Keep calm (at least outwardly) and polite (soft smile) and insist that you won't talk about subject X. Dont ellaborate, and don't give reasons why. You just dont want to. Over and over.Listen well to this man, for he speaks the truth.
Keeping calm and polite when people are annoying you is a very good skill to learn, too.
No. Don't vent. It might get back to you.This is why you do not include personally identifying information when venting.
Basically Truean said to be "like water", formless and capable of transforming into the shape of any other vessel. (at least that's what I understand from it.)
Basically Truean said to be "like water", formless and capable of transforming into the shape of any other vessel. (at least that's what I understand from it.)Spoiler: Nice try, bro (click to show/hide)
Ok. Can I ask you how to apply that in the real world a bit?
Like somebody has a customer and she's pissed, because she said the company website said she could use a certain discount or coupon or whatever. I've been told those things are garbage and we're just not accepting them by my boss. My boss can fire me if I don't do what he says, and this customer is going to scream in my face like she's about to slap me repeatedly. I'm not even sure the company website said any of that or if she's lying or what. I do know that if I take that coupon, then I'm going to get written up or maybe fired or just bad things.
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What do you do with people who are "just saying?" As in, "I'm just saying." That's usually what they say after they've said something either incredibly stupid, offensive, wrong or who knows. Like, they can just say whatever they want AND expect everyone else to love it no matter how bad it is.Usually. But that's not all on why these things are being said that way ^ ^
Wow what Truean shut up you aren't going to solve this problem with paragraphs upon paragraphs. What The Fuck.You aren't helping either with that kind of attitude, dude. Truean isn't 'solving this problem'--she's helping by giving advice. She's not advocating her words as "The Solution"TM, and '> 5 paragaphs' isn't something to gawk and swear at. Only the person themself is able to solve their own problems--exposure and detail in understanding their problems or how to understand it helps; the more details that specify reasoning and understanding, the better it goes.
Anyway, it's my experience that people are responding to the way you act. So if you have a frown people are reading that.
People will regularly read these social cues to tell them what to do so learn not to fuck that up.
Or at least make it so you aren't opposite of how you feel.
Damn, that's the most restraint I've seen on the internet since freaking ever.Giving a nod to Truean here, sometimes, restraint is in already understanding the one throwing s--- at you down to why and what led them to do that. Knowing the consequences if one did something this way or the other. Understanding how to assess it and react to it, especially in noticing the background into what's being said. All this happens in understanding either from direct experience or otherwise. All this happens at the speed of thought, less than a second by reflexive timing, and more than several if it's spoken in mind. :P
Either you know something I really don't or something is off here. Prolly that first one knowing my luck.
I might not be smart enough to get what you're talking about either. I'm tryin' to think about this whole ocean stuff you're saying, so does that mean that people just have a ton of shit making them feel like crap all day? They can't handle it and stuff, is that what you're saying? Cause I think that's it, but I've been wrong a lot before.Never say you're not smart enough. You possess all the intelligence capable of understanding these things. The reality is in exposure and experience--"we were not aware so it's not in current knowledge". Truean uses metaphors to detail concrete concepts in order to expound and express them in a more malleable way to the reader, but also adds detail to them to give a gist or theme to understand. While I can't speak for her the 'ocean' is usually connected to the idea of describing any idea that is difficult to specifically measure, though just as much easy to quantify as a general whole: population, society, culture, reality. It's a general term used to give an idea, just like how the ocean gives an idea of a big mass of water. :D
Like, somebody tells me something stupid or whatever and sometimes I just wanna punch 'em but I just fucking can't. Yeah, sure, part of it's that I don't wanna be in jail or whatever, but I just want to scream or something. I can't do that shit either.
Damn, that's the most restraint I've seen on the internet since freaking ever.
Either you know something I really don't or something is off here. Prolly that first one knowing my luck. How do you just fucking float above all that shit that life just throws right at you all the time like you're talking about? Like, somebody tells me something stupid or whatever and sometimes I just wanna punch 'em but I just fucking can't. Yeah, sure, part of it's that I don't wanna be in jail or whatever, but I just want to scream or something. I can't do that shit either.
I might not be smart enough to get what you're talking about either. I'm tryin' to think about this whole ocean stuff you're saying, so does that mean that people just have a ton of shit making them feel like crap all day? They can't handle it and stuff, is that what you're saying? Cause I think that's it, but I've been wrong a lot before.
