Maxi, please don't pathologize folks and push help based on one aspect you can see to their situation (it's what it seems to be). You have the intent to help, it should never be expressed in what SHOULD be done; turn it into suggestions especially if you are aware that ideas may not be wholistic or
fitting to the person's context or experiences, and add detail to it on why you think this works out. You can take that intent to help, and study or increase your knowledge on these topics in general because not everything is the ego, and not everything should be within that kind of model in representing a person's psyche and internal thinking. Just because the concept of the ego has become so widespread does not mean it is the sole basis on how things work (Psychoanalysis has gone a long way since Freud poked the unconscious >_>). Also there's a lot more recent studies and ideas regarding the ego rather than an affixed reactive psychological manifestation; one perspective to note is that there is no "fear" of change, there is newness of experience, and what is similarly attached to those experiences may result in reluctance to approach them. Each and every word and adjective has its own connotations, and thrusting intent to help by understanding how these behaviors network and interlock can help you and whoever you wish to help, a ton more.
And that includes the language you use to put degrees of intensity to what you're talking about. The last posts there are unhelpful in content other than the one above this; they're untactful. Please do not attack other people by stating what they do or do not understand and instead just clarify your position because it will make it a lot more difficult for your future workload by trying to interpret another's ideas without communicating with them (and in turn having a clear idea yourself, because it'll be demeaning). The benefit of things in an open forum is you have all the time in the world to hit that post button, and all the time afterwards to Modify the content; everything else is self-defined towards what was done when it's your work and action in the end.
It will help to stop seeing things as if there's one (or a few) clear cut ways to understand others' suffering, because a basic of a person's concern is avoiding stress. When they have this locus of control with them, it'll help--but it won't fix "suffering" because the world is a lot larger in scale, especially when people (and their lived experiences or timelines of their life) are connected to events and situations on "why people are affected". It's never the case that people think the world is scary, but whatever makes this an idea is with experiences they themselves have personally been through. Judging a person otherwise because of the presence of resistance, assumed or otherwise, to what is written will cause you to lose track in your own reasoning towards the situation. That's the basic understanding of when people ask compassion or empathy; to fit in their
agency to the situation. I slotted in the context of agency here for anyone curious.
People work eclectically--models of thought and ideologies designed to construct an idea how the unspoken, invisible area before any action is done, is more for giving a tangible idea of what's going on. Reasoning this out should take in the context of what you're seeking, and it's always that the endpoint of any intent to help is giving the tools and ideas to work on, instead of being expected from the other person. Doing otherwise pathologizes people into corners as if this is how they work, and that will modify how you react back at them; people are as complex as the one doing these conclusions. While you can say your intent is to help, this intent should be expressed by awareness of your own words, basically putting empathy as if you received those ideas and how they're thought out. The recent posts are...off-putting honestly. You don't shove the imagery of death and existential thinking as if it will help the situation or is expected to jog the other person's thinking to minimize the issues they say (because why is that the only thing written down when that's the case?). Often how they speak about their concerns connects why these concerns affect them, and any help that way is supposed to fit that in. That's person-fit characterization.
To use your action in another thread which somehow boiled out from this as an example--you clearly called Truean's request of not asking to be quoted as if it was somehow a problem for you. This isn't a problem for generally everyone else to follow. You also insinuated things towards the OP here by pathologizing their actions and what they said, when you don't even know their circumstances or situation. When people face things that are wholly out of matching their perspective based on what you said, you give the polar opposite of actually helping them. This can be one reason why people don't want to engage at all, because any change in this is on your agency. You pretty much got called a troll because it's what you wrote that has that kind of similar behavior. It can be a misinterpretation but it wasn't anything that got any closure.
Do acknowledge your own words when you post about things, because it's not "all on them". Every message takes both you and them into account. If there's any impression of "it's fully them", then your message may not be fitting to the context and done purely from your understanding--much of which can be unspoken or not clearly received. It is never one or the other in communication.
Anyway before everything when those posts happened, I am curious (needn't be answered here) towards the connections you have RPL. As in, the people around you including awareness of what you have there to connect to other people in your area. Having a social network (or connection to professionals) can help a lot. And apologizes if I forgot details in the meantime (PMs can answer anything that you're uncomfortable with in public if you're interested)
Just because it's real helpful that way.
It has a lasting effect on people by impression regardless of previous pages and that got to me. I just don't like seeing people go away--it detracts from the community because of issues inside, and I guess much of what pushed me to mention that is because I've been seeing the theme of disconnection become more apparent in online media when communication is a very profound and potential area for people. (And the lack of it is stifling)
Never finished a game in its entirety so I'm fully unaware of many mechanics in FEFs