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« on: January 11, 2011, 11:18:15 pm »
Oh God Vector, I feel exactly the same way at times myself. My personal reaction is to say screw the mainstream if that's not what you are. As far as my own life is concerned, I fully admit that I have not found happiness, but I'm not going to find it if I'm not being honest with myself! I don't mean to pry, but I'm curious who these "folks" are. I'm also curious what "get ahead in life" means. You seem to be doing fine in your life so far.
I will also add that if you do decide to conform - even a little bit - don't do it just because someone told you to! Sure, it'll make your social life with them a little easier, but it will make a lot of other things harder for you. In all honesty, I think you already know what you want to do.
This does raise an interesting question, though. It seems like the feedback so far for Vector has been along these lines of my post above, and this is likely because she is somewhat well-known and seems to be doing well enough. However, at what point should someone be advised to actually conform a little? There is the popular catchphrase "Be Yourself" that gets thrown around a lot in this sort of situation, but should you really be yourself if you are a terrible or self-destructive person? (Not to imply Vector is such a person - I'm merely curious where the line is.)