masculinity and rape culture and all the other idiotic things they like to say in their war against men,” Yiannopoulos said. “I’ll tell you one UW Milwaukee student that doesn’t need to man up, Justine Kramer.” He then shared a photo of Adelaide Kramer (Justine is a former name), who was apparently in the audience at the time, on the screen while he proceeded to berate her.He then made some jokes about the student in question being non-passable, to which the audience all laughed.
“I’m sitting there and I hear him say ‘Justine Kramer’ and I just froze up. I have never, ever, ever been more terrified in my life of being outed. Ever,” she recalled. “And I am sitting there frozen in total terror that somebody around me would recognize me, point me out, and incite the mob of the room against me. Nobody did point me out, thank god. But do you have ANY idea how much power Milo had and how it feels to pray that your ability to ‘pass’ doesn’t fail you now?”
But the feminine isn't necessarily culturally bad, mind you.Oh, I know. A few minutes after the initial rush of SEEING THE TRUTH, I can see that this is one piece of the puzzle, not the entire puzzle itself.
It's just a much more exacting set of standards. Meeting the ideal of femininity - beauty, purity, chastity and so forth - is rewarded strongly.Ah, but there's a difference between "femininity is bad/good" and "femininity is discouraged/encouraged". Femininity could be encouraged for women, but also considered to be negative.
Notice, for instance, that transwomen who easily pass are much more kindly looked upon than those who do not - this is because they plausibly meet that feminine ideal and are difficult to distinguish from regular women. The ones that do not are also not beautiful according to the traditional feminine ideal, and their purity and chastity is called into question because they quite literally deviate from sexual norms.Yes! This is very similar to what I have been thinking about the Standard Trans (Woman) Narrative, which I dislike intensely. It's society's way of enforcing the gender binary even while people cross it - this person really is a woman, and the gender binary still works, see? She fits all the stereotypes! ::)
([And] the traditional view is that a crossdresser, for instance, is just a kind of weird sex pervert, which doesn't help matters at all).In TERF terminology, those people are "autogynephilics." I think I preferred "pervert." It's shorter, and doesn't dress up the hatred in medical terms.
Apparently Milo Yiannopoulos attacked a transwoman on stage at a college and held up a picture of her calling her a sick twisted person basically. And said person was in the audience. Can you imagine how that would feel?This is old news, but yeah. Milo's a piece of shit. And when college students say "get Yiannopoulos out of Minneapolis", the TERFs complain about "muh freeze peaches". We have the right to disallow abusive and hateful speech in our colleges - especially when the speech considered is that of an outsider being invited and given a platform. This isn't some student ranting about the "NIGGERS", this is different. Worse.
Also, he's advertising his speaking tour with posters that say "Trannies are Gay"Pffffff-
and "Trannies = Mentally Ill". When you combine that with the fact that he's using the pulpit of the stage to do hate speech against individual members of the audience, I can get why people are protesting against his tour, and it's not because "they hate free speech". I mean if a Neo-Nazi is coming to town to give a speech and puts up posters with swastikas on then that say "Gas the Jews" in big letters, and has a habit of turning the audience against specific Jews who turn up to see the speech, I should hope that you get a posse out to beat those guys heads in. There's a limit to acceptable free speech.This isn't even about free speech though. It's about a free platform. Free speech is free speech, an audience or a platform aren't free.
Well the article is 4 weeks old, so I don't think the specific story of him naming a specific transgender person who happened to be in the crowd is "old news", it's certainly not been mentioned here.In the Interwebs, 4 weeks old is ancient.
It is no news that Milo's a piece of shit, I'll agree with that.
-snip-In a more foundational sense--it's the connections of concepts being attached to what's being observed. :O hence why there's this feeling going about; there's a thought towards that feeling which gives it sense, but at the speed of thought at the time, it may not be directly apparent...So other than being a feminist thread, it's also a cognitive point. :P
Femininity could be encouraged for women, but also considered to be negative.
Indeed, I might agree that the feminine gender role is more restrictive than the masculine gender role. (This has certainly been historically accurate, but I'm less sure of it today. The restrictiveness variable alone could be lower for women than for men, considering that it is a composite of "how many choices are off-limits" and "how bad is 'off-limits' anyway" and "what happens if I go off-limits". A masculine woman would, perhaps, be less ostracized today than a feminine woman. But femininity itself - what does that cover? Is it less inclusive than masculinity? I'm not sure; if it is, then the composite of restrictiveness might still be lower for women.)QuoteFemininity could be encouraged for women, but also considered to be negative.
More often then not it isn't so much that femininity is considered a negative so much that it is extremely restrictive
...and considered a negative in most situations.I have no idea what this means. Are you saying that restrictiveness is considered negative? If so, that's a personal statement of value, which is distinct from my analysis of the cultural values associated with gender roles and their violation. In less compact language, you're saying that femininity is bad because it keeps women from doing things (which somewhat resembles my inherent negativity concept). I'm saying that femininity (or components of such) is considered to be bad by contemporary Western culture (or tends to be).
There is a strong idea, even today, that femininity and, for example, being a soldier are opposing ideas.This has several components: first, we've got the restrictiveness concept present, in that society tends to prevent women from becoming soldiers. Second, we notice that society assigns "woman and soldier" a negative value - . Then we have the general negative gender role ("woman should not fight") which corresponds to the general positive gender role ("woman should be weak and unable to defend herself") which is inherently harmful to women, mostly because it is related to violence and submissiveness/passiveness (i.e., not standing up for one's self).
There is more of an idea that femininity and masculinity compliment each other but are mutually exclusive (Which is easy to see why that ended up being a harmful view overall)Ah, but we can imagine the following scenario: women can do X (so says society). Men can do A, B, C, D, E, ... W, Y, Z. It certainly harms both men and women, but it harms women far more.
