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Title: How do you indicate to a girl you like her?
Post by: DFNewb on August 23, 2017, 11:58:36 am
Answer the title please and add any relevant info like how women respond to you when you indicate to them that you are interested.

Thank you.
Title: Re: How do you indicate to a girl you like her?
Post by: ChairmanPoo on August 23, 2017, 12:35:11 pm
Find a streetlight, step out of the shade, and say something like, "You and me babe—how 'bout it?"
Title: Re: How do you indicate to a girl you like her?
Post by: nenjin on August 23, 2017, 01:30:00 pm
1. Ask her questions. About herself, her day, her interests.

2. Actually care about the answers. If you're faking interest just hoping they like you, that will eventually come out, either because you run out of patience or she figures it out.

3. Smile at her, you mopey bastard.

4. Don't spend time moaning about your own BS. She doesn't want to hear that. Unless you're looking for a pity hook up and believe me, they suck. You don't want someone to hook up with you because they pity your ass. If you do hook up there will be plenty of time to unload your emotional baggage on her, while you're courting her is not the time to get in to it.

5. Flirt, tastefully. Example: the other day I worked out and took my shirt off before getting in my car because it was 90 degrees out and I was sweaty. Chick said "I wish I could take my shirt off" and I replied "hey, you won't get any complaints from me." Show physical interest without putting her on the spot by being like "oh yeah I'd do you." If she's like "I don't know if this blouse/color/haircut looks good" you say "I think you look great." Be positive, supportive. Don't talk to her while glancing or constantly staring at her lady bits. EYE CONTACT.

6. Don't hold resentment when you don't feel like she's reciprocating as fast/enthusiastically as you'd want. If she does like you, the fastest way to make her not like you is to get butt hurt.

7. It bears reiterating: don't go in to anything just because you want to get laid. Go in to it because you actually enjoy her company, her personality. Otherwise you're just being emotionally dishonest.

8. Or you can just go in whole hog and ask "are you dtf?" Sometimes the answers will surprise you. But if you want an actual relationship, that is not the route you want to go.

9. Have balls. Nothing says you're interested like straight up telling her and asking her out. You may not like the answer you get but it beats the "does she / doesn't she" stress of not knowing and endless advice seeking threads on the Internet, and it shows you have confidence and can handle possible rejection like a big boy. You can grow old and die waiting for women to make a move or give you a clear signal. Hell half the time people hook up while drunk is it saves them from having to make a legit, honest move.
Title: Re: How do you indicate to a girl you like her?
Post by: Avarice on August 23, 2017, 06:29:35 pm
Quote from: ChairmanPoo on August 23, 2017, 12:35:11 pm
Find a streetlight, step out of the shade, and say something like, "You and me babe—how 'bout it?"
Tips fedora "m'lady"
Title: Re: How do you indicate to a girl you like her?
Post by: Ghazkull on August 24, 2017, 03:37:20 am
Basically what nenjin said, but don't stare too much. Think for example when you are talking to friends and family you don't stare at them with the intensity of a thousand suns all the time, that would be weird right? Same goes when you try to get together with someone. In short, balance is the key.

Also relax, i know you are nervous, she knows it, we all know it, still, try and at least project confidence instead of the jittery nervous wreck that you probably are. To me it seems like women are definitely turned off by that sweaty, nervous guy who looks like he might run for the hills at any second. Instead try to appear calm and confident as if you have done this a thousand times and you are just asking for the check.

Some more double-edged advice:
I don't know how old you are or if you are allowed to drink in your country nor how well you can hold your alcohol. All those play a major factor in what im suggesting here. This is a very selective advice and might do more harm than good.
Personally i have severe problems with talking to people too and alcohol is for me (personally) a life-saver there. But by the gods keep it in check, WAAAY in check. Think no more than two drinks, just enough to get you relaxed. The alcohol helps most people with issues of being too wound up, with the downside that it absolutely screws you over if you overdo it.
There is a reason its called social lubricant, but dude be careful about how much you drink. If you are a lightweight or a nervous drinker, then put in at least two non-alcoholic drinks in between every other drink.
In other words, alcohol can be your friend, but more of that dickhead friend thats just waiting to screw you absolutely over.

