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You keep doing it.QuoteIf I was married, I wouldn't be sleeping with
Allmost there, now stick the landing.Quotecommitted people
aaw...QuoteWhy are you a condescending loser not giving life advice on the life advice sub forum and instead mock me?
Nice touch, because it's obvious to everybody here, but you, that you are contributing to the erosion of the very morals you are mourning. Moral principles that you seem to fail to understand to be an illusion, come on if nobody is cheating on you because they get lapidated or whipped, does that really count? You should have more pride than that, but it's apparent that you're looking for an assymetrical safeguard.
Why does OP want to go to a country where they'd get ostracised and punished for their behaviour? Masochism or smt?
Why, because you want to know about places where adultery is punished in a big deal fashion. I'm educating you about which places are those and how you would fare in them, just as I educated you about the consequences of your drug abuse. It's a duty of sorts.
Oh certainly, Dfnewb seems to be blissfully unaware of how would said "traditional societies" regard himQuote'Ubada b. as-Samit reported: Allah's Messenger as saying: Receive teaching from me, receive teaching from me. Allah has ordained a way for those women. When an unmarried male commits adultery with an unmarried female, they should receive one hundred lashes and banishment for one year. And in case of married male committing adultery with a married female, they shall receive one hundred lashes and be stoned to death.
— Sahih Muslim, 17:4191
A cynical who believes in the sacrednes of marriage, I pitty your future children, what a pipedream.
btw the country he is looking for is antique rome
A cynical who believes in the sacrednes of marriage, I pitty your future children, what a pipedream.
Unless it's someone else's marriage, you mean.
I mean he's said he wants a society in which cheaters get beaten up or whatever, but he fails to note that he would be on the receiving end of this several times.
Even if he does manage to find a woman to start a family with, I'd be quite willing to put money on him being the cause of it breaking down.
It's funny what stuff you can find in the Life Advice forum.
I really didn't want to make a pointless, off-topic comment, but... wowie! OP acts like he's straight from r/braincels, down to "I'm entitled to have sex with women" mentality.
Also, DFNewb, do you really believe that cheating partners should be beaten for infidelity? If that's so, do you believe that men also should be punished for cheating on their wifes? Not that it matters much, though: If you think that someone should be beaten and their life ruined for such a devious crime as infidelity, then you really are an IIHS (Interesting Individual of Human Species)...
I'm not going to debate OP's views, or anything like that. I simply said my personal opinion.
Dogpiling on this guy is pretty much Bay12's favorite pastime.
Sure, the question is kinda squick-worthy, but I doubt any of your condemnations and analyses are going to reach through the interwebs to fundamentally alter his worldview.
As for the question... I'm sure there are plenty of friend groups and social circles that behave in such a manner, but moving to a physical location with such tendencies would probably make you a foreign outsider, making it rather difficult to enter into such a committed relationship in the first place.
Maybe some sort of rural Christian community, like an Amish sect or some shit? So long as you can rock a beard, at least. I'm assuming you're in the US somewhere but I can't remember if you ever mentioned your location.
One option no one's yet brought up is starting a cult, which is honestly probably the best way to get around most repressed communities' taboo against publicly discussing extramarital relations and thus publicly shaming adulterers as volubly as DFNewb might like. This also frees him from Utah, since cults can be pretty much anywhere -- although it might be best from a land value perspective to put the compound somewhere remote, like one of the Dakotas.
Right. Me telling you to manage your own BS instead of trying to place the blame elsewhere is sexist. Nice try. Those women ain't here. You are, asking for help. So manage your shit because it's the only thing you have any control over. You said it yourself. It takes two to tango, so really appreciate what that maxim actually means.
I don't hear any sense of culpability in your words. Just a latent fear of being cuck'd as you have already cuck'd others, and trying to find a way to avoid it.
News flash: all genders in all societies cheat. Regardless of social mores. Whereever in the world people be fuckin', after a while, they're going to lust after some strange. The more forbidden and taboo society considers it, the more allure it will have. Picking a place in the world to live isn't going to change that, just tilt the odds. Especially in the US, where most people that preach family values and fidelity are so full of shit it's coming out their eyeballs.
And if you're going to post to the internet looking for advice, and throwing your opinion out there, you're entitled to people judging that opinion.
I can't tell you where to look for your marital elysium, but I can tell you you're better off asking somewhere else than the wretched hive of progressive scum and villainy that Bay12 is.
