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Life Advice / Re: Crushing on childhood friend.
« on: March 17, 2011, 10:34:21 am »
We get off the train together, then split off at the station entrance. She lives only about 15 minutes away from me.
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Life Advice / Re: Crushing on childhood friend.
« on: March 17, 2011, 10:04:25 am »That's another thing I'm worried about. I don't want her to feel pressured at all, and one thing I'm particularly worried about is her forcing herself to agree to a relationship with me because I'm pretty much one of her only close friends. I'd like to do it in an environment where she can just answer as she thinks.
Well, as you said that her house is a no go, how about when you're walking with her to her house at the end of the day/time your spending time with her?
Not much of an option, since we usually go around by train and there's a train station very near both our houses and we live on opposite sides. Unless I'm going to follow or walk her home we split off right there whenever we go out.
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Life Advice / Re: Crushing on childhood friend.
« on: March 17, 2011, 08:22:30 am »Maybe say something like 'enter' instead of 'pursue', but it sounds fine to me. Pursuing sounds a bit aggressive.
Yeah, might be better. Hopefully I won't seem to emotionally attached, so she has an easier time just saying no and then forgetting about it if she doesn't want to.
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Life Advice / Re: Crushing on childhood friend.
« on: March 17, 2011, 08:18:33 am »I don't personally have much practical experience with this to give you. What I said when I started having feelings for a friend of mine was the truth. It was difficult, but worth it. I'm not saying you should repeat these words, this is just an example of what I did.
"I think that you're smart, witty, charming, and your smile is the most beautiful thing that I've ever seen."
Cliched as hell, but it worked.
"You know, Insert Name Here, I believe I've already said this, but I feel I should say you really are one of the most wonderful people I've had the fortune to meet. When I compare you to other people, you're so much more.. intelligent, mature and charming than the people I run into every day. So, I was thinking.. Insert Name Here, would you be interested in pursuing a relationship with me? I must admit, I think I've fallen for you."
How does that sound?
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Life Advice / Re: Crushing on childhood friend.
« on: March 16, 2011, 01:14:16 pm »I would suggest just telling her that you really like her and ask if she would consider dating.
But don't pressure her.
If she says yes, great.
If she says no: don't freak out, get depressed or obsess about it.
A friend is still a great thing to have, and if she is a good friend she might be able to introduce you to other girls she knows if she isn't interested herself.
That's another thing I'm worried about. I don't want her to feel pressured at all, and one thing I'm particularly worried about is her forcing herself to agree to a relationship with me because I'm pretty much one of her only close friends. I'd like to do it in an environment where she can just answer as she thinks.
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Life Advice / Re: Crushing on childhood friend.
« on: March 16, 2011, 12:54:06 pm »Then do it while hanging out at either one of your places? Just keep it casual.
Suppose I could do that, though she doesn't really want to go to my place because my mother saw her hanging out with me once, and she doesn't want any misunderstanding. She's invited me to go over to her place two times, once when I wanted to borrow a DVD and she ended up showing me stuff on her computer in her room for a few hours early last year, and late last year when we wanted to trade some files. Either way, I'll have parents to deal with, and I'd really rather not go through anything like that. It's much easier to just talk about it in public.
And when I do, how should build up to it? Or should I even build up at all?
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Life Advice / Re: Crushing on childhood friend.
« on: March 16, 2011, 11:29:29 am »Or it could be a movie and then a walk. Or some other non-eating activity and a walk, doesn't HAVE to be food. I think having the walk afterwards gives you neutral time after the fun to get the chat. Maybe hang around at some nice look-point for an hour or so.
I'm not Mr. Smooth, but you could ask her something like "hm, have you ever thought about us being something more than just friends?". Worst case scenario, if she isn't interested in you that way, she'll probably say something like she values your friendship and doesn't want to ruin it, or something cliched like that, which at least implies she doesn't want to stop being your friend just because you asked.
In which caseyou ask her if she wants to be friends with benefitsjust forget the whole thing happened and rest easy knowing that you're just friends and then you can look for another girl to woo while still hanging out with this one.
Not many nice places here to take a walk, unfortunately. All I can think of is the congested city area of not inside a building. I live in a pretty tiny country.
No parks? A plaza maybe? Even congested cities usually have a boulevard or two with benches... Just someplace semi-quiet where you aren't interrupting anything you both are doing, such as eating, and where you don't have a dedicated audience (passersby are ok).
Also, I'm just guessing here, but when you ask her, don't say something like "we've been hanging around a lot lately and I've been thinking..." or something that implies that hanging out with her means you need to date. If she doesn't want to date, she might think she needs to cut down on the hanging out. Unlikely, but it's a stray thought I had.
Yeah, that's the thing. Even if I didn't feel this way towards her I'd enjoy her company just as a friend immensely, being old friends and all. I really don't want her to think not agreeing to be in a relationship with me means we have to cut our friendship out.
I guess I could always ask her if she wants to just walk around the city one day, though she's quite the shut in, so getting her to go out might be difficult.
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Life Advice / Re: Crushing on childhood friend.
« on: March 16, 2011, 11:13:00 am »Or it could be a movie and then a walk. Or some other non-eating activity and a walk, doesn't HAVE to be food. I think having the walk afterwards gives you neutral time after the fun to get the chat. Maybe hang around at some nice look-point for an hour or so.
I'm not Mr. Smooth, but you could ask her something like "hm, have you ever thought about us being something more than just friends?". Worst case scenario, if she isn't interested in you that way, she'll probably say something like she values your friendship and doesn't want to ruin it, or something cliched like that, which at least implies she doesn't want to stop being your friend just because you asked.
