Post by: Eidalac on November 02, 2009, 05:41:07 am
Thing I've started to notice, however, is that i can't take it in any way seriously - in essence, when I try to send someone a message on one of those sites, it ends up reading like most of what I post here; rambling and a bit goofy.
So, I never get replied to.
Well, that's either because of that or I'm just that terrible to behold. :P
Seems like IRL I'm just to shy, and online I'm just to oddball, to converse with new people.
It's just getting bothersome, I tell you.
Doesn't help any that most of my RL friends are of the opinion that "sex isn't that great and girls aren't worth the trouble", so I can't count on any social help from them. Fine enough for them to think that, but I'd rather have the option to make up my own mind on the matter. -_-
I don' know, but I just gotta do something. I'm starting to get stir crazy.
Post by: DJ on November 02, 2009, 05:51:41 am
Post by: Cthulhu on November 02, 2009, 09:44:26 am
Cast your net wide.
Post by: Sensei on November 03, 2009, 01:29:58 am
But yeah, don't throw a big act, just be cool. Oh, and as a socially impaired nerd, if you can find girls into your particular interests, that's a bonus and an easier shot (if they're not heavily competed-for already).
Post by: Jimmy on November 03, 2009, 01:49:22 am
Actually, I met my wife while I was at University. I noticed her in the library studying the same subject as me, we started talking, I offered to proof-read her assignments, she took me out to dinner as thanks, and the rest is history.
Post by: Muz on November 03, 2009, 02:55:39 am
Online dating works. I've dated some very attractive females who've I've met online. Met my current girlfriend of 2 years by flirting via sms.. turned out that she studied in the same uni and lived only a few miles from my place. I started flirting with all my offline ex's through chat/sms/IM, so I know it works.
Offline is better if you can do it. One huge advantage of online dating is that it puts aside shyness on both sides. My gf now would have been a little intimidated by me face-to-face, and I'm not very talkative offline, so I think the online factor helps a little in the vulnerable early stages.
Then again, I have a friend who swears that he'd never get another girlfriend from the Internet, because they're all so weird. But he uses Myspace to find them. And he goes for the very attractive ones, even if they're crazy, so that's a problem :P
Post by: Hoborobo234 on November 03, 2009, 12:10:16 pm
Post by: redacted123 on November 03, 2009, 12:18:40 pm
Post by: Hoborobo234 on November 03, 2009, 12:21:45 pm
Ah I am so glad this popped up. This links in well with my thread, no? So, now that the oppurtunity has arisen, How do you ask a girl out? :/It depends on the girl, but I find "hey, do you want to go to dinner/the cinema/the pizza place/etc with me?" Do it after you've had a short conversation, just to gauge how interested they are.
http://www.bay12games.com/forum/index.php?topic=43742.0
You haven't read my thread have you?
Post by: redacted123 on November 03, 2009, 12:29:54 pm
Post by: Hoborobo234 on November 03, 2009, 12:37:04 pm
Post by: Vector on November 03, 2009, 01:39:19 pm
Post by: redacted123 on November 03, 2009, 01:48:47 pm
Post by: Muz on November 04, 2009, 02:31:56 am
How do you ask a girl out? :/
This is one of those problems that you spend years pondering as a teenager. But the solution is simple:
Just ask her out.
It's not hard. Shy? She is too. If both of you are shy, someone has to make the move.
Afraid of rejection? The worst she can do (if you ask politely) is say no. It doesn't mean you can't try again later. It doesn't mean you're no longer friends. She won't think you're a freak just because you find her attractive.
Just don't rush things. Some girls like it slow, some want you to get straight to the point. It takes experience to figure out what's right, and the only way to get experience is to do it.
Post by: Serefan on November 04, 2009, 09:50:40 am
If she's somewhat alternative, plays tough girl, then she won't like you if you are *too* polite, *too* friendly, etc. You have to be a bit of a daredevil with your words, and if you happen to say something that she's genuinely offended by, make sure you don't drop your act and don't know what to say next.