It is uncommon that femininity or masculinity gets a blanket idea of negativity.I disagree, although we have the complicated concept of....
Though at the same time... Back when women fashion was incredibly dangerous there was a LOT of criticism put towards it. Then again that isn't that femininity is a negative so much that one aspect of it is.Ah, so when you say "dangerous" you're referring to inherent negativity.
Sorry just an aside.Sorry, I just wrote a huge analysis only somewhat related to your aside. Still, it was fun and I had a few insights while writing it. (I only added the componential/gender-specific distinction at the end, when I realized that it was necessary to describe the difference between woman-soldier-bad and submissiveness-bad+woman-submissive-good.)
femininity, or aspects thereof, are commonly associated with negative things (stupid, bitchy, slutty, et cetera).
Uh no I think masculinity has more negative connotations. Femininity is put on a pedestal, much to the detriment of women and also deprecating men.
Woot!Yeah with the girl scouts it hasn't been an issue for some time now.
...I'm not optimistic enough to bet that the GSA has already allowed trans girls in.
Edit: I checked. My faith in humanity has improved somewhat. Woot!
I mean that femininity outside the limit roles women were prescribed, is considered a negative. If women "shouldn't" be window washers, for example, then femininity is considered a negative trait for window washers.Ahh... that's an interesting perspective. So you're saying that there is an expectation for all window washers to be less feminine, whether they're male or female? That seems to indicate a desire for "consistency" or homogeneity in gender traits - society doesn't like the contradiction of a woman having a "masculine" job and presenting as feminine.
As for "Dangerous fashion" I mean that in a very literal sense. Back when women's fashion could kill and damage a woman. For example lead based makeup.Ah, then that's
Oh, indeed, there are a variety of negative gender traits/insults/pejoratives - for men and women, whether they're defying gender or adhering to the stereotypes too much. Feels like Morton's Fork.Quotefemininity, or aspects thereof, are commonly associated with negative things (stupid, bitchy, slutty, et cetera).
Yes there are a lot of negative associations but the same goes with masculinity (though probably more to femininity)
But there is a difference between that... and a blanket negativity. A sort of "Being feminine is bad for anyone". Which probably has happened before, but not in American history that I can remember.Well, that's why I specified componential negativity. Femininity is more than the sum of its parts, or at least that's how society sees it. We can look at more subtle trends by analyzing the most common gender traits for men and women and determining how valuable or negative society sees each to be.
Uh no I think masculinity has more negative connotations. Femininity is put on a pedestal, much to the detriment of women and also deprecating men.This is, naturally, dependent on your experiences. Femininity and masculinity have both been praised and reviled - I'm not looking at the overall feeling of "is this good" people have about masculinity/femininity, I'm looking at the values associated with each component of gender.
Hmm... it might also depend on the situation, yes. I was considering only the individual culture that one experiences (which is, of course, different for people who grow up in different places and times), but the context of the values should not be ignored.Uh no I think masculinity has more negative connotations. Femininity is put on a pedestal, much to the detriment of women and also deprecating men.
It is more situation wise that I refer to it. In the job market.
I also disagree flat out with that assessment, Rolan. The culturally ideal forms of masculininity and femininity, historically speaking, are both lauded. Deviations from such are derided. Furthermore, many of the characteristics associated with femininity are negatively connotated in an indivualistic society. Obviously this varies based on locale and medium, but such traits as dependency, irrationality, submissiveness, manipulation, underhandedness, servility, physical frailty/weakness, and a lack of ambition are all traditionally considered feminine.
Yes, certainly, there's positive traits associated with it too, some of which are semi-modern reinterpretations of those traditional traits; cooperation, emotional expressiveness, understanding, supportive, humility, nurturing, subtlety. Feminism has done quite a bit to try and portray women in a more positive light and point out the flaws in a traditionally masculine approach, as well as enable women to act in non-feminine ways, and whether any individual interpretation goes too far and begins just degrading men in the name of uplifting women is a case-by-case question.
But for the general case of masculine vs. feminine traits, in the overall/generalized view of our society, still favors masculinity. (Current) capitalism favors ambition, a certain kind of ruthlessness, and pure logic, which is more associated with men, even while serenity rather than anger is more associated with women. Yes, that is contradictory. Individualism favors independence, ambition, and the active rather than passive. Most moral systems dislike manipulation, which is the typical example of how women are portrayed smarter than men in media; by getting one over on them or manipulating them into doing their will, often followed by "men are so gullible/such idiots/so easy to manipulate" with a co-conspirator to drive the point home. We can find it funny because it's usually fairly harmless.
I disagree about most any of these traits being inherently negative. Even things like masculinity and wrathfulness are rooted in honor culture where reputation for vengeance is perhaps one of the only ways to have security for yourself and family. Rationality is perhaps an inherently positive trait in my opinion, but that's because I'm very logically oriented, and being able to express one's emotions/factor in emotions is a very important skill for social interaction, which, in a species like ours, is perhaps the single most useful ability to have.
I meant the boy scouts and the girls scouts accepting transgender people, it's just a good sign that it's becoming a bit more acceptable even if it's just a little.
And yeah I know the feeling, I'm still in the same situation too in that area.
For one, it’s not as if we are holding out for Jake Gyllenhaal, but we do have certain non-negotiable expectations for potential mates that include college degrees and white-collar jobs. Life has always gone according to our plans, so why wouldn’t we land a man with these (reasonable) requirements?
