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Finally... => Life Advice => Topic started by: Naturegirl1999 on October 16, 2019, 07:29:16 pm
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This is a thread where people can ask questions and get advice from the people of these forums.
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ptw
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Isn't http://www.bay12forums.com/smf/index.php?board=18.0 for this? At the very least, shouldn't this thread be moved there?
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Isn't http://www.bay12forums.com/smf/index.php?board=18.0 for this? At the very least, shouldn't this thread be moved there?
Oh, I forgot about that, I will move it there
I forgot how to move a topic to a new thread, I did it once but forgot how
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Isn't http://www.bay12forums.com/smf/index.php?board=18.0 for this? At the very least, shouldn't this thread be moved there?
Oh, I forgot about that, I will move it there
I forgot how to move a topic to a new thread, I did it once but forgot how
If you look on the bottom of the screen, you should see something like Move Topic.
If you can't find it, try ctrl+f, and search for Move Topic.
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Oh. Thanks
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randomly watching you all give and take advice.
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Okay kids, here's my two cents: If you want to win at life, pay attention to contraception.
Just some friendly advice from a father.
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this Halloween, buy a spooky ghost costume for your little champ.
A classic look, now with reinforced for your satisfaction!
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Just a little mental itch that's been bothering me. It comes from having repeated dreams about going back to high school, either I'm at the school age or suddenly had an anime plot happened where I have to go back to high school. Not like night school but like full fledged during regular classes.
I had two other sets of recurring dreams but it makes sense with one and the other weird. Those dreams are not problematic for me as the high school dreams.
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I'd suggest looking for the (newish) thing in your life that links back to high school, or something that was part of your life at that stage. For example, new job meaning being confined 9 to 5 again, or fear of failure resulting in not asking someone out (again), or... well whatever. By the time you could provide us enough information you'd already have it figured out. :D Then look at resolving whatever is causing the tension.
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You can pick your friends.
You can pick your nose.
But you shouldn't pick your friend's nose.
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Don't use the sniff-test technique on socks.
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Just a little mental itch that's been bothering me. It comes from having repeated dreams about going back to high school, either I'm at the school age or suddenly had an anime plot happened where I have to go back to high school. Not like night school but like full fledged during regular classes.
I had two other sets of recurring dreams but it makes sense with one and the other weird. Those dreams are not problematic for me as the high school dreams.
Could also just be you finally dealing with stuff from back then. Sometimes your brain quits worrying about things when you're stressed, and then brings them back up when you're not. It's a good plan, but the current implementation of "no warning, no quarter" could use some work.
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Just a little mental itch that's been bothering me. It comes from having repeated dreams about going back to high school, either I'm at the school age or suddenly had an anime plot happened where I have to go back to high school. Not like night school but like full fledged during regular classes.
I had two other sets of recurring dreams but it makes sense with one and the other weird. Those dreams are not problematic for me as the high school dreams.
Could also just be you finally dealing with stuff from back then. Sometimes your brain quits worrying about things when you're stressed, and then brings them back up when you're not. It's a good plan, but the current implementation of "no warning, no quarter" could use some work.
Well, I did finally fixed the idea in my head with for me having a gf= I actually have worth and that I'm a good person. If I didnt have a gf then I was a horrible person that no one should really be around with. It took a bit of work just to locate that fucked up notion in my head and even more work and a Big fucking lever to pry it out but I feel better because of it.
This doesnt mean that I stopped wanting to find someone who genuinely wants to be with me but now it's not the entirety of my worth or gage of character.
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"Describe your knowledge..."
Am I correct in assuming the correct* response to that is "yes", but formatted as 2 paragraphs? Also, as a person who gives useful answers, how do you make yes into a speech?
*what they're looking for, not what they deserve.
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Best advice I ever got, shot directly at no one in particular: make your sleeping space a sleeping space. Darker, smaller, quieter space. Don't eat in bed, don't read in bed, don't watch TV or fuck around on your phone there. Your sleep quality is way better and that makes a difference.
So, uhh... Any advice on getting over exes?
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Flirt outrageously until someone responds and let that sweet ego boost remind you that there's more than one person in the world who finds you desirable.
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So, uhh... Any advice on getting over exes?