So I'm supposed to try and not let it bother me cause these people pissing me off have their own problems and it's really no use? Part of that's the whole happy place thing? Is there more to it, because that sounds really hard?
Can you make this philosophy shit clearer for me, because I'm pretty sure I'm not getting a good chunk of it.
This one is even murkier. Why did you do what, exactly? I'm kind of wondering what kind of act prompts these questions.
Other times are when I'm asked "why did you do that?!" The implication is that I couldn't have possibly had any reason to do it and I'm nuts for having done it.
Ultimately, nobody in the world wakes up in the morning and thinks, "You know what? Today I'm going to be an utter bastard."
Yeah, it does help and thank you all.Tiny prod here. :P
I'm probably still going to have problems with this stuff for a while so I'm going to keep this open and if it's ok I'll ask some more questions and stuff.
I'm having a real problem not wanting to scream at somebody or scream or cry or something. Just feels like shit. What do I do with that feeling, cause I have no fucking idea?Please note that feelings alone also have one's understanding and meaning to partially make up its effect on the person. :)
"Did you close the windows?" (O god, yes, yes I totally did a while ago. Please tell me you believe I can close a bunch of windows. I'm smart enough for that).Do note that here, in a possible innocuous question, there is both one's perception, and one's sensation taking place. In studying a person's general cognitive understanding of the world around them, there is a foundation that generally everyone follows--seeking 'WHY'. In cases like these, there's the usual question of 'why are they repeating this D:'
Do you ever get the feeling people are snapping at you demanding instant solutions to problems they couldn't solve themselves like ever?
OK.
I've got a real problem with motivation when I know I'm going to get yelled at or at least not appreciated. Like, not appreciated is the best result I can ask for. That's not good. I don't get stuff done when I'd like to get it done. Really though, it does suck when people seem to always be asking "What are you doing?" I lose my whole train of thought. I knew what I was doing and the stuff I had to do next but the interruption threw me right off. Same deal with people who seems to backseat drive or hang over your shoulder like that will somehow make me work faster or better. Usually I get all self conscious with crap like that happening. I just feel their eyes staring into me or whatever I'm working on. God, it just sucks.
All of that, plus the other stuff adds up to me being sort of afraid to do anything, because jesus, why bother if I'm just gonna get told nothing is ever good enough? Or at best I don't get any appreciation for it. Just being nice to me for a minute would be good, or at least a lot better than nothing.
This all adds up to me having a lot of stuff to do and not having it done. Whole thing snowballs and I'm pretty sure my life would better off if I did SOMETHING instead of nothing, but I'm just stopped by a constant voice of external criticism that has moved internal. Help?
ThanksWell I'm not sure how to approach that besides saying get some rest, eat good food(assuming you aren't) and just relay the message to people that one person can't do everything. Personally for me(and this is just me) I like to sit in the direct sunlight, listen to some music, smoke a cigarette(Yes, I know, I should stop smoking), and relax. Just my friendly input there. Feel free to ask for elaboration. Stress can take a toll on your body and when I went through a recent major life event(I would rather not elaborate unless through PMs) I had to go to the hospital because I was so unbelievably stressed, I just couldn't consciously or subconsciously realize it. So before you hit that point, take a break fam.
Still not sure what to do about never seeming to meet people's expectations though. Seems like I'm being set up to fail, because they know I can't manage this crap. Especially not with all the restrictions and no resources I'm under. Or it's just not my fault, because shit happens and there's not a whole lot anybody can do about it. People seem to complain whenever things don't go perfectly. That shouldn't be a surprise, because shit happens.
It's like everyone else's job seems like it's to bitch to get what they want and mind is to somehow deliver the impossible. WTF.