High-flying Asian-Americans, like the three authors of the Ascend report, suggest that cultural patterns may contribute to the group’s under-representation at the top. “There’s something in the upbringing that makes Asians shy,” says Mr Gee. “Engineers are nerds, but within that self-selected group of nerds, Asians are even more nerdy.” “We’re brought up to be humble,” says Ms Wong. “My parents didn’t want to rock the boat. It’s about being quiet, not making waves, being part of the team. In corporate life, you have to learn to toot your horn.” “There’s a natural order of human relationships in Confucianism,” says Ms Peck. “You don’t argue, you don’t contradict authority.” Asian-Americans are a large, diverse group exposed to a range of influences, but those who do reflect such patterns may be less likely to bid for leadership, even if they are highly qualified. The comparative prominence of South Asians, who are less likely to be told not to “rock the boat”—for instance, Indra Nooyi at PepsiCo and Ajay Banga at MasterCard—is cited as anecdotal evidence.
The label "minority" attached to women never made a whole lot of sense to start with. It was intended for races, because those races were in fact smaller than 50% of the population. In fact, it's going to cease being useful pretty soon, as they're predicting that the non-hispanic white population will drop below 50% by the middle of this century, meaning white people are strictly speaking a minority of the population as well.
Majority and minority have pretty well defined meanings and attempts to redefine "minority" to include women (https://www.boundless.com/sociology/textbooks/boundless-sociology-textbook/gender-stratification-and-inequality-11/women-as-a-minority-88/women-as-a-minority-507-10466/) (who make up 51% of the population) based on "privilege" is in fact just poisonous to the language itself in the long run. As the cognitive dissonance over a group who are less of the population being called a "minority" shows. There are less men that women in total.
Women are in fact the majority of the US population. So women are both the majority and a minority. What does that make men then? They're neither the majority and we're not allowed to call them a minority, so we have no label for them in that system.
Although if things continue like they are with women getting 60% of the degrees over a generation or two, that might become more of a valid observation.
Let me describe some stats about women's vs men's wages and show the double standard about preponderence of evidence:
Women without kids under 30 outearn similarly aged single men by a full 8%. (http://content.time.com/time/business/article/0,8599,2015274,00.html)
One retort to this (an actual one I observed) was that this isn't "everywhere" so it's bullshit. Sure, it's "merely" in the largest 147 out of 150 cities in the USA. Right? So it's not exactly everywhere so at least one feminist commentor dismissed it. What you have there is a clear closed mind to new information that might upset a worldview. Which is way more conservative than liberal in actual thought patterns. It's like arguing with a creationist.
Another retort was that when you adjust for level of education, and job sector etc, then the 8% bonus to women goes away. So it's actually completely fair. But think about it, the female wage gap people usually get angry when commentators do those exact same "adjustments" to show that the female wage gap is much smaller than the headline stats suggest. And they would get angry if someone was to point out that, and say "see, men earning more is fair". In other words, you can use an argument but you have to be willing to apply it with universality, it can never be a double-standard. Either we take the raw wage figures to compare group vs group or we allow all the same adjustments on each side, not one and the other.
But that is also posited on it being fair that women get more degrees than men. When men were getting more degrees, this was taken as proof itself that the system was biased, therefore any benefits earned by men were not really earned. But as soon as women get an overwhelmingly larger share of the pie, they want to point to hard work, and that they earned it, and it's completely fair. Again, you can't have that both ways. If there's a systemic bias then it's either rigged or not rigged, you can't only claim it's rigged when your team is losing.
Another example is IQ testing. Now that women have 0.5 IQ point lead on men they want to say it's biological, but when men were ahead they wanted to say it was social. Jesus, either stick with one or the other, don't flip-flop on nature/nurture depending on who's "team" is ahead. And of course if someone said "blacks low IQ is genetic" then that would be a killing offense, but if you said ... "black women have better genes for IQ than black men" then of course, you're the new hero of the cause. My view is that the new-found female lead in IQ is purely due to the little extra schooling they are getting on average - the Flynn Effect, and no need to assumed gendered IQ genes whatsoever.
you can't only claim it's rigged when your team is losing
Yeah we do have a term for that - confirmation bias.Doesn't quite seem to cover it. It's more like, "when stuff is going bad for me, it's not natural, it's someone else's fault."
Blameshifting is the word my mother uses; my father gives her plenty of opportunities to use it. Scapegoating is Wikipedia's recommendation.Yeah we do have a term for that - confirmation bias.Doesn't quite seem to cover it. It's more like, "when stuff is going bad for me, it's not natural, it's someone else's fault."
Well I was looking at your article that says 41% of berkeley and 44% of Caltech students are Asian-American. Since they only make up 5% of the population, that's a massive over-representation.If you look at what CalTech and Berkeley admit people on, and look at who national merit scholarships are given out to, and how that stands relative to Ivy League admission rates, you might notice that Asian Americans get about 40% of NMS Awards as well. Which is purely based on grades and academic ability, as is Caltech. And then Ivy League schools discriminate against them because they aren't considered 'deserving' minorities. To the point where it's becoming significantly more common for half-Asian teenagers to put down their ethnicity as white on college applications.
And later in the article they say that some highly regarded Asian businessmen said:QuoteHigh-flying Asian-Americans, like the three authors of the Ascend report, suggest that cultural patterns may contribute to the group’s under-representation at the top. “There’s something in the upbringing that makes Asians shy,” says Mr Gee. “Engineers are nerds, but within that self-selected group of nerds, Asians are even more nerdy.” “We’re brought up to be humble,” says Ms Wong. “My parents didn’t want to rock the boat. It’s about being quiet, not making waves, being part of the team. In corporate life, you have to learn to toot your horn.” “There’s a natural order of human relationships in Confucianism,” says Ms Peck. “You don’t argue, you don’t contradict authority.” Asian-Americans are a large, diverse group exposed to a range of influences, but those who do reflect such patterns may be less likely to bid for leadership, even if they are highly qualified. The comparative prominence of South Asians, who are less likely to be told not to “rock the boat”—for instance, Indra Nooyi at PepsiCo and Ajay Banga at MasterCard—is cited as anecdotal evidence.
