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« on: May 04, 2009, 10:57:23 am »
I was under the impression that rumors or wrong accusations without factual basis whatsoever cannot hurt anyone that's decent enough in terms of knowledge, abilities, and the way to treat others. People that don't know this person may think something, but these people likely have nothing to do with him/her anyway. People who really know this person wouldn't believe those outrageous claims. Of course, I'm not talking about wrong evidence, like some recent news about genetic labs having mistakes on rape cases. Actually some of my relatives, being very nice and respectable people, managed to fight off some rumors easily, so I know this can happen to some extent.
Well, when I brought this up somewhere else, nobody seemed to believe. The problem is, they usually bring up conditions that are exceedingly rare in my point of view. What if someone is just bored? Well, how many bored people will risk the effort and legal consequences to defame others, if just for fun? What if you step on someone accidentally and he now hates you? Damn it, I say - Is it really that hard to be nice? Just say "sorry" instead of "why the hell didn't you step aside" should be enough. He might still be angry, but unlikely to be angry enough to, well, follow you and try to ruin your life.
So if it boils down to conflict of interests, say someone wants your position. I believe if one has enough ability to do his job well, people would believe that he'll, well, be appropriate for that position. Plus, any rumor without factual basis can be discredited.
I wonder what's other people's experience with this kind of thing. I know people that get into trouble due to not being nice, and people that are immune to rumors due to being decent. I have run into trouble myself because of, well, no reason. I guess it was racism. However, faced with unfounded hostility, other people at the scene supported me, so I believe that people won't just follow anything.
Maybe I'm just too lucky, and maybe some people I know are just too good. Whatever.