But yeah what nenjin said is more helpful in general.
Title: Re: How do you indicate to a girl you like her?
Post by: TheBiggerFish on August 27, 2017, 01:26:34 am
You could just up and say it.  (But, what nenjin said.)
Title: Re: How do you indicate to a girl you like her?
Post by: George_Chickens on August 27, 2017, 12:05:37 pm
Spread your wings out as far as they go, and jump from side to side sporadically. It will show your healthy vigour. If she doesn't fall for you, apply blue object gifts liberally.
Title: Re: How do you indicate to a girl you like her?
Post by: scriver on September 12, 2017, 07:06:36 am
Quote from: Avarice on August 23, 2017, 06:29:35 pm
Quote from: ChairmanPoo on August 23, 2017, 12:35:11 pm
Find a streetlight, step out of the shade, and say something like, "You and me babe—how 'bout it?"
Tips fedora "m'lady"

Uncultured swine! (https://youtu.be/8CRu2SWDtRA)
Title: Re: How do you indicate to a girl you like her?
Post by: Caz on September 12, 2017, 12:41:07 pm
Find out what objects they like and gift them once per day. If a little loveheart appears then it's the right gift. The best way is to hide outside their house in the mornings then gift them as soon as they leave their house so you have more time to do stuff the rest of the day.
Title: Re: How do you indicate to a girl you like her?
Post by: DFNewb on September 16, 2017, 02:06:08 pm
Putting arm around their backs seems to be golden.
Title: Re: How do you indicate to a girl you like her?
Post by: Avarice on September 16, 2017, 04:18:37 pm
So this seem pretty low key... so hear me out... but I first ask the entity out... then I take them to get food or some drinks... watch sunset and this is when it gets crazy... I talk to them and sometimes lean over and kiss them... I know right it sounds like another universe with different rules but this has actually happened more than once...
Now hear me out.. I don't know what I'm talking about but I will say that buying a car for them works too.. or maybe just talking to them... hmmm you could buy them ammo too.. thats a good gift.
Maybe eat a box of chocolates and put stones in the empty box I feel like that would go well... you could shoot a heart tipped arrow and that will pierce their love... im rambling and I like it.

scriver do you like me?
Title: Re: How do you indicate to a girl you like her?
Post by: MorleyDev on September 17, 2017, 03:38:11 pm
She will know it is time when she stands at the short, gazing out at the sea. Thunder will crack, and a hail of trumpets will cry out from beyond the horizon. The sky will turn blood red, and all the clouds will race away. Then, she will turn and see you astride a white horse, a shining sword forged in the heart of a volcano in one hand, a shield bearing the Crest of the Lord and Saviour in the other. You will stop, unmount from your horse, and place your weaponry upon the ground. You no longer have need of it. You will instead walk up to her, hold her cheeks in your hands, and whisper in her ear: "I like your face".
Title: Re: How do you indicate to a girl you like her?
Post by: wertyzerty on October 02, 2017, 01:04:41 pm
Quote from: MorleyDev on September 17, 2017, 03:38:11 pm
a shining sword
* shining Adamantine sword ;)
Title: Re: How do you indicate to a girl you like her?
Post by: Flying Dice on October 03, 2017, 08:53:02 am
Teleport behind her and whisper "Nothin' personnel, m'lady."
Title: Re: How do you indicate to a girl you like her?
Post by: Sanctume on November 09, 2017, 01:17:56 pm
1. Roll for charisma.  You may get penalty if she has higher charisma. 

2.  Ahh, but charisma is just perception, so there are ways to fudge perception that favors you. 

3. Roll for intelligence and wisdom.  Both of these can glean insights on what factors that affect her perception of you. 

3.1 Search "Five Love Language" and the gist of it is certain acts give bonus to said perception: gift giving, quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service (devotion), and physical touch. 

3.1.1 Generalizing here, but physical touch will probably be in play after a certain level is reach.

4. Roll for constitution.  This is more geared to check mental constitution as in creating "abundance" in your life as opposed to "scarcity."

As it applies to 3.1

4.1 Gift Giving; if you have an abundance of resource to give gifts, then you can gift freely without expectation of any return.  So figure out when is the opportune time to give gifts, and execute action plans.

4.2 Quality of Time; Time quantity is a perception, and finite, and everyone has the same amount.  Therefore, quality can be a value to make time spent, more impact-full and memorable.  Stealth check, and maybe observation skills to create opportunity to spend time with the target.

