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[hector13]

I seem to recall you wanting rather badly to leave America. Do you think your recent experiences will make coming back different this time round?

Also, you’ve been a way for a while. Coming “home” may be like going to another foreign country as a lot of things are going to have changed while you were gone.

[itisnotlogical]

Phlegm in my throat made me have a nightmare about swallowing a large piece of glass, which led to me lying half-awake for a few minutes unable to decide if I should try to breathe or move because I couldn't tell if the dream was real or not.

[Naxza]

I seem to recall you wanting rather badly to leave America. Do you think your recent experiences will make coming back different this time round?

Also, you’ve been a way for a while. Coming “home” may be like going to another foreign country as a lot of things are going to have changed while you were gone.

I've got a little more perspective now, a little more calmness about the state of the world and the state of the country. That should make returning easier, and to be frank, the place hasn't upended itself, and state-by-state, it won't be all that much different. I think family will be a little more important to me this time around. Country is a little like family- love it or hate it, some part of you wants to hold its name in high standard and put things right when it's not. It's not nationalism, it's home.

A little part of me thinks that maybe letting my home country go is a little like letting my last relationship go. I'd be coming back to all the things I left and none of the creature comforts I'd built for myself, but those comforts are what I idealize the most. The keenest, sharpest points of a bygone love aren't the highest highs or the lowest lows, but the little calmnesses, the bedtime ritual, the bustle to the couch with a hot bowl full of dinner and the next episode of Cowboy Bebop on the TV, that little moment as your partner falls asleep on your chest, or whatever other soft nothing that fills the space between the joys, angers, and sorrows. I know that none of that awaits me on my return, if I return, but that what comes to mind when I think about going back. I realize also that this sort of idealism is probably what destroyed that relationship to begin with- a bitter pill, that!

I'll have new priorities with family if I go and stay home, but for the moment, I'm hopeful about a future here. I don't feel particularly trapped now, that's probably the biggest change, and that's pretty wonderful. It'll only get better once I get some form of motorized vehicle to get around, too. Ask again in a week, we'll have to see where I'm at!

[scourge728]

Again in a week?

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You see, you said "ask again in a week" but I took it as ask "again in a week" so I asked that

[Naxza]

Yes, again in a week.

Two can play at this game! But it'll be one, 'cuz I'm gonna go pass the fuck out now. Good night and good morning, everyone else.

[ChairmanPoo]

Have you heard about Ulysses syndrome? It spins around how migrants/expats end up feeling like they dont fit either at home or abroad

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/lying-the-philosophers-couch/201807/ulysses-syndrome%3famp

I feel very identified with this bit

I asked them all the same questions: “Do you feel home where you are now? Or, do you want to come back?” The answer was always the same: “I don’t feel at home now and I don’t think of my original country as a home either. I can’t feel at home anywhere

[Mala]

I can 100% relate. I feel at home neither in the US or India

[Magistrum]

Again in a week?

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You see, you said "ask again in a week" but I took it as ask "again in a week" so I asked that

Terrible jokes thread is right this way, sir.

[Kagus]

So, in contact again with the gal I developed feelings for and who then ghosted me for nearly three weeks. She's really apologetic about how she handled the situation, says she was going through a very dark time the past few weeks, has missed me a lot, and is scared of losing me as a friend.

I made it clear that I was sorely hurt by getting ghosted, that I was willing to be friends again once I'd had time enough to clear my head; but that it'd only work if I knew we could both act like adults, and also that I'm going through a pretty chaotic period of my own and would need some time to deal with that. We've agreed to meet up on the 19th (or thereabouts) to talk things over in person.


And I'm just sitting here realizing that I am definitely going to get myself hurt over this, again. The high road's got a lot of rocks on it.

[Frumple]

The original Chewbacca has died.

[heydude6]

And I'm just sitting here realizing that I am definitely going to get myself hurt over this, again. The high road's got a lot of rocks on it.

At least you know what you’re getting into. When I was younger, I’d keep throwing myself into these situations out of some misguided idea that I’d somehow get the girl. You on the other hand are only doing this because you have to.

[Arx]

Stepped badly during sparring at taekwondo and wrenched my toe horribly. Don't think it's broken, but that doesn't make it any less annoying.

Also, my desktop has spontaneously decided to go on strike and either won't boot, or boots and freezes for a couple of seconds every minute or so, with no apparent processor overhead detected. I probably need to sit down, disassemble it, clean all the dust out, and reassemble it with all the connections firm, but that takes time.

[Hanslanda]

I wonder how many hundreds of my posts would come back if I searched them for 'depressed'...

[Telgin]

Stepped badly during sparring at taekwondo and wrenched my toe horribly. Don't think it's broken, but that doesn't make it any less annoying.

Also, my desktop has spontaneously decided to go on strike and either won't boot, or boots and freezes for a couple of seconds every minute or so, with no apparent processor overhead detected. I probably need to sit down, disassemble it, clean all the dust out, and reassemble it with all the connections firm, but that takes time.

Could also be memory or the power supply going bad.  I've literally never had MemTest show memory errors when I've tried it, but if you've got time to kill it couldn't hurt to run it if you can get past the POST.

[Iduno]

Also, it could be something needs to be re-seated? You may as well clean it while you're doing that, but still. It takes 10 or 20-ish minutes and less than one unit of blood to do, unless you touch the CPU stuff.