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Dwarf Fortress => DF General Discussion => Topic started by: mrbane on September 17, 2010, 08:40:40 am
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So we were sitting last night, having had supper, and I was on my lappy whilst the wife watched some generic crime thriller.
Eventually she comes over and sits next to me, staring at DF for about five minutes.
"What is that?"
"It's a game called Dwarf Fortress."
"Called what?"
"Dwarf Fortress."
"..... and what do you do in it?"
"Well, I'm in charge of a small band of Dwarves and I basically help them build a fortress, grow crops..........(I went in to a looooong explanation)"
"ROFLMAO!!!! What the f**k kind of game is that?!? F**ing Dwarves?! WTF!?" and other expletives abound.
She then preceeded to try and hit random buttons to see what would happen. It's hard not to explode and scream at the woman you love. I had to try so hard. :(
The wife now takes great pleasure in telling her friends, all, her friends, what exactly it is I do in my spare time and she manages to make it sound really, really bad.. :|
Anyone else have an unsympathetic wife?
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My wife plays TF2 every hour of the waking day, so it's all good.
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Swap?
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Not on your life. ;)
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LOL
My wife is NOT a gamer at all but thinks it's 'cute' that I am making a fort with my 'little dwarves'. Of course she good-naturedly makes it sound like I'm a little kid... Sigh... I wasn't really going for 'cute' in my marriage... but I'll settle for it.
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LOL
My wife is NOT a gamer at all but thinks it's 'cute' that I am making a fort with my 'little dwarves'. Of course she good-naturedly makes it sound like I'm a little kid... Sigh... I wasn't really going for 'cute' in my marriage... but I'll settle for it.
I get this from my fiancee. The weird thing is, she's currently spending several hours a day planning our Lord of the Rings Themed New Zealand Honeymoon, so go figure.
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Mines of Moria or Helms Deep?
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She calls it "a doll house for boys." I don't argue.
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LOL
My wife is NOT a gamer at all but thinks it's 'cute' that I am making a fort with my 'little dwarves'. Of course she good-naturedly makes it sound like I'm a little kid... Sigh... I wasn't really going for 'cute' in my marriage... but I'll settle for it.
I get this from my fiancee. The weird thing is, she's currently spending several hours a day planning our Lord of the Rings Themed New Zealand Honeymoon, so go figure.
Oh hell. Trust me. I live there. It gets boring and overrated. Very. Quickly.
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haha sucks for you guys i am not married so i don't have to worry about it
*sobs quietly*
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I don't have a wife either...I'm in highschool...
My wife is NOT a gamer at all but thinks it's 'cute' that I am making a fort with my 'little dwarves'. Of course she good-naturedly makes it sound like I'm a little kid... Sigh... I wasn't really going for 'cute' in my marriage... but I'll settle for it.
Well, dwarves are on the short side, right?
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This happens several times a day...
Wife: What'cha doing?
Me: Building a dwarf fortress.
Wife: <snicker>
...I'm not sure what she find so amusing about the exchange.
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My wife doesn't have the patience to play the game, she's not into hyper complex games. Unless I'm showing it to her through a visualizer she really can't picture what the fort is supposed to look like. However, she loves the stories that develop from events in the game and I get a lot of enjoyment out of sharing them with her.
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My wife enjoys hearing about the exploits of mine and others dwarves, and shows interest when I am showing her my latest contraptions or whatever, however she does not play the game, as she says it looks too complicated and has too much micromanagement for her taste.
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My wife enjoys hearing about the exploits of mine and others dwarves, and shows interest when I am showing her my latest contraptions or whatever, however she does not play the game, as she says it looks too complicated and has too much micromanagement for her taste.
Oddly, I think mine just humors me when I mention the amazing things that happen.
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I am surprised at the amount of married people on here. Isn't everyone who plays DF an unsocial loser? :p
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The wife now takes great pleasure in telling her friends, all, her friends, what exactly it is I do in my spare time and she manages to make it sound really, really bad.. :|
Anyone else have an unsympathetic wife?
That is not constructive behaviour, it is destructive. And I think you'll be due for a divorce in a few years.
Spouses openly putting down their hubbies in social circles is never a good sign as it builds up animosity towards you and acts as preparatory buildup to dump you because of who and what you are. I think you should dump that woman if she clearly can't love you as you are or learn to be more constructive in her attempts to shape you.
Mocking you because of a computer game, that requires a lot of intellect to play in the first place, is stupid. That your wife is doing it, is a sign of a doomed marriage. You should prepare yourself emotionally.
