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Re: Things that made you go "WTF?" today o_O
« Reply #145170 on: May 28, 2019, 09:37:51 pm »

Why u like her tho

She makes his groin feel funny.
I don't think Kagus would be this upset if it was just a physical thing. The internet generally has you covered as far as those needs are concerned.
Kagus is also aware of the irrationality of his feelings, and presumably has considered his experience relating to her in the last few weeks in regards to compatability.

Infatuation is a silly thing, though something we apparently have no control over.
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« Reply #145171 on: May 28, 2019, 10:46:15 pm »

Why u like her tho

She makes his groin feel funny.
I don't think Kagus would be this upset if it was just a physical thing. The internet generally has you covered as far as those needs are concerned.
Kagus is also aware of the irrationality of his feelings, and presumably has considered his experience relating to her in the last few weeks in regards to compatability.

Infatuation is a silly thing, though something we apparently have no control over.
If thatís the case, then distance is probably the best thing for him. I doubt she has the emotional maturity to have a good conversation that gives closure. Itís like the conversation is more for her sake rather than for his.
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« Reply #145172 on: May 28, 2019, 10:53:27 pm »

Yeah. She, the girl I'm set to have the talk with tomorrow.
Ah, okay. Does she actually live in the area, like is it feasible that she may have just been doing her own shopping and bumped into you? Or do you think she engineered this "chance" meeting? Because if she just happened to see you in the same store, you can hardly hold it against her for saying hi. She seems like a very extroverted person to begin with, and awkward avoidance tends to be, well, awkward for any of us.


As for the rest of it, I'm just hoping y'all can preserve your friendship, which as far as I can tell was quite healthy before hitting this little speedbump.
You seem to be unreasonably jealous of her relationships, but I don't hold that against you because well I know how The Feels can get you feelin', and for her part I really don't think she's handled your "admission of affection" very well, but I think it's entirely possible that she doesn't really understand where you're coming from and so finds it hard to deal with.   
You both need to make an effort to understand the other person's position and then I reckon you'll be golden.
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« Reply #145173 on: May 28, 2019, 11:20:13 pm »

Maybe your right Yoink. My past experiences might have just made me too cynical.
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« Reply #145174 on: May 29, 2019, 12:10:03 am »

Why u like her tho
She's intelligent, funny, outgoing (I've met just about everyone in what passes for my "social network" here either directly or indirectly through her, and she's put a fair amount of time into coaxing me out of my usual shell), adventurous, full of life, generous, has got these big soft eyes that you could get lost in and not come out for days, a smile that lights up the whole damn room, and is just generally drop-dead gorgeous in addition to being a person who makes you feel good to hang out with.

And, in contrast to most other women I've met, she treats (or at least treated) me like an actual goddamn human being. I'm not used to that, so it tends to stick (as if I wasn't already an absolute sucker for nice eyes).


Ah, okay. Does she actually live in the area, like is it feasible that she may have just been doing her own shopping and bumped into you? Or do you think she engineered this "chance" meeting? Because if she just happened to see you in the same store, you can hardly hold it against her for saying hi. She seems like a very extroverted person to begin with, and awkward avoidance tends to be, well, awkward for any of us.


As for the rest of it, I'm just hoping y'all can preserve your friendship, which as far as I can tell was quite healthy before hitting this little speedbump.
You seem to be unreasonably jealous of her relationships, but I don't hold that against you because well I know how The Feels can get you feelin', and for her part I really don't think she's handled your "admission of affection" very well, but I think it's entirely possible that she doesn't really understand where you're coming from and so finds it hard to deal with.   
You both need to make an effort to understand the other person's position and then I reckon you'll be golden.
No no, this was definitely happenstance... Even if she wanted to try and engineer such a thing, one thing she most definitely is not is an orderly and structured person who can plan stuff out.

I am unreasonably jealous of her relationships, yes, and it's pissing me right the fuck off. It's none of my business, and she's had every right to do her thing.

The thing is, if it's none of my business, why do I keep hearing about it? I don't think she's thought through how her actions can potentially affect other people, and I'm just in a particularly vulnerable position to be hurt by all of it thanks to my own background.


If thatís the case, then distance is probably the best thing for him. I doubt she has the emotional maturity to have a good conversation that gives closure. Itís like the conversation is more for her sake rather than for his.
That's kind of the whole point of this talk, though. She wants to have a chance at apologizing for how she's acted, and I want to have a chance to formulate my side of things and -more importantly- evaluate if she does have the emotional maturity for me to even bother with trying to patch things up between us.

Either it's a big step towards clearing the air, or it's a big clarification that this is never going to work and I can put it more or less out of my mind.

And it's generally a chance to behave like an adult, a state of being that I aspire towards.

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« Reply #145175 on: May 29, 2019, 02:51:28 am »

Clear the air, get your answer. That sort of heartsickness is one that can eat you for years if you let it, and it's easy to let happen because the heart is frequently insensible.

Say your fill, hear hers, and burn that fucking bridge to the ground if the bridge goes nowhere. A bridge to nowhere bears a ceaseless march of 'what-ifs' and 'if-onlys' across it, a weight that would crush Atlas were it his burden.