If she's a shy type, take it slow, use kind words, don't say anything too offensive but don't do the opposite neither because shy types have to learn to be more open themselves,...
You could go on and on about types of character and what to do with them, but it all comes down to observing the girl and using your intuition.
Post by: Hoborobo234 on November 04, 2009, 12:02:19 pm
Post by: redacted123 on November 04, 2009, 12:36:39 pm
Post by: Hoborobo234 on November 04, 2009, 01:07:01 pm
Post by: Cthulhu on November 04, 2009, 02:19:01 pm
Post by: Kagus on November 04, 2009, 02:50:38 pm
My opinion? It's just an infatuation. Feels like love, but stops as fast as it starts and only serves to lead you into all sorts of really nasty pits (there is ABSOLUTELY NO INNUENDO in that sentence).
Just wait it out for a while. Try and think about other things. Eventually, the main rush will be over and you'll feel like a twit, but it's a heck of a lot better than some of the alternatives. Just talk with her. Get to know her. Nothing serious.
Just remember something... If a person can't be your friend, they can't be your soulmate. Simple as that.
Post by: Hoborobo234 on November 04, 2009, 05:19:39 pm
Post by: Lord Dakoth on November 04, 2009, 06:15:34 pm
If she's dumb, don't go out with her. I would rather die alone than marry a stupid.
Whoa, whoa, SLOWWWW DOWWWWWWN.
Dating DOES NOT EQUAL Marriage. Especially not if you're a freshman in highschool.
Post by: Cthulhu on November 04, 2009, 09:38:37 pm
Post by: Siquo on November 05, 2009, 05:50:33 am
Anyhow, in my personal experience, online dating works, both for short-term flings and long term having-babies-relationships.
Post by: Cheeetar on November 05, 2009, 08:16:07 am
Intelligence is overrated.
DOES NOT LIKE
Post by: Siquo on November 05, 2009, 08:57:57 am
Really, when offered the mutually exclusive choice, I'd rather have someone who knows little, but knows that she knows little, than someone who knows a lot, but doesn't know that her knowledge is limited.
Post by: BuriBuriZaemon on November 06, 2009, 04:21:50 am
In fact, intelligent girls are sexually attractive to me.
Post by: IndonesiaWarMinister on November 06, 2009, 04:57:13 am
In fact, intelligent girls are sexually attractive to me.
NOT INTERESTED IN YOUR FETISHES
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Post by: Muz on November 06, 2009, 11:40:42 am
If you're not compatible BEFORE you start dating, then I'd suggest you stay away. If her being dumb turns you on, well, yeah.
Post by: Vester on November 08, 2009, 03:06:37 am
If I was a girl, I'd go for someone rambling and goofy. More fun than the boring, serious ones.
I prefer stable guys myself. Goofy dudes are good as buddies, and that's it. But that's just me. Like Muz says, there is someone who'll like you for you, unless you're utterly, irredeemably insane.
Post by: eerr on November 08, 2009, 04:01:51 am
Mmmmm, stable?If I was a girl, I'd go for someone rambling and goofy. More fun than the boring, serious ones.
I prefer stable guys myself. Goofy dudes are good as buddies, and that's it. But that's just me. Like Muz says, there is someone who'll like you for you, unless you're utterly, irredeemably insane.
Post by: Vester on November 08, 2009, 04:05:39 am
I guess, yeah, boring and serious. Predictable.
Post by: Jude on November 08, 2009, 01:39:03 pm
Also do yourself a favor and never, ever listen to a guy saying "well if I was a girl I would like a guy who does x and y"
because he's not a girl and that makes all the difference, plus he's probably just projecting himself into imaginary girls' desires
Post by: Vester on November 09, 2009, 04:14:45 am
"Well, if I were a girl, I would like a guy who has QUALITIES SIMILAR TO MYSELF" :P
Seriously. Dating a guy because he's goofy and rambling doesn't sound like a good foundation for a relationship to me.