So in other words they're saying Asian cultural norms aren't aggressive enough to make it in the cut-throat world of getting to the top in American business, whereas Indians, they come from a much louder and competitive culture, so you see more of those than East Asians busting through and becoming CEOs and even into high levels of government now.
I'd say it is confirmation bias as the mechanism but it's driven by ingroup/outgroup dynamicsDo note--for cognitive mechanisms and all, that's just a tiny part of the influence :P There is MUCH MUCH more to driving these observations we all see here.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ingroups_and_outgroups
The label "minority" attached to women never made a whole lot of sense to start with. It was intended for races, because those races were in fact smaller than 50% of the population. In fact, it's going to cease being useful pretty soon, as they're predicting that the non-hispanic white population will drop below 50% by the middle of this century, meaning white people are strictly speaking a minority of the population as well.
Majority and minority have pretty well defined meanings and attempts to redefine "minority" to include women (https://www.boundless.com/sociology/textbooks/boundless-sociology-textbook/gender-stratification-and-inequality-11/women-as-a-minority-88/women-as-a-minority-507-10466/) (who make up 51% of the population) based on "privilege" is in fact just poisonous to the language itself in the long run. As the cognitive dissonance over a group who are less of the population being called a "minority" shows. There are less men that women in total.
Women are in fact the majority of the US population. So women are both the majority and a minority. What does that make men then? They're neither the majority and we're not allowed to call them a minority, so we have no label for them in that system.
The label "minority" attached to women never made a whole lot of sense to start with. It was intended for races, because those races were in fact smaller than 50% of the population. In fact, it's going to cease being useful pretty soon, as they're predicting that the non-hispanic white population will drop below 50% by the middle of this century, meaning white people are strictly speaking a minority of the population as well.
Majority and minority have pretty well defined meanings and attempts to redefine "minority" to include women (https://www.boundless.com/sociology/textbooks/boundless-sociology-textbook/gender-stratification-and-inequality-11/women-as-a-minority-88/women-as-a-minority-507-10466/) (who make up 51% of the population) based on "privilege" is in fact just poisonous to the language itself in the long run. As the cognitive dissonance over a group who are less of the population being called a "minority" shows. There are less men that women in total.
Women are in fact the majority of the US population. So women are both the majority and a minority. What does that make men then? They're neither the majority and we're not allowed to call them a minority, so we have no label for them in that system.
I think in this case majority/minority refers to who wields power. By and large, governmentally and privately, men wield disproportionately more power than women, and thus have a majority of power, in that regard.
Well here's an on topic news story (http://www.smh.com.au/national/education/sydney-university-defends-new-scholarship-that-favours-men-as-consistent-with-diversity-20170208-gu84l6.html) of diversity rules cutting both ways. Scholarships for rural remote males to get into veterinary courses at the uni in order to promote diversity in the 80% female field. This has rustled a lot of jimmies. As someone from regional/remote Australia, suggesting that these blokes aren't disadvantaged pisses me off something fierce. It's only a preference, though it makes me wonder, what's the point of trying to balance fields where one gender is just flat out less interested? Doesn't that just cut off a good number of talented and ambitious folk in order to balance the scales to a 50/50?I feel like 30%-40% is an important ratio, actually. My highschool and college were both heavily slanted gender-wise in one direction (opposite directions though, interestingly), but because they were around that range it didn't feel like "oh this is a place for mostly men/women". I wonder if there is any research on when the ratio between men and women creates a feeling of there being more men than women or visa versa. Obviously no one can tell if it's between 45%-55%, and it's obvious if it's 10%/90%, but what about 20/80? 25/75? 35/65? It's an interesting question, actually. Hmm... Now that's interesting.
Like, I mean, if you run with the assumption that both genders are equally capable, which I think is the popular opinion of people advocating gender quotas(and myself), wouldn't you end up with something like this?Spoiler (click to show/hide)
Though I have heard a big part of it is getting to a fairly decent threshold of like, 30-40% representation, so that you don't feel as though you are penetrating a gendered culture. That I can certainly understand, especially for politics, or jobs with an equal draw.
not sexualized like laura croft,
Honestly, I think I like that there's a scholarship for men in a field where there aren't men. I am okay with that.
Well here's an on topic news story (http://www.smh.com.au/national/education/sydney-university-defends-new-scholarship-that-favours-men-as-consistent-with-diversity-20170208-gu84l6.html) of diversity rules cutting both ways. Scholarships for rural remote males to get into veterinary courses at the uni in order to promote diversity in the 80% female field. This has rustled a lot of jimmies. As someone from regional/remote Australia, suggesting that these blokes aren't disadvantaged pisses me off something fierce. It's only a preference, though it makes me wonder, what's the point of trying to balance fields where one gender is just flat out less interested? Doesn't that just cut off a good number of talented and ambitious folk in order to balance the scales to a 50/50?
Like, I mean, if you run with the assumption that both genders are equally capable, which I think is the popular opinion of people advocating gender quotas(and myself), wouldn't you end up with something like this?Spoiler (click to show/hide)
Though I have heard a big part of it is getting to a fairly decent threshold of like, 30-40% representation, so that you don't feel as though you are penetrating a gendered culture. That I can certainly understand, especially for politics, or jobs with an equal draw.