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jei: I think you're jumping to conclusions. All you're going by is what the guy said in a single message on a forum. You can't have enough confidence in what he said, never mind your own interpretation of things, to say the things you're saying. For all you know, she's just engaging in a bit of playful ribbing and he's not comfortable with it - which is still bad, but not necessarily as super-serious as you think. Yeah, it deserves examination, but it's not necessarily her being some kind of evil harpy-witch. There's no way we have a totally complete and objective understanding of the situation here.
a computer game, that requires a lot of intellect to play in the first place
I honestly don't believe this. It just requires a bit of figuring out. Plenty of Dwarf Fortress players are fairly dimwitted, just like anything else in life, although they seem to trend a bit towards asocial intellectual types.
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mine refers to it as " are you playing with your gnomes?"... she cant talk with her social park obsession.
a user on here who's name escapes me had his wife refer to it as "midget hideout".
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jei: I think you're jumping to conclusions. All you're going by is what the guy said in a single message on a forum. You can't have enough confidence in what he said, never mind your own interpretation of things, to say the things you're saying. For all you know, she's just engaging in a bit of playful ribbing and he's not comfortable with it - which is still bad, but not necessarily as super-serious as you think. Yeah, it deserves examination, but it's not necessarily her being some kind of evil harpy-witch. There's no way we have a totally complete and objective understanding of the situation here.
Hopefully so, and like you say, we don't really understand the situation or how this is done. But I've seen this "putting down your spouse" -syndrome a few times before in my circles and it has never been a good sign.
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... I've seen this "putting down your spouse" -syndrome a few times before in my circles and it has never been a good sign.
I kinda have to agree with this statement here. Any relationship where one member is deriving pleasure from belittling the other, is not healthy.
On the other hand, some people thrive in that sort of position, and maybe it is just their way of getting along, who knows ;)
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... I've seen this "putting down your spouse" -syndrome a few times before in my circles and it has never been a good sign.
I kinda have to agree with this statement here. Any relationship where one member is deriving pleasure from belittling the other, is not healthy.
On the other hand, some people thrive in that sort of position, and maybe it is just their way of getting along, who knows ;)
He doesn't sound too happy about it, though.
...Then again, it's not really any of our business to assume anything about his marriage.
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...Buuuut, he did start this thread about it in the first place...
Great, now I'm morally confused and it's all mrbane's wife's fault. :(
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My girlfriend was mildly amused herself when I started splutring out how amazing and rich this game is.. caring for my dwarfs, let them make booze and have them be adopted by kittens...
But she plays a lot of sim city 4 and likes the whole "Sims" frenchise over all, so it was pretty easy to explain it. ;)
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Yeah, if a spouse gets to demeaning/mockery it can turn really sour really, really fast. My fiance is just really socially "out of it" and sometimes doesn't realize how the things she's saying could be construed.
I try to draw a line. If she makes a joke once or twice, ok; if it starts to be a trend, something she's harping on, I call her out on it with a "hey, I don't make fun of your hobbies" talk. Fortunately we're both very, very geeky, though often about different things (she's more into zombies, I'm more into video games, etc.)
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Yeah, if a spouse gets to demeaning/mockery it can turn really sour really, really fast. My fiance is just really socially "out of it" and sometimes doesn't realize how the things she's saying could be construed.
I try to draw a line. If she makes a joke once or twice, ok; if it starts to be a trend, something she's harping on, I call her out on it with a "hey, I don't make fun of your hobbies" talk. Fortunately we're both very, very geeky, though often about different things (she's more into zombies, I'm more into video games, etc.)
Your lady should marry my ex, and then you and me should pair up. Zombies to zombies, games to games, apples to apples...
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She calls it
"The animal zoo"
because of the music
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I'm afraid I'm forced to agree with the general consensus about mrbane's wife. She's got no right to belittle anyone for how they choose to spend their free time, let alone her husband. And Chromasphere's example isn't a lot better.
If your significant other can't accept you for who you are, find one who can.
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Stop it people. You're all nuts.
Get your own wives to worry about.
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My GF looked at me like I had a third eye the first time I tried to describe it. Now though, she gets dorfed when I create new forts and she gets pissed when her dorf dies.
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I got in trouble once because I went to go check on my dorfs when I was supposed to be washing the dishes...
She threatened to throw my dinner in the trash.
/whipsnap
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I guess I am really lucky, if I am deeply absorbed in dorfing it up, my wife will even bring my dinner to me at the computer so I can dorf it up undisturbed. What a lovely lady 8)
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LOL my wife calls it Dork Fortress.... We all laugh over it, then I ask her if the Alliance is in control of the mumble mill.
