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You ever played Galciv 2, PW? They have AI good enough to kick the shit out of me without giving it any bonuses - above Tough it starts giving the AI extra resources and stuff, but tough is plenty challenging.

"Endless questions indeed, and answers in such short supply. Anyhow, I'm off to find the blacksmith, who hopefully hasn't died in whatever happened up here. Wish me luck!"

Attempt to use my memory of how things are laid out and possibly whatever I can see to get to the blacksmith's place.

Unfortunately I can't really give any better advice than that, only explain the rationale behind it. It's easy because I'm a good counter-example. I've been in my situation and blah blah blah problems and stuff for around a year, and in that time as my monofocus on my friend got greater I've taken to neglecting other potential time actually hanging out with people, which I probably could've arranged if I'd bothered to assign the effort, to focusing on my friend, which is okay but the extent of thought I end up devoting has long since gone past the point of diminishing returns. Essentially, I'm damaging my own life by focusing too much on the one thing.

So the idea is that if you instead focus on basically having a good life and enjoying what you do, you're more likely to run into a productive romantical situation because you're actually doing things rather than sitting around obsessing like my example of me. Obviously I can't say if it works from experience or anything, but the logic behind it seems sound.

Eh, my course is still set - I'm going to move past this eventually, it's just going to be longer than I initially anticipated, which is irritating because I'm going to be hurting and kept in this frame of mind for that extra length of time.

Quote from: Shadowlord on February 06, 2016, 09:08:08 pm

Xantalos' whole issue IIRC is that his crush reciprocating would be a confusing clusterfuck as she is in a stable long-term relationship.
Its more to help get it out of his craw to more easily enjoy life.

This is all true. I'm rather horrible with these types of realizations, so I only last week realized that I've been letting most other aspects of my life go to rot for a year in my futile attempt to will away my obsession. Now I realize that I need to actually move past this, but in the interest of common decency I'm not going to drop such a metaphorical bomb on a romantically significant day or near it for fear of conveying the wrong impression.

You should come visit me, I'll buy you a (free) taco or two.
(But yeah it is generally a pretty annoying holiday, I can't disagree there. I was actually meant to be born on that day, that'd be weird, but kinda cool.)

Unfortunately I can't travel from my slowly thawing wasteland to Australia right now. Gotta wait in agonizing indecision for a faint, likely imagined chance at changing my current conundrum.


Though I'd likely be able to actually interact with more people in person there than I'm able to here. Haven't been able to get a meaningful face-to-face conversation in months with someone my own age. The disconnect is really starting to get to me.

No, no, confessing your feelings on valentine's day way is more romantic, and maybe she'll be more inclined to say yes than if you had waited a month later. Hell, you really only have to go up to her at work one day *before* valentine's day, and ask her if she wants to get coffee or lunch with you on valentine's day, right? Maybe bring flowers?

Or maybe she gets 20 people asking her out on that day every year so you should beat the rush by a week, who knows. Certainly not me.

Maybe I'm being old fashioned. There are always flower and heart emojis.

Your advice is certainly sound and if I were in any other scenario than the one I'm in I would most certainly follow it. I know I could set up something appropriate even with this short amount of prep time before the holiday. Unfortunately, my circumstance makes that a no-go. I do appreciate the advice, though.

It all works out in the end, though. I mean, it only recently clicked with me that I've been fruitlessly spinning my metaphorical wheels for over a year because I was afraid of going forward. This alleviates some of the ... muddled feelings I've been getting in the last few months. Still hurts, because even despite all my romantical bullshit I've been bottling up I also haven't been able to hang out with my only friend for ... fuck, nearly a month and a half. And I don't have a social life outside of my interactions with her, which isn't a good thing. This concealment business has benefited no one.

It's ... okay this post is basically just a big bundle of rambling. I'll try to make my point - focusing too much of your energies on getting involved with romantical bullshit doesn't lead to results. Try instead to find ... fulfillment? Basically pursue whatever interests you have and try not to worry too much about romantical bullshit or your lack thereof because it tends to happen when you're happy from engaging in pursuits that you enjoy. Stressing about it's counterproductive but hard to not do.

All that said, fuck Valentine's Day. Not because of all the subliminal loneliness and all that that the near-omnipresent advertising inspires, that's easy to deal with. I'm more irritated with it because I've realized I'll have to delay my confession for probably next month or so given how infrequent my opportunities to hang out with her have been. That's not something to say anywhere but in person, work where I see her most often (good god that's an awful realization to have) doesn't deserve those words uttered there, and she's so busy with school I likely won't be able to meet up with her for a get-together until a month from now at best.

Now I probably could tell her when we meet up for coffee or whatever this week, but here my annoyance with Valentine's Day comes in - the romantic connotations that day has would just make the already going-to-be awkward process even worse and depending on how much its subconsciously on her mind may result in a worse outcome for me.

Of course this is just a way for my scared ass to weasel out of confronting my issues for a little while longer, but it carries a relatively valid point with it as well.

Damn holiday. Romantical shit's primarily in the small gestures from what I understand anyway, so it's counterproductive for its assumed purpose.

Annoyances and delays.

"We don't have stoatmen at home, now do we? But yes, we're from that place. You could make the continents a bit better done, but yeah."