4.3 Words of Affirmation; Google the arts of giving compliments; and give it to many and not just one.  It's free and abundant. Give it. 

4.4 Acts of Service (devotion) is not being a slave, but a willingness to do something for the other because you want to without return (or unsaid) expectations. 

4.5 I'll let you figure out Physical Touch. 
Title: Re: How do you indicate to a girl you like her?
Post by: Truean on November 11, 2017, 09:30:04 pm
I once helped a nephew out, "look at the eyes, and not below," and all that.

So, the question(s) become why she'd want to hang around you and why she'd want to hang around you over someone else. The answer is in how awesome you are generally speaking. It's gravity, dude. So she's, generally speaking, going to want a guy who's fun to be around, decent, and that she gets something out of talking to, also handsome. Human beings are insane, but the question is similar to why she'd buy something (or anyone for that matter).

It's a social skills thing and a balancing act that society is woefully bad at teaching and the worst part is it has to be done while not looking like it's being done. Otherwise it looks like somebody is trying too hard. It's talking to people in general, except you're also hoping pheromones kick in here at some point as well.

The best way is to make yourself a fun person to be around that's not trying too hard. I know that might not help immediately, but think about the old saying how people find partners when they aren't looking.
Title: Re: How do you indicate to a girl you like her?
Post by: DFNewb on November 21, 2017, 12:27:28 am
It's amazing how different my life is from others.

I gotta say tho, the eye contact thing is super legit. I won't go into too much detail but it definitely matters.

Physical contact is also key.

Most of the time if you do number one then number 2 the girl will get an idea you are interested. From there the actual courting begins. Everything else I know only applies for me and I suggest you figure out the rest for yourself.

Good luck friends.
Title: Re: How do you indicate to a girl you like her?
Post by: Paxiecrunchle on February 06, 2018, 10:37:47 am
I'm terrible with eye contact with everyone so staring near there eyes or between them can help.

Anyway is just telling them what you actually admire about them, like perhaps the way they speak, or present themselves or the way they treat people or solve problems, not an option? I ask because I always thought that was a fair place to start. What about mentioning what mutual interests or convictions you have?
Title: Re: How do you indicate to a girl you like her?
Post by: Grek on February 22, 2018, 02:18:33 am
So, my advice is a lot less complicated, but.

Say to her that you like her and want to hang out.

Do so with your words, from your mouth, in person.
Title: Re: How do you indicate to a girl you like her?
Post by: Paxiecrunchle on March 08, 2018, 11:04:52 pm
Hmm, I wonder where th counterpart thread for this is....
Title: Re: How do you indicate to a girl you like her?
Post by: scriver on March 09, 2018, 03:43:44 am
I'm still of the opinion that the best way is buying tiny heart shaped lights and flashing them whenever you are near her.
Title: Re: How do you indicate to a girl you like her?
Post by: ChairmanPoo on March 09, 2018, 03:00:50 pm
Quote from: scriver on March 09, 2018, 03:43:44 am
I'm still of the opinion that the best way is buying tiny heart shaped lights and flashing them whenever you are near her.
Or mood tshirts
(https://i.pinimg.com/236x/53/25/75/532575f35e9cde1e3a9247f04a5cbf86.jpg)
Title: Re: How do you indicate to a girl you like her?
Post by: djsys on April 12, 2018, 01:41:07 pm
Quote from: Flying Dice on October 03, 2017, 08:53:02 am
Teleport behind her and whisper "Nothin' personnel, m'lady."
hahaha
Title: Re: How do you indicate to a girl you like her?
Post by: Il Palazzo on April 12, 2018, 03:47:00 pm
I think the thread is mature enough to warrant a proper response.

So, I'm sure everyone is familiar with the 'common knowledge', oft-advised by both teen and young adult magazines:

- 'in the dark of the night, when the moon is right, sneak upon her window and make noises not unlike a wounded animal'

But wait! Where a seasoned ladykiller can pull off this move without a sweat or without much strain to their vocal chords, an amateur can easily get lost in the poorly-specified nuances.
For one, when is the moon right? Or, what animal should you choose?