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LOL my wife calls it Dork Fortress....
My son calls it that... Like he has room to talk with his obsession with ancient computer systems and games (his favorite game of all time is Adventure which he plays on some atari emulator, now THAT is dorky ;P)
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My wife is a gamer. She can't complain about my spending a lot of time with Dwarf Fortress because she's spending as much time if not more on Lord of the Rings Online and City of Heroes. She's not interested in playing DF because she's only interested in games where she can actually interact with other human players and not in single-player games. She is interested in the procedural content generation that goes on in DF, and she and I have had long discussions about how the kind of gameplay and world generation that goes on in DF could potentially be implemented in an online massively multiplayer persistent world.
The only times she complains about me playing DF is when I do it at the expense of something else I'm supposed to be doing.
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I guess I am really lucky, if I am deeply absorbed in dorfing it up, my wife will even bring my dinner to me at the computer so I can dorf it up undisturbed. What a lovely lady 8)
LOL my wife calls it Dork Fortress....
My son calls it that... Like he has room to talk with his obsession with ancient computer systems and games (his favorite game of all time is Adventure which he plays on some atari emulator, now THAT is dorky ;P)
And that people is the type of unholy union from which people like Steve jobs, Bill gates, Werner Heisenberg or Konrad Zuse came from.
Jokes aside: I envy you a bit.
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No one's suggested magma as a marital solution yet?
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No one's suggested magma as a marital solution yet?
Sadly, my condo was not built on a volcanic site.
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No one's suggested magma as a marital solution yet?
Sadly, my condo was not built on a volcanic site.
Than bring obsidian on your next fortress embark!
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No one's suggested magma as a marital solution yet?
Sadly, my condo was not built on a volcanic site.
Sure it is, you just have to dig down about 20 kilometers.
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No one's suggested magma as a marital solution yet?
Sadly, my condo was not built on a volcanic site.
Sure it is, you just have to dig down about 20 kilometers.
Now, how many z-levels is that again? :P
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Hopefully by the time I'm married games as a media will have advanced to the point where TV is now and I'll just be seen as the equivalent as a guy who just really likes a niche show.
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No one's suggested magma as a marital solution yet?
Sadly, my condo was not built on a volcanic site.
Sure it is, you just have to dig down about 20 kilometers.
Now, how many z-levels is that again? :P
almost 7000, if a z level is 3 meters.
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That's what I get for trying to start a war. ::)
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I guess I am really lucky, if I am deeply absorbed in dorfing it up, my wife will even bring my dinner to me at the computer so I can dorf it up undisturbed. What a lovely lady 8)
Where do i get one of those girls?
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My wife does make fun of me for playing this game, and it's totally unfair because she plays Simcity 4 and Restaurant City (on Facebook) which are pretty similar
I'm a computer programmer so she makes fun of me for being a nerd in general.
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I guess I am really lucky, if I am deeply absorbed in dorfing it up, my wife will even bring my dinner to me at the computer so I can dorf it up undisturbed. What a lovely lady 8)
Where do i get one of those girls?
I don't know, she found me... In fact she stalked me for about 2 years in highschool before I finally gave in :o
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Its a win win situation...
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This is a very entertaining thread so I think I'll just give it a slight bump to see who else will give us a post. Lotsa chuckles.
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My wife doesn't understand my love of the game, but we're both programmers so she at least understands the enjoyment of the complexity.
She enjoys puzzle games so my current project is make a puzzle using mechanisms in DF for her to solve. Since I'm only an occasional player this might be tough. :o
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My wife rolls her eyes at Dwarf Fortress, but she is also a gamer, so she understands that what I enjoy isn't necessarily going to be what she enjoys. We both enjoy team fortress and various RTS's. Her favorite is Age of Empires, because she can build an army of elephants to knock over my castles with (but I'm British! Longbows for the win!)
Hmm... sound suspiciously like dwarf fortress...
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LOL my wife calls it Dork Fortress....
My son calls it that... Like he has room to talk with his obsession with ancient computer systems and games (his favorite game of all time is Adventure which he plays on some atari emulator, now THAT is dorky ;P)
You've been raising him well!
/adventure fan
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I got in trouble once because I went to go check on my dorfs when I was supposed to be washing the dishes...
She threatened to throw my dinner in the trash.
/whipsnap
Oh well, THAT could happen to all people who play WoW or any other online game. ^^
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LOL my wife calls it Dork Fortress....
My son calls it that... Like he has room to talk with his obsession with ancient computer systems and games (his favorite game of all time is Adventure which he plays on some atari emulator, now THAT is dorky ;P)
Ha, adventure is even worse than DF when it comes to geekyness. Even I can't play Adventure/Hack/Nethack/Yendors Tower.