Take a few months off away from them before you try being friends.
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So, uhh... Any advice on getting over exes?
Each relationship is better than the last. It may take more time to find someone new but that is caused by your improved experiences with connecting with someone else. One step towards dealing with your ex(s) in a more healthy way is knowing that you should never go back to them. Once you realize its really over for good you can just think about your past as fond memories and not as something you are trying to get back to. The past is the past. The sooner you look towards the future the sooner it will be here. Life is about growing, every bit of growth puts you in a much better space to have a healthier and more stable relationship that your past relationship can't begin to compete with.
Time indeed heals all wounds so if you can't will yourself to move on, know that time will take care of it inevitably.
If you want a more mechanical approach; Removing items that constantly remind you of an ex is a necessary step even if it means quitting an entire game or selling a device that they gifted you. Life is actually quite long so changing major things about yourself should never be something to fear.
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A clean break from an ex is best, and a really good idea if you haven't been in a large number of relationships before. That being said, if you have things that tie you to the person such as jointly owned property, a business or even kids, sometimes this isn't possible. Hopefully you're not yet at that stage prior to the breakup.
As cliche as it is, the best way to get over a breakup is to go out and try again, assuming you desire companionship. Focus on self-improvement, challenge yourself to be more friendly and available to the people around you, get advice from your friends for an honest second opinion about yourself, and just put yourself out there. Soul-mates, love at first sight, and all that Hollywood rubbish aren't reality. There's plenty of people out there who can exist with you in a happy relationship, so don't sell yourself short accepting less than you're capable of achieving.
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I completed the Lament Configuration (https://hellraiser.fandom.com/wiki/Lament_Configuration), and got stuck in a 2-hour long meeting led by one of my coworkers yesterday. The classic "doesn't know what to do, so they hide it by talking loudly and constantly. Then they sucker other people into doing their jobs so they can take credit" coworker. After they talked about making a pdf of their signatures and uploading that instead of signing a document by hand and uploading a pdf of that (for security) for half an hour, I zoned out.
Then, today, I received a phone call from them, which I didn't answer because I have caller ID. I listened to the first few seconds of the message in case it's information useful for my job, and I'm told, "I'm about to send you an email and..." deleted. Apparently, at some point during my fugue state, I agreed to help with some project.
So I guess the advice I need is: what excuse do I use to avoid the next meeting?
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How does a pdf of a pdf increase security?
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So I guess the advice I need is: what excuse do I use to avoid the next meeting?
Claim you have more pressing work to do. Hopefully that's actually true.
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What does a butch wear to a christmas dinner with relatives? Look, as I'm living on my own, I'm finally (more) comfortable being myself, but I'm not sure about those of not immediate family.
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Khakis and a nice understated yet festive sweater would be my call, with a polo underneath in case it's too warm for a sweater.
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Khakis and a nice understated yet festive sweater would be my call, with a polo underneath in case it's too warm for a sweater.
That sounds great, thanks!
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Khakis and a nice understated yet festive sweater would be my call, with a polo underneath in case it's too warm for a sweater.
See, I was going to suggest "a bandolier of airplane whiskey bottles." I guess your suggestion works, though.
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Khakis and a nice understated yet festive sweater would be my call, with a polo underneath in case it's too warm for a sweater.
See, I was going to suggest "a bandolier of airplane whiskey bottles." I guess your suggestion works, though.
Even better if they're still full!
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See, I was going to suggest "a bandolier of airplane whiskey bottles." I guess your suggestion works, though.
Even better if they're still full!
For how long?
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See, I was going to suggest "a bandolier of airplane whiskey bottles." I guess your suggestion works, though.
Even better if they're still full!
For how long?
About as long as it takes for each guest to snatch their own bottle, and gulp it down! Say, first 5 mins or so, depending how fast I move from the front door to the back yard, while exchanging a few words with everyone on the way.
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Assume everything is a scam.
This is coming from experience, being a fairly gullible individual, I have learnt the hard way :/
I had a convincing phone call last year and ended up with a load of life admin having to cancel my bank cards and change all my passwords for everything, my bank did refund me but it took a lot of effort to get it all sorted. Now I know to always check the legitimacy of every call I receive. I use websites like https://scam-numbers.co.uk/ (https://scam-numbers.co.uk/) or https://who-called-gov.uk/ (https://who-called-gov.uk/) to check out any phone numbers of people calling me now, even when it sounds realistic. Better safe than sorry.