I said, "Don't tell me it's an over-generalization," but it doesn't matter. Say it as many times as you want; I don't care. I could explain it, but I actually don't care anymore. People are terrible and nothing, nothing will ever convince me otherwise. (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a8ScQHTQWMo) I hate all of humanity; they deserve it. You wanna deal with the reality of those hoards of people in those videos? Are they all special as they needlessly literally trample people, sometimes to death, over material items. (No question mark).Why I made my post like that, is because in the time between then and now--you (as in, the wording) display very similar indicators that fall parallel to being jaded; nothing is needed to justify a generalization about the existence of a species and the characteristics towards them other than what one chooses to believe, and if a small sample set--a certain occurrence does such, it puts one into a position to either treat the concept as specific as it is towards one area, or to work with it as they please. These beliefs are all correct at a certain point in time, but when they become conclusions, that's another important point. It affects further ideas. All that in the link is on-point; it's a terrible happening, and it will affect anyone viewing or seeing it by adding more ideas in mind. And personally, this is a point which is handled by everyone in the field geared towards mental health and dealing with people everyday. It's a very stressful area, but it's also an area with the most potential to get to know people; the only limitation is the part for the self. That's what I was nudging when I was poking your post--it lacks specificity, and puts bias and prejudice from experience onto people undeserving of that kind of characterization. It is an over-generalization because it's as if what dysfunctional behavior one has seen, is expected to be seen from other people in similar or otherwise situations. That's the importance of culture and seeing into culture to bridge that gap.
I sometimes wonder if this is more an american thing than a human thing, but the innate nature to be assholes is indeed baked into everyone.Big correction :P
Hey DFNewb. I don't really understand some of the things you're saying, but I guess I might like to. I feel pressured to give certain responses idiots should know I can't give. They kinda do know I can't give the responses they want but they're going to make my life hell anyhow.Rough, man. I'm sorry you're dealing with this. Tell me what kind of response you want from me and I'll oblige. If you want compassion, or sternness, or honesty, or anything else.
And I've moved from complaining about customers to complaining about co workers. I'm still not sure exactly how this happened.
I have no authority at my job. I got responsibility thrown at me, because I was the only one who could do it. Doesn't mean I get paid any better, because I don't. Now I have stupid co workers bitching at me and I'm not sure if they're worse or the customers or the bosses. How did I get in this position anyhow? I have no ability to do anything about anything, but people are complaining to me as if I did. They know there are certain rules in place that I didn't make and I just can't do shit about them, but they're gonna complain and make my life miserable.
Customers come and go but co workers aren't going anywhere and damn it that kinda sucks. I don't want them to go anywhere. I want them to leave me alone.
Are Truean and Tiruin still around anywhere? Just asking.
Are Truean and Tiruin still around anywhere? Just asking.We're here. :) Truean is busy busy with her life, and I'm busy with Masters in Psych and other matters :P
[...]I just said the exact opposite and the person doesn't wanna listen at all. They clearly are ignoring the things I'm telling them, because they want the things they want to be true. They also want me to confirm what they think, even when it's wrong and they should know it's wrong because they were just told they are wrong. They were told the truth and that truth isn't something they want to hear.I'm not aiming to argue on the context--but to note adjustment of meaning. I don't know the local culture there or how people act when they're passively suggesting something, but in the long-run of life I can note how important being aware of your own reasoning and interpretation-of-others'-meaning is invariably going to affect how you feel right after. The process is something you can read on, as I recall many books or literature materials online exist (or your local library :D), but also talking it over (in a general sense without names or such, before any specifics for further detail) with friends or people trusted who you know can give insight helps.
I'm starting to recognize it for what it is: emotional manipulation.[...]
Does not compute or make sense or add up mathematically.
Wow. Kinda.
It's a little amazing and I'm not sure I know exactly how to use that right now though.
Either way it's late right now.
Thanks.
Wow. Kinda.
It's a little amazing and I'm not sure I know exactly how to use that right now though.
Either way it's late right now.
Thanks.
Eh...it's a lot of stuff that sounds profound but it's just 'be mindful that other people have very different perspectives than you do' and 'don't stress yourself over things you can't do anything about' dressed up fancy and with a dash of added arrogance.
Honestly, it sounds like you're expecting other people to listen to you because you're right, or have good ideas, or have contributed to the company. You're frustrated when people don't respect reality (as you see it). You expect your work to speak for itself.
Honestly, that's a little naive.
Other people not only have their own viewpoints from which you may not look right, they also often don't care about what's logically right. To get your ideas heard, you need to convince people that these ideas are in their best interest. That's just how people work. They don't care about what's right from your perspective. They care about 1) their best interest, 2) what they from their perspective think is right. Trying to rely on a logical argument about why your idea is correct will only leave you frustrated and ignored. You need to start presenting arguments about why your idea is logically in their and the company's best interest. Not just 'This will work and accomplish X' but 'This will accomplish X bringing benefits of Y'.
Your work is inanimate. It can not speak. And if no one knows you personally, they don't know to trust or listen to you.
