Also are you Jacob?
I pressed Q and z and it zoomed to a 3x3 area with a human on the bottom, It does not show a path or anything though, and the rest is black. It also did not look like my fortress location, because I was forested, and I started in the mountains.
Keep asking about surroundings until they mention something that happened to your fortress, then it should now be on the site list. You should be able to do this in any town nearby or that you traded with, possibly others too but I find that makes it easier.
This has the side effect of sticking a few caves on the site list for extra entertainment too.