Quotenot sexualized like laura croft,-snoop-
I'm sorry how was Croft sexualized in the 2013 reboot?
But notice how your specific statement is: "Movies before Ghostbusters were bad, and Ghostbusters is more progressive now!... Cry more haters CRY!"It's just unrelated to what I was saying. How many times do I have to say Ghostbusters wasn't a good movie, or that it profited on manufactured controversy?
What's really important isn't what people think or feel; it's that we use an extremely simple dichotomy created to be politically expedient for medieval nobility.
We need to disregard governmental competence, personal and professional ethics, respect for truth and science, and the laws and foundational documents of the nation, and this is because SJWs are trying to "tell me what to think" (actual quote). SJWs are omnipresent and unstoppable, more powerful even than my beloved patriarchal god.
Oh I know what you think I said
No. They can't.
It's a dogmatic tribe sometimes. If you disagree, you are a sexist
Since just because you have a point, it doesn't mean you are right.
This is why we need to self-police. Because otherwise, we will become a totally dogmatic tribe, and then women will suffer.
Same way as AA does it...This is why we need to self-police. Because otherwise, we will become a totally dogmatic tribe, and then women will suffer.
I can cite research suggesting the dogmatic male/perp <> female/victim dichotomy in fact creates more female victims.
For example, read up the wiki page for the Duluth Model of treating domestic violence, it's based on the "patriarchy made them do it" model so they focus entirely on "deprogramming / re-education" of the male's patriarchal attitudes. And proponents of the model are actively hostile to things such as teaching anger management, conflict resolution skills, and other psychological bases for why people are aggressive or violent. Because to admit that other factors exist would be to admit that the "patriarchy made them do it" argument isn't 100% the truth. e.g. if you admitted that anger management could reduce wife battering, then you're admitting that there's some actual trigger that caused the man to get angry, not just "wanting to control his woman", which the Duluth people are all about.
Even one of the main creators of the program now calls the entire thing out as bullshit. She says now that almost zero % of men were professing attitudes that they were "supposed" to, but the proponents of the model only saw what they wanted and decided that 100% of the men were lying or in denial, and were really getting violent in an attempt to control the women, and not the actually multitude of reasons the men said were the cause. But "the program" cannot be questioned, and that founders's doubts are now taboo, they only selectively quote her when promoting "the program".
The Duluth model has one of those trick self-selection issues when they report the "success" of the program. People who attended every meeting were less likely to re-offend than people who didn't. But the problem is that when you conduct a controlled trial, participants in the Duluth Model are no less likely to re-offend than those who never participated in any program. People who are less likely to re-offend just attend more sessions on average. They have the causation backwards. So in fact it's a convoluted pile of bullshit which has come to completely dominate how people try and deal with domestic batterers that has an overall zero % success rate, and is actually hostile to proven clinical approaches that actually work.
I fully understand why people would hate the meetings, detest the steps, balk at the idea that they’ll end up in an institution or dead if they don’t follow the program, flinch at the pressure they may feel to identify themselves as alcoholic before they’ve even had time to process what’s going on and rail against the idea that God is mentioned.
Ok here is something that is just WEEEEIRD when you think about it.
Ok here is something that is just WEEEEIRD when you think about it.Beep boop :P Cultural context I believe is western? It all feels very applicably generalizing if seen overall but there's a lot of differences that don't make it as it seemed when first said in cultural contexts.
Both Men AND Women have an idea of their own personal ideal sexuality.
Or let me say that in a way that is hopefully clearer.
The male ideal of male sexuality... Is different and often contrary to the female ideal of male sexuality.
The same likewise applies to women. Their idea of ideal female sexuality... is different and often contrary to the male ideal of female sexuality.
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I find it perplexing on some level that as a species that we aren't a bit more compatible
Actually... Why is it that we aren't more compatible? Is there a reason why this is beneficial?
Ok here is something that is just WEEEEIRD when you think about it.
I'm not sure I follow what you mean. You're saying that Men collectively have commonalities in their sexualities (as do Women), which are somehow opposite when divided along biosex / gender lines or something? Can you explain what these ideals are in your mind? Or I guess, provide examples of what they might be if you meant this as an individual thing with common themes based on someone's sex? Also, are you talking about what kind of people are attractive to them, or the ways in which they want to have sex, or what?
I think I disagree with part of the argument, but I want to be sure I understand the point you're making first.
If you could provide a specific example, Neo, it would help a lot. Like... beards or something.
Obviously this is all solved by simply being attracted to the same gender!
Just in brief, I'm not sure we can generalize attraction like that. Preferences and such are pretty personal. Any two Men who are attracted to other Men are not necessarily going to be attracted to the same things, you know? Same goes for any two hetero folks who share a sex or gender.
Oh neat, I found the thing you're referencing (or something like it) http://www.shortpacked.com/2011/comic/book-13/05-the-death-of-snkrs/falseequivalence/
Edit: Oooh, 5-year-old Disqus arguments
The demand for employees in STEM careers (science, technology, engineering and math) is particularly high, as corporations compete to attract skilled professionals in the international market. What is known as "curriculum intensification" is often used around the world to attract more university entrants -- and particularly more women -- to these subjects; that is to say, students have on average more mandatory math courses at a higher level. Scientists from the LEAD Graduate School and Research Network at the University of Tubingen have now studied whether more advanced math lessons at high schools actually encourages women to pursue STEM careers. Their work shows that an increase in advanced math courses during two years before the final school-leaving exams does not automatically create the desired effects. On the contrary: one upper secondary school reform in Germany, where all high school students have to take higher level math courses, has only increased the gender differences regarding their interests in activities related to the STEM fields. The young female students' belief in their own math abilities was lower after the reform than before. The results have now been published in the Journal of Educational Psychology.