To clarify these vital points, we asked for sagely expertise of Richard '1lobeAnimu' Cox (all names changed for privacy reasons). Dick is a veteran of all things girls-related. He hasn't left his basement in ages, and he's quick to relate his extensive experiences:

Dick: the most important thing is the astrolabe. Without a well-oiled instrument, one cannot hope to properly ascertain the moon phases. Girls, you know, have this cycle where their lady parts go cray-cray every time the moon is 68.6 % full. You don't want to be there when it happens, believe me.
Like, seriously, believe me. The shame, the police... anyway.
You want to pop in earlier, about 24 to 44 % full moon, ideally. This is because before they go into their monthly bitchy phase, the girls have a 'I need a man' period. That's your target.
The astrolabe is absolutely essential for properly measuring the revolutions of the skies, so you better get a good one, pronto. People seriously thinking about getting laid generally tend to buy high-end equipment, in the range of 10-15 Australian dollars (PM me for vendor recommendations). Once you have the tools down pat, and the measurements taken, you can begin your animal transformation.
Choosing the right animal to impersonate while whining under your SO's window is almost as important as being there when she's got high hots for the manmeat.
The literature on the subject is full of case studies, where a hot stud dressed up as the wrong animal for his mating ritual, only to be punched in the face by the father and laughed on by the neighbours. Don't be one of those guys.
You wanna pick a manly, intelligent-looking animal, that lives in its own world and doesn't care about bullies or people telling it to go out more.
You want something like the Naked Mole Rat. Or the Echidna. Some hard-core playas take on the aspect of the Mantis Shrimp, but the sounds it makes are hard to pull off if you haven't practised extensively in your bathtub.
The NMR is especially great, since you can skimp on the outfit, and rely on your flabby skinfolds and protruding teeth to do the job for you.

With good timing and a not-too-shabby makover, you have 90% of the job done. The last bit is making the sounds so that they feel natural, and not just like an out of breath, obese man furiously masturbating. Admittedly, I haven't got that part figured out yet - which is why I still can't claim the sweet spoils of victory.
But remember, even if you just jerk off under her window while dressed as a eusocial rodent, you can still say you're getting more action than any of your pals.'
Title: Re: How do you indicate to a girl you like her?
Post by: Sanctume on April 12, 2018, 04:12:46 pm
Do not forget your empty box to collect your offerings.
Title: Re: How do you indicate to a girl you like her?
Post by: Shazbot on April 19, 2018, 09:05:00 am
Invite her to your birthday party and while all your bros are distracted with Mario Kart, get her into the corner of the couch and ask if you can kiss her.

Spoiler (click to show/hide)
Title: Re: How do you indicate to a girl you like her?
Post by: scriver on April 19, 2018, 09:48:00 am
I don't think there's any countries left where a single kiss means you are legally married. Most places need at least three.
Title: Re: How do you indicate to a girl you like her?
Post by: Shazbot on April 22, 2018, 10:02:58 pm
It was still early in the party, let me tell you what.
Title: Re: How do you indicate to a girl you like her?
Post by: Il Palazzo on April 23, 2018, 11:16:26 am
But did she like your astrolabe?
Title: Re: How do you indicate to a girl you like her?
Post by: ChairmanPoo on April 23, 2018, 11:40:40 am
Quote from: Il Palazzo on April 23, 2018, 11:16:26 am
But did she like your astrolabia?
Title: Re: How do you indicate to a girl you like her?
Post by: scriver on April 23, 2018, 01:45:45 pm
Quote from: ChairmanPoo on April 23, 2018, 11:40:40 am
Quote from: Il Palazzo on April 23, 2018, 11:16:26 am
But did she lick your astrolabia?
Title: Re: How do you indicate to a girl you like her?
Post by: Il Palazzo on April 23, 2018, 01:46:21 pm
Quote from: scriver on April 23, 2018, 01:45:45 pm
Quote from: ChairmanPoo on April 23, 2018, 11:40:40 am
Quote from: Il Palazzo on April 23, 2018, 11:16:26 am
But did he lick your astrolabia?
Title: Re: How do you indicate to a girl you like her?
Post by: Billy on April 25, 2018, 11:59:27 am
Quote from: Il Palazzo on April 23, 2018, 01:46:21 pm
Quote from: scriver on April 23, 2018, 01:45:45 pm
Quote from: ChairmanPoo on April 23, 2018, 11:40:40 am
Quote from: Il Palazzo on April 23, 2018, 11:16:26 am
But did he dick your astrolabia?