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Author Topic: Things that made you RRRRRRAAAAGGGGEEEE today: Trust-o-nomics Edition  (Read 2101526 times)

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Re: Things that made you RRRAAAAGGGGEEEE today: Reflex Edition
« Reply #33660 on: March 19, 2014, 06:23:03 pm »

I don't recall you saying but, did she raise you as a single mother?

It was split custody between her and my dad, but she slowly started lessening the time I had with him until it went from a direct 50/50 split in time to only seeing him every other weekend.

I did manage to get away for a bit and stay at my dad's when I worked, but I can't get to college from my dad's, so I can't go stay with him right now. Plus they don't really have space for me anyways. My mom would ask me to quit work every once in a while just so I would go back to living with her instead.

I guess she worries too much about me. Though I disagree with her ways of dealing with it.

And she probably worries about being abandoned, eventually. So maybe she over forges the links to her children. My mom's strategy was accommodation, to a point, and eventually making threats I knew she wouldn't make good on. Conversely, I only saw my dad about 3 months out of the year, all at once, and at Christmas. And he, as he put it, "tried to compress a year's worth of parenting into 3 months" with understandably fucked up results.

You can't ever erase the doubts of someone who is committed to having them. But reassuring, instead of fighting your mom, might honestly loosen things up. If you really care about your mom, that'll come through when you go "hey, don't worry. I'll do ok, because you've helped me." That kind of thing. If that seems in contradiction to the advice I gave above, it's not. You've got to attack her fears from both sides of the spectrum, like making her feel she's been doing some good by you, but also showing her how she's running the risk of hurting you too. My mom was always pretty strong for her kids, but it didn't take much to crack the outer shell and show how stressed she was, and how vulnerable she felt. Being nice and understanding is usually what did it.

It's weird as you get older how you start finding ways to check the people your parents are, compensating in some ways. I didn't do it very well at all until I hit my 30s. My relationship with my dad at least was a post-teenage train wreck, until we had it out in a big moment of unleashing 20 years of tension between us. I wouldn't recommend going that (relative) route with your mom.
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Re: Things that made you RRRAAAAGGGGEEEE today: Reflex Edition
« Reply #33661 on: March 19, 2014, 06:31:23 pm »

I should start bettering myself. I'm honestly nowhere near prepared for life outside the home.

I don't know where to start though. I'm no good with emotions, and there are a lot of things I'm resentful over.
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Re: Things that made you RRRAAAAGGGGEEEE today: Reflex Edition
« Reply #33662 on: March 19, 2014, 06:33:46 pm »

Set a point to start with. I'd advise an approach.

Though also to follow nenjin. If you've a problem-voice it, then communicate to reach an understanding. There are so many people who mean well that...don't seem to mean well in their execution of the act.

*cheer cheer* You can do it!
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Re: Things that made you RRRAAAAGGGGEEEE today: Reflex Edition
« Reply #33663 on: March 19, 2014, 06:38:53 pm »

My mom would ask me to quit work every once in a while just so I would go back to living with her instead.
All my no. Unless you were working in some fast food joint flipping burgers and going nowhere there's no reason why she should ever ask something like that.

I should start bettering myself. I'm honestly nowhere near prepared for life outside the home.

I don't know where to start though. I'm no good with emotions, and there are a lot of things I'm resentful over.
I'd suggest you get a job you like doing. It doesn't have to pay well, or be "cool" and respected, just do what you want for a while, part-time, full-time, doesn't matter. It'll help you build up your confidence and your social skills when you are doing something you like. At least it worked for me.

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Re: Things that made you RRRAAAAGGGGEEEE today: Reflex Edition
« Reply #33664 on: March 19, 2014, 06:48:51 pm »

I had a factory job. I'm not sure if it is still available to me, since things have been slow lately. I tried working convenience once, but it was not fun.