These comments. It's the first time in ages that I've seen SJWs out in the wild, as opposed to in the rantings of right-wing forumites.
These comments. It's the first time in ages that I've seen SJWs out in the wild, as opposed to in the rantings of right-wing forumites.
In fact... What men to find super sexy in other men... are often turn offs in women.
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In fact... Why even have this as a trait?
Why have men find certain male traits attractive and desirable... If women find them abhorrent?
And likewise why have women find certain female traits attractive and desirable... If men find them abhorrent?
Yeah men and women have commonalities... But why is there such a difference between the two?
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The one thing I can guess... judging by these traits is...
Competition within the genders (Not for mates).
And finding traits that would be considered "sexy" or "attractive" in yourself means you will actively seek it out in order to one up your peers who would typically be gender segregated anyhow in nature.
And the fact that these traits aren't shared could be a way to limit it in some way.
Why have so many of you murdered your avatars? Are you all slowly morphing into faceless, amorphous and asexual monstrosities? Should I learn to build a flamethrower, just in case?It's the latest avatarfad. It's like No Wave, except No Avatar.
Gender Roles were about recuperating lost population quickly, in the days before medicine, hygine, and you know... most tools.
Anyway, that's why genders exist, and why modern medical advances, bathing and hygiene, etc. make them obsolete
There is still a need for mothers and fathers to name the easiest example that comes to mind.There's a need for caregivers, yes, but who says that one of them has to take a distinct "homemaker" role and one of them has to take an "educator" role? And for that matter, why does the homemaker have to be female, and why does the educator have to be male?
There is still a need for mothers and fathers to name the easiest example that comes to mind.There's a need for caregivers, yes, but who says that one of them has to take a distinct "homemaker" role and one of them has to take an "educator" role? And for that matter, why does the homemaker have to be female, and why does the educator have to be male?
Well, I can't see what else you mean by a need for mothers and fathers. If you're referring to biologically, that's entirely separate from gender roles.There is still a need for mothers and fathers to name the easiest example that comes to mind.There's a need for caregivers, yes, but who says that one of them has to take a distinct "homemaker" role and one of them has to take an "educator" role? And for that matter, why does the homemaker have to be female, and why does the educator have to be male?
Did I say that? I don't think I did.
Well, I can't see what else you mean by a need for mothers and fathers. If you're referring to biologically, that's entirely separate from gender roles.
So then, define "mother" and "father".Well, I can't see what else you mean by a need for mothers and fathers. If you're referring to biologically, that's entirely separate from gender roles.
A Mother and Father are both primary caregivers and in many ways equivalents... But they are not the same thing.
1. a mother in relation to her child or childrenMost experts agree the tautological argument is deeply flawed.
Quote1. a mother in relation to her child or childrenMost experts agree the tautological argument is deeply flawed.
You have a point, but I figured it was implied that he would tell me what the important distinguishing features between a mother and a father are, outside of the mother being a woman and the father being a man.Quote1. a mother in relation to her child or childrenMost experts agree the tautological argument is deeply flawed.
To be fair, you did ask for a definition.
Goodness you REALLY cannot unhinge mother and fatherhood from biology so easily...
I mean for example the mother's cooing and oscillation during the early years actually trains the babies ability to distinguish pitches. Though I guess that is biological (though I guess a guy could REALLY pitch his voice up)
The mother and the father also the first informants of femininity and masculinity. Deprivation of this has WAAAY exaggerated results mind you, but it is still important.
But even if that role is biologically informed, it is still a gender role nonetheless.
Even then, there is a huge difference in how feminity and masculinity is viewed accross different cultures, and I don't mean just the modern world.
everywhere you look, you'll find that the word for 'mother' or 'mama' is pretty similar throughout, same for 'father' or 'papa'. So, the roots of those words go all the way to the very origins of the Indo-European language family tree
The mother is the one the baby comes out of. The father is how the baby was inside the mother in the first place.
Orphanage and adoption as well as divorce and remarriage make this more complicated.
Er, they can't exist without each other. It's about division of labor.
Males: Do the risky things that can expend your energy, get you wounded, infected by disease, and/or killed.
Females: Do the less energy-intensive things that expose you to less risk of death, so you can bear kids this year.
Sexual dimorphism in humans reflects this a LITTLE bit (and traits we think of as Male or Female), but we've not been living in societies for long enough for it to go to extremes. And we're not tournament species really, so our dimorphism is way less than in other species.
Female population count is the maximum number of children that can be born to that tribe/settlement/society that year. Keeping women alive, and risking men, makes sense, when you're struggling against mortality all the time. Anyway, that's why genders exist, and why modern medical advances, bathing and hygiene, etc. make them obsolete.
So, when was the last time you were privileged?5th April, 1923, when I breathed my last breath as the 5th Earl of Carnarvon. Nine months later, I was born once more, but this time to an unwed mother who was 'temporarily' residing in a Glasgow workhouse. I bounced back, the next lifetime, but have not yet gained again the heady heights of aristocracy... Ah well, you win some, you lose some. Here's hoping for the next circuit on the everchanging rollercoaster(/occasionally watersplash) of Fate!
The mother is the one the baby comes out of. The father is how the baby was inside the mother in the first place.
Orphanage and adoption as well as divorce and remarriage make this more complicated.
So I am ticked off. (Not from anyone here)
So, when was the last time you were privileged?
So I am ticked off. (Not from anyone here)There are some people who use it stupidly, but I think trying to understand it is important for understanding other people and the hardships they go through.
So, when was the last time you were privileged?
You aren't an evil person for having it
So I am ticked off. (Not from anyone here)I got my current job through a connection I made during my last job, in social circles not everybody realistically has access to.
