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Life Advice / So, which is worse?
« on: September 14, 2009, 09:53:58 pm »
Mostly just tossing this up here out of curiosity to see what other B-12ers think.
I don't have a hugely extensive dating history myself. I'm 23, I've had four relationships I'd consider serious (i.e. not flings/sex-for-fun arrangements). The only one of those relationships I was head-over-heels about was the first, in which case I was the one who was broken up with. In the other three I did the breaking.
Both cases suck, obviously, but if you want to maintain any sort of dating life you might as well expect to encounter one or both sooner or later.
I just recently ended my last relationship, and have been reminded just how much I hate breaking up with girls. It's much easier to be broken up with; that way you can deal with your own anguish/anger/emotions more honestly. If you're breaking up with someone, though (especially as a guy), if you still care for the other person on a non-romantic level, it's pretty much necessary to play the 'heavy' in spite of how you might actually be feeling to spare them as much of The Suck as possible. And trust me, this isn't fun. I'd much rather deal with feelings of anger and sadness than deal with guilt.
Of course, I'm sure I've probably got a lot of more of this shit to look forward to in the coming years. Yay.
But talking about these kind of thing sometimes helps, and it's always interesting to hear the opinions of others.
I don't have a hugely extensive dating history myself. I'm 23, I've had four relationships I'd consider serious (i.e. not flings/sex-for-fun arrangements). The only one of those relationships I was head-over-heels about was the first, in which case I was the one who was broken up with. In the other three I did the breaking.
Both cases suck, obviously, but if you want to maintain any sort of dating life you might as well expect to encounter one or both sooner or later.
I just recently ended my last relationship, and have been reminded just how much I hate breaking up with girls. It's much easier to be broken up with; that way you can deal with your own anguish/anger/emotions more honestly. If you're breaking up with someone, though (especially as a guy), if you still care for the other person on a non-romantic level, it's pretty much necessary to play the 'heavy' in spite of how you might actually be feeling to spare them as much of The Suck as possible. And trust me, this isn't fun. I'd much rather deal with feelings of anger and sadness than deal with guilt.
Of course, I'm sure I've probably got a lot of more of this shit to look forward to in the coming years. Yay.
But talking about these kind of thing sometimes helps, and it's always interesting to hear the opinions of others.