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Nope. Only physical contact I have with her is occasionally prodding/petting her arm in conversation (though when I pet her I make it look like I'm doing it mockingly), high-fiving her which happens almost every time we go out and agree on an opinion we feel proud of, and her grabbing my hand for a second to get my attention and drag me to something interesting nearby the last time we went out.

I've already spent a full year thinking about it. I'll accept whatever decision she makes, as long as she makes a decision. I am quite confident that her turning me down won't affect my relationship with her too much as long has she herself is fine with me liking her.

It's also why I'm asking for help as to how I'm going to confess to her. I want to be sincere, yet at the same time I don't want it to seem like rejection will affect me too much. I want to be in an environment where both she and I are relaxed, so she can respond however she likes with no pressure, I can say what I feel without anyone panicking and if it goes badly I can reassure her that it's fine and I'm perfectly capable of moving on from it and just being good friends with her.

What I've had in mind is asking if she would consider entering a relationship with me, while admitting that I'd come to like her a lot. If she returns my feelings, great, if not then I just reassure her that it's fine and that I'm glad I can still have her as a friend, trying to make sure she is fine with knowing how I felt about her.

I also don't want to mention anything about how close we are or how long we've known each other, I don't want to make it seem like rejected how I feel would also constitute rejecting our friendship.

Are you sure she's interested in you?
If she is, you have nothing to worry about, and you can take as long as you want.
If you aren't sure, you'd better hurry up, because you're wasting time.

If I was sure, I'd already have done it. All I have now is a slight suspicion, and even then I'm not sure if I've been deliberately interpreting whatever I could as a positive signal.

What else would be a good time to tell her, then? On the train if we're both sitting in a seat separated from the others, maybe?

Well, I never intended to follow that paragraph exactly anyway, just as a rough guide on what I want to say.

Don't do it online, yeah.  For me, at the very least, that's an automatic deal-breaker.  It may not be for her, but I believe it leaves a bad taste in most people's mouths.

It's how she usually communicates with her friends and me, but yeah, I'd rather do it straight to her face.

So, yeah, go with paragraph if possible but just spit it out if I can't stay completely calm?

Because I've had a relationship like that with her for a long time already, before I grew to like her. It might work with someone I don't really know, but not for a close friend, I would think. That's pretty much what's making it complicated for me.