So, when was the last time you were privileged?
Pretending everyone starts out on equal footing in all they do is intellectually dishonest, as is the entire 'meritocracy' lie people like me tend to build up on top of that in order to feel superior.
But it's important to realise that there are some things that I am never going to experience just because of the way I was born and it's better to let those people talk on that subject instead of me
In the gun example it's more like people denying that you got shot at all, it's not helpful to the situation doesn't add to the conversation and you are still going to bleed out despite them denying it.
If you don't believe in global warming you aren't going to be a valuable voice in the conversation about how to stop it
Maybe you just smeared blood on yourself though, maybe you are lying about the pain.
Like I said this is the situation where privilege is a problem, if you ask legitimate questions I don't think you should be silenced. If they deny you have a gunshot wound however they are never going to take you to a hospital no matter how much you plead to them
They can offer good points but if they just repeat there is no global warming despite the evidence and say that we don't need a fix it's not really going to help the problem
No you aren't but if you move on to people who actually listen instead of continuing to plead to the people who aren't even trying then you might get to the hospital. It's not about people being idiots it's about them not even trying to understand.
Privilege is a barrier in understanding, it's one you can overcome though. If you are actually trying I don't think you should be silenced, I don't think it's helpful in a conversation though to have people just deny it.
It would be like in this conversation instead of talking about what it means to both of us just me saying again and again no one misuses the word privilege and you are an idiot for saying so. That doesn't help at all and isn't going to lead to new understanding when I don't even listen to what you have to say.
Privilege is privilege. It is fluid, very specific, but doesn't necessarily impair empathy or understanding. Someone who has money hasn't always had money, and someone with no money doesn't necessarily have problems with money. Yet even within that there are shared common experiences. IF I took what you said at face value then explaining my injury would be pointless altogether regardless of what cult you created to help me.
Goodness you REALLY cannot unhinge mother and fatherhood from biology so easily...TIL children of gay men are tone deaf.
I mean for example the mother's cooing and oscillation during the early years actually trains the babies ability to distinguish pitches. Though I guess that is biological (though I guess a guy could REALLY pitch his voice up)
The mother and the father also the first informants of femininity and masculinity. Deprivation of this has WAAAY exaggerated results mind you, but it is still important.
But even if that role is biologically informed, it is still a gender role nonetheless.
Privilege is privilege. It is fluid, very specific, but doesn't necessarily impair empathy or understanding. Someone who has money hasn't always had money, and someone with no money doesn't necessarily have problems with money. Yet even within that there are shared common experiences. IF I took what you said at face value then explaining my injury would be pointless altogether regardless of what cult you created to help me.
That fluidity doesn't readily apply to race, gender, disability or lack of thereof, etc though.
Just because some people use it poorly doesn't mean the entire concept is flawed.
TIL children of gay men are tone deaf.
That fluidity doesn't readily apply to race, gender, disability or lack of thereof, etc though.
QuoteJust because some people use it poorly doesn't mean the entire concept is flawed.
It is never used correctly. NEVER![citation needed] You cannot tell someone to check their privilege without creating that flaw. This is because it can only be used correctly on yourself and not other people, but it is created to be used on others.
Why can't you tell people that they should try to realize the ways in which their life can be privileged compared to others?
OHHH citation needed Sheb? Ok... This is fun!
How many sources DO you need here?
No really. 36 Questions Women have for Men a good enough video?
"Why do men hate when you tell them to check their privilege? Just check it, AND DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT" (Which by the "Do something about it" is the immediate... misuse)
QuoteWhy can't you tell people that they should try to realize the ways in which their life can be privileged compared to others?
-1) Because you are making assumptions about their privilege based on superficial characteristics.
-2)You are making judgements based on the privilege to create a heigharchy (Dang spell check, I give up!) of validity and need. Hmm... A line of thinking where some people are better than others based on the color of their skin... hmm...
-3) You aren't asking someone to understand someone elses POV and through that lens understand what they truly have. You are asking someone to come to vague conclusions about their privilege based on vague notions that often cannot be defined, quantified, or don't even apply.
1) Well, mate, I'm sorry to break it to you, but if you're a man, it makes sense to assume that you don't suffer from everyday sexism the way a woman does
How is the "Do something about it" misuse?
I have a chocolate bar, I should do something about it. I am homeless, but I am a man... I should do something about it.
The way it is positioned is hilarious! Because she says you aren't a bad person for being privileged, but goes on to essentially say that your privilege should be dealt with as if it is a disease or some mortal sin.
Now you just made an assumption based on the experiences of all women and all men. So you are talking for all women and men.
Goodness is checking your privilege just the overflowing font of equality in that: It is equally sexist to both genders.
But how about you list those Privileges that a MAN has? Not "Men", a Man.
The underlying system that means that some group have privileges over other should be dismantled
Just checking, but you're still arguing in good faith and not being purposefully obtuse, right? Or maybe it's just your style of writing I have trouble understanding.
QuoteThe underlying system that means that some group have privileges over other should be dismantled
I am smart, I have a privilege over dumb people. I should have my intelligence dismantled.
That is why that assumption doesn't work wholesale.
IN FACT IT HAS A DOUBLE ASSUMPTION!
I am smart, therefor I am the only person or group who is smart.
WAIT! Triple assumption
I am smart, therefor I am purely advantaged over people who are dumb.
It isn't like smart people have higher rates of depression than people who are dumb and thus we cannot look at it as purely advantage or disadvantage.
WAIT!!! FOURTH assumption
They are dumb, therefor they are purely disadvantaged over people who are smart.