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Don't use the sniff-test technique on socks.
I see.
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Assume everything is a scam.
This is coming from experience, being a fairly gullible individual, I have learnt the hard way :/
I had a convincing phone call last year and ended up with a load of life admin having to cancel my bank cards and change all my passwords for everything, my bank did refund me but it took a lot of effort to get it all sorted. Now I know to always check the legitimacy of every call I receive. I use websites like https://scam-numbers.co.uk/ (https://scam-numbers.co.uk/) or https://who-called-gov.uk/ (https://who-called-gov.uk/) to check out any phone numbers of people calling me now, even when it sounds realistic. Better safe than sorry.
Seems like a scam to me
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Assume everything is a scam.
100% can relate. I run a small business, and constantly get scam calls, emails, and reps from various entities trying to pull a fast one.
Assume everyone is out to profit at your expense. If you're wrong, enjoy the feeling of pleasant surprise. The ones you discover aren't out to get something from you are worth keeping as friends.
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Assume everything is a scam.
This is coming from experience, being a fairly gullible individual, I have learnt the hard way :/
I had a convincing phone call last year and ended up with a load of life admin having to cancel my bank cards and change all my passwords for everything, my bank did refund me but it took a lot of effort to get it all sorted. Now I know to always check the legitimacy of every call I receive. I use websites like https://scam-numbers.co.uk/ (https://scam-numbers.co.uk/) or https://who-called-gov.uk/ (https://who-called-gov.uk/) to check out any phone numbers of people calling me now, even when it sounds realistic. Better safe than sorry.
There's apps like Truecaller, which automatically do that work for you. It harvests your data and sells it, but it's already doing that when your friends use it.
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One saying has stuck with me whenever I consider using free apps, website registrations or services:
"If you're not the customer, you're the product."
If I'm not paying money to the company, I'm probably being sold to someone else. Or maybe both.
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Ooh, I'm going to use this for some form of feedback / suggestion to my current DF Bloodline project.
What name (firsts and surname) would you give to a married dwarf couple where:
he is a sword+3 dwarf/weaponsmith+5, and
she appraiser+5/metal crafter+3?
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Bloodaxe & Ironhammer.
Rather than being matri/patrilineal, I expect a child would be given whichever surname is from the richest/most influential clan.
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One saying has stuck with me whenever I consider using free apps, website registrations or services:
"If you're not the customer, you're the product."
If I'm not paying money to the company, I'm probably being sold to someone else. Or maybe both.
The source of the quote gives more context. They were talking about advertising. For example if they give a "free" paper out at the metro station, the product being sold is how many people read the paper, and the customers are the advertisers. It's the same with TV, eyeballing the tube is free, but the more eyeballs the higher the bidding for the advertising slots.
For a small app developer they'll be almost all advertising driven and not data-selling. That's because you would really need to pay someone to oversee that, and unless there's quite a bit of data, it's not worth the value of paying someone a wage to handle that part of things. Also there's the cost of maintaining a server, database, database management etc, professional relationships with who you'd be selling the data to, etc. Basically I can't see this being a cost effective way to make money until it's scaled up quite a bit. What's someone's data worth? A few cents maybe? And you need to hire a pro to run this for you. Say you pay someone low wages of $30000 a year to handle this, and just pretending you don't have any infrastructure costs at all, and you get 10 cents worth of data a year per user, you'd need 300,000 users to break even on that. And that's vastly underestimating the actual costs. Data collection would actually be a little bit more involved than just pushing a button and data flow out and money flows in.
Feeding ads is much easier. You only need a lightweight back-end then, since the ads are served directly from your affiliate sites. Also they don't have to collect data about you to target ads. if you're playing an RPG about dragons for example, then the developers can charge more to advertisers in general that are relevant to that stuff. Just what the app is is relevant data for targeting ads, and being more specific than that may be diminishing returns. This would in fact be far easier: just make a ton of apps that are themselves niche, and feed each of them different ads targeted to the specific niche of that app.