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Life Advice / Riding through depression
« on: February 27, 2013, 05:39:19 pm »
Hey, folks.  Here's the deal.

I'm going through a spell of depression right now that doesn't seem to be caused by anything in particular.  I'm just sad, numb, lack motivation, etc.  I've been depressed enough times to know that this isn't something that therapy will help, and I'm also not so depressed that I can't plan for when I'll be happy again--so I'm making sure I don't do any of the things that usually cause depresion loop-de-loops.  I've been taking care of myself, I hang out with friends, I take my vitamins and generally eat well, I keep clean, and I know I exercise less than I should but I'm really working hard to muster the gumption for that one.

I guess this is my question: what do you guys do when you need to just wait?  What do you tell people so that they don't worry or get upset at you when you don't have the energy to contact them in person?

This can be a general support thread if you want; I just don't want to put it in the sad thread because it seems really stupid to go "bleh, I'm so lacking in motivation that I can barely make myself do stuff like get my purse ready" day after day after day.

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General Discussion / "Why don't women like nice guys?"
« on: November 12, 2012, 11:56:15 pm »
I've been thinking about this a lot recently.  To my surprise, I discovered recently that "nice guy" is really low on my own list of traits I look for in a partner.  I used to think that what I wanted more than anything was someone who treated everyone decently and about whom everyone felt good, but found that I'd be glad to go out with someone who rubbed a lot of people the wrong way as long as we shared a deep mutual understanding and they were, at their core, a fairly decent person.  I didn't want "nice," I wanted "knowing."

More than that, when I'm just as nice as I can think to be, the results tend to be pretty bad.  I feel taken for granted, whereas men seem to act nicer when I'm aloof and disinterested.  My friends tell me that they appreciate my prickly personality and "like it when I yell at them."

Indeed, I hear plenty of women also saying "why do men always go for the bitches?" and have rarely heard any answer to the main question framed with something other than evolutionary psychology, which usually neglects this gender-rotated side of the equation.  In particular, I'm bisexual with a mild preference for women, and have noticed that in both cases the objects of my affection seem to be a little bit rough around the edges.

So, with that motivation: what do you folks think?  Do you prefer partners who others consider mean?  Have you been a "nice guy" and had it work out for you?  How important are niceness and outpourings of affection for you?


* To be as specific as possible: I'm not talking about the thing where folks pretend to be nice and then are actually assholes trying to buy someone else's body with compliments.  I'm trying to talk more specifically about why genuine nice may be less important to people than other stuff.

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Life Advice / PSA: "Why don't women like nice guys?"
« on: November 12, 2012, 09:50:45 pm »
EDIT: This OP was a total clusterfuck.  Please see a more general discussion of a similar topic here.

Spoiler: FLUSTERCUCK (click to show/hide)

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General Discussion / The Hunger Games
« on: January 07, 2012, 11:49:11 am »
So, I haven't read this, but it seems to be extremely popular.  Is it good?  Would anyone here recommend it?

I read about a page and wasn't fond of the style, but that may be because I grew out of the age bracket.  On the other hand, for some reason it's the Big New Fandom on the net, after the wave of Hetalia melting into Homestuck.

Opinions?

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General Discussion / New Year's Dreams?
« on: January 01, 2012, 03:46:12 pm »
In Japan, there's a tradition that the first dream you have in the new year--on the night of January 31st--is a prophecy of your luck to come for the rest of the year.  I can't relate my dream because it would get me permabanned, but I suspect that I may end up actually trying to date a woman this year.  For reference, the most "auspicious" and lucky dreams should have a hawk, Mount Fuji, and an eggplant in them.

What did you dream about, Bay12?

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Other Games / So maybe I'm a fool, but... (Witcher on Steam, Polish audio; help thread)
« on: December 29, 2011, 02:37:40 am »
I recently bought the first Witcher (the enhanced director's cut version) on Steam, and cannot figure out how to turn on Polish audio.  Is this even possible?  I've been having pretty bad luck looking thus far.