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BF laughs at me when I'm playing with my dwarves, and I laugh at him when he plays with his zombies. Left 4 Dead, Plants vs Zombies, Killing Floor, Resident Evil... He spazzed out completely when he found out about the zombie expansion for Borderlands. I think if they combined his other great love of Kingdom Hearts... Well, that'd be pretty awesome actually, but anyway.
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I really need to praise my girlfriend who even made me a Dwarf Fortress cake my last birthday.
(http://sklad.obrazku.cz/t492397_dwcake.png) (http://sklad.obrazku.cz/obr492397_dwcake.png)
(he's missing the pickaxe but still!)
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My TF2-loving wife did try to play DF once - it lasted about 10 minutes before she spazzed out at the complexity and demanded I 'finish the fort' for her. We do talk about the things that happen in mine though. She doesn't mind me playing the game in the slightest, she just can't wrap her head around it herself.
In her defence, she's only really been a heavy gamer since I introduced her to CS:S a few years back. The whole roguelike thing was before her time. :P
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demanded I 'finish the fort' for her.
Did you, in fact, finish the fort for her?
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demanded I 'finish the fort' for her.
Did you, in fact, finish the fort for her?
I honestly don't recall, but I suspect it may be distinctly submerged at this point.
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LOL my wife calls it Dork Fortress....
My son calls it that... Like he has room to talk with his obsession with ancient computer systems and games (his favorite game of all time is Adventure which he plays on some atari emulator, now THAT is dorky ;P)
You've been raising him well!
/adventure fan
LOL my wife calls it Dork Fortress....
My son calls it that... Like he has room to talk with his obsession with ancient computer systems and games (his favorite game of all time is Adventure which he plays on some atari emulator, now THAT is dorky ;P)
Ha, adventure is even worse than DF when it comes to geekyness. Even I can't play Adventure/Hack/Nethack/Yendors Tower.
Give me Zork and any day for the old classics... with some Hack, Moria, Angband, ADOM, DoomRL, and CastleveniaRL on the RL side... then just throw in some classic Seirra and Lucas games :D
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Heh, my wife is a recently retired bleeding edge (Server first) WoW raider. :> So she only gives me shit about the fact DF is all ascii.
(Of course, I can't blame her, since I used to be her raid leader before I stopped playing WoW 3-4 months ago).
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Honey? Do me a favor sweetie pie? There's a lever out in the garage. I need you to go pull the lever for me please.
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lol, what's with the extreme marriage counselling?
It's not as bad as it sounds, and it's all taken in good jest with our friends. I don't mind. I get her back. :)
It just made me think about how the gaming culture, and certain aspects of it, are still treated as such alien things by those people totally out of the loop on it. Unless you understand or have experience of gaming, I can imagine that someone telling you they were running a Dwarf Fortress must have sounded insane.
Glad to know I'm not the only one that's getting this though. :)
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Explaining DF to anyone is normally grounds for them to run away.
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Well df. Df is like quantum physics without the right mindset your head expodles. That said i wait for the day when df includes Quantum physics. twice as much head-plosions for the same price.
heh a gamer girl would be nice - sadly they are more searched for the the holy grail.
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They're a lot more common than that now though. Most don't like DF (and most guys don't either, for that matter) but I haven't really met too many girls that have never played a game they liked, let alone never played one at all, besides older mom-types. It's just becoming more acceptable and common, because it's so prevalent now in male culture that nearly all of them at least tolerate it around them - I think I'd just find it weird if someone I were dating thought it was embarrassing that I was a gamer.
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My wife plays TF2 every hour of the waking day, so it's all good.
I think I might be acquainted to your wife. Ahem.
Or is it just that TF2 has become a woman's game? Because of the possibility of She-Pyro, perhaps? I do wonder.
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My GF doesn't understand. But then she doesn't understand any games really. At least she's more happy i play this then WoW where there are "other girls" O.o i still don't get that one.
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My GF doesn't understand. But then she doesn't understand any games really. At least she's more happy i play this then WoW where there are "other girls" O.o i still don't get that one.
Sounds like the jealous-to-the-point-of-psychosis type D: I feel bad for you.
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Lol, my fiancee hasn't actually seen me play DF in front of her. I'm trying to get her into building houses into the Sims first, then I'll see if I can convince her to play DF. She's a civil engineer, which means she sort of likes building epic structures, so I suppose DF might be her kind of game. She gets a cute "omg" look on her face when she steps into a complicated building :P