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[hector13]

You may be setting the bar too high for commonalities. My wife and I don’t enjoy all the same things, mostly because she enjoys being outside and I don’t.

That’s what dating’s for anyway: to figure out how compatible y’all are.

[dragdeler]

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[TD1]

You may be setting the bar too high for commonalities.

This is true. I also don't feel like I could just cut her off now anyway.

Well discover that you're 46th degree cousins of course. You might want to tarry on the census data if you want to avoid go having a beer.

This is also true.

Edit: Yea, I think I'm just being myself. I should give it a stab and at the very least learn from the experience.

[heydude6]

I've been messaging a girl online. She lives really close to me. The discussion revolved around movies and hobbies - she's into genealogy, apparently - which I found amusing. I added her on Facebook and Snapchat. Her Facebook is filled with pics of her partying with her mates. I'd never want to party or drink (call me weird). I like libraries, going on holiday to ancient ruins, that sort of thing. I'm beginning to wonder what we'd do if we did get together.

Then I'm wondering whether I'm deliberately sabotaging yet another potential relationship because it makes me feel anxious (don't ask me why. My social skills are fine in nearly any other context.). So that's where I'm at.

My best friend is into partying while I absolutely abhor it. The key to our relationship is finding commonalities outside of that area.

Truth is Th4DwArfY1, most people like partying. You can't just refuse to build a relationship with someone just because they have that interest or else you're cutting out most of the human population. People aren't one dimensional. And try not to judge someone too harshly based on their social media. Social media is something that you post for the whole world to see, so most people tend to post common denominator stuff that almost everyone will appreciate and like (especially when it's tied to their IRL name). If you want to know the truly interesting bits about a person, then there's no way to do it except by personally getting to know them.

[Eschar]

You may be setting the bar too high for commonalities.

This is true. I also don't feel like I could just cut her off now anyway.

Well discover that you're 46th degree cousins of course. You might want to tarry on the census data if you want to avoid go having a beer.

This is also true.

Edit: Yea, I think I'm just being myself. I should give it a stab and at the very least learn from the experience.

Not a literal stab!

[TD1]

Is it a coincidence that I used the words 'cut' and 'stab' in the same post?

You will never know. Or, at least, not until the news reports come out.

[pikachu17]

So, I was playing a roll20 game with a character with both a melee attack and a ranged attack.
I moved in and rolled for the melee attack, and got a natural 20, which deals double damage.
Then someone realized that I didn't actually have enough movement to make a melee attack, so they made me reroll for a ranged attack.
I rolled a natural 1.

[TD1]

Ugh, she seems to be scared of dogs and loves cats.

I dislike cats and love dogs. We have two Alsatians, my sister has a King Charles and my brother a Cocker Spaniel.

Person who is scared of dogs + Alsations doesn't really mix. Even though they are the gentlest beasties you'll meet.

[TD1]

After the dog conversation, she hasn't sent any messages. Previously we'd messaged/snapchatted frequently.
I honestly don't know whether this pleases me. Ah well, out of my hands now.

[ChairmanPoo]

I'm also trying to maintain some link with a special friend... mixed results, she doesnt always respond.

Tbh for what I've been told people in your landmasses are kind of odd like that and it doesnt mean implicit disinterest... but eh. I'm not ultra hopeful because it has been a year of distancing...

[TD1]

It's not a case of ignoring my messages. I had the last word in our last convo and she hasn't messaged since.

[ChairmanPoo]

Yeah that doesnt mean anything. It might still be going bruh

[Kagus]

I tend to give it a week or two before I start wondering. People have lives. Funky, chaotic lives.

[ggamer]

It's not a case of ignoring my messages. I had the last word in our last convo and she hasn't messaged since.

We've all been there 😔

[TD1]

Yeah that doesnt mean anything. It might still be going bruh

...
Somebody please write a manual for this stuff. I excel at theory.