I get that you know as much though, you've got a good determination about it. Her response does not determine your value as a human, partner, or friend. You do that. Remember that, whichever way the answer goes.
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« Reply #145176 on: May 29, 2019, 05:20:44 am »

Oof. I feel for you. I have had a similar sort of situation myself that left me heartbroken several times over the course of a few years. Sweet, wonderful girl who I still adore. Horrible, horrible communication etiquette that left me wondering what the hell was going on, blaming myself, and wondering why she kept falling for the most douchiest of douches who ever douched. I can't say I regret falling in love with her; she is genuinely a cool person and makes you feel like a million bucks when you are with her. But I have come to realize that's a quality they stretch to nearly everyone. She does genuinely care. But she also genuinely cares for an incredible and ever growing social network of people.

Grah, that's probably just my own revelations though. Eventually, I think you'll have to find your own, even if that answer hurts like hell and takes months on months to reach. Be forthright, plan ahead. Write down what you have to say if you need to. If either of you need to disengage and get some distance, do it or let it happen. Have a few mechanisms of coping ready; a pen and paper, somebody who you can vent with, video games. Echoing Naxza, this doesn't reflect negatively on who you are. We're all human for better or worse. So, just be you and be ready to let the chips fall where they have to.
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« Reply #145177 on: May 29, 2019, 05:40:15 am »

Her response does not determine your value as a human, partner, or friend. You do that. Remember that, whichever way the answer goes.
This is a big one for me. I've always had issues with my self-esteem, and the timing of this all happening right when I've ended the 5-year relationship I had with my ex, I'm all sorts of vulnerable and craving validation. I was honestly kinda hoping to have my own little romp with someone before The Talk, if only so that I'd feel more secure with myself and not quite as tied up to her opinion of me...

But I think I should be more or less safe. At this point, I'm mostly just pissed at how she's handled the situation, and by extension how she's treated me as of late. This really is mostly a chance for to redeem herself at this point, and I mainly just have to focus on being an adult and not being mean even though that's how I want to act right now.


As for my safety net (so to speak), one really good thing to come from this whole debacle is that I've gotten to know someone else in the friend network a lot better and gotten past her somewhat standoffish exterior to find that she's a priceless friend and amazing person overall. She's been filled in on the situation and has been incredibly supportive through all of this, plus my breaking up with my ex, plus my moving into the new apartment. I don't really know what I would've done without her nudging and pep-talking me through it all.

So I'm going to try my hand at making pulled pork today, which should be ready shortly after I've had the talk. Provided everything is edible, I'll be bringing the results up to the friend and we're gonna have a little pulled pork party to celebrate my trying to improve in the culinary arts. Terrible movies and good video games will probably be involved.


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« Reply #145178 on: May 29, 2019, 12:06:20 pm »

So, just finished with the talk. There was some deeply unnecessary bullshit right at the last minute, but all in all everything went better than expected.

That said, I'm a bit ashamed of myself, because I apparently managed to completely mishear whatever she was talking about that day in the bar welcoming the other bartender back... There was no "kinda just want to suck some dick", nor any bringing home of new people. Additionally, she did not spend a weekend with Mr. Ass, she never even went out to that part of the country (however, she and Ass do apparently have a little bit of history from way back when, so my radar isn't completely malfunctioning). When the time came around, she was still in a pretty dark place and just couldn't manage to make the trip, so she quietly stayed at home and studied 12-14 hours a day instead.


Sooo... Aside from that bit of awkwardness, we managed to clear up some big things. I'm still going to need time to clear my head a bit, but she's still the person I became friends with, and there's a chance we can actually recover that at some point down the line.

Yeah. Gonna call that a win. And now, the pig...

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« Reply #145179 on: May 29, 2019, 01:43:31 pm »

Why u like her tho

She makes his groin feel funny.
I don't think Kagus would be this upset if it was just a physical thing. The internet generally has you covered as far as those needs are concerned.

Unless it's the kind of "funny" that leaves bruises.
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« Reply #145180 on: May 29, 2019, 10:50:51 pm »

We look after a German Shepard called Krom. He looks like every other G-shep so I can identify him two ways: 1 he has a hemp rope collar, 2 he has a big ridge on top of his head
Therefore I call him KroMagnon

Nobody else got the joke so iím posting it here so I donít have to be a nerd alone
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« Reply #145181 on: May 29, 2019, 10:56:05 pm »

At least he isn't a wily homo erectus
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« Reply #145182 on: May 29, 2019, 11:17:30 pm »

We look after a German Shepard called Krom. He looks like every other G-shep so I can identify him two ways: 1 he has a hemp rope collar, 2 he has a big ridge on top of his head
Therefore I call him KroMagnon

Nobody else got the joke so iím posting it here so I donít have to be a nerd alone
That's because you fsiled.  Cromagnons were anatomically close to contemporary humzns.  No bone ridges
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« Reply #145183 on: May 29, 2019, 11:47:09 pm »

So they were. Damn, now I have to think of a better nickname
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« Reply #145184 on: May 30, 2019, 12:43:52 am »

So they were. Damn, now I have to think of a better nickname

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