Yeah, it does help and thank you all.
I'm probably still going to have problems with this stuff for a while so I'm going to keep this open and if it's ok I'll ask some more questions and stuff.
Tiny prod here.
One's interaction is always the result of one's understanding, their experience, and their perception onto what they see. So even their BEHAVIOR AND REACTION can affect how they, personally, react in future similar experiences. (Perception = Sensing the environment + Giving meaning to it)
So for that example, even simple 'descriptors' affect your perception as they are the meaning behind the words you use; there's wisdom in heeding parenting that gives discipline and detail to what you call other people. "Asshole, Jerk, Stupid..." All those terms, derogatory or otherwise, affect how you see others AND THUS how you may respond to them.
This follows how you think about any stimuli (actions) going towards you, too. :O Since we're all on a continuum of action in daily life.
I'm having a real problem not wanting to scream at somebody or scream or cry or something. Just feels like shit. What do I do with that feeling, cause I have no fucking idea?
Please note that feelings alone also have one's understanding and meaning to partially make up its effect on the person.
Part of that lies in how you have understood what has happened to you.
"Did you close the windows?" (O god, yes, yes I totally did a while ago. Please tell me you believe I can close a bunch of windows. I'm smart enough for that).
Do note that here, in a possible innocuous question, there is both one's perception, and one's sensation taking place. In studying a person's general cognitive understanding of the world around them, there is a foundation that generally everyone follows--
seeking 'WHY'. In cases like these, there's the usual question of 'why are they repeating this D:'
This is when we begin to associate possibilities to give us an inference of an answer.
> Maybe they don't believe me?
> Maybe they don't trust me :I
> Maybe they're just making sure
As there's a LOT of ways to take these things--the best way to go around these is by mutual communication. You could ask why they're mentioning this and then mention what you feel if you're constantly asked, or you could go on a general personal understanding, by thinking something completely neutral in the least: "They just want to make sure. Security and all. It's how they proceed with things."
How you think about things also influences how you feel and react to things. Your perception and outlook is as valuable as any understanding coming forth from you. :3
As an aside, it may be best to plop down some notable people.
Aaron Beck, and
Albert Ellis: Both proponents of therapeutic procedures [Cognitive Behavioral Therapy//Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy], their research and detailing would generally help the masses as long as they're invested in learning and studying how these concepts apply in our thinking.