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Every year I think of twelve avenues of focus that I want to use to facilitate growth. These can be New Year's Resolutions; they can be bucket list items you're almost ready to cross off; they can be career-related; personal; profound; small; pointless; silly.

I'll put an example in my next post, but this is how it works:
- Spend some time thinking of 12 things you want to attempt in 2023.
-----> In practice it helps to have your goals be concrete enough to determine whether you have succeeded.
-----> Think carefully about whether your goals are, at the least, small enough to start working on.
- Write your 12 things in a list format in this thread.
- Post updates as you work on and complete goals.

If you wanna do a fractional-Behemoth, that is between 1 and 12 goals you intend to regularly check in on, that's also fine. Done is better than perfect. More importantly, everyone has bumps and surprises in their life. There are some things that we will never achieve, and that's okay. The goal is to struggle, together, for a year.

You can see last year's thread here.

Purpose:
- Challenge ourselves or just keep track of our reads here on B12.
- Build a community of readers.
- Share books we liked, pick up new reads.

How to:
---> CHALLENGE MODE: Set a goal for yourself here in the thread and update regularly on your progress.
---> CHILLAX MODE: Just hang out and vibe, occasionally talk about books, it's all good man.

Welcome to my fun thread. I have/had COVID and could mostly smell and taste stuff normally until recently. Then three days ago I almost completely stopped eating. I thought it was just me being moody because I do that sometimes.

Well, I got hungry last night and ate some food, but then I discovered it was rotten! Yes, the texture and visible mold gave it away. But I couldn't smell or taste it.

PURPOSE of thread: to make myself feel better. Please be nice to me, I'm scared. Specifically of my sense of smell and taste not coming back. I love to cook and drink tea, and it's one of my only hobbies.

Hello nerds, it's that time again.

Every year I think of twelve things I want to do that will take planning ahead, and brighten the future. This is less "New Year's Resolution" and more "farmer picking new saplings for the orchard."

I'll put my example in the next post, but this is how it works:
- Spend some time thinking of 12 things you want to do in 2022.
-----> The more concrete these are, the better.
-----> Think about whether you could realistically complete your goals in a year or not. The idea is to motivate you to finish things and plan ahead, and also practice gauging whether your plans are reasonable or not. Done is better than perfect!!
- Write your 12 things in a list format in this thread.
- Post updates as you work on and complete goals. Our purpose is to create an environment in which we grow together, for a year.

You can see last year's thread here.

(If you wanna do a fractional-Behemoth, that is between 3 and 12 goals you intend to regularly check in on throughout the year, that's also fine.)

Hi all,

I want some advice from people who have been struggling with isolation during the pandemic. I've been living alone for quite a while and it feels like some part of me that used to know how to relate to other people has shattered. Months and months of being alone at home, and socially distancing from housemates even when we lived in the same building, has taken a toll. I skipped holidays; I've only been more than 5 miles from my house twice in the past year.

I had my second vaccination on Saturday and in about 10 days I'll be able to spend time with others freely again.

The problem is that I'm angry at things like not having been bubbled with or contacted by people who have known I was alone for long periods of time. People have of course stuck to their families and significant others. Even people who I've known for quite a while, where I said repeatedly "this is really destroying me" and they knew what that meant, have basically said: "Yeah, sucks for all of us."

I have a cousin in town whose address I don't even know because she doesn't want to have anything to do with me (I didn't do anything, this is just kind of who she is).

I have a therapist, I'm on anti-depressants, and I have a PTSD diagnosis from a doctor who spent about 20 years in the military. The problem is not formal support, the problem is

1. I need to end my isolation now that it is possible

2. I am too angry at the people I used to care about and love to reconnect with them

3. I wish I could reconnect with them anyway but I don't have the vocabulary to talk to them about the magnitude of the betrayal; they don't want to admit what they did and what that meant. Or they just don't care that much about me.

How do I grow to handle events like this? Please help me out, Bay. My current plan is to get a goldfish.

Friends, it's a new year. I'm not sure I'll be posting on B12 regularly in 2022, but for 2021, I'm pretty sure I'll be around, so I thought I'd post another one of these threads. Some of the other Forum Olds might remember these.

Every year I think of twelve things I want to do that will take planning ahead, and brighten the future. This is less "New Year's Resolution" and more "farmer picking new saplings for the orchard."

I'll put my example in the next post, but this is how it works:
- Spend some time thinking of 12 things you want to do in 2021.
-----> The more concrete these are, the better.
-----> Think about whether you could realistically complete your goals in a year or not. The idea is to motivate you to finish things and plan ahead, and also practice gauging whether your plans are reasonable or not. Done is better than perfect!!
- Write your 12 things in a list format in this thread.
- Post updates as you work on and complete goals. The idea, more than finishing anything in particular or "being impressive," is to create an environment in which we grow together, for a year.

(If you wanna do a half-Behemoth, that is 6 things, that's also fine.)

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