EDIT: Yeah, I'm a fool.  Turns out you need to fix it out of game, which I did not anticipate.  Sorry, bros!

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Life Advice / Removing rust from pliers
« on: October 22, 2011, 05:53:54 pm »
How do I do this?

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Life Advice / Emergency Social Query!
« on: August 21, 2011, 05:15:59 am »
Someone has asked me to the movies.  He is trying to get more people to come with us.

One of the people he has suggested is a person I would not like to come along.  However, there is some potential difficulty.  Friend A(sker) knows that I am inviting friend B out for a social event earlier in the day.  Friend A and I are communicating privately.

I don't entirely know how to get out of this, because my reasons not to want to ask B to such an event are multi-fold:

a. On meeting feels like that's about enough of friend B
b. Friend B is pretty much always late to everything, by egregious amounts (sometimes upwards of 2 hours)
c. Friend B has terrible personal hygiene and doesn't get along super-well with A
d. Friend B does not like movies
e. Friend B has a friend C from his college visiting right now, and I don't know a damned thing about friend C (interests, personality, name, gender)
f. Friend B is almost impossible to contact via any means.


So, at the moment, the plan of attack is:

Tell Friend A that I'll see about Friend B--"I'll see tomorrow, but you know that he has Friend C staying with him right now."

Go meet Friend B tomorrow.  If Friend C comes along, evaluate Friend C.

If I end up liking Friend C and Friend B isn't incredibly irritating, ask B&C to come along (they probably won't be able to come).

If I don't, tell Friend A that things didn't work out and they couldn't come (they couldn't, because I didn't ask them).


The reason why I think this will work is that Friends A and B have almost no social contact whatsoever, and thus there is no reason to think that B will assume he deserves to be invited; the reason why this is sticky is because I do not want to look like a friendless, ungraceful lout.


Is this smart or stupid?

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General Discussion / Intellectual vs. Pseudointellectual
« on: August 14, 2011, 09:27:02 pm »
What's the difference, anyway?

Yeah, I'm pretty much throwing this up here and saying "discuss."  But that's because I'm soliciting advice and dictionaries aren't very good with these social nuance thingamajigs.

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General Discussion / Vegetarian Recipe Thread
« on: July 11, 2011, 01:36:37 am »
Sooo, on the request of MaximumZero, here is a new thread to talk about... vegetarian recipes.

Strangely specific, I guess, but whyever the hell not?

I will be back tomorrow morning or so to provide definitions, rules, and so on, and probably a recipe of my own, so don't go ballistic in here about poorly defined OPs.  Just post cool veggie stuff, ask questions about how to stuff works with the vegetarian diet, whatever.


However, I do have something for the rules section:

It is not permitted in this thread to challenge the validity of vegetarianism or critique its adherents.  If you want to do that, go get a different thread.  This includes just showing up to say "I don't believe in vegetarianism;" it's still a derail, and one I am very, very tired of.  Yeah, I know I like arguing pretty much everywhere else, but fuck, I don't really wanna argue in a recipe thread.

To be completely clear, anyone who persists after having this rule politely pointed to them will be reported for trolling.  This does not include people who go "okay, fuck, how do I get protein/iron/whatever?"  You are okay.  I am talking about the people who come by sometimes and spend approximately a billion years shooting their mouths off about how it is UNNATURAL and we SHOULDN'T DO IT cuz TEETH or summat.

How many damn monkeys do you think there are using the net, anyway?

Thank you, and have a pleasant timestamp.


There's clearly something wrong when the one rule is longer than the rest of the OP, but whatever.

This isn't about me.

This is about food.

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General Discussion / Chill and Relaxed Progressive Irritation and Annoyance Thread
« on: June 04, 2011, 01:41:48 am »
There are some rules and guidelines for this thread.  They will be subject to change.  If they change, I will post in-thread.  Violators will be warned or reported depending on severity.

