Small spells can often be surprisingly useful (oh Prestidigitation, truly you are the greatest of spells),
Prestidigitation is nothing compared to 2e's
cantrip. Back then, there evidently weren't 0-level spells, but this little 1st-level beauty let you cast nine assorted minor effects...summon a bee, give someone an itch, stuff like that. My dad likes to tell about how he used one particular cantrip that, um, made the target pleasured to kill a knight by using it on his horse while he was crossing a moat. The startled horse fell into the water, and both drowned. Then he got shot.
Another time, he used the same cantrip, timed with a handshake, to get the favor of the queen. Between killing knights and getting the favor of queens, those bedroom spells might come in handy elsewhere.
I don't like his use of "exotic smoking herbs" (those can be bad enough even for people who aren't capable of casting fireballs or possessed of non-standard physiology), but I don't think revealing we searched his room is a good idea.
True, but...well, I suppose it depends on the exact type. If it's just somethink like marijuana with no major health problems associated with it, we can delay it a little, but if it is more like tobacco (ie causes major health problems) we need to confront Koro now. Heck, I'd do so right away, maybe claiming we smelled it.
We should continue to learn to read, especially Northern and Imperial. Elven could be useful, but it's not as high an immediate priority.
Well, duh.
Don't bother with the merfolk. Ask around discretely about the third and first wrecks, sticking to people we can most likely trust (probably just Alred's family at the moment, I think. Maaaybe Travon...)
Sounds like a plan.
Confiscate the herbs and smoking pipe
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Find out where they came from. It's completely routine both in fiction and shamanistic traditions for wizards/sorcerers/etc to smoke. Smoking "mystic herbs" because it's what wizards do for social bonding is not the same as smoking "mystic herbs" given to him by the operator of the local opium den in order to get him hooked.
Agreed. It's probably a problem, but just confiscating both isn't the best solution.
Don't order him not to see the woman - that might just get him rebellious
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Let's take Koro and visit the magician's guild ourselves. I think we need to find out more about what they do and what's going on there.
Koro needs a replacement love. I think we should bring him to the country side on a walk and have him communicate with the locale's their. See if we can't find better friends for him.
Sounds like a decent general plan.
We've already asked him not to be a thief and had him respond that he's not, and revealing we searched his room, asking again (with the implication that we think he lied to us before, too), and taking his stuff is not going to help.
Agreed. Let's make certain we act with personal integrity in regards to Koro. In this last update we've sent spies after him and we've searched his room. Those are not the actions of a mother who trusts and respects her son. Ultimately, he will make his own choices. Past a certain age it's not practical to force a child to do what you want instead of what he wants and it's pretty clear that Koro's past that age. He might be making bad decisions but it will be better for both of us in the long run if he makes bad decisions and still loves and respects us than if he learns to hate and distrust us and makes bad decisions anyway.
Yes, we want him to make good decisions, but treating him without integrity then ordering him to make good decisions is not an effective way to accomplish that. It just teaches him to not trust us and hide things from us. We don't want that.
Geez, parenting is hard, isn't it?
Ask the son not to be a criminal - you'e trying to raise him better than that.
...yeah, but there's a bit of a fine line there. Remember that our husband is basiclly in the business of breaking into houses and killing things for money. It's a fine line between "criminal" and "adventurer."
Let's not put ourselves in the situation of having to explain why we told him not to do something, then Alred coming home and boasting of having done more or less the same thing.
And the simple explanation is a bit tough; at best it teaches Koro to be racist, at worst it teaches him that he is a monster, since he is less human than the goblins or whatever.
Maybe We should discuss this with Alred when he gets back. Or Travon, since he is here.
* Visit the magician's guild with Koro
* Continue learning magic and to read
* Encourage Koro to make good decisions, and do it in a way that isn't hypocritical and that doesn't alienate or antagonize him.
Sounds like a decent general idea.
Summary and thoughts:
General:
Visit the Embassy to continue our cooking lessons and let Koro spend time with the dwarven kids.
Continue our afternoon reading lessons, and continue learning from the basic house magic book for now.
Koro:
At least once, visit the magician's guild with Koro.
Mention that we smelled a pungent odor from Koro's room. Ask what it was. If he does not give a reasonable explanation (something like "rotten meat" doesn't cut it--we "smelled" burning herbs, not rotting meat), ask that he tell the truth. (The hope is that if there is a good reason for him to have it, he will come clean.)
Discuss with Travon the difference between thievery and adventuring.
If we get a chance, try to get Koro acquainted with various townspeople.
See if we can meet this girl who is corrupting Koro in person...