I'm talking about something society encourages: helpless women.
I don't remember ever encouraging that. What about you, the rest of society?
Of the women during my years of high school, a few were Hillary Clinton-style activists, there was a huge track and field hockey team, the jock-'class' girls were very deadset in their social and financial goals, the goth girls were in control of their personality and their lives, and the insecure were often the ones who didn't have many hobbies or ambition.
There weren't as many of these helpless, sit-in-the-kitchen-and-raise-kids style girls as you make it out to be, and this is in Ohio!
Also, to counter-balance the scenario, the men with general confidence and ambition exhibit the same results.
I dated a girl who was completely on top of her life, and it was the best thing in the world. Since I was also like that at the time, it was a relationship of two strong, healthy, and independent lovers. I've dated the clingy, and I've been clingy myself. From what I gather from my friends and 'general society', people want to be with people who bring the best results with the least amount of maintenance. If a women wants to do all the housework and take care of the children, a man isn't going to pass that up, but that same man may want to go off-roading with his lover, or find someone who can keep up with his interests.
Augh what am I trying to say...being complacent will bring you a complacent-liking man. Being yourself will yield you whatever kind of person would be interested in how you are.
(Side note: I personally wouldn't want to be with a girl who sat around all day playing video games...I'd get bored way to quickly. If I exhibit myself as playing games all day, I'd turn off any desirables while attracting undesirables (in my opinion). I think people come with the territory, not that the territory comes with the people)