In which caseyou ask her if she wants to be friends with benefitsjust forget the whole thing happened and rest easy knowing that you're just friends and then you can look for another girl to woo while still hanging out with this one.
Not many nice places here to take a walk, unfortunately. All I can think of is the congested city area of not inside a building. I live in a pretty tiny country.
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Life Advice / Re: Crushing on childhood friend.
« on: March 16, 2011, 10:40:16 am »
So, yeah, should I just ask her out for a meal, then while talking after finishing the food just tell her straight out how I feel?
How should I even say it?
How should I even say it?
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Life Advice / Re: Crushing on childhood friend.
« on: March 15, 2011, 11:46:42 am »Kaiser, the good and bad.........I am marrying my childhood sweetheart after 16 years on and off. I believe that she could be the one potentially but be prepared for the inevitable heartache when you leave highschool. Everyone needs to spread their wings and see what other people feel like close. Good luck
We were only in the same Primary school, for 6 years, from there we lost contact until about 2 years later, but then we didn't contact each other very much until last year, from then we've been going out together more and more often.
This is probably just the hormones talking, but she is the only girl that I know of that I would seriously consider dating. I won't go off on why I like her so much unless someone asks though.
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Life Advice / Re: Crushing on childhood friend.
« on: March 14, 2011, 12:47:07 pm »if there is athing i have learned from my small amouts of romance in my life is that you should delay asking her
or elce someone will get her before you
but still look for a good time to do it (for example after you have had fun together)
Uh.. you mean "should not delay", right?
Also, yeah, I id want to just talk to her about it while we were having lunch, but just after we both finished our meal she asked if I wanted to leave. Took that to mean she didn't feel like staying.
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Life Advice / Re: Crushing on childhood friend.
« on: March 12, 2011, 02:43:42 pm »
Just thought I'd bump the thread with an update.
I've been pretty much thinking it over all this time, and I've already decided that I'm never going to be satisfied until I know if she likes me too or not. I wanted to tell her in person, but I don't get too see her often since I'm busy with school.
So today, we both decide to visit our old school in the morning due to it having a carnival going on, and we go about and have fun visiting our old teachers and looking at all the changes over the 10 years since we first went there. After that we went for lunch as planned, then I went around the shopping mall looking for some stuff, though after 3 or so hours of just looking around the shops with her neither of us bought anything. I also ended up joining her for dinner when she mentioned she would be eating somewhere near our houses. Then we took the same bus back home.
Now, I probably could have found some good opportunity to just outright confess sometime, but I just kept putting it off. It wasn't until we were waiting for the bus to go home when I started to speak, and then of all things I lost my nerve and changed the sentence into something else. It might have been a good idea seeing as it wasn't exactly a fitting environment for something like this, and if I had to save the situation I only had until she got off the bus.
I've already decided to let her know, I just don't really know how anymore. Is it really best to be just upfront? I'm fine with whatever she thinks, at least I can stop worrying about it. Still, even knowing this I lost my nerve at the last moment. If I do anything I'd much rather it be in person, but would something over the internet be fine, considering she's mainly a shut-in who uses the internet to communicate with her friends?
And really, what should I say?
I've been pretty much thinking it over all this time, and I've already decided that I'm never going to be satisfied until I know if she likes me too or not. I wanted to tell her in person, but I don't get too see her often since I'm busy with school.
So today, we both decide to visit our old school in the morning due to it having a carnival going on, and we go about and have fun visiting our old teachers and looking at all the changes over the 10 years since we first went there. After that we went for lunch as planned, then I went around the shopping mall looking for some stuff, though after 3 or so hours of just looking around the shops with her neither of us bought anything. I also ended up joining her for dinner when she mentioned she would be eating somewhere near our houses. Then we took the same bus back home.
Now, I probably could have found some good opportunity to just outright confess sometime, but I just kept putting it off. It wasn't until we were waiting for the bus to go home when I started to speak, and then of all things I lost my nerve and changed the sentence into something else. It might have been a good idea seeing as it wasn't exactly a fitting environment for something like this, and if I had to save the situation I only had until she got off the bus.
I've already decided to let her know, I just don't really know how anymore. Is it really best to be just upfront? I'm fine with whatever she thinks, at least I can stop worrying about it. Still, even knowing this I lost my nerve at the last moment. If I do anything I'd much rather it be in person, but would something over the internet be fine, considering she's mainly a shut-in who uses the internet to communicate with her friends?
And really, what should I say?
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DF Adventure Mode Discussion / Re: Fighting Giant Monsters
« on: March 02, 2011, 11:06:56 am »
Huh. I've actually been having an easy time slaying Giants and Hydras. Killed the Hydra by separating it from its lower body with my =Steel Short Sword=, after sneaking up to 3 squares away from it and throwing silver arrows to weaken it first.
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DF General Discussion / Re: Future of the Fortress: The Development Page
« on: March 01, 2011, 08:59:19 am »
Say, Toady, what with the new trade improvements coming up, will it eventually be possible for traders to place orders or commission stuff from your fortress, such as armour? In that case, will it be possible for dwarves in Fortress mode to make armour fitted to the size of other races? This would be most helpful in adventure mode too.
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DF Modding / Re: So I made a custom metal for blunt weapons...
« on: February 26, 2011, 11:13:12 am »
All your ideas are too awesome, I just wanted a way for Adamantine to be used in the construction of blunt weapons. Platinum was used because it's the densest metal, not because it's rare or valuable.
If I wanted my own awesome supermetal I would've included Pitchblende in its making.
If I wanted my own awesome supermetal I would've included Pitchblende in its making.