Yes make Wrestling skill allow a dwarf to not make those fatal 'dodges', its also been suggested that armor makes it harder to have situational awareness and increases the likely hood of a bad dodge, if thats implemented then Armor wearing skill should likewise reduce bad dodges but only to the point of nullifying the effects of any armor worn.
I find the dodging system to be good and reasonable but ONLY when units are actually fighting/grappling, dwarfs should not make random dodges when startled/frightened (aka they see a Carp in the river). The instinctive response to fear is to freeze first and only run if then danger is coming towards you, thus situational awareness should be much greater then in combat.
Along with this... Some modifiers
1) Crawling should increase situational awareness (including if it allows you to spot traps >.>)
2) Being tired, injured, thirsty, or hungry should decrease situational awareness.
--Exception: Thirst and Hunger should increase situational awareness to be aware of food!
3) Martial Stance should increase it, Berzerk should decrease it, Cold Rage should have no effect (if it was in the game
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Wow I am silly!