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... that's what fanfiction is for. There's... well, one or two out there that do alright by chang.

Though I've noticed the distinct tendency for, when someone's writing up a canon asian HP character, it's either the patil twins or... that other one. Su something? I'unno. I think there was like four, anyway. Chang usually gets thrown under some form of bus.

On the other hand, you have to answer "Yes" to the question "does your wife dress you?"

Nah, you just respond, "Vigorously" and give a little leer at whoever's asking. Maybe an eyebrow waggle if you're feeling frisky. Hopefully the mental images involved will teach them not to ask such questions.

As for never shopping, MZ, there's always delivery. At least in more urbanized areas. Sometimes elsewhere, too, but eh. Could also take the arguably simpler route of bribing the neighbor and giving them a list when they go shopping.

It is considered perfectly acceptable for women to use pregnancy as leverage against the father... so long as it is actually the father.

If by "perfectly acceptable" you mean "will be gossiped about for the next decade in a negative light", I guess.

generally speaking she receives total sympathy over the man in this situation.

Okay, put bluntly: She wouldn't receive total sympathy. She will be talked about behind her back because of her actions, probably for years, and will almost certainly be seen as less of a person by a fair amount of the community she's involved in. Seriously, people do not just join hands and sing kumbaya when someone, male or female, is using a pregnancy as leverage against someone else. At least not regarding marriage -- child support, again, sure, but not marriage or marriage related subjects. No one comes out of one of those dustups smelling like roses, not in reality. S'bad business all around.

So no. On this one reelya is right. Women still overwhelmingly get custody of children during divorce with no or little change over the past ~20 years at least. But yes, it could be skewed by women overwhelmingly pursuing custody.

Yeah, from what I understand it's very much that last bit, or at least men overwhelmingly not pursuing custody. For whatever reason(s), men simply seek custody in considerably smaller numbers. That's not the same thing as there being an actual legal bias toward one gender or another regarding custody rights.

I mean, if there is one, there is one, but everything I've personally ran into regarding the subject has indicated the bias is very much cultural instead of legal, and very rarely actually intrudes on any legal procedures relating to the situation(s) in question. Men having the perception that they're not going to get custody without a exceptionally strong case does not make that true. Unless it is true, in which case I'd love to see the numbers

... no? We don't. At least I've never seen anyone say that's suddenly okay behavior. Sticking them with child support, sure (and that goes both ways), but not marriage.

You should know better than to taunt the internet like that, GO. Don't particularly want the WTF thread to devolve into the "Cute Dead Things" thread.

All in all, the old system is really paternalistic and views women as passive recipients of aid and men as active providers of aid (or women as passive agents in sex: man as the 'doer' woman as the 'done', so whatever the outcome it's the mans responsibility). This "man active, woman passive" thing flows through a lot of societys rules, and it's plain rubbish especially in modern advanced societies.

This... really kinda' confuses me. You are aware that it's whichever parent isn't the primary guardian that pays child support, right? With gender kinda' not factoring in much, if at all. Insofar as I'm aware it's been like that for... well, at least as long as I've been alive. Two or three decades or so.

Isn't this already a thing? I thought it was.

Sorta'. I'm about 90% sure there's some kind of legal agreement the parents can enter into in which total fiscal responsibility is assumed by one of the parties in question. It just requires agreement between the parties instead of one doing so unilaterally.

Which is arguably understandable, considering that one party's bodily autonomy is involved and the other's kinda' isn't.

A contest to be discussed in some thread that is not the thread that has rules specifically stating to avoid discussion, perhaps?