Actually one of the reason I'm not that fond of the term privilege, because it seems to imply that the goal is to bring the privileged groups down rather than brings the other one up, but that's the term that stuck so well, gotta roll with it.
Maybe it's because I'm French-speaking, so for me privileges means stuff like the privilege of the nobility, but for me those three things are part of the definition of privileges. Privileges are advantages that you get from belonging to a given group but didn't do anything to deserve
Well, 1) A privilege is by its definition positive. Now, if membership of a group gives you some advantage but also expose you to discrimination what does that change? Both should be challenged.
If it is shared by other groups too, then it just mean that this other groups should also loose the same privileges.
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If it is shared by other groups too, then it just mean that this other groups should also loose the same privileges.
What if that group IS the "Disadvantaged" group?
QuoteThe underlying system that means that some group have privileges over other should be dismantled
I am smart, I have a privilege over dumb people. I should have my intelligence dismantled.
Wasn't the entire basis of Checking your Privilege was that privilege itself prevents you from understanding those without it? Sounds like by that definition a privilege IS a disadvantage as well.
This conversation is rather hard to follow, so I might be misinterpreting this, but - seriously? Privilege is not synonymous with success.
That's hardly a meaningful disadvantage.
QuoteThis conversation is rather hard to follow, so I might be misinterpreting this, but - seriously? Privilege is not synonymous with success.
I am very VERY hard to follow so I don't blame you.
(1) My words was a counterpoint that any advantage someone has over someone else "needs to be dealt with".
So I gave an example of an advantage that not only cannot be dealt with, but would be oppressive if it could.
(2) As well if an advantage doesn't lead to success, you are no longer advantaged. As well an advantage that isn't accessible isn't an advantage eitherQuoteThat's hardly a meaningful disadvantage.
What age demographics are we talking about?
Hmm, it stands to reason in a marital environment. Actually, I think that the concept that men only like sex is really just based on the idealized male fantasy, anyways.
I still find it surprising that women value sex more than men when they're married, though. It sheds some interesting light on abstinent couples. My parents became sexually abstinent not long after my birth (I asked, and I doubt they had any reason to lie) and sometimes they can have trouble relating to each other.
Well, I mean that in a more mature company I think it is already taken for granted that healthy, mature males aren't sex-hungry pick-up artists. It's just that those minority resonate more with media.Hmm, it stands to reason in a marital environment. Actually, I think that the concept that men only like sex is really just based on the idealized male fantasy, anyways.
I still find it surprising that women value sex more than men when they're married, though. It sheds some interesting light on abstinent couples. My parents became sexually abstinent not long after my birth (I asked, and I doubt they had any reason to lie) and sometimes they can have trouble relating to each other.
It is based on a lot more than the idealized male fantasy (a thing that has been demonized to hell and back), but for a general idea it is acceptable as it doesn't matter where the idea came from.
It is a topic worthy of speaking on its own given the whole "Men are rapists" thing gone out of dang control and reached a serious boiling point.I don't think this has more than a tangential relation to the behaviors of sexual deviants. The beliefs that men are rapists are a product of fear of men, which in turn is caused by machismo. Society is doing well so far to disassociate controlling behaviors from gender.
Then again I also looked at the concept of pick-up artists and sort of realized that a big part of it has to do with the fact that men, as a whole, need to initiate in our society and as such the entire hones is on them to be charming.
Which means they are more observable.
It is a topic worthy of speaking on its own given the whole "Men are rapists" thing gone out of dang control and reached a serious boiling point.I don't think this has more than a tangential relation to the behaviors of sexual deviants. The beliefs that men are rapists are a product of fear of men, which in turn is caused by machismo. Society is doing well so far to disassociate controlling behaviors from gender.
Then again I also looked at the concept of pick-up artists and sort of realized that a big part of it has to do with the fact that men, as a whole, need to initiate in our society and as such the entire hones is on them to be charming.
Which means they are more observable.
Such "toxic" masculine norms include dominance, devaluation of women, extreme self-reliance, and the suppression of emotions.
Assuming you do though, be cautious about conflating statements about "People who are Toxically Masculine", and seeing them as statements about "All People who are Male-Identifying". Because that's fucking absurd. And is probably what leads to the majority of the "Feminists think Men are Bad" arguments you hear out of various internet asshats.
risk-taking, violence, dominance, primacy of work, disdain for homosexuality, need for emotional control, desire to win, and pursuit of social status
"toxic" masculine norms, such as self-reliance, seeking power over women, and sexual promiscuity or "playboy" behavior
I'm trying really hard, Neonivek, for a good while prior to now. But I keep getting the sense there's facets of this discussion that you balk at, or preconceptions just don't want to step back and examine.
This is gettin' silly. I'm checking out of the thread.
Neo's posts tend to vary between tumblr MRA and radfem copypasta and background noise, so I rarely comment. No offense to neo, as I treat him as a forum mascot of sorts.
I treat soli as the sole sane woman of the thread at this point.
. Success depends on many factor, from your intrisic quality to how much your work to blind luck to, well, yeah, privilege. Just because other factors (including luck) meant you didn't achieve in a particular case doesn't mean there is no advantage. My +2 on my roll still is there even if I failed the roll.
. Success depends on many factor, from your intrisic quality to how much your work to blind luck to, well, yeah, privilege. Just because other factors (including luck) meant you didn't achieve in a particular case doesn't mean there is no advantage. My +2 on my roll still is there even if I failed the roll.
I enjoy this metaphor.
I can't really tell what you guys were talking about in the end there, so this is unrelated. :P
Youtuber Contrapoints posted an interesting artsy video trying to capture her experience of gender dysphoria. Worth a watch! (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ayuqizp4fyY&t=55s&ab_channel=ContraPoints)