Post by: Jude on November 09, 2009, 07:32:02 am
Or worse, it comes off as
"Well, if I were a girl, I would like a guy who has QUALITIES SIMILAR TO MYSELF" :P
Basically
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Ya also, since when is a guy either "goofy and rambling" or "serious and boring"
Seriously. Dating a guy because he's goofy and rambling doesn't sound like a good foundation for a relationship to me.
Nice false dichotomy guys too bad there's other options such as "mature and has it together"
Post by: Kagus on November 09, 2009, 03:30:32 pm
Nice false dichotomy guys too bad there's other options such as "mature and has it together"
What, you mean like... you?
Post by: Jude on November 09, 2009, 05:58:08 pm
Nice false dichotomy guys too bad there's other options such as "mature and has it together"
What, you mean like... you?
Well I'd hardly be cocky, but I would go so far as to say I'm more mature than a guy whose selling point to a girl is that he's "rambling and goofy"
Post by: AtomicPaperclip on November 09, 2009, 10:13:55 pm
You don't actually have to be confident, and you can love her to death.
Applies to online and offline I guess.
Post by: Jude on November 09, 2009, 10:36:28 pm
although there are some things it won't help you overcome
Post by: Footkerchief on November 12, 2009, 03:40:36 am
Post by: Kagus on November 12, 2009, 04:08:59 am
I literally have sex with 3+ women
I never knew NPC's could have enchantment levels.
And I've seen a man who uses his testicles as a bean bag chair. I don't believe he gets much luck with the ladies.
But then again, I've got a decidedly average set of genitalia, so I'm probably just jealous of having a trouser snake that takes a swim every time I sit on the loo.
Post by: Rilder on November 12, 2009, 04:15:42 am
and holy fuck am I a grower... :P
Post by: Kagus on November 12, 2009, 04:20:24 am
I blame the AM.
Post by: Footkerchief on November 12, 2009, 04:24:35 am
I never knew NPC's could have enchantment levels.
Um, a real bro knows that women are just items. I guess you have small testicles.
(on a serious note, don't turn this into earnest discussion of one's genitalia, please)
Post by: Rilder on November 12, 2009, 04:26:47 am
Post by: Jude on November 12, 2009, 07:30:27 pm
Post by: Footkerchief on November 12, 2009, 08:10:49 pm
Post by: WorkerDrone on November 12, 2009, 10:48:33 pm
NEVERMIND, DIDN'T KNOW YOU WERE UH...'COMPARING SIZES'.
Post by: sonerohi on November 12, 2009, 11:04:09 pm
Post by: Lord Dakoth on November 12, 2009, 11:49:25 pm
each week I literally have sex with 3+ women labeled by an independent panel of bros as "Wicked Hot."I never knew NPCs could have enchantment levels.
Siggy. ;D
Post by: Jude on November 13, 2009, 06:28:55 pm
It's a metaphor that perpetuates gender norms of the most ridiculous kind.
Oh well I guess I'll stop using the phrase balls to mean courage then since it sets women back about 50 years every time I say it
Post by: Little on November 13, 2009, 07:11:54 pm
I'm greeted by penis talk. Goddamnit.
Post by: Gunner-Chan on November 13, 2009, 10:28:42 pm
Post by: Eidalac on November 14, 2009, 11:12:15 am
I forgot I started this.
Anyway, to back up a bit, being rambling and/or goofy does not preclude being mature or "having it together".
Post by: Jude on November 15, 2009, 04:23:22 am
Post by: Footkerchief on November 15, 2009, 04:42:59 am
Post by: Eidalac on November 15, 2009, 05:26:11 am
Tell that to the next girl you try to impress with your goofiness and ramblingness
Eh?
It takes weeks IRL for me to feel comfortable enough around a person to be that way, so that's a non issue anyway.
Plus, the goofiest guys I know are also the 3 that get action constantly. All of this has far more to do with confidence than anything else. They are very laid back because they have no social fears at all, which gives them license to be utterly weird and just not care.