Maybe an Orthodox Jewish commune? I dont know if they actually accept converts though
Guy. There are no locations there aren't absolute hellholes that fit your really strict condemnations of infidelity. That's what we're trying to tell you. Do YOU even know what you're looking for??? Like I already said, MOST PLACES are already places where people will not actively encourage cheating. That shit is in your head. You can have a faithful relationship/marriage wherever. What do you want, to see people who cheat beaten or their lives ruined???
There ARE allegedly 20 states in the US where adultery is illegal (you can research that yourself)--though it isn't anything more than a misdemeanor in those areas. To be honest, I highly doubt that in those 20 states, that someone is really socially put to the torch when they cheat. If you're asking for a place where cheating DOESN'T happen, like, at all--well, you are shit out of luck, my friend.
That said, if you google "Is [any area] a good place to raise a family" you'll find endless lists of towns and cities that are family-friendly. I assume these might be places to settle down... so, I guess that fits the bill a bit?I live in the Western world, cheating is glorified. I've slept with more girls with boyfriend's / husband's than without.I don't get it. You wanna live somewhere where you couldn't have as much sex?
I want to live somewhere where I can have a marriage like my father and his father and his father before him had.
But who even cares about sex? I want to have a family and successful children with the support of 2 parents.
If you want an arranged marriage it's probably better to move to a more traditional country like India or China or somewhere in Eastern Europe.
And clearly YOU care about sex! Nobody wants to be cheated on, but mail-order brides just don't fucking exist. You have to love your spouse, or at least respect them. Check out The Stepford Wives, lol. Also, you should know as abig cheaterbig-person-who-has-caused-others-to-cheat yourself, sex is a big part of any relationship.
You have unrealistic expectations. Cheating happens. Not in a certain are or with certain people, it happens to people who feel neglected or spiteful. It happens even in places where it can be punished with death. But it also doesn't happen a lot too, and that phenomenon isn't attributable to a certain area or people either--it's all down to you and who you meet and how you treat them.
This seems to be you wanting a shortcut to what you want. Rather than, you know, asking people to be honest with you and vetting your relationships, you want to find somewhere that culturally punishes people for.....doing the thing you willfully already did in the past?
Rather than extraneously blaming society, or women....try blaming yourself and your own penis? You seem to act like you need a society to check your balls. You need to check your balls, and you need to check the person you want to get involved with.
Prime example: just today a married woman effectively expressed her intentions for a recently divorced friend of mine. She's older but attractive.
And you know what he said? No. "You're married, you're complicated and I don't need that drama or that karma. I think you're hot but it's not just the right time."
That's self control. No societal or cultural pressure needed. He was just a fucking man about it, and self-aware enough to know what trouble is when he sees it, and self-aware enough not to let himself fall in to it.QuoteI don't need randoms on the internet judging how I view relationships
Hypocrisy. Good luck with that.
I live in the Western world, cheating is glorified. I've slept with more girls with boyfriend's / husband's than without.I don't get it. You wanna live somewhere where you couldn't have as much sex?
I want to live somewhere where I can have a marriage like my father and his father and his father before him had.
But who even cares about sex? I want to have a family and successful children with the support of 2 parents.
So...find someone who wants to do that with you and go do that? You can do that pretty much anywhere, really. Strictly speaking you don't even need a closed relationship to do that, let alone a society that will cater to your trust issues.
I live in the Western world, cheating is glorified. I've slept with more girls with boyfriend's / husband's than without.I don't get it. You wanna live somewhere where you couldn't have as much sex?
I live in the Western world, cheating is glorified. I've slept with more girls with boyfriend's / husband's than without.
Uh, if you're knowingly having sex with somebody that you know is cheating on somebody else, that means you're part of the problem here. If you don't want people to feel rewarded/glorified by cheating on their partners, maybe don't encourage people who are cheating on their partners?
Most of Western and Eastern Society? Go somewhere super religious I guess. Anywhere in Alabama, the South in general, or maybe Utah--but Salt Lake City was literally founded by a Christian sect persecuted for having multiple wives sooo...
None of my business, but that's a very unhealthy attitude. You want to live in a place that people are socially punished for their indiscretions because of your own prior experiences? That's messed up dawg. You could move to Saudi Arabia I guess. I don't know where the heck you live, but in most places cheating/adultery is generally frowned upon. Sounds more like you just know some shitty people, my guy.