You have 2 choices: You can learn to speak for yourself and show people why your work is good (i.e. promotes their and the company's interests) or you can accept that you will go through life a quiet person whose work gets overlooked right up to the point where you uncover a problem and you suffer consequences. The first one relies on your skills, the second one relies on tying yourself to a specific person powerful enough to protect you and be your spokesperson. You have to pick which one will cause you fewest problems and work to succeed with it. Frankly, in the modern economy the second strategy is pretty much dead and I don't think you can go through life successfully that way any more.
If you have uncovered potential workplace lying you may be a serious threat to other people's best interest. It sounds like those other people are much more secure than you are. Keep trying at work, but be prepared to look for another job.
There's often a lot more to Truean's words than how they seem minimalized by this response. Often keep in mind, there are 2 major influences to a person's behavior--what you see now, that you respond to, and what had happened that could've affected what you're seeing now. Truean is by far, the last person I'd attach the idea of arrogance to--her tone however, is something subjectively perceived (Also helps to not snip at her, and instead provide constructive criticism in the least). She means well, is the baseline though.Wow. Kinda.
It's a little amazing and I'm not sure I know exactly how to use that right now though.
Either way it's late right now.
Thanks.
Eh...it's a lot of stuff that sounds profound but it's just 'be mindful that other people have very different perspectives than you do' and 'don't stress yourself over things you can't do anything about' dressed up fancy and with a dash of added arrogance.
Meanwhile communications have broken down, because I suck at talking. I'm nice, quiet, don't bother people, that sorta thing.Communication does not make one a bother. In reality; there is a lack of communication even if there seems to be 'just enough communication', and this is a common thing. Nobody is born with perfection in communication; we learn how to gauge our communication, but it all comes from within first, with us and ourselves.
Wow. Kinda.
It's a little amazing and I'm not sure I know exactly how to use that right now though.
Either way it's late right now.
Thanks.
Eh...it's a lot of stuff that sounds profound but it's just 'be mindful that other people have very different perspectives than you do' and 'don't stress yourself over things you can't do anything about' dressed up fancy and with a dash of added arrogance.
Honestly, it sounds like you're expecting other people to listen to you because you're right, or have good ideas, or have contributed to the company. You're frustrated when people don't respect reality (as you see it). You expect your work to speak for itself.
Honestly, that's a little naive.
Other people not only have their own viewpoints from which you may not look right, they also often don't care about what's logically right. To get your ideas heard, you need to convince people that these ideas are in their best interest. That's just how people work. They don't care about what's right from your perspective. They care about 1) their best interest, 2) what they from their perspective think is right. Trying to rely on a logical argument about why your idea is correct will only leave you frustrated and ignored. You need to start presenting arguments about why your idea is logically in their and the company's best interest. Not just 'This will work and accomplish X' but 'This will accomplish X bringing benefits of Y'.
Your work is inanimate. It can not speak. And if no one knows you personally, they don't know to trust or listen to you.
You have 2 choices: You can learn to speak for yourself and show people why your work is good (i.e. promotes their and the company's interests) or you can accept that you will go through life a quiet person whose work gets overlooked right up to the point where you uncover a problem and you suffer consequences. The first one relies on your skills, the second one relies on tying yourself to a specific person powerful enough to protect you and be your spokesperson. You have to pick which one will cause you fewest problems and work to succeed with it. Frankly, in the modern economy the second strategy is pretty much dead and I don't think you can go through life successfully that way any more.
If you have uncovered potential workplace lying you may be a serious threat to other people's best interest. It sounds like those other people are much more secure than you are. Keep trying at work, but be prepared to look for another job.
Is that really all you got out of what she said over the past couple years in this thread? That and her PMs helped me a lot. Anyhow, I liked the part about probability and trying to go for the best thing you can by doing the best input (focusing on stuff you can do instead of letting the stuff you can't control get to you, cause if you do, you'll end up worse off).
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Ask your grocery store cashier, while you can, before they fire her for teaching you how to use her replacement machines.... (https://cdn.cogecolive.com/prod-20171024/generic_1508870944158552_ori.jpeg)What is pictured is not really what is described here. The actual order of events was more like, companies WANTED to fire all the cashiers, but it turns out people are too stupid to use the self-checkout machines without help. The employee pictured isn't actually a cashier but an attendant whose job is to help people use the machines. That job won't go away as long as there are stupid people who can't use self-checkout machines.
