4) While there is certain excessive hate in Ukrainian society I hope to never live to see a day when Ukrainians will drag a half-naked body of a likely raped to death Russian woman over the streets of some Ukrainian city with crowds celebrating a bloody raid into a Russian city. If I do, I'll consider a different self-identification. Don't compare my nation to... those people with a culture of institutionalized hate.
Uh-huh, and if Ukrainians were like Hamas or Israel in tactics against Russian cities, I'd be advocating only providing humanitarian aid and not military aid. Guess what my stance on Israel/Gaza is?
Both sides deserve humanitarian aid, neither side is deserving of military aid. Hamas may be worse than Israel in many ways, but they already don't get military aid from the West. Israel do get military aid from the West. That's the issue I take. That innocent families and innocent medics are killed with Western-supplied bullets.
I understand your logic but can't agree with it.
Was providing military aid to the USSR during WW2 wrong then? I can guarantee you that they used American weapons in war crimes. And the difference between Stalin's USSR and the Third Reich was... minimal. But the USSR was the US ally, it is what mattered.
The reality of the Gaza war is very simple.
1) Israel is a democratic, multiethnic, multireligious, almost secular, LGBT-tolerant, West-aligned country with a sizeable opposition that wishes to make the country more liberal, a military ally of the US in the region.
2) Their enemies are fascist militarists, a theocracy with a culture dreaming of genocide, strictly monoethnic, they execute LGBT people on the spot, hate America and "the West" almost as much as Israel, and have no meaningful opposition that is remotely democratic.
Isn't it obvious that it is in American interests and in accordance with American values to help 1 to defeat 2?
Are there problems in Israel? Oh yes... Not nearly as severe as anti-Israel propaganda presents but the mere fact that have shit like Ben Gvir as a minister is enough to be wary and worried about the degradation of Israel. Are they the most progressive, tolerant, liberal, free country in the Middle East? Also yes.
(BTW, US has fascist theocracy-seeking politicians, too)
Finally, if you provide military aid to a country in a war, that means you have some leverage over how they act in the war. If you don't - you don't.