Anyhow-- I am aloof asexual. I do not experience sexual attraction in any meaningful capacity, but I do experience intellectual and romantic attraction. Romance, contrary to some of the opinions i've read here, does not involve any hot and bothered-ness for me. it's more an enjoyable teasing, and intimacy. The kind of "Flirting+1" that only people who really know each other very well can do, coupled with the interesting mix of selfish and selfless sensations that comes from lavishing attention on somebody. I suspect that this is similar to the "He's dreamy!" sensation that more outright sexual people experience, but more focused, and more interactive. Much more in common with the flirtatious teasing I see young lovers engage in. I have actually been in love before. For me, it is more a deep devotional type experience, and sense of reward. It is "profoundly rewarding" to be with a person I have fallen in love with.
I have to find the person intellectually attractive before I can find them romatically attractive.
I agree with this heavily, but I'm not asexual myself. I don't base relationships on sexuality at all, and I don't actively pursue interests of that type in any way. I am not, however, shut off to the idea.
I claim heterosexuality, but I highly doubt that's a rigid rule. From a psychological standpoint, I think sexual acts- heretofore referred to as fetishes, can be limitedly taught. If someone is open but not particularly interested in the idea, and sees material crossing things they like with things they are open to, they are more likely to get into the other thing, at least somewhat. If they're opposed to the idea in some way however, then that's unlikely to change unless they're into something closely related and less common.
I'm a very open and understanding person on average, or so I've been told. I'm not so far into my life to know a definite answer, but I could see myself loosening up heterosexuality to be more bisexual... or probably pansexual? Not sure about the difference.
Asexual used to be a really alien concept to me, but now I admire the idea behind it. Again, psychologically, it's almost a paradox. The love in an asexual relation is probably
stronger on average, because it eliminates chance of ulterior motives among other things. Furthermore, the "fetish teaching" dosen't work here if you don't have some kind of base point- if you don't really want to have it in the first place, then you won't pick up on the weird stuff. You've got to like citrus fruit before you can like the strange stuff like Buddha's Hand.
Long story short, I consider myself a heterosexual, though I'm not hard-constrained to it. I'd be willing to change for a meaningful relationship.
And yeah, humans are just a big pile of ick. Not only what's in them, but the kind of horrible things that it can do
to itself. I had my knee randomly disjoint when I was just
standing around once and it's never really made a full recovery. I assume one of the tendons or whatever holding the knee in place is somehow wrong, but it hasn't decided to take another magic journey to "way too far right" land, so I guess that's a thing.
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