Ask your grocery store cashier, while you can, before they fire her for teaching you how to use her replacement machines.... (https://cdn.cogecolive.com/prod-20171024/generic_1508870944158552_ori.jpeg)What is pictured is not really what is described here. The actual order of events was more like, companies WANTED to fire all the cashiers, but it turns out people are too stupid to use the self-checkout machines without help. The employee pictured isn't actually a cashier but an attendant whose job is to help people use the machines. That job won't go away as long as there are stupid people who can't use self-checkout machines.
As for the post in general I also want to offer an alternative point of view:
The world isn't actually that scary. Everything is going to be fine. You're going to be fine.
What am I supposed to do with this? Like, how is this supposed to help me? At all?It helps if you let it.
What am I supposed to do with this? Like, how is this supposed to help me? At all?It helps if you let it.
Look at it this way. In a few decades you'll be dead and nothing will have changed. What happens between then and now is up to you. There's no point suffering during that time. Sit, breathe, remember everything is going to be fine.
The alternative is some batshit ascientific nonsense about dimensions with no mathematical rigour or meaning, which is basically the same as pyramids and crystals and Chopra, ie, a way to rationalise your suffering instead of stopping it.
Say whatever you want. Two words, "It worked." Results. They happened, and keep happening.Then why is there still, clearly, a person still suffering?
You are ad homming the OP, when they've done nothing to you. He has never done anything but ask for help we could give. Please, tell me this is clicking? Jesus, a little empathy, and compassion?I don't think you understand what empathy and compassion are. You definitely don't understand what an ad hominem is.
Say whatever you want. Two words, "It worked." Results. They happened, and keep happening.Then why is there still, clearly, a person still suffering?
The ego produces the illusion of results because it fears change; there is a part of every person that would rather descend into fear and bitterness than become a different (ie better) person, and that part will convince you that you are doing better because you've gotten used to the pain.
There is a way to simply... not have the pain.QuoteYou are ad homming the OP, when they've done nothing to you. He has never done anything but ask for help we could give. Please, tell me this is clicking? Jesus, a little empathy, and compassion?I don't think you understand what empathy and compassion are. You definitely don't understand what an ad hominem is.
There is a way to simply... not have the pain.
There are some people who are weirdly not cool with me. I mostly keep to myself and don't cause trouble.
Ye. No worries here! My goal is just to share a few tricks that I've picked up recently, as somebody who had gone unarmed against anxiety for a long time. I'll go ahead an spoiler it for space's sake.Spoiler (click to show/hide)
Also, hey. It takes energy to be nice sometimes. If people are nice, then I think deep down, you've earned a bit of that niceness, and that means you are a cooler dude than you think my man. Might not be always easy to think that, but it's true. Keep up your good work; you'll have that chip here soon before you know it!
There are some people who are weirdly not cool with me. I mostly keep to myself and don't cause trouble.
These two things are probably related, depending on the extent you “keep to yourself”. I once had an immediate superior not like me because I didn’t really talk with her, which she apparently took to mean I disliked her as opposed to just being disinterested.
Never underestimate the power of idle conversation. A quick “hello, how are you, lovely/awful weather we’re having” at least makes you seem personable, and is a foundation for further relationship should you do wish it.
Another conversation with boss. He appologized, reassigned the bottleneck work, and told me to go to lunch long.Sounds like you're doing well with it! Providing documentation for your work or lack thereof is helpful to all.
I followed T's advice and tried to make his job easier and run some documentation for why my productivity is out that makes everyone look ok. And the higher ups should be alright with it.
OK, so not getting promotion and don't care about it. I just wanna move on.
Seems I upset some people by applying too but no idea why.
I do not want to be seen as a threat to anybody.
Meh, I'm just keeping my head down and ignoring threats.
Head down, nose to grindstone, not trying to make anybody mad.
I think (and have been informally told) that people understand there are tons of one time changes happening now. There is going to be disruption from that no matter what. Nobody wants to acknowledge it....
So really, I get the eval isn't objective, except the numbers we produce per week.... That's still BS because assignment vary widely in difficulty but are all counted the same. I've been told I'm doing great and that there are problems but I'm not one of them.
