.... Thank you all.
Ascend by perception, differentiation, distance, discipline, and more.
Perceive, not merely see, the world, wonderful and woeful. See and mentally place parts into relation to others, spatially, relationally, psychologically. Observe the fool. See his meanness; expect and anticipate it. Warning wanes wounds. Realize he is mean to all, because he is flawed and unable to cope. He is helpless among the tempest he does not see and you do. Of course he is mean, of course he screams his feelings tell him he is battered by a typhoon he cannot see. Such a sad scene screaming so somehow someone should salve soaked stupidity. No one will.
Learn to observe the world and perceive it without letting it alter you. This is the key. Understand. Observe.Differentiate. Know what they are and how, be not as they.... Note the fool. Observe overdone overacting. The psychic ocean of human feelings batters us all with waves. All feel the injury; few see the cause. See. Rise above. Anticipate and adapt. Know in advance you will be struck by the fools' meanness. See the strike before it comes, as it comes, adapt and evade to soften the blow. Sidestep, block, roll with, or merely accept and dismiss it. You are not they; be not as they are. Do not what they do.
Drag down not, nor be dragged. Distance, know and grow mentally apart. The flame grows warm, not burning with but a little distance. See the psychic tempest of emotions humanity is caught in. The fool is entirely confined to the material world and banished from the mental world. Become a resident. Separate yourself mentally from the material while maintaining your material (body, possessions, etc), because the mental portion of you needs it. Not maintaining your material self will distract your mental self with pain. Bodily injury is separate from mental; abusers know they will be punished for the first but not the second. Most have never been shown how to care for their mind.
Think and rise. Realize their fury is their fault, not yours. Reflect, reassure this is true. Discipline, you are many separate machines, body, mind, etc. Do the machines cooperate and do you control them? Care for your body; control your mind, thoughts, images, and processes. Realize when you are thinking harmful thoughts, consciously stop yourself, think better thoughts. Basically, psychologists call this "cognitive behavior re-framing therapy."* Your distance often can't be physical, but mental distance can be had. Your thoughts are not real, except in your head, only you can think them. It is possible to think of being on a gold veined marble beach terrace overlooking the sea, furnished with mahogany, attended by massage therapists, and visited by loving friends. This is distance; keep one foot safely in this world to safely observe it, and the other elsewhere when stressed. Pain will distract you, as an understatement and this is unfortunate.
To attain the bird's eye is to turn the blizzard to a breeze. Call it science if you will. Learn to interact with the system. You may influence it to some degree, but realize it is a storm The psychic tempest may exhaust you if you fight within it. Rise above it. Anticipate the water. Know you can't stop it. Adapt, become waterproof.
*Seek a professional licensed therapist. They can help far more than I ever could.
Once again Vector is unsure of her awesomeness. Be assured.
This is a very oversimplified version. The pieces and parts relate and interrelate to one another. For example, "To attain the bird's eye is to turn a blizzard to a breeze," really goes to all of these parts and so much more. It goes to perception "eye," differentiate, "[implied difference in perception and viewpoint]," distance "bird," and discipline "attain" as well as more.
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