The rules may seem somewhat absurd, but this sort of thread is often a hot bed for flame wars and all sorts of bullshit.

Let's try to keep this thread bullshit-free on our parts.  Enough shit will be flying already.


0.  Attack arguments, not people.  Period.

0.5a Be as logical, reasonable, and precise as you can be.  This makes it easier to avoid arguments.

0.5b Offering a direct argument is superior to a passive-aggressive one.  Snideness and sarcasm are fine; just use your judgment.

1.  Think before you post.

2.  Do not troll.  Victim-blaming and derailment tactics will not be tolerated.  Shit-posting will not be tolerated, either.

3.  Do not treat people as though they do not exist, or as though they are inhuman or subhuman.  There will be no "othering" here.

4.  I will try not to police language too much, but use common sense.  If your common sense is subpar in this direction, you will be informed.

-> Guideline: this includes appropriation of words surrounding sexual assault and violence in general, as well as illnesses and hateful slurs, to make a point as a metaphor.  I will be gentle about this in most cases other than those concerning rape.

5.  Evolutionary psychology arguments do not belong here.  Keep them out.

-> Guideline: musing about why someone might be a certain way is fine.  Strenuously arguing that they should always remain thus, since the behavior or idea in question was helpful thousands of years ago, is unacceptable.  Other reasons are fine, but history as the sole arbiter is absurd.  This is the progress thread, not the "keep everything the way it always was" thread.

6.  You can post articles that are on-topic.  I will probably ask you to remove off-topic articles, which include obvious things and not-so-obvious things.  I do not want debates here about whether gay people are repressing straight people with their very existence or something; if you want to make those arguments, you will be asked to take it out-of-thread.

7. Do not link to a tabloid (such as, e.g., The Daily Mail) as a news source.  You may mock the state of journalism if you like via such links, however.  Satire articles are also okay.


And, feel free to discuss and challenge the rules.  Not constantly, because that's derailment, but a little talking is fine, and if they end up being too stringent or too weak, you can rest assured that I'll change them.  I'm trying to show a strong face for the OP, but, uh... yeah.  This is just plain old normal Vector.

So don't worry.  Being an asshole is not on the menu for today.

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General Discussion / Looking for an appropriate introductory German novel
« on: April 27, 2011, 11:45:25 am »
What it says on the tin.

My step-grandmother is dying, and I'm trying to learn her native language before she goes.  So I want some easier, semi-approachable things with a "normal" vocabulary to read as I'm studying this summer, preferably at least moderately age-appropriate and interestingly cultural--i.e. if y'all write fantasy as terribly as the French seem to, I would like it if you recommended something else.

I'm basically hoping for some sort of buffer between "See Spot Run" (or the German equivalent) and Nietzsche, Freud, and Marx.  Please help?

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General Discussion / Livestream - Colorful
« on: March 18, 2011, 12:48:24 pm »
Livestream Link~

Next up: Colorful!


Possibilities for future viewing:
Bright Star
Arm Joe (Les Miserables Fighting Game)
The Warriors
Vector Is Introduced to Nic Cage
Princess Tutu
The Shawshank Redemption
Escape From New York
Summer Wars
The Girl Who Leapt Through Time

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Life Advice / ... Livestreaming instructions?
« on: March 15, 2011, 11:48:38 pm »
I'd like to stream something before copyright law is rewritten to make it illegal--probably next week.

This means I need to work fast.  I have a DVD of the material in question.  What else is necessary?  Is there some topic I should be looking at instead of bothering you guys?

Thanks in advance.

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Mafia / Ways not to play scum: lessons from real life
« on: February 15, 2011, 03:07:41 am »
The Aaron Barr debacle.

Let's keep this topic both light and chill, dudes.  It's about the connection between mafia and real-life subterfuge, not "is Anonymous made of awesome or totally over the line."  It's for having fun in yet another mafia-related fashion.

So.

Let's have fun, guys.

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