Though gaining some actual social skills would be nice. I can't even maintain eye-contact to save my life. And the 'robot' label I've had since grade school is wearing a little thin.
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Re: Things that made you RRRAAAAGGGGEEEE today: Reflex Edition
« Reply #33665 on: March 19, 2014, 06:53:57 pm »

So, nothing that involves the public? Depends on where your skills lie. An office job? Fisherman? Could be anything. But I wish you the best of luck; I'm fortunate in regards to parents, I just wish everyone else could be too.
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Re: Things that made you RRRAAAAGGGGEEEE today: Reflex Edition
« Reply #33666 on: March 20, 2014, 06:23:21 am »

I decided some time ago that I would not rage about this subject.

But again it has come to a point where I would like to smack some high-ranking officials that are responsible for the way YouTube is changing.

And as if implementing art-school dropout/graduate level of bad, obnoxious design choices isn't enough, even the sole implementation of said choices is horrible.

One of these days, I swear...some heads are gonna roll.

Now excuse me, I have to go bang my head against the wall, the numbing pain afterwards is a real pleasure compared to act of just thinking about this youtube-related shenanigans.

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Re: Things that made you RRRAAAAGGGGEEEE today: Reflex Edition
« Reply #33667 on: March 20, 2014, 04:31:00 pm »

The wonders of technology:
Try printing off CV. Printer cable is missing.
Try using our wireless printer. The way of getting it to work is needlessly complex, and so I'm unable to do it (it's not that I'm misunderstanding it- the actual way of turning it on, connecting it to the wifi, then connecting it to the computer via wifi is just retardedly complicated.) seeing as the person who knows how to do it isn't at home.
Wireless printing is easy, dudebro. Turn wireless on on printer control deck. Select wi-fi network. Input password. Hit print on device. Collect paper. If anything weird comes up, like IP weirdness, I'd be happy to walk you through it.
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Re: Things that made you RRRAAAAGGGGEEEE today: Reflex Edition
« Reply #33668 on: March 20, 2014, 05:11:32 pm »

Go into your wifi settings and lock the printer to one channel?
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Re: Things that made you RRRAAAAGGGGEEEE today: Reflex Edition
« Reply #33669 on: March 20, 2014, 05:24:47 pm »

The places I would check to stop the printer from flipping would be the printer driver in your system tools (which may not have any controls), the printer options that come up when you try to print something, and the printer that is set up as a device connected to your network. These will be in different places depending on your OS.

I would also try googling "<printer number> wireless channel" and see what comes up. Chances are a lot of other people have had the same problems.

You might also try going about it another way, forcing the wifi to use only one channel (at least while printing, if it causes problems elsewhere). There's probably a option in your router utility interface for "select best channel" and you can deselect that and choose a channel. I suspect this relates somehow to radio frequency and the router will switch channels to avoid interference. So you may have problems operating with a static channel. You'd access your router controls by opening a web browser and going to the router's IP address in your local network, something like 127.0.0.1 or whatever it is. It might be written on the router itself.
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Re: Things that made you RRRAAAAGGGGEEEE today: Reflex Edition
« Reply #33670 on: March 20, 2014, 05:58:17 pm »

Libertarian friend has be redesignated as Misanthrope friend. Ay-ay-ay, he's a nice guy most of the time but anytime philosophy or politics gets even tangentially involved I can feel my sanity chipping away since his view of the world is so alien to me that I can't comprehend it and it sticks in my mind all day because of how disgusted I wind up feeling.
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« Reply #33671 on: March 20, 2014, 06:01:16 pm »

Wouldn't that be oxymoronic? If you think society can work well with little to no government then you have to have at least a decent amount of faith in people.
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« Reply #33672 on: March 20, 2014, 06:04:18 pm »

I think for many libertarians it comes down to not realizing how bad anarchy can be and overestimating their own ability to survive in the wild.
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« Reply #33673 on: March 20, 2014, 06:05:53 pm »

It's like he  views all people are equally scum, and then layers on this weird obsession with freedom and honesty so he thinks that everyone who denies they're scum is even worse than the usual scum and should just admit that everything they do is for selfish reasons and stop caring about living up to moral expectations or something. >_<
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« Reply #33674 on: March 20, 2014, 06:09:27 pm »

He must be a miserable person.
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