If you have everything easily within your reach then you might as well not play the game. Games have always about spending effort to get what you initially do not have. Be it total map control, the princess, some cheap fan fare, or general !!FUN!!. So as someone have said, get over it and try to import or learn to live without them. Lignite isnt the only think to make coal, in example.
EDIT: Making everything to perfection is perfectionism. Wanting everything on the table beforehand is called lazy 
You know, you are right sort of.
I think its more that I want to be able to eventually access everything, I don't care how hard I would have to work, the fact that I create the world, choose a location annoys me I think, I could pick one location which has what I want, or a different one which does not.
The location finder use to help you (as I've noticed in videos) but now its a waste of time so now you simply choose your location randomly.
Random chance,
I hate chance I hate dice, dice games are stupid. Luck dice, get away from me I have no desire to play games of chance,
But thats all there is in DF if you embark somewhere you simply hope for good, there is no unlocking or working towards, you just work with what you get in the location.
Which meant I made an amazing fortress, only to find no lignite or bituminous coal, and I had hardly any trees.
But I think you are right, I need to have more patience and simply accept what I cannot control.
Thankyou Rephikul.