Actually T made a good point in email that I didn't think of. My coworker doesn't have legit bearing on my responsibility/responsibilities. But, my boss looks at it differently. My boss has a bunch of stuff to get done and only this team to do it with. So coworker gets the tasks he can do, and I get the harder ones I can do. Kinda sucks because coworker has been there much longer. T has a weird point though. Said something about how you guys are the tools your boss has to get stuff done with. Boss has to do something with us and coworker can't do much else. I can, but it feels unfair and exhausting.
I guess I'm just glad its helping. Although all efforts to get T back have so far been met with cat memes.
Anyhow, supervisor has "had it up to here" with co worker, who will be getting a bad review.......... Part of that is that he was supposed to mentor me a bit but has completely not. Also, he has gone against boss behind his back with stupid comments.
Supervisor gave me a heads up that he won't involve me in writing, but if coworker asks why bad reviews, then he may have no choice but to include me..... I am far from the only reason coworker is getting bad review but yeah. Boss said he has my back cause I am watching his... Said I did the right thing telling him. Basically let me know ahead of time that he and coworker will come and butt heads.
That said, I just can't stand people asking me question when I clearly either a.) don't want to talk about it b.) don't have an answer and they know these things or should. It's like they feel entitled to speak/question regardless of the other person who doesn't want to be in the conversation and a favorite phrase of theirs seems to be "I'm just saying." Yup, I knew. Still wishing that wasn't the case. I ask people to stop and they just look at me like I'm nuts.
...I realize the following:
A.) This is at least partially my problem. Probably more than partially.
B.) People are going to always keep asking questions (stupid or otherwise) even and especially if you don't want them to.
C.) I need to find some way to deal with this on my end, because there is no other option.
...Ideas?
Please and thank you.
5. One time I asked a guy what he does to cure boredom. When he gave a lame answer, I said that I had guaranteed solution to curing the most extreme boredom: "I ask the person talking to shut up." You can wrap the truth with humor, and it's amazingly effective.
Covid 19 edition:
For now, I'm lucky to be able to work from home. I do not know how long that will last, but hopefully through this whole thing.
I get that I'm lucky to have a job at all when a ton of people are probably gonna get laid off. I don't know: different bad problems.
I just seem overwhelmed, like I guess a lot of people are. Anxiety, depression, and everything about the world kind of going to hell, is a bit much. It's hard to remain productive and focused locked inside. I understand why we have to, but it's just hard.
I can't be the only one feeling this way.
Also, it appears my team is "too productive."Unfortunately, this kind of shit happens... most likely you're making the other teams look bad and that's upsetting them, and management has decided to prioritise making other groups feel better over getting more money (which happens way more often than you'd think). I don't really think there's anything you can do about that other than doing exactly what you're told to the best of your ability (which still doesn't guarantee they won't screw you over). It's one of those things, and I really feel for you, but there's just... no solution.
They are going to be slowing us down and cutting us back to "even out the work." I'm sorry, WTF?
Some of our units from that large thing I posted about are going to be reassigned, but we are backdoor organizing just getting tons of them done ASAP so they are done before they take them away. We are the most productive team in the place. So, we are not slacking to create that pile of units. We're just evidently that good.
Somehow this is a "concern." I have no idea why this is the case in this instance that it is a "concern," meaning "problem." Everything "T" taught me about pulling myself out of the damn gutter was about being productive and efficient and here's the higher ups saying that's a "concern" now. They beat productivity into us FOREVER, and now it's an issue????
I'm "too productive," but also worried about having work.... So much for bootstraps and pulling yourself up by them or whatever. What the #$@% is this? Told to slow down, then speed up so it doesn't get taken away.
How am I both worried about having work but "too productive." ....
Problems with stress and being upset
I get really anxious, stressed and upset Not quite "angry," because that makes you think of somebody screaming at the top of their lungs or punching somebody. Not it.
That said, I just can't stand people asking me question when I clearly either a.) don't want to talk about it b.) don't have an answer and they know these things or should. It's like they feel entitled to speak/question regardless of the other person who doesn't want to be in the conversation and a favorite phrase of theirs seems to be "I'm just saying." Yup, I knew. Still wishing that wasn't the case. I ask people to stop and they just look at me like I'm nuts.
I realize the following:
A.) This is at least partially my problem. Probably more than partially.
B.) People are going to always keep asking questions (stupid or otherwise) even and especially if you don't want them to.
C.) I need to find some way to deal with this on my end, because there is no other option.
It's not an anger problem yet but I just .... it gets to me a lot.